"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[FarFarAway]

Not a bug. Seeking.com has a new one. You can specify an age range for the men / women function on a profile. I just saw a girl's profile that specified (ages 35-60), went to my own profile, and saw there is an optional slider to enter this in for myself. I personally don't have a big age preference, but I know some of you do.

[Ernest Ll]

One SB I know plays very hard to get, but the past two months has been struggling to make rent due to lack of income. Both months, she was all over WYP and SA the last week of the month, and then gone.

Even my regular SB was back online after she had to cancel our planned meeting on the 26th which would have covered her shortfall.

[DrSummer]

Rent is due. They are desperate. I had a 19 yr old potential I met for a coffee about a month ago. Very personable cute girl reaching almost 10 out of 10 on my scale. When I talked to her, I realized rent for her apartment is number one on her mind. I kept texting back and forth with her, but she never agreed for a date. For about a month, she kept on giving excuses for not meeting. I kept on trying, and at the end totally forgot about her. All of a sudden, I get a text yesterday "can you meet me today". I asked "what's the hurry". She needs help with rent. Although I was little skeptical what the experience would be, she was OK with whatever I can help with. Came straight to my house, spent about 2 hours. We connected very well and excellent experience all the way. I gave her the minimum allowance I usually give and added a small personal gift of top. She very much appreciated me helping her out. The next time I see her may be when her rent is due again, but it is worth the wait.

Stay Safe.

Dr. S.

[DoggieFan]

Agreed. Young girls always have and always will love clothes. I've also found that once I'm in an arrangement, watching their faces light up as you occasionally spend a couple hours going shopping with them to pick out a dress, lingerie or shoes they love ends up costing much less than an allowance, and boosts their sense that they don't feel like a h00 ker. They will do pretty much anything for you after that, and it's also fun watching them try on things for you. I say occasionally as most times we straight up meet at the FC.

*I buy makeup gift cards from Sephora at most malls. Again, I only pull those out as a way to clinch the deal AFTER I've verified on the initial meet if the girl is absolutely top shelf AND we click. I've only done it twice ever and they both were girls very new to the site (under one week), down to earth demeanor, and flooded with messages by competing SD's in my area. After starting things with me they also took down their profiles and have never been on since (verified by dummy / separate account). You have to be very selective if you're going to just hand out gifts. Good luck!

Yaya.

My SB has a live in BF who has no clue we've been seeing each other for 2 1/2 years plus. Our get togethers are hours away in NC where she, until a few months ago was a 25 yo co-ed / waitress.

Our get together's always 3-8 hours daytime / early evening in a hotel suite. Then I go to her restaurant & sit at the bar for a few beers and dinner. We flirt but no one would ever guess that I had explored every inch of her earlier that day, due to our age difference. I'm friendly with all the staff and flirt & chat with all the young females & talk to the male bartenders.

The down side is we don't get out in public. I always have lunch for us in the suite and have cooked for her, which she loves. Other than meeting her once in Petsmart to meet her dog, never got to take her out.

Well a few months ago the BF was out of town for five weeks. Best five weeks of my life. We spent a lot of nights together but still in hotels because of her not wanting to run into one of his friends. With work & school it was hard for here to get away but we finally was able to do a night in Myrtle Beach at an ocean front condo.

Other than being with her for two days straight and taking her out to eat (after eating her out&#128520, the highlight was taking her to.

An outlet mall. She needed a rehearsal dinner dress for a wedding she was a bridesmaid in. She didn't find the dress but she bought a tiny pair of white shorts and a top.

I wanted her to get something to remember the trip so I took her into to Coach to get her a bag. So cute, she kept wanting to leave because they were "way too much". I insisted and made her get the matching wallet & eye glass case. I know we won't last forever but I'll always remember that trip and how cute and ecstatic she was with her new Coach bag. She couldn't wait to show it off to her friends.

Another time, the only time she wanted something so bad she dropped a hint that she couldn't afford a Lily Pulitzer romper. It was xxs and on clearance ($80) and she described the color & print. I was seeing her at the hotel again the next day so I grabbed it.

When I brought it out from behind the couch and she saw the colorful bag and knew I had got it, she lit up like a Christmas tree.

Definitely major points for a small investment.

[DoggieFan]

Various sites give possible matches of relative. So even if you did not send in DNA, your kid, sibling, etc. Could have. So baby of SB, if DNA sent in might get a report that there is a possible half sibling, uncle, etc.

Here is how it can come back to bite you.

My SO got the DNA test done to see where her families originated from.

You also get info on relatives that had took the test. A couple of her cousins came up, plus a second cousin she didn't recognize.

Email addresses are provided for the matches. She emailed the adult male in Texas. He said he was adopted and didn't know his biological Mom but his adopted mother said her last name was ______, my SO’s Mom's maiden name.

Due to his age it couldn't have been her Mom or one of her three sisters, but one of her older cousins. Back in the day there where a lot of babies born out of wedlock were put up for adoption.

I think most people doing those type of tests are over 18 so you wouldn't get hit up financially but no fun explaining it to your SO!

[Al Melrose]

This is not a world where you can be found through DNA testing if your DNA has not been tested. I know about the test lab people send DNA samples to for ancestor identification, now limited to finding out if you are a German or whatever decedent not so you can find your long lost father at least not if his DNA is not in the data bank. With NSA and other government and non government snooping (Google for one) it is becoming harder to protect your privacy. Universal DNA testing is too horrible to contemplate.

Various sites give possible matches of relative. So even if you did not send in DNA, your kid, sibling, etc. Could have. So baby of SB, if DNA sent in might get a report that there is a possible half sibling, uncle, etc.

[InTight]

In a world where you can track down relatives through DNA testing, doesn't that upset the illusion that anonymity can protect you from an unplanned, undesired, or unknown pregnancy?

This is not a world where you can be found through DNA testing if your DNA has not been tested. I know about the test lab people send DNA samples to for ancestor identification, now limited to finding out if you are a German or whatever decedent not so you can find your long lost father at least not if his DNA is not in the data bank. With NSA and other government and non government snooping (Google for one) it is becoming harder to protect your privacy. Universal DNA testing is too horrible to contemplate.

[Member #6951]

In a world where you can track down relatives through DNA testing, doesn't that upset the illusion that anonymity can protect you from an unplanned, undesired, or unknown pregnancy?

[YayaGogo]

Agreed. Young girls always have and always will love clothes. I've also found that once I'm in an arrangement, watching their faces light up as you occasionally spend a couple hours going shopping with them to pick out a dress, lingerie or shoes they love ends up costing much less than an allowance, and boosts their sense that they don't feel like a h00 ker. They will do pretty much anything for you after that, and it's also fun watching them try on things for you. I say occasionally as most times we straight up meet at the FC.

*I buy makeup gift cards from Sephora at most malls. Again, I only pull those out as a way to clinch the deal AFTER I've verified on the initial meet if the girl is absolutely top shelf AND we click. I've only done it twice ever and they both were girls very new to the site (under one week), down to earth demeanor, and flooded with messages by competing SD's in my area. After starting things with me they also took down their profiles and have never been on since (verified by dummy / separate account). You have to be very selective if you're going to just hand out gifts. Good luck!

Yaya.

Ulta is the Department store of beauty products.

Sephora little more sophisticated.

Blue Mercury top of the heap.

Also, SpaWish or SpaFinder (same company, diffrerent brand) Gift Cards can be bought at Sams Club for 20-25% off a $100 card.

Other GCs are available at less discounts (some local restaurants offer 20- 30% off, iTunes and Starbucks are like 5%.

So compensating your SB costs even less, and they will never know.

But being able to pick something out for them that they love will melt their hearts and spread their legs faster than anything. Half the time I meet my regular SB, I've sent her a $100 dress or pair of shoes the week before our meeting, and she ends up happy with that and the hotel cost reimbursement. They tend not to know what things cost -- especially things they can't afford -- and I get all kinds of deal emails for places like Shoes.com that offer $40 off a $100 purchase -- so a $150 retail pair of shoes costs me $60 and gets me DPing her with toys while she blows me.

[Ernest Ll]

YayaGogo, what makeup chain store did you buy from? I can't say that I would know the first thing about which store to get get it from, LOL!

Ulta is the Department store of beauty products.

Sephora little more sophisticated.

Blue Mercury top of the heap.

Also, SpaWish or SpaFinder (same company, diffrerent brand) Gift Cards can be bought at Sams Club for 20-25% off a $100 card.

Other GCs are available at less discounts (some local restaurants offer 20- 30% off, iTunes and Starbucks are like 5%.

So compensating your SB costs even less, and they will never know.

But being able to pick something out for them that they love will melt their hearts and spread their legs faster than anything. Half the time I meet my regular SB, I've sent her a $100 dress or pair of shoes the week before our meeting, and she ends up happy with that and the hotel cost reimbursement. They tend not to know what things cost -- especially things they can't afford -- and I get all kinds of deal emails for places like Shoes.com that offer $40 off a $100 purchase -- so a $150 retail pair of shoes costs me $60 and gets me DPing her with toys while she blows me.

[DSmith2704]

YayaGogo, what makeup chain store did you buy from? I can't say that I would know the first thing about which store to get get it from, LOL!

I've never paid a girl just to meet her to see if we're compatible, although I have had a few that asked. IMO there's no reason to do that as there's no guarantee that the two of us will click. For me it's just a red flag that the girl is shortsighted, getting some bad advice, or simply a 'rinser' looking to just get paid for being pretty and showing up. As such I politely decline and quickly move on.

*I always pick up the tab for coffee or lunch in the M&G, and in two occasions have given a gift card from one of the popular makeup chain stores to gorgeous, young hardbody coeds (if we hit it off) as the clincher. Both girls acted like they died and went to heaven and immediately wanted to begin things.

[YayaGogo]

Are you guys giving any donations at the meet and greet? I have not been, although I do pay for the meal if a meal is involved. One chick just wanted me to give 200 for the M& G! Please advise. I'm not paying the 200, I just wanted to know if this is standard practice.

I've never paid a girl just to meet her to see if we're compatible, although I have had a few that asked. IMO there's no reason to do that as there's no guarantee that the two of us will click. For me it's just a red flag that the girl is shortsighted, getting some bad advice, or simply a 'rinser' looking to just get paid for being pretty and showing up. As such I politely decline and quickly move on.

*I always pick up the tab for coffee or lunch in the M&G, and in two occasions have given a gift card from one of the popular makeup chain stores to gorgeous, young hardbody coeds (if we hit it off) as the clincher. Both girls acted like they died and went to heaven and immediately wanted to begin things.

[MoSlow]

Sooo, what's the deal with the new payment options? I always used to do the PayPal option. Haven't had a subscription for a few months. Tried to re-up, and can't do it by PayPal.

Are you guys just using your personal cc's? I went to the store and thought about getting a prepaid one, but it clearly states on the back of all the cards that they can only be used for transactions IN the us, to help fight terrorism, blah blah. And I saw on some post where someone's card was declined because it was an international transaction.

Anyone know of any way to use a type of cc where you don't have to give your name / info? I searched for subscription and membership in this thread and didn't find anything helpful.

It doesn't address your personal info being shared but some card issuers provide an "internet" card number where you can set a short time limit and a spending cap. There used to be some browser security add-ins that would "tokenize" your card info to keep your info private.

Hopefully these might help a bit for what you are after.

Be safe,

Mo.

[CrazySpice]

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You need to never do this again.

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[CoolPix]

Are you guys giving any donations at the meet and greet? I have not been, although I do pay for the meal if a meal is involved. One chick just wanted me to give 200 for the M& G! Please advise. I'm not paying the 200, I just wanted to know if this is standard practice.

I've only had one M&G that didn't lead straight to the FC but I gave her a $25 Starbucks card and we agreed to meet but I decided I wasn't interested after meeting in person (see, M&Gs go both ways gents). But I'm also pretty up front with my expectations and don't pull the trigger until I've found one that I'm serious about bedding. To each his own and this takes quite a bit of time to find the right SB but they're out there.