"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[Mike7794]

A bit burned out at the moment, but not in necessarily a bad way. I now deem myself somewhat of a professional SD, WITH issues. The girls keep falling for me and I keep playing along with it. I have even went so far as to rent my own very nice townhouse on the side, furnished it, etc, all so I'd have a place 24/7 to bring the girls back. It's for no other purpose.

I've noticed a common denominator with these girls, especially the ones that get clingy and want relationships. Some of them are really sad inside, sweet, and kind young women, but, THEY ARE FUCKED UP IN THE HEAD! I've had marriage proposals and everything in between.

The latest girl is 24 in school, 5'2" very petite, big tits on her small frame, a bit of a loose box, but that's ok, she is a fucking freak in bed. I can't really even keep up with her. And now she too, is saying she's in love. Who am I ask? That this has now happened four times to me? I got maybe a slightly above average dick in size, yeah, I'm in shape for my age, I don't allow these girls to push me around, I stand my own and can be kind and gentle etc, but I do test their limits. I'm not God's gift to woman and this keeps happening. And if you think they just want my money, in all four of these instances now, they asked me to stop giving it to them cause they wanted it to be real. WTF?

For those out there entertaining the idea of this hobby, a big huge warning. As you get further into this and connect with a few of these fine young women. (not just the wham bam types, but a connection) you will NEVER, I repeat NEVER be able to go back to a partnership type relationship with a woman you own age. And for a moment you might think something real, can come of it as then reality of your age kicks in. And then the twenty something you've become attached is there and then you'll wake up and realize too much of your life has gone by and it isn't happening. A true defining moment of something "bitter sweet" But my brothers, that can be internally painful to realize when you have some starry eyes beauty wanting future plans with you, who will suck the cum out of every night and you have to face reality, in a few years, you'll be knocking on deaths door and she will just be beginning her life. It's a tough pill to swallow. Trust me.

So my advise, work very hard to keep the feelings at bay and if you sense them coming on. RUN, no matter how good she is.

If you know how to play this game, it can be the most rewarding experiences of you life as a man. It can take you back and let you see how you could have and maybe should have done things. It will make you think you can win over beautiful 20-something women and awe them, but at the end of the day, it will forever remain bitter sweet. So learn how to deal with all that before you start getting serious with any of these women.

Damn this was a profound post for me. Just got divorced last year from a hot Asian I brought over from China who is 20 years younger than me. I've had those thoughts myself regarding time and their age. Get this. She still lives with me even though we're divorced. She loves the hell out of me, but I didn't want another baby at my age, and what I 've been going through in family court with children from another relationship. My hot Asian ex-wife could get guys every day if she wanted. I set her up on match.com and eharmony to try and help her find a husband that will give her a baby. She gets hundreds of letters from match. Literally. If you saw the pictures she posts every one of your guys would want to do her. She's that nice. But I digress. Dirty Deed I could not have said it any better than you did with one caveat. I'm hooked on the Asian girls. I love and prefer their spinner bodies. Always slim. I'm just getting back to the western girls these days, but they must be slim. I cannot handle any extra padding. Oh and young too.

On a side note. Speaking of western girls and why I've been so turned off the last several years. One stood me up today on a m & g. It reminded me why I went with foreign girls, but I'll stay with it. I hate to admit how far I drove. I'm usually pretty seasoned on stuff, but I had a dumb moment.

[PghGuy2005]

"I don't do per meeting arrangements as I am not a prostitute".

9 from pics mixed 24 yr old.

[PghGuy2005]

The last line of MSG 1 reads "I do prefer a per meeting arrangement to start. If you could let me know what your expectation $ are that would be great. ".

Is that typo? Or do you actually ask about their expectation $ in the first message? What have you done when they reply 3 k-5 k / month did you keep going?

I initially thought the idea of 1-2-3 was to gradually justify your $ per date offer but then I went back and re-read your post.

[FredMoore]

" Play in the bowl --never let the bowl play you. " JeezLizard.

There is a reason most rehab stints are 4 weeks. JL speaks wise words. One thing is for sure, you can always go back. That pathway is a slippery slope.

Just saw my one and only SB, a 40+ 9/9/6. 5 She is not good or cheap enough to keep spending my money. I need to keep her in the rotation for a while until I either try JL's addiction program or nail one of these Pots. I need a 9 performance to stay in the game.

Pots: Got a M&G with a 19 yr old soon and chatting up a 20 yr old, both white. The first is a 7/7. 5/? And the second is a 9/9/? The first should be easy to bed, the second is going to take a Masters in Psych, but it's worth a try. If Pot #1 is a 9 then I can live with the 7 looks.

[HollywoodGuy]

The girl from last nites awkward M&G was txting me this morning. There is like zero chance I will be following up on that one. Did another M&G this morning at a starbucks. Another 7/9 girl. Perfect tiny dancer body. 20 AA and totally not sure what she was doing. After 3 months on SA she said I was her first M&G. A very middle class girl and very straight edge personality. A little too straight for me. Too bad as she was awesome looking. But the vibe just wasnt right. I told her if she was interested to txt me later. I doubt I will here from her. She said she couldn't really wrap her mind around taking money off a guy. She'll learn.

[JZLizard]

A bit burned out at the moment, but not in necessarily a bad way. I now deem myself somewhat of a professional SD, WITH issues. The girls keep falling for me and I keep playing along with it. I have even went so far as to rent my own very nice townhouse on the side, furnished it, etc, all so I'd have a place 24/7 to bring the girls back. It's for no other purpose.

I've noticed a common denominator with these girls, especially the ones that get clingy and want relationships. Some of them are really sad inside, sweet, and kind young women, but, THEY ARE FUCKED UP IN THE HEAD! I've had marriage proposals and everything in between.

The latest girl is 24 in school, 5'2" very petite, big tits on her small frame, a bit of a loose box, but that's ok, she is a fucking freak in bed. I can't really even keep up with her. And now she too, is saying she's in love. Who am I ask? That this has now happened four times to me? I got maybe a slightly above average dick in size, yeah, I'm in shape for my age, I don't allow these girls to push me around, I stand my own and can be kind and gentle etc, but I do test their limits. I'm not God's gift to woman and this keeps happening. And if you think they just want my money, in all four of these instances now, they asked me to stop giving it to them cause they wanted it to be real. WTF?

For those out there entertaining the idea of this hobby, a big huge warning. As you get further into this and connect with a few of these fine young women. (not just the wham bam types, but a connection) you will NEVER, I repeat NEVER be able to go back to a partnership type relationship with a woman you own age. And for a moment you might think something real, can come of it as then reality of your age kicks in. And then the twenty something you've become attached is there and then you'll wake up and realize too much of your life has gone by and it isn't happening. A true defining moment of something "bitter sweet" But my brothers, that can be internally painful to realize when you have some starry eyes beauty wanting future plans with you, who will suck the cum out of every night and you have to face reality, in a few years, you'll be knocking on deaths door and she will just be beginning her life. It's a tough pill to swallow. Trust me.

So my advise, work very hard to keep the feelings at bay and if you sense them coming on. RUN, no matter how good she is.

If you know how to play this game, it can be the most rewarding experiences of you life as a man. It can take you back and let you see how you could have and maybe should have done things. It will make you think you can win over beautiful 20-something women and awe them, but at the end of the day, it will forever remain bitter sweet. So learn how to deal with all that before you start getting serious with any of these women.

I completely relate to, and agree with, much of what you've said. So many of my encounters quickly turn into a situation where they are sizing me up for some sort of longer-term relationship. For many of them, finding a SD who is also a legitimate boyfriend that's successful enough to keep them comfortable is a dream come true. Some girls are prone to fall into the "love river" and get swept away more easily than others. Some are plain unrepentant gold diggers.

The one part I would have to beg to differ on (or at least elaborate on) is where you said it's no longer possible to return to age-appropriate relationships after playing in the bowl. Whether or not that is possible is a simple matter of how we handle addictions as individuals.

I only dabble in the bowl when I'm traveling or the SO is traveling, so I only get a few weeks per year of bowl time. It doesn't take much for addiction to set in. However there is inevitably a point where I need to snap out of it. I have to if I want to keep my existing relationship. For almost every addiction I've encountered in life, I have found it takes approximately 3-4 weeks of abstinance to fully return to the "desired state" of not craving the addiction. That's about how long it takes me to get all the SBs fully out of my mind, and rid my mind of thoughts of leaving my relationship to become a full-time SD.

As you've pointed out, the addiction becomes stronger when you have a gorgeous young hottie who has just given you some of the best pussy you've ever had laying there in bed with you dreaming out loud about her aspirations with you.

But, no matter how great the temptation, pussy (no matter how great) should never be the reason to discard whatever life goals we set for ourselves before being lured into the addiction. We will only end up with a long list of regrets after it's all said and done if we do.

So, for those of who believe that there is no hope of shaking the addiction, I would just say that if you're serious in that belief and it bothers you, then take a month off, cold turkey. Same goes to those who feel they are spending too much money on the hobby, or that their relationship with family or friends is being neglected or suffering as a result of their SD lifestyle. Take one month off where you don't spend a dime on an SB. You don't even have to burn bridges or delete contacts of POTS, just back off the communication with them (tell them you have to deal with work related issues and you'll get back to them when things cool down). If they continue to send nude pics and things that keep luring you back, just keep in mind that the types that will do that are still going to be available in a month or two, so just tell her nice pics and you'll talk to her soon. If you have too many contacts and cannot shake the temptation they are sending your way, you may have to truly go dark, change your burner phone number or whatever in order for this technique to work for you.

If you go 2 weeks and are thinking "this isn't working", you're completely missing the point. If you quit most activity, but continue to bang one or two regulars during this "rehab" period, you're missing the point. If you continue to surf the SD sites and contact girls during this time, you're missing the point.

The point is to completely separate yourself from the addiction for a period of one month. It will take at leat that long before your brain is able to regain control over your dick. One month is the approximate period of time that most people need to adjust to changes or withdrawal from psychological addictions.

If the one-month abstinence technique fails you, you may be more addiction prone than the average person or you may not have been diligent enough in actually disconnecting. Try longer periods of time (6-8 weeks) or more drastic means of going dark.

If you're one of the lucky ones who is unconcerned about the addiction (I. E. You have no real world relationship to try to maintain, relationships with friends and family are fine and in tact, and you have the disposable income to maintain your habits without concern about future retirement goals), then I would say don't worry about any of it. The above advice is only for those who feel they aren't fully in control of their habit or hobby. If you feel like conceding that escaping the bowl is not possible, and life can never return to normal, it's a sure sign you would benefit from a month off.

Play in the bowl --never let the bowl play you.

[HollywoodGuy]

For those out there entertaining the idea of this hobby, a big huge warning.

Thats a warning or an endorsement?

As you get further into this and connect with a few of these fine young women. (not just the wham bam types, but a connection) you will NEVER, I repeat NEVER be able to go back to a partnership type relationship with a woman you own age.

Or any age.

[DirtyDeeds38]

A bit burned out at the moment, but not in necessarily a bad way. I now deem myself somewhat of a professional SD, WITH issues. The girls keep falling for me and I keep playing along with it. I have even went so far as to rent my own very nice townhouse on the side, furnished it, etc, all so I'd have a place 24/7 to bring the girls back. It's for no other purpose.

I've noticed a common denominator with these girls, especially the ones that get clingy and want relationships. Some of them are really sad inside, sweet, and kind young women, but, THEY ARE FUCKED UP IN THE HEAD! I've had marriage proposals and everything in between.

The latest girl is 24 in school, 5'2" very petite, big tits on her small frame, a bit of a loose box, but that's ok, she is a fucking freak in bed. I can't really even keep up with her. And now she too, is saying she's in love. Who am I ask? That this has now happened four times to me? I got maybe a slightly above average dick in size, yeah, I'm in shape for my age, I don't allow these girls to push me around, I stand my own and can be kind and gentle etc, but I do test their limits. I'm not God's gift to woman and this keeps happening. And if you think they just want my money, in all four of these instances now, they asked me to stop giving it to them cause they wanted it to be real. WTF?

For those out there entertaining the idea of this hobby, a big huge warning. As you get further into this and connect with a few of these fine young women. (not just the wham bam types, but a connection) you will NEVER, I repeat NEVER be able to go back to a partnership type relationship with a woman you own age. And for a moment you might think something real, can come of it as then reality of your age kicks in. And then the twenty something you've become attached is there and then you'll wake up and realize too much of your life has gone by and it isn't happening. A true defining moment of something "bitter sweet" But my brothers, that can be internally painful to realize when you have some starry eyes beauty wanting future plans with you, who will suck the cum out of every night and you have to face reality, in a few years, you'll be knocking on deaths door and she will just be beginning her life. It's a tough pill to swallow. Trust me.

So my advise, work very hard to keep the feelings at bay and if you sense them coming on. RUN, no matter how good she is.

If you know how to play this game, it can be the most rewarding experiences of you life as a man. It can take you back and let you see how you could have and maybe should have done things. It will make you think you can win over beautiful 20-something women and awe them, but at the end of the day, it will forever remain bitter sweet. So learn how to deal with all that before you start getting serious with any of these women.

[Dog Rice]

You are lucky that 2 of them at least let you know for cancellation. Get used to this, bro! .

When you read the title you think you lucky dog! Well hold our horses. I've been stood up three times in less than one week. Yes three times they canceled within a few hours of the date and one didn't even bother to call to cancel. God how I hate these young bitches! But I won't give up LOL.

[HollywoodGuy]

Sent by an an 18 year old hottie from a wealthy suburb.

"I usually get like 300-500 for a handjob".

You would never hear something like that, from a girl on SD4 M.

Went on a failed M&G which wasted my whole night. The girl was very pretty but probably gained 20 lbs from the high school pics she sent me. Which on a 5'2' body is a lot. I was as nice as possible, but it was a little awkward. It wasn't a total waste. Because now she is off my list.

[Bastardo]

When you read the title you think you lucky dog! Well hold our horses. I've been stood up three times in less than one week. Yes three times they canceled within a few hours of the date and one didn't even bother to call to cancel. God how I hate these young bitches! But I won't give up LOL.

Yeah, I got stood up tonight myself from a 20 yr old, after getting stood up last Saturday from a 19 yr old. Both white girls. On the bright side, after she cancelled, I went down to pick up show tix for tomorrow with my new ATF, and ended up hitting a 20 k straight flush. Life is good sometimes.

[HollywoodGuy]

When you read the title you think you lucky dog! Well hold our horses. I've been stood up three times in less than one week. Yes three times they canceled within a few hours of the date and one didn't even bother to call to cancel. God how I hate these young bitches! But I won't give up LOL.

Giving up is not allowed on this thread.

[Ltnric]

When you read the title you think you lucky dog! Well hold our horses. I've been stood up three times in less than one week. Yes three times they canceled within a few hours of the date and one didn't even bother to call to cancel. God how I hate these young bitches! But I won't give up LOL.

[HollywoodGuy]

For those of you who have experience with such arrangements do you pay before / after the period? Is it usually for a fixed # of dates in a week / month or all you can "eat" (he. He. He.) during that period?

In other words flat rate or metered billing? .

I always pay per date unless I have already been seeing the person for at least 6 months and even then depending. I only have one girl on a guaranteed allowance at this time. But we live together so thats a little bit different.

[PghGuy2005]

For those of you who have experience with such arrangements do you pay before / after the period? Is it usually for a fixed # of dates in a week / month or all you can "eat" (he. He. He.) during that period?

In other words flat rate or metered billing? .