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[H Mobius]

I did this a few times just to see who the MS would send in. I notice the MS these days sends in the girls that's not as busy. Depending on the customer, she'll send in a girl that's not all that hot looking / popular. If he doesn't like her, she'll send in another provider who's not as busy. The customer keeps rejecting and rejecting until finally they have no choice but to send in the hot one. LOL. However, the MS can say the hotter / popular one is busy so you have no choice but to pick the only available options.

This was very common back in the 90's, and led to the ms busting out her hottest girls.

After a while, mamas got irritated with this and would do as in the last sentence in your post, just to 'fix' the guy.

In extreme cases a mama would refuse entry thereafter, because she was fed-up.

[Uki Eater]

I sometimes think about walking into an AMP at night with no appointment and asking the mama to just send any girl who has not yet had any customers for the day. I'm thinking whoever she sends to the room must be the horniest girl in the AMP. Anyone here ever done that?

I did this a few times just to see who the MS would send in. I notice the MS these days sends in the girls that's not as busy. Depending on the customer, she'll send in a girl that's not all that hot looking / popular. If he doesn't like her, she'll send in another provider who's not as busy. The customer keeps rejecting and rejecting until finally they have no choice but to send in the hot one. LOL. However, the MS can say the hotter / popular one is busy so you have no choice but to pick the only available options.

[SandVolleyball]

I do that quite frequently but it's a success no more than 50% of the time. I figure it's because the girl that gets sent in doesn't get appointments or get picked for a reason, or these girls really don't get all that horny and most of the reports we read about girls coming multiple times are pretty much a combination of good acting and mongers' fantasies. Nevertheless, hmmm, I think I'll give it a try today.

OMG. So f'ing funny! And Kalani, you are so true to the mark on the multi or even single "o"'s. May I just say hahahahahahahahahahaha!

[Cosmic Kid]

Occasionally we will hear rumors concerning a monger who has gotten into a romantic relationship with a provider. Or maybe a monger even ends up marrying a provider: maybe she leaves the business or maybe she doesn't. I realize this scenario is a potential minefield. But let's say. Hypothetically - this is that one in a hundred arrangement which proves to have a viable foundation and a realistic chance of success in the longterm. The guy is not uptight about what his woman has done to make a living and / or is even cool with her continuing in the profession. In our hypothetical scenario, it turns out this relationship is a match / made in heaven. These two people are surprised to discover they have emotional rapport with one another and common interests and are genuinely attracted to each other and feel they can trust each other as friends too. Seems as if this kind of connection is rare between a man and woman in our world, and just because these two met under the problematic illicit circumstances they did. Having sex for money in an AMP. Is no reason for them to turn their backs on this one-chance-in-a-lifetime relationship. The big problem however. The elephant in the closet. Is, how does the guy handle explaining to his friends, co-workers, and family, who this new stunning foxy woman in his life is, and how he happened to meet her? The dude can say he had a knot in his back and she is a massage therapist. Shucks, maybe she even does have those skills; some providers are excellent at massage. But seems to me, as soon as one of his relations or acquaintances tries to track down where the guy's new SO works, and finds out it's in an AMP, and what the reputation of that establishment is, the cat will be out of the proverbial bag, and all hell is likely to break loose in the guy's life. Is there some way this fellow can keep his life intact while holding onto his amazing new relationship with this gorgeous woman, and not have to end up descending into a morass of lies and pretense in order to continue to survive in our sexually-repressed and judgmental society?

Mahalo to the brothers on this board who offered suggestions, including one PM I received. It's all food for thought and much appreciated. What has just occurred to me is, there's another problem with being honest and upfront with people. Acquaintances, family, co-workers. Regarding what the guy's new girlfriend (or wife) does / did to make the rent. And this problem is, being a prostitute is not only socially unacceptable in our society, it is also ILLEGAL! So, the woman herself may not be too pleased if this guy was to say anything about what she really does / did for a living. If she's been in the biz for some length of time, she herself has already struggled through a learning-curve; discovered what to say and to whom and how to survive and remain in the profession while protecting herself from detainment and prosecution by LE. So this realization led me to the conclusion the best person for this fellow to get good suggestions from regarding how to handle this delicate (hypothetical) situation would quite possibly be the dude's new girlfriend (or wife) herself.

[Cosmic Kid]

Lonely Smiles recently referenced the book "Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose:

You the man, Red! Why did it occur to me it would very likely be you who would be able to locate what I was looking for? LOL Yep, that's the book. And mahalo also to Lonely Smiles for recommending the book.

[LadiesMan217]

Occasionally we will hear rumors concerning a monger who has gotten into a romantic relationship with a provider. Or maybe a monger even ends up marrying a provider: maybe she leaves the business or maybe she doesn't. I realize this scenario is a potential minefield. But let's say. Hypothetically - this is that one in a hundred arrangement which proves to have a viable foundation and a realistic chance of success in the longterm. The guy is not uptight about what his woman has done to make a living and / or is even cool with her continuing in the profession. In our hypothetical scenario, it turns out this relationship is a match / made in heaven. These two people are surprised to discover they have emotional rapport with one another and common interests and are genuinely attracted to each other and feel they can trust each other as friends too. Seems as if this kind of connection is rare between a man and woman in our world, and just because these two met under the problematic illicit circumstances they did. Having sex for money in an AMP. Is no reason for them to turn their backs on this one-chance-in-a-lifetime relationship. The big problem however. The elephant in the closet. Is, how does the guy handle explaining to his friends, co-workers, and family, who this new stunning foxy woman in his life is, and how he happened to meet her? The dude can say he had a knot in his back and she is a massage therapist. Shucks, maybe she even does have those skills; some providers are excellent at massage. But seems to me, as soon as one of his relations or acquaintances tries to track down where the guy's new SO works, and finds out it's in an AMP, and what the reputation of that establishment is, the cat will be out of the proverbial bag, and all hell is likely to break loose in the guy's life. Is there some way this fellow can keep his life intact while holding onto his amazing new relationship with this gorgeous woman, and not have to end up descending into a morass of lies and pretense in order to continue to survive in our sexually-repressed and judgmental society?

Well, I did date a massage therapist for a while here. Never got play the one time I booked an appointment, but certainly got play on the first date. Just making out. Third date it was on like Donkey Kong. She spent the night. Lasted for a while but I had to tap out because she drank too much, did a lot of Korean texting to me, trying to make me learn Korean, etc etc. I did have her over for BBQs while I had friends and coworkers over. Easiest and plausible explanation was we met at a Korean restaurant. I was ok with her and her line of work, even read some of the reviews. None of the reviews said she offered more than HJ. And at night, maybe after we had dinner or went to a movie, we would shower, and she would turn out to be a freak. What I will says is ultimately you have to be confident in yourself, and the knowledge that she ultimately wants to have an emotional relationship with you, and not another monger. If one of your buddies or friends finds out, they will probably give you a high five. If he tells his wife or girlfriend or something and makes your bud stop hanging out with you, well, they probably were not good friends to begin with. Just my 2 yen worth.

[Idusixtyning]

Occasionally we will hear rumors concerning a monger who has gotten into a romantic relationship with a provider. Or maybe a monger even ends up marrying a provider: maybe she leaves the business or maybe she doesn't. I realize this scenario is a potential minefield. But let's say. Hypothetically - this is that one in a hundred arrangement which proves to have a viable foundation and a realistic chance of success in the longterm. The guy is not uptight about what his woman has done to make a living and / or is even cool with her continuing in the profession. In our hypothetical scenario, it turns out this relationship is a match / made in heaven. These two people are surprised to discover they have emotional rapport with one another and common interests and are genuinely attracted to each other and feel they can trust each other as friends too. Seems as if this kind of connection is rare between a man and woman in our world, and just because these two met under the problematic illicit circumstances they did. Having sex for money in an AMP. Is no reason for them to turn their backs on this one-chance-in-a-lifetime relationship. The big problem however. The elephant in the closet. Is, how does the guy handle explaining to his friends, co-workers, and family, who this new stunning foxy woman in his life is, and how he happened to meet her? The dude can say he had a knot in his back and she is a massage therapist. Shucks, maybe she even does have those skills; some providers are excellent at massage. But seems to me, as soon as one of his relations or acquaintances tries to track down where the guy's new SO works, and finds out it's in an AMP, and what the reputation of that establishment is, the cat will be out of the proverbial bag, and all hell is likely to break loose in the guy's life. Is there some way this fellow can keep his life intact while holding onto his amazing new relationship with this gorgeous woman, and not have to end up descending into a morass of lies and pretense in order to continue to survive in our sexually-repressed and judgmental society?

If the connection is there, don't sabotage the opportunity with deceit. Be honest with how the union came to be, those who will judge will do so anyway, and those who support will be.

There. Have to have honesty to give it a chance, after all, both parties know the truth and have gotten past it, don't hide it and open that chapter of doubt. Just my opinion.

What's ironic is that many people in our Protestant based society consider theirselves as Christians but will still be judgemental and gossip about people that aren't normal. A true Christian would forgive and not make judgements nor gossip.

[Redneck 1]

Couple days ago there was a convo about dominant style with a woman in sex, and one brother had recommended a book on the subject. I totally lost that thread and I want to read that book! Can anyone point me to the correct thread and post? Tried the search function on this site but I'm not good with using those.

Lonely Smiles recently referenced the book "Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose:

On that subject, there are many books and resources that talk about tasteful dominance. Not rape, not even S&M. Just the idea that many women find the idea of a dominant, confident man attractive on some level in bed.

An interesting starting point, one that was recommend to me by a woman, is a book called "The Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose (you can get the online version from the Google play store). From his own experience, he writes about Dominance, Emotion, Variety, and Immersion as key factors that can make a great sexual relationship. It's a quick read and I would never take everything in a book like this as gospel, but some of the insights are quite intuitive and fascinating. Some of the concepts have definitely help me become a better sexual partner. Always learning, who wants to just be mediocre at sex?

[Member #5810]

If the connection is there, don't sabotage the opportunity with deceit. Be honest with how the union came to be, those who will judge will do so anyway, and those who support will be.

There. Have to have honesty to give it a chance, after all, both parties know the truth and have gotten past it, don't hide it and open that chapter of doubt. Just my opinion.

I'm with Hawaii. It is what it is. Your true friends will have your back. Relatives and family can be told a white lie. Massage therapist. If she quits then her past will fade away.

[Memahu]

Couple days ago there was a convo about dominant style with a woman in sex, and one brother had recommended a book on the subject. I totally lost that thread and I want to read that book! Can anyone point me to the correct thread and post? Tried the search function on this site but I'm not good with using those.

The only book I can think of is Fucking & Punching by Hank Moody.

[Cosmic Kid]

Couple days ago there was a convo about dominant style with a woman in sex, and one brother had recommended a book on the subject. I totally lost that thread and I want to read that book! Can anyone point me to the correct thread and post? Tried the search function on this site but I'm not good with using those.

[Buster50]

Occasionally we will hear rumors concerning a monger who has gotten into a romantic relationship with a provider. Or maybe a monger even ends up marrying a provider: maybe she leaves the business or maybe she doesn't. I realize this scenario is a potential minefield. But let's say. Hypothetically - this is that one in a hundred arrangement which proves to have a viable foundation and a realistic chance of success in the longterm. The guy is not uptight about what his woman has done to make a living and / or is even cool with her continuing in the profession. In our hypothetical scenario, it turns out this relationship is a match / made in heaven. These two people are surprised to discover they have emotional rapport with one another and common interests and are genuinely attracted to each other and feel they can trust each other as friends too. Seems as if this kind of connection is rare between a man and woman in our world, and just because these two met under the problematic illicit circumstances they did. Having sex for money in an AMP. Is no reason for them to turn their backs on this one-chance-in-a-lifetime relationship. The big problem however. The elephant in the closet. Is, how does the guy handle explaining to his friends, co-workers, and family, who this new stunning foxy woman in his life is, and how he happened to meet her? The dude can say he had a knot in his back and she is a massage therapist. Shucks, maybe she even does have those skills; some providers are excellent at massage. But seems to me, as soon as one of his relations or acquaintances tries to track down where the guy's new SO works, and finds out it's in an AMP, and what the reputation of that establishment is, the cat will be out of the proverbial bag, and all hell is likely to break loose in the guy's life. Is there some way this fellow can keep his life intact while holding onto his amazing new relationship with this gorgeous woman, and not have to end up descending into a morass of lies and pretense in order to continue to survive in our sexually-repressed and judgmental society?

The only similarity I had with your story is that I hooked up with and shacked up with a provider for almost a year, other than that nothing was similar. LOL The biggest problem is that Hawaii is small and no matter what, mongers out there will recognize her and eventually someone in your circle of friends or family will find out. The best option is to move out of state IMHO.

[SlimGuy619]

Occasionally we will hear rumors concerning a monger who has gotten into a romantic relationship with a provider. Or maybe a monger even ends up marrying a provider: maybe she leaves the business or maybe she doesn't. I realize this scenario is a potential minefield. But let's say. Hypothetically - this is that one in a hundred arrangement which proves to have a viable foundation and a realistic chance of success in the longterm. The guy is not uptight about what his woman has done to make a living and / or is even cool with her continuing in the profession. In our hypothetical scenario, it turns out this relationship is a match / made in heaven. These two people are surprised to discover they have emotional rapport with one another and common interests and are genuinely attracted to each other and feel they can trust each other as friends too. Seems as if this kind of connection is rare between a man and woman in our world, and just because these two met under the problematic illicit circumstances they did. Having sex for money in an AMP. Is no reason for them to turn their backs on this one-chance-in-a-lifetime relationship. The big problem however. The elephant in the closet. Is, how does the guy handle explaining to his friends, co-workers, and family, who this new stunning foxy woman in his life is, and how he happened to meet her? The dude can say he had a knot in his back and she is a massage therapist. Shucks, maybe she even does have those skills; some providers are excellent at massage. But seems to me, as soon as one of his relations or acquaintances tries to track down where the guy's new SO works, and finds out it's in an AMP, and what the reputation of that establishment is, the cat will be out of the proverbial bag, and all hell is likely to break loose in the guy's life. Is there some way this fellow can keep his life intact while holding onto his amazing new relationship with this gorgeous woman, and not have to end up descending into a morass of lies and pretense in order to continue to survive in our sexually-repressed and judgmental society?

Not marrying a working girl is easily the best way to avoid it. LOL.

In all seriousness, I'd say this person needs better company. If he found the perfect woman, she should be all he needs to make him happy, anyone else that is overly curious or judgemental about your character is not worth it.

[InHawaii]

Occasionally we will hear rumors concerning a monger who has gotten into a romantic relationship with a provider. Or maybe a monger even ends up marrying a provider: maybe she leaves the business or maybe she doesn't. I realize this scenario is a potential minefield. But let's say. Hypothetically - this is that one in a hundred arrangement which proves to have a viable foundation and a realistic chance of success in the longterm. The guy is not uptight about what his woman has done to make a living and / or is even cool with her continuing in the profession. In our hypothetical scenario, it turns out this relationship is a match / made in heaven. These two people are surprised to discover they have emotional rapport with one another and common interests and are genuinely attracted to each other and feel they can trust each other as friends too. Seems as if this kind of connection is rare between a man and woman in our world, and just because these two met under the problematic illicit circumstances they did. Having sex for money in an AMP. Is no reason for them to turn their backs on this one-chance-in-a-lifetime relationship. The big problem however. The elephant in the closet. Is, how does the guy handle explaining to his friends, co-workers, and family, who this new stunning foxy woman in his life is, and how he happened to meet her? The dude can say he had a knot in his back and she is a massage therapist. Shucks, maybe she even does have those skills; some providers are excellent at massage. But seems to me, as soon as one of his relations or acquaintances tries to track down where the guy's new SO works, and finds out it's in an AMP, and what the reputation of that establishment is, the cat will be out of the proverbial bag, and all hell is likely to break loose in the guy's life. Is there some way this fellow can keep his life intact while holding onto his amazing new relationship with this gorgeous woman, and not have to end up descending into a morass of lies and pretense in order to continue to survive in our sexually-repressed and judgmental society?

If the connection is there, don't sabotage the opportunity with deceit. Be honest with how the union came to be, those who will judge will do so anyway, and those who support will be.

There. Have to have honesty to give it a chance, after all, both parties know the truth and have gotten past it, don't hide it and open that chapter of doubt. Just my opinion.

[Cosmic Kid]

Occasionally we will hear rumors concerning a monger who has gotten into a romantic relationship with a provider. Or maybe a monger even ends up marrying a provider: maybe she leaves the business or maybe she doesn't. I realize this scenario is a potential minefield. But let's say. Hypothetically - this is that one in a hundred arrangement which proves to have a viable foundation and a realistic chance of success in the longterm. The guy is not uptight about what his woman has done to make a living and / or is even cool with her continuing in the profession. In our hypothetical scenario, it turns out this relationship is a match / made in heaven. These two people are surprised to discover they have emotional rapport with one another and common interests and are genuinely attracted to each other and feel they can trust each other as friends too. Seems as if this kind of connection is rare between a man and woman in our world, and just because these two met under the problematic illicit circumstances they did. Having sex for money in an AMP. Is no reason for them to turn their backs on this one-chance-in-a-lifetime relationship. The big problem however. The elephant in the closet. Is, how does the guy handle explaining to his friends, co-workers, and family, who this new stunning foxy woman in his life is, and how he happened to meet her? The dude can say he had a knot in his back and she is a massage therapist. Shucks, maybe she even does have those skills; some providers are excellent at massage. But seems to me, as soon as one of his relations or acquaintances tries to track down where the guy's new SO works, and finds out it's in an AMP, and what the reputation of that establishment is, the cat will be out of the proverbial bag, and all hell is likely to break loose in the guy's life. Is there some way this fellow can keep his life intact while holding onto his amazing new relationship with this gorgeous woman, and not have to end up descending into a morass of lies and pretense in order to continue to survive in our sexually-repressed and judgmental society?