Safe Sex Information and Advice

[Waylay]

Long time lurker, first time poster. Used to monger all around the county a while back, but moved out of state. Was recently back in town and hit a fairly popular joint (first mongering session in 6+ months) and now I am having quite the Syphilis scare. Was CBJ followed by HJ so I assumed the risks were low, but not zero. Curious if any of you have picked up anything recently? This 100% would have been the only place I could have picked it up.

The session was great FWIW. Stay safe why'all!

CBJ and HJ, syphilis almost impossible in this scenario. Anyway I never once caught anything in the hobby, routine testing every two months, and done everything there is to do with these massage girls. They're much more interested in keeping clean than even mongers are since it's their job. In my experience they're extremely safe, especially if you're covering up.

[BlueSkyBlue]

Although I am not a medical professional, I am curious as to why you think of all the communicate above diseases that can be transmitted you have a concern over syphilis?

If you had it covered blow job and hand job finish there was always a barrier between you and saliva or bodily fluids, so your risk of contracting a disease is very minimal as far as I understand.

I don't mean to be disrespectful, but I think you have a lot more anxiety over the act of visiting a massage parlor, and you will always have paranoia and fear until you become comfortable going to one of these places. You said you haven't gone for 6+ months. Did you ever have concerns before about a communicable disease from a massage? Or is this a recent concern. I am assuming you're not displaying physical symptoms of a syphilis infection but if you are, I would recommend you get medical attention.

In my personal opinion, this is an a unnecessary concern (getting syphilis) but only you can decide which you're comfortable with, and what you actually do behind closed doors in a massage parlor is entirely only your business.

Long time lurker, first time poster. Used to monger all around the county a while back, but moved out of state. Was recently back in town and hit a fairly popular joint (first mongering session in 6+ months) and

now I am having quite the Syphilis scare.

Was CBJ followed by HJ so I assumed the risks were low, but not zero. Curious if any of you have picked up anything recently? This 100% would have been the only place I could have picked it up.

The session was great FWIW. Stay safe why'all!

[Reds101]

Long time lurker, first time poster. Used to monger all around the county a while back, but moved out of state. Was recently back in town and hit a fairly popular joint (first mongering session in 6+ months) and now I am having quite the Syphilis scare. Was CBJ followed by HJ so I assumed the risks were low, but not zero. Curious if any of you have picked up anything recently? This 100% would have been the only place I could have picked it up.

The session was great FWIW. Stay safe why'all!

Risks are never zero even if you take all the precautions. If you have a scare, it can definitely take a toll mentally so I highly suggest just getting it checked out just in case. If you were safe, chances are it's nothing and just paranoia (could be ingrown hair or even a pimple) but if it's stressing you out it's worth seeing a professional.

Thankfully the worst I've gotten recently is strep throat from one of the most popular providers at one of the most popular spas here. I went to get it checked out and was prescribed antibiotics that made my life 10 x easier.

[SocalFly2]

Long time lurker, first time poster. Used to monger all around the county a while back, but moved out of state. Was recently back in town and hit a fairly popular joint (first mongering session in 6+ months) and now I am having quite the Syphilis scare. Was CBJ followed by HJ so I assumed the risks were low, but not zero. Curious if any of you have picked up anything recently? This 100% would have been the only place I could have picked it up.

The session was great FWIW. Stay safe why'all!

[Retro21]

Question.

Guys hopefully someone w / direct knowledge can help me.

What is the legal responsibilities of medical staff to report std's.

I think I may have gotten trich from a utr lady.

If I go to my doc asking for test and meds will they be forced to co fact my wife?

What are my options. Never had this happen before.

Thanks.

They are forced to report the positive diagnosis to your local health department but that's it. Depending on what disease, they will contact you to make sure you are in treatment so if you give a phone #, make sure its yours and not a home phone. They will still verify identity before saying anything but your wife may be suspicious why the health department is calling you (in the chance she picks up your phone for you).

Absolutely in no way are they allowed to tell your wife but just in case don't bring her up during testing. In the. 01% chance they tell her, get a lawyer and get that big HIPAA violation bag.

[Jayp80]

Question.

Guys hopefully someone w / direct knowledge can help me.

What is the legal responsibilities of medical staff to report std's.

I think I may have gotten trich from a utr lady.

If I go to my doc asking for test and meds will they be forced to co fact my wife?

What are my options. Never had this happen before.

Thanks.

Forced no, but you have to consider that almost all medical facilities have electronic medical records so just going to another Dr doesn't prevent it from being apart of your records. Another thing you have to be cautious of is medical bills / statements that will show up to your house and you would need to be able to explain the visit. Pharmacies keeps a history of your perscriptions on their site so if you share an account she may see that. When you go to pick up your meds they generally will give you meds for anyone at the address so make sure she isn't picking up something and accidentally sees your meds. I had an STD test at planned parenthood, told them I didn't have insurance cause I didn't want the paper trail paid cash for the visit had the "just in case" STD pills sent to CVS knowing our insurance didn't cover CVS and my wife would never go there.

[FarFarAway]

Question.

Guys hopefully someone w / direct knowledge can help me.

What is the legal responsibilities of medical staff to report std's.

I think I may have gotten trich from a utr lady.

If I go to my doc asking for test and meds will they be forced to co fact my wife?

What are my options. Never had this happen before.

Thanks.

This could be a function of the jurisdiction you are in, but in California you can get anonymous STD testing. I use a site, STDcheck.com, that you can pay up front w / a prepaid card, show up someplace to get a blood draw and pee in a cup, and await your results by email. If you need treatment, well, that gets stickier.

[Bsuh69]

Question.

Guys hopefully someone w / direct knowledge can help me.

What is the legal responsibilities of medical staff to report std's.

I think I may have gotten trich from a utr lady.

If I go to my doc asking for test and meds will they be forced to co fact my wife?

What are my options. Never had this happen before.

Thanks.

My doctor was always very understanding and discreet, but I had a different primary care physician from my wife, they had it in their notes that results would only ever come via telephone call to me, but I never needed treatment, insoubt they'd be compelled to tell your wife anything though.

[Trogon]

Question.

Guys hopefully someone w / direct knowledge can help me.

What is the legal responsibilities of medical staff to report std's.

I think I may have gotten trich from a utr lady.

If I go to my doc asking for test and meds will they be forced to co fact my wife?

What are my options. Never had this happen before.

Thanks.

[Retro21]

Just curious, but how often do you guys get checked, and any info on how often shop girls get checked? I'm asking cause I've only indulged a few times, everything covered but I do still hook up with other girls. Obviously both are risks but I try to manage it as best I can.

Recommend going to your local health department. They probably often do free testing or is pretty cheap for a full panel. If they ask you how much you make, make sure you low ball it. They give you a link where you can sign up and check your results when they come in (usually 3-5 days). Apparently guys only show symptoms about 50% of the time for chlam / gono so I recommend getting tested regularly, best to do it a week after a risk event (anything uncovered).

[TheSpaceGuy]

Just curious, but how often do you guys get checked, and any info on how often shop girls get checked? I'm asking cause I've only indulged a few times, everything covered but I do still hook up with other girls. Obviously both are risks but I try to manage it as best I can.

[BigPappay]

Just because you don't know something it doesn't make it untrue. I am joking, I didn't know about it either until I encountered that woman. Yes, there are housing programs and apartments specifically for people with HIV / AIDS. Some are operated by private landlords, and instead of getting $1200 a month for a typical section 8 tenant, they would rent their entire buildings to people with HIV exclusively and get $1600 per one bedroom unit.

Juz like COVID some folks have immunity to STDs merely by birth and healthy lifestyle. As always if you don't take care of yourself you will get burned.

[BigTruckBob]

Didn't know they had housing specifically for people with hiv, hmmm.

Just because you don't know something it doesn't make it untrue. I am joking, I didn't know about it either until I encountered that woman. Yes, there are housing programs and apartments specifically for people with HIV / AIDS. Some are operated by private landlords, and instead of getting $1200 a month for a typical section 8 tenant, they would rent their entire buildings to people with HIV exclusively and get $1600 per one bedroom unit.

[Moraxus]

I was on the hunt one morning and I came across a stunningly beautiful woman who was trying to get a ride. I took her to her apartment near Park heights where she lived with her daughter. We exchanged numbers and for weeks we talked on the phone like teenagers. She told me that she wanted me to give her a son, and that she was going to ride me until I came inside of her. I was so close to banging her, and I might have done something stupid like going raw considering how sexy she was. The night I was suppose to see her she revealed that she had bedbugs, so I canceled going to her place. She couldn't get a sitter, so we made plans to see each other that weekend. The next day she called me and was very upset, the apartment's two maintenance guys wouldn't treat her apartment unless she fucked them. She said she once dated a different maintenance guy when she needed work done to her apartment, and now they were all trying to run through her whenever she needed a repair. She asked me for help with getting the apartment complex to resolved the bug issue. While calling around trying to help her, I found out the apartments were special HUD units, housing people that were infected with HIV. When I confronted her she confessed she had it, and gave me a BS excuse that she was going to tell me before we had sex. I cut her off promptly, but what perplexes me is why were the maintenance guys still trying to fuck her when they knew she had HIV. I feel like that situation was God's intervention at its finest. Not only did he save me, but he showed me what he saved me from.

Didn't know they had housing specifically for people with hiv, hmmm.

[BigTime22]

Has anyone ever got head and ended up with an std? I haven't just asking for my own piece of mind.

Yea a ***** gave me herps from a bbj about a year ago, I know exactly who cause hadn't been engaged in any FS for a min and she was only to me bbj material not totally hideous but when first met slightly bigger than advertised, but some bigger chicks can give killer head, she a bunch of cheap tattoos and overall not my cup of tea, but since she made the meet up I figured BBJ couldn't hurt (so little I knew) least something for her troubles, no signs of anything except them damn tats, week later I experienced a pain people would refer to as an earache or toothache, hurt to sit, stand walk etc and not pleasant in the least and a lot more common than I thought but, I hate CBJ but if I knew the burning ungodly pain I was was going to endure a wrap would've been a god send!