"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[PghGuy2005]

The issues I was speaking of did not entail the SA app itself being malware, it was a general statement about Android apps and the general security issues around them. Of course, SA is not going to intentionally put malware in their app, but all it takes is one accidental misstep from the developer of the app and the door is open for other apps from non-reputable sources to do things with data from the SA app you may not want. The situation at Apple is locked down much better, that's all I meant.

Actually do not want SA to have my personal info -phone number etc. I am in the category who cannot have any personally identifying information floating around even if it is secured.

[HollywoodGuy]

They were asking for $800 per meet. Where do they get that from? $800 goes a long way! If they can get it, they should hang on to it. Why do they need to talk to me. Total BS.

The "settlement" was $300. I apologized that we were so far apart and wished them well. One ultimately agree to $150, the other $200 which I know is high HWG standards. LOL.

Depends on the quality. I am actually going to raise my offer to some teen super hotties, 9's and 10's only as I am tired of losing them. They would have to be close to perfect looking by my standards. I may only get one or two bites at the apple. But I deserve a treat now and then. I will report if and when it happens.

[Madaboutmax]

They were asking for $800 per meet. Where do they get that from? $800 goes a long way! If they can get it, they should hang on to it. Why do they need to talk to me. Total BS.

The "settlement" was $300. I apologized that we were so far apart and wished them well. One ultimately agree to $150, the other $200 which I know is high HWG standards. LOL.

800 per date? Per month? Curious to know what you finally settle on.

[HollywoodGuy]

I've had several interesting exchanges recently with girls about allowance. In each case, after a trip the FC, we discussed allowance. The starting point in each case was $800!! I worked hard to remain polite and respectful. Let them know that was above my budget and nothing I could support on a long term basis. We negotiated a "settlement" for the first time meeting and parted ways.

Two of the girls have come back. Saying they really enjoyed the time with me and would work with me on something we could both accept.

I'm glad I stayed composed and respectful. It has ultimately paid off. It was so tempting to tell them off, but that would have served no purpose. GPS is something that they need to cure themselves.

800 per date? Per month? Curious to know what you finally settle on.

[Madaboutmax]

I've had several interesting exchanges recently with girls about allowance. In each case, after a trip the FC, we discussed allowance. The starting point in each case was $800!! I worked hard to remain polite and respectful. Let them know that was above my budget and nothing I could support on a long term basis. We negotiated a "settlement" for the first time meeting and parted ways.

Two of the girls have come back. Saying they really enjoyed the time with me and would work with me on something we could both accept.

I'm glad I stayed composed and respectful. It has ultimately paid off. It was so tempting to tell them off, but that would have served no purpose. GPS is something that they need to cure themselves.

[JZLizard]

Here is the SA blog thread that let to this recent "attention" on our thread here:

https://www.seekingarrangement.com/b...go-translated/#comments.

What I would suggest, particularly to married SDs or those with a heightened interest in privacy retention, is to simply be careful about "oversharing" information about girls you meet and your interactions with them. It probably goes without saying, but don't share things related to this forum with girls either, no matter how much you like or trust them.

The Internet and "social media" of all forms makes it all too easy to track people down and do something that adversely affects their lives. What usually happens is a thread like this starts out with kind of an underground following, but before long has a much wider audience than would appear by the number of folks posting. There is a temptation to rely on "well we haven't had any problems so far, so there's no reason to believe we will". That almost never lasts. The audience grows exponentially but silently over time and the perfect storm brews all the while.

So, here are my suggestions to anyone who cares to remain anonymous:

1. Avoid posting too much info about girls. If you're reflecting on your adventures or are seeking advice on a situation, edit your post to change their age, change their circumstance, change their city, change their hair color or cup size or whatever.

2. Don't use same or similar name here that you use on other sites / forums or for email addresses.

3. Don't post pics. Of anything. Pics of them you took, pics of them they sent you, pics of yourself, places you've been, etc. That makes it dead easy for them to identify you.

4. Don't assume because she's not a computer whiz she is incapable of tracking you down. There's a high probability that she is fucking a computer whiz who can track you in a matter of minutes, and all she has to do is blow him to get your info.

5. More is not merrier. I do not recommend any sort of collusion or cooperation between brothers (swapping girls phone numbers and such). Even if you trust the folks you are interacting with, you cannot know much less trust everyone they interact with, and in the days of the Internet that alone creates risk. If a girl knows another guy and that guy knows something about your real identity, she may as well have a map to your front door.

6. Don't do anything illegal, and if you do, don't post about it. It is absolutely possible to be an SD and get tons of poon without breaking any laws.

7. Try to think carefully about any information you're posting that makes you or your situation unique and identifiable (I. E. Your job, your habits, etc.). Again, the best way to avoid being a target is to keep moving. Change some story details intentionally (see #1 above) when you post in order to throw someone who may know you off track -- something that has no real significance when read by another brother, but would almost certainly throw off one of your SBs if she reads it.

An example of #7: You take a 23 year old blonde VCU student to Starbucks, then you proceed to the FC. Modify the details: make her 22 or 24 years old, remove the reference to specific school, and just say for lunch instead of Starbucks or coffee. Simple things like that.

If you're in a position to simply not care at all about privacy, then feel free to disregard -- just know that there may come a day when one of these girls creates a website in your dishonor, such that when someone Google's your name, that website will be the first to appear in the search results. Be sure you've carefully thought through what that would mean to your professional and personal life before discounting the value of privacy altogether.

[JZLizard]

Could use some advice on this one.

Been chatting via text with a potential. She's probably about a 7 or 8. Interaction has been decent, nothing spectacular. I invite her to meet up this coming week and she replied back "I would love to meet up, however my twin sister will be coming with me. We are identical. It makes me nervous meeting people from online".

How should I play this?

Mmmm. Twins.

Sound like pros or UTR girls to me. A true SB wouldn't involve a friend much less her sister (twin or otherwise) right off the bat.

The only reason this matters is that if she is a pro, it means her reason for bringing the twin as stated is complete BS. I doubt she is too nervous or shy to meet, and if she is that can be overcome by meeting in a public place. Otherwise, who knows what her next excuse will be, "I'm nervous about taking off my panties for someone I just met, maybe next time we meet when my sis is here"?

Best case scenario, sounds like an upsell opportunity for them. If they are pros, even if hiring twins appeals to you, I doubt you will get two girls for the price of one.

I've heard of at least 2 cases of twin sisters working together like this in the past. In both cases all four girls were hardcore junkies.

If you're the adventurous sort, you might want to check it out anyway just to be sure you don't come away wondering what might have been, just be aware of the realities going in.

My own rule is I meet the girl alone or not at all, but that's just me.

[YouAre Scum]

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[HollywoodGuy]

Could use some advice on this one.

Been chatting via text with a potential. She's probably about a 7 or 8. Interaction has been decent, nothing spectacular. I invite her to meet up this coming week and she replied back "I would love to meet up, however my twin sister will be coming with me. We are identical. It makes me nervous meeting people from online".

How should I play this?

Mmmm. Twins.

Never tried any two girl action off the SD site. But experienced mongers usually say its a bad idea. I won't meet any girl that wants to bring a friend. Not my thing anyway. But if its yours meet them at a starbucks. And don't go anywhere with both at the same time until you"ve banged at least one of them first..

[TacoLover23]

Could use some advice on this one.

Been chatting via text with a potential. She's probably about a 7 or 8. Interaction has been decent, nothing spectacular. I invite her to meet up this coming week and she replied back "I would love to meet up, however my twin sister will be coming with me. We are identical. It makes me nervous meeting people from online".

How should I play this?

Mmmm. Twins.

You have two plays here. Ditch it. You're going to get rolled. Or you're going to get rolled. Not worth it.

[TacoLover23]

Don't have a wife or SO. I use the SA App. It's cool. Let's you know who is close since you can search via GPS (the real GPS.) I have no problems with privacy since my work phone is separate and I keep those I don't trust on the work phone and my personal phone personal with very few contacts. I figure the company-issued phone only wants the dirt, so they don't care if I schedule a lunch with a close friend on it. My dirty friends have both #s. Of course, I don't have a SO, so YMMV.

Excited to meet my 3 POTS. Report will come soon when appropriate just because all of the awesome help on this thread. None of the POTs have discussed finances. So could all be GPS. Who knows? But like someone earlier said, welcome to the ride of your life? Yeah. Now I get it.

Anyway, anyone use the Burner app? I'm loving it. Forget SA app. The Burner app is where it's at.

[LandonR]

Could use some advice on this one.

Been chatting via text with a potential. She's probably about a 7 or 8. Interaction has been decent, nothing spectacular. I invite her to meet up this coming week and she replied back "I would love to meet up, however my twin sister will be coming with me. We are identical. It makes me nervous meeting people from online".

How should I play this?

Mmmm. Twins.

[IluvSmellyFish]

The approach you put out there is great. I've found that it also works with the younger girls who are more interested in experiences rather than just an allowance. While I have started to discuss allowance prior to the m&g, I've found that it has hurt me more than helped.

If you meet a girl and she would consider dating you outside of the site without the sugar, the sugar becomes a plus. On the other hand, if the sugar gets discussed up front and is too low, if you don't have a chance to show them that they would've gone home with you for free, then the talk of sugar kills things right off the bat.

Much more work. I know. Also this approach is worthless with girls that are only interested in the sugar and nothing else. The major downside though is with the younger girls, some may get it in their head that things will lead to more. I think grumpyinva has it right. A MILF will be more practical in her expectations.

I had to cut loose my redheaded sb1 because although she was a lot of fun, and a great an inexpensive baby to keep around, she wanted something that I wasn't able to give to her.

JeezLizard,

I liked your breakdown of the 150 k per year mentality. Stunningly accurate. Then they wonder why they're struggling, with so much "earnings potential".

I disagree on the MILFy perspective, though: I don't think the MILFs are intentionally there to build their egos or put the guys down. As someone who tends to prefer MILFs to the 20-somethings (although I've been making some exceptions to that this year. The 20-somethings are just MUCH easier to land,) the ones who are serious are VERY interested in keeping their SD happy, knowing that he has access to a good supply of 20-somethings who are hungry. The difference tends to come into when you make a $ offer to a MILF. If you're 21, and working at McDonalds, and someone offers you $1 or $1. 5, that's a really big deal. She just made 2-3 days of income, just for hanging out with a guy who's treating her better than her boyfriends have, plus she gets to feel the thrill of being "bad".

Once you're in your 40's, 2-3 days of income would still get their attention, but these are women who will normally be making upwards of 60 k per year, and $1 just isn't as exciting. They expect higher pricing for the same reason that you expect to get a higher salary each year in your job, even though that clearly doesn't apply to the market, here. If you throw out $ or $1. 5 into an early email, it's just not going to be that interesting to her, and she may reject you out of hand, even though it would be a fair representation of her market value in this arena.

On the other hand, girls who are 40+ do not expect to be going out with hot, washboard-abs surfer dudes, either. They won't be in the same condition as they were in their 20's, but you're exactly the kind of guy they would regularly date, anyway. If you have decent game, you can spin it as helping with a few things, while dating a very appreciative lady who makes herself available for you, while honoring your need for discretion. To be honest, it's not that easy to find affair-quality women who won't introduce drama at some point, but if you're in the $1. 5 range, and talk to the MILFs pretty much as you would if you were trying to pick them up on a regular dating site, by the time you're at dinner and they ask about your budget and expectations, $1. 5 will sound more like icing on the cake, plus they will not generally consider trying to replace your spouse or SO, because they have a more practical mindset, and they don't want the arrangement to end. Mind you, this only applies to the realistic ones, who realize that the very high rollers aren't going to be interested in MILFs, so their top expectation is a fairly regular guy who will be interested in them, appreciative of them, and who will add a little sugar to the mix.

So my best approach with them is to simply chat them up exactly as if you were on a regular dating site, politely defer any attempts to negotiation via email "I'd rather discuss specifics in person, after we see if we have chemistry," set up a date and make sure you've gotten their number, play a decent text-game with them with a once-a-day-at-most chatty little "Hey, how'd the _ work out today? BTW, I booked our table for Friday, so we could get the good one, by the window" stuff, and otherwise ignore them, until they try to engage you, then give them your full attention for the 10-30 min it takes her to tell you about her day. By the time you get to the date a few days later, they feel comfortable with you, and, again, you treat it exactly as a regular Match.com date, until they ask you about your experiences on the site, which is your cue to roll your eyes and complain about the hordes of 20-somethings that just don't have a clue what life is about, and then ask her about whether she's found any worthwhile guys so far. The MILFs tend to have less folks interested in them, and they're less approachable, so you have comparatively little competition for her attention, and she has already decided that you're someone she would probably date for free, so that's usually the point at which they are ready to be talked into setting up a second date. When they ask about expectations, you can comfortably float the $1. 5 "for when we reach that stage in the relationship," and then let her talk herself into accepting it, since she's not going to reject it out of hand at that point. MOST of the time, they'll quickly suggest that the second date could include some private time together, "if you're interested". Make sure the second date happens relatively soon (before they lose their nerve,) and you're in.

Okay, yes, that's a lot of "work", but it tends to result in a reliable MILFy SB who's fine at $1. 5 (even if she would've rejected that, up front,) and who won't have a second thought about starting early in the day, and staying overnight for that. One of the hardest parts, though, is finding one that you're attracted to, since the pool of MILFs is much smaller than the pool of younger SBs, but it's already a given that trying to groom a SB is harder than just wandering over to BP, with significantly more return, if things work out well.

And I still wish I had Hollywood's powers to keep a stable of attractive SBs at $1 each, but, for now, I'm on the much lower-numbers and slightly higher-cost list!

[HollywoodGuy]

All good advice here. I guess my desire for a hot MILF will have to be weighed against the ease of getting a young girl and the extra time needed to woo a MILF.

Oh woo is me. I got tired just reading about the approach. But it all makes sense. I am just too spoiled with the low hanging fruit. POF was a total bomb but I only focused on young girls. Already canceled my account there, so I am done with that.

Fot the last 3 months I have ODed on my "tomboy princess" but she is on her period this week so I may try to venture out. I lost the hot 19 year old stripper I was chasing (post #8028). That was a long shot anyway due to GPS. I am still txting with the older grad student / model in post #8033 and hoping to meet her this week.

[Grumpyinva]

He also mentions match.com and skating the fine line between regular dating of MILFs and being a "helper" to them. I would even take that a step further and say that match and other dating sites might even be better than an SD site for meeting hot MILFs. The "helpable" ones will be easy to spot with the income and age requirements they choose when they sign up.

The benefit of finding them on regular dating sites is that there is a good chance that they are still relatively unspoiled. If they are 40+ and signing up for an SD site because $60 k a year in their regular job just isn't enough for them, they've already got a sky-high list of things in their head they are entitled to in life above and beyond what they actually work for. I guess I'm somewhat forgiving of that in a 20 year old, and I just feel like a 40 year old should be past that sense of entitlement by her age, and have grown into a somewhat more reasonable, realistic person.

JeezLizard,

I have to admit, I have never had success at using the regular dating sites for SBs, though part of that is my own bias. If I'm on an SD / SB site, I figure we all know the score, and I expect that $ will be involved, at some stage. If I'm dating a "regular" girl, and she has emergencies and tries to hit me up for cash, I tend to dump her immediately. I know that that doesn't exactly make sense, given my hobbying habits. I just feel like a girl from PoF or OKCupid is changing the rules of the game if she starts trying to get my cash. However, you're right. If you can identify them, and open with that expectation, it might be a very interesting hunting ground. I hope you'll share if you find good methods to convert them!

I have had success in very limited circumstances on finding an SB in regular activities, though I was 20 years younger at the time, and married. The longest lasting was on a ski trip, where the trip captain was, without a doubt, the biggest be*tch on the bus, but she had absolutely perfect blonde hair down to her waist, and exactly the sort of curves I like. After she managed to offend me and most of the bus (at which point I decided not to take her attitude personally,) I chatted her up, and found that she was in a relationship with a deadbeat boyfriend, made almost no money herself (so they were living with her parents,) and pretty much saw doing those trips as an escape for a free skiing vacation for herself. By the time we were on the way back, she was curled up with me, and sleeping on my shoulder, and we had a daytime date scheduled for the next week. From her attitude and actions, she was CLEARLY a would-be-gold-digger in desperate straits, but she converted nicely into a travel-baby, with only a few "oh my gosh, my truck broke down. Is there any way you can help me with $1" emergencies now and again. As long as we had some kind of day-trip planned (multi-day ski vacations worked well, in the winter, since my wife had no interest in skiing, so they were my escape from the house,) or at the very least a date at a pricey restaurant, she was always DTF, and, despite having my actual contact info from the trip where we met, she never caused any drama for me at home, and we had a fairly regular "thing" for a couple of years. 20 years later, she still touches base with me, although I haven't been as available for her in recent years. Nevertheless, although I've read here about scouting them at wal-mart, I have never had success in that. I tend to either think of it as a regular pick-up when I get a number "in the wild", at which point I'm offended if she starts hinting that she needs cash. I really need to adjust my attitude on that, and stop ignoring potentials!