"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

**MrBobDobalina** · 11-12-18 11:23

Just wanted to report on this one: https://www.seeking.com/member/dd720...2-4c55203fb692.

Agreed to $250 for an evening of "traditional" adult fun, ie. No anal. When I told her it was a hotel visit she said she couldn't meet. She's looking for a private home visit. I assume her marital status has everything to do with that.

**Walruscl** · 11-12-18 10:57

Originally Posted by DoggieFan [View Original Post]

So after over 2 1/2 years with my unbelievably gorgeous, sexy AF, smart & sweet SB and I called it quits about a month ago.

Everything was pretty normal until about 8 months in she dropped the L word on me, unexpectedly. I was so shocked all I could muster was "me too". I thought we were safe from that due to us both having SOs & our age difference. , she's less than half my age.

I won't write a super long entry other than to say she's really only the second woman I've caught feelings for in my life, as my SO was my college sweetheart. I can relate to the previous posts not being able to talk to family & friends when things are awesome, or now when things really suck.

Ah, the Emotional Blackmail that is the L word, fell prey to that myself, though it took a lot longer (about 2-1/2 years in). I had been very careful to avoid saying it, and equally careful not to think of our relationship on those terms, despite the deep-seated attraction we had for each other. It would have been better for me to hold the line on that, but there's only so much you can do against a relentless onslaught. With that raising of the bar, things simply got more and more complicated. And while there's an immensely longer version of this story, in the end she ran off without any warning whatsoever. To be fair, it was a better thing for both of us, and I wouldn't have had the willpower to wind it down had she not bolted on me.

That was June, and subsequent summer was hell. I see my current SB as a combination of rare-gem with a little dash of rebound-relationship. She's much better (almost too much) at keeping some emotional distance. Which on one hand is a little unfulfilling, on the other hand I've lived through the downsides of it getting too real. While that's unsatisfying on its own, I'm figuring out that it also has a dampening effect on the sex. She's motivated to please, but I'm personally finding that it takes more of an emotional bond than I would have guessed for the sex to be its best.

So as a previous poster mentioned not long ago here, one has to decide the balance of how much this is for the companionship, and how much for the sex. I find that it's not as easy a thing to figure out as I would have expected. We just came back from our first weekend trip, and I enjoyed every last minute of it. We had a whirlwind yet carefree and spontaneous weekend, coming out with great memories and a whole quiver of new inside jokes between us. The sex, not so much. With her I'm loath to ditch what is an otherwise an extremely rewarding companion just because I've been spoiled in the past by mind-blowing, bucket-list-is-now-empty sex.

So like any LTR, I'll continue to work with her on the things that could get better, and keep my mind open to many possibilities. Everything ranging from moving on and hoping I have can striek a better balance with another SB, to deciding that I have to adjust my expectations and focus on the things that are going so right and not put so much weight on the things that aren't.

A wise quote from a few dozen posts back on this thread: "It's only when we can't accept the downside of any situation that we lose control and power over it. " I'm taking that one to heart.

**Tidad** · 11-11-18 23:31

I've been researching for my work trip to the Emerald City and thanks to some WA state brothers, I'm meeting this one my second night in town. I'm staying for the weekend and she has agreed to be my "all-day all-night local fun guide" for the whole trip if our 1st night goes well. Hopefully I'll come back east exhausted. Wish me luck.

https://www.seeking.com/member/fb77c...e-237a8ece3629

**EasyeOne** · 11-11-18 18:58

Originally Posted by BStreet [View Original Post]

Any Intel on this baby.

https://www.seeking.com/member/6850d...2-ddeb0eeaad39

Thanks.

I was turned off by how pro and how quick she was trying to meet up. Dtf.

**DoggieFan** · 11-11-18 10:44

So after over 2 1/2 years with my unbelievably gorgeous, sexy AF, smart & sweet SB and I called it quits about a month ago.

Everything was pretty normal until about 8 months in she dropped the L word on me, unexpectedly. I was so shocked all I could muster was "me too". I thought we were safe from that due to us both having SOs & our age difference. , she's less than half my age.

I won't write a super long entry other than to say she's really only the second woman I've caught feelings for in my life, as my SO was my college sweetheart. I can relate to the previous posts not being able to talk to family & friends when things are awesome, or now when things really suck.

Luckily I have another Sugar Baby I have been seeing now & then for over two years. She was a stripper when I met her and after about six months of partying with her in my hotel room we finally went from private dancing to FC. As great as the sex is with her, she has been even more valuable as my therapist with benefits.

My main SB went dark on me a few times for a couple of weeks to a month & a half, and my PT SB is great to talk to about it, in person or texting. We text sometimes all night long as she is on the stripper hours, about 3 pm until about 5 or 6 am.

I knew the day would come where my main SB would need to call it quits, as she has had a live in BF the whole time. They got engaged around Thanksgiving last year than he found a text of ours she had saved on her old phone & they broke up for a few months.

Then got back together around April, got reengaged. I saw her a ton in May then the last time in July.

I can't blame her for ending it as she was risking her future, marriage, kids, but still hurts to lose such a sweetheart that the connection was so strong. Not to mention the best sex of my life, by far.

Unfortunately neither one of them are interested in meeting new peeps so I won't / can't share digits. I would if I could.

Glad I had an on deck batter or this would suck beyond belief.

**BStreet** · 11-11-18 05:44

Any Intel on this baby.

https://www.seeking.com/member/6850d...2-ddeb0eeaad39

Thanks.

**DrSummer** · 11-10-18 16:03

With both girls, it was my first FC date with them, so I had to make a decision if they were playing a game or not. Both times we went to hotels, they knew what to expect (I told them intimacy was going to happen, although specific acts were not discussed). They told me about period only when I was trying to reach that area. In my opinion they should have told me beforehand before we went to the hotel room. So, I shorted them. This is the only time I shorted a SB. I think I made the right decision. I don't like when they play games like that. If this happened to me not on the first date, I wouldn't have cared about it and would have been ok.

Play Safe.

Dr. S.

Originally Posted by HabsBurg [View Original Post]

I can see where that would be disappointing on a first date, but if you see a girl regularly it's bound to happen eventually. You have to ask yourself whether it's all about sex or whether you really want companionship. It's happened a couple of times with a lady I see regularly, and while I was a little disappointed at first, the silver lining was that it gave us an opportunity to try some things outside of our usual routine. If you short her, you are making it clear that you are paying for sex, not companionship. You have to ask yourself whether that's the message you want to send.

**HabsBurg** · 11-10-18 10:57

Originally Posted by DrSummer [View Original Post]

I had my second encounter of "period scam" last night.

I can see where that would be disappointing on a first date, but if you see a girl regularly it's bound to happen eventually. You have to ask yourself whether it's all about sex or whether you really want companionship. It's happened a couple of times with a lady I see regularly, and while I was a little disappointed at first, the silver lining was that it gave us an opportunity to try some things outside of our usual routine. If you short her, you are making it clear that you are paying for sex, not companionship. You have to ask yourself whether that's the message you want to send.

**Kwagmire** · 11-10-18 08:52

Originally Posted by RiverCity2011 [View Original Post]

I was surprised by aunt flo recently (covered) and I've had something like jock itch for last few weeks. No signs of anything except for slightly uncomfortable skin, sticky, slight burn at times (not when I pee) I tried the jock itch spray but can't shake it. Dr. Tested for yeast but came back clear.

I had a similar thing happen once. I had a short term early 20's black single mom SB who I was seeing for a short time. Once during sex it was clear that she was in some pain (and unfortunately I'm pretty sure it wasn't the excessive size of my cock). A few days later I developed jock itch and a rash on my stomach (but not on my cock, yay condoms!) After a little experimentation, jock itch / athletes foot spray cleared it up pretty quickly. The downside though was that the jock itch kept recurring once I stopped using the spray. After a few go-rounds of recurrence I finally cleared it permanently, but it took about 6 months of using the anti-fungal powder spray daily. Fungi are tenacious little fuckers. Watch out for chicks with yeast infections.

**BikeRider** · 11-09-18 22:37

Originally Posted by RiverCity2011 [View Original Post]

I was surprised by aunt flo recently (covered) and I've had something like jock itch for last few weeks. No signs of anything except for slightly uncomfortable skin, sticky, slight burn at times (not when I pee) I tried the jock itch spray but can't shake it. Dr. Tested for yeast but came back clear.

HSV I or II Or just mind over virus. .

**CoolPix** · 11-09-18 15:45

https://www.seeking.com/member/ecf4f...f-5b02f08a17e5

Chatted her up for the past three or so weeks but have never been able to get her to commit to meeting. She's sent lots of pics but nothing that couldn't be spiked off of FB or Instagram. Not sure if she's the real deal.

https://www.seeking.com/member/07be7...a-ed56a9bb09d5

This one took some time to get to text but has led no where. I expect GPS.

https://www.seeking.com/member/b5a6d...2-4b346bfaaaae

This one is a complete scammer. Don't waste your time, probably some big fat hairy adolescent sitting in his bedroom.

https://www.seeking.com/member/094c6...7-43184e4c3e1a

Amanda is DTF. Cute little spinner with a bit of a mom bod but fun. Be careful, she's got GPS.

https://www.seeking.com/member/c867f...e-ce4bf78f0a8e

Serena is definitely DTF and is a lot of fun and very laid back. Nice rack but the ass is pretty broad so for those of you who enjoy the spinners, she may not be your cup of tea. But she has a great attitude and will rock your world.

https://www.seeking.com/member/34fd5...a-ff89a51e32ae

I'm not sure if I've already posted about this young lady but am doing so again. Very nice, great attitude and DTF. She's a big bigger in person than her pictures depict so if you like them small, you might want to look elsewhere.

As always my friends, treat them nice.

Pix.

**RiverCity2011** · 11-08-18 13:36

Originally Posted by DrSummer [View Original Post]

What I know, there is increased risk during period for contracting STD from a girl (blood born pathogens). This will most be applicable for BBFS. Just wanted to mention. That's one reason for me avoiding girls in period. Not to fear monger, but stating information out there so that we could be extra safe.

I was surprised by aunt flo recently (covered) and I've had something like jock itch for last few weeks. No signs of anything except for slightly uncomfortable skin, sticky, slight burn at times (not when I pee) I tried the jock itch spray but can't shake it. Dr. Tested for yeast but came back clear.

**DrSummer** · 11-07-18 07:41

What I know, there is increased risk during period for contracting STD from a girl (blood born pathogens). This will most be applicable for BBFS. Just wanted to mention. That's one reason for me avoiding girls in period. Not to fear monger, but stating information out there so that we could be extra safe.

Originally Posted by CoolPix [View Original Post]

I've had this happen to me three times. Two were the same gal and it kept us from ever meeting. Unfortunately, she either ghosted me or just completely left the scene as I haven't heard from her since we made our last arrangement to meet. I'm left wondering if she was just too timid to actually follow through with meeting.

The other told me the morning of our meet, said she had just started, and wanted to know if that was a problem. I was so sexed up (she had sent several really tasty nudes during our "negotiation" phase) that I told her I was still on. Turned out she was really just starting and it didn't stop us from having any fun at all. Not sure if I could have had as much fun if she had a full flow going but there was nary a trickle and just the slightest tinge of pink on the towel we put down. But, to each his own I always say!

**CoolPix** · 11-06-18 18:27

Originally Posted by DrSummer [View Original Post]

How do you guys handle this issue if it happened to you?

I've had this happen to me three times. Two were the same gal and it kept us from ever meeting. Unfortunately, she either ghosted me or just completely left the scene as I haven't heard from her since we made our last arrangement to meet. I'm left wondering if she was just too timid to actually follow through with meeting.

The other told me the morning of our meet, said she had just started, and wanted to know if that was a problem. I was so sexed up (she had sent several really tasty nudes during our "negotiation" phase) that I told her I was still on. Turned out she was really just starting and it didn't stop us from having any fun at all. Not sure if I could have had as much fun if she had a full flow going but there was nary a trickle and just the slightest tinge of pink on the towel we put down. But, to each his own I always say!

**CoolPix** · 11-06-18 18:21

Originally Posted by Walruscl [View Original Post]

Who do you turn to when your SB just rocks your world and all you want to do is share the experience with someone?

I am fortunate that I met a fellow monger virtually via one of the old review sites. I had visited his hometown and reviewed some local talent and he PM'd me to clarify something I had posted. That led to some tips and intel on other sites, to include this one and the wonderful world of the sugar bowl. He had and I swap stories quite often. It's kind of nice to be able to share stories about "conquests" every once in awhile!