"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[Dsprdo]

And they didn't do this over human trafficking. They did it over simple file sharing and copyright laws.

I know I should stay out of this, BUT-"simple file sharing and copyright laws" are in effect taking hundreds of millions of dollars OUT of the pockets of people in the entertainment industry that have the motivation, the contacts, the money, and the legal backing to influence the government to take action. The only motivation of the government to commit all the might of the Federal machine to shutting down SA, SD4 M or others are headlines during an election cycle. The history of politicians grandstanding against vice goes back as long as we've had a government, is cyclical in nature, and will probably never end. That being said, if there is big money out there on one side of this issue, it is on the side of the internet services that are filling a market. Something like this is GOING to exist in one form or another. Can the government shut down SD4 M? Absolutely. Is the government going to eliminate men with means' desire for the company of younger women or the desire of those women to have more than they can get otherwise? Never.

Now, as a smart guy said, how about that pussy?

[HollywoodGuy]

And speaking of pussy. I while back I said I might decide to go an alternate route and pay $$ a date (here and there), but then just date a little less. I just made my first $$ offer today, to this girl, based off her message to me that a $ just wasn't going to cut it.

I would never normally do this, but since being with my ATF who is 6' tall, I have come to appreciate the kinetic dynamics of our love making. This girl is close to 6 feet as well.

Anyway, she just accepted my offer of a "no sex, no money" date to see if we click.

[JZLizard]

All those sites are what's referred to as egregious offenders. No dating site can stop the occasional pro from posting an ad. And even if a girl is a pro that doesn't mean she isn't entitled to a social life. Men paying women for their company is part of every cultures traditions. I just don't see a dating site, that is obviously not an escort site getting shut down. A BP may be a different story. Those sites you mention were violating so many laws as were the individual owners on a personal level, that you couldn't count the number of felonies they were committing. The SD sites and especially SA are run by a totally different crowd. The primary owner of SD4M was once run out of a business a number of years ago. The business was not illegal in any way, but his particular business practices were. And would have eventually forced any owner to close practicing similar tactics to defraud or abuse the telecom system. Just my 2 cents.

Now hey, what about that pussy?

The SD sites aren't illegal, when used according to terms of service. Neither are nightclubs in most cities, but the cities can still choose to shut them down as a "public nuisance" if too much illegal activity is tied to the business. It's the same sort of risk. As I said before, it's not going to happen over the occasional misdemeanor transaction taking place, but something like a high profile case in the media (examples I used before are something like the Google exec / heroin death, or maybe someone gets caught trafficking some minor on one of the sites).

Allofmp3 wasn't breaking the law. Neither was megaupload. Their users were. Its an almost perfect analogy.

[HollywoodGuy]

Believe me if the US government can shut down Megaupload, which was based in Hong Kong and run by folks who never set foot on US soil, and put the owner in jail in his country of residence (New Zealand) with a constant threat of extradition to the USA for trial, you better believe that no website in any country is safe.

And they didn't do this over human trafficking. They did it over simple file sharing and copyright laws. They weren't based in the US, they just passed network traffic through our servers and its game-fucking-over for them.

In terms of credentials, I've been involved in this sort of stuff since before Americans had ever heard the word Internet. Online and the legalities that drive it have been around since we first connected computers to phone lines, long before the world wide web was created.

I'm really not trying to be a dick here but I've given numerous examples that prove the "offshore" theory is just plain wrong. Allofmp3, silkroad, megaupload. They all prove my point in one way or another.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Megaupload

All those sites are what's referred to as egregious offenders. No dating site can stop the occasional pro from posting an ad. And even if a girl is a pro that doesn't mean she isn't entitled to a social life. Men paying women for their company is part of every cultures traditions. I just don't see a dating site, that is obviously not an escort site getting shut down. A BP may be a different story. Those sites you mention were violating so many laws as were the individual owners on a personal level, that you couldn't count the number of felonies they were committing. The SD sites and especially SA are run by a totally different crowd. The primary owner of SD4M was once run out of a business a number of years ago. The business was not illegal in any way, but his particular business practices were. And would have eventually forced any owner to close practicing similar tactics to defraud or abuse the telecom system. Just my 2 cents.

Now hey, what about that pussy?

[JZLizard]

Being that I work on the Internet for a living I can tell you without naming names, that the biggest names in my industry have things so convoluted and offshore that you can't even track down the owners of the companies where a lot of the people are doing the real work. And this is all due to poorly written government regulations that can easily be worked around with the right attorneys and is all perfectly legal. The end result is that the Internet labor force is continuing to move to many different foreign countries and is not coming back. And I am not talking about call centers, but highly skilled engineers. They are laughing at us. Because in the European countries they get paid the same and more than we do.

Believe me if the US government can shut down Megaupload, which was based in Hong Kong and run by folks who never set foot on US soil, and put the owner in jail in his country of residence (New Zealand) with a constant threat of extradition to the USA for trial, you better believe that no website in any country is safe.

And they didn't do this over human trafficking. They did it over simple file sharing and copyright laws. They weren't based in the US, they just passed network traffic through our servers and its game-fucking-over for them.

In terms of credentials, I've been involved in this sort of stuff since before Americans had ever heard the word Internet. Online and the legalities that drive it have been around since we first connected computers to phone lines, long before the world wide web was created.

I'm really not trying to be a dick here but I've given numerous examples that prove the "offshore" theory is just plain wrong. Allofmp3, silkroad, megaupload. They all prove my point in one way or another.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Megaupload

[HollywoodGuy]

If you want to find a girl only to spend time in the FC with you are you a John, a Sugar Daddy, or both?

Most SDs only blog about FC activity once the arrangement is set. I don't hear a lot about how amazing dinners are at Le Petit Rouge, the ballet, or the symphony. Or how much fun the lecture series was at the City Forum. We are in this for one reason.

But few of us want a true Pro in the Sugar Bowl-I certainly don't. There are Escort Sites that work fine for that. So if an SB has a proven association with escorting then we should report them to SA. But we should be cautious about over doing the outrage. Those who live in glass houses. Make sure there is a link from a search of cell# ,email, or picture to an escort ad or site.

Sorry, but truly a bad idea. Site owners throw those complaints straight into the trash. I did get one person thrown off SD4M, but only because they sent me like 50 emails asking for money, were obviously offshore and I had a record of all the messaging they did. And they had been on there for 4 years harassing people. But to turn in pros is like the pot calling the kettle black.

[HollywoodGuy]

Going off-shores will keep the sites from getting shut down. Just take a look at our very own usasexguide which is hosted in Argentina I believe. So the only real trouble is if they run into trouble processing credit cards, kind of like we're seeing with BP and Mastercard / Visa. But this wouldn't be a death knell for these sites if it happened. Like I mentioned in an earlier post, if there's money to be made, someone will find a way. Whether it be Paypal, or some new startup that operates overseas if need be, the sugar sites will find a way to get paid, and some company will be more than happy to help them do so. My biggest concern is the sites getting a stigma attached to them like BP. If regular girls start viewing this as prostitution, then it will severely limit the amount of quality babies to choose from.

Being that I work on the Internet for a living I can tell you without naming names, that the biggest names in my industry have things so convoluted and offshore that you can't even track down the owners of the companies where a lot of the people are doing the real work. And this is all due to poorly written government regulations that can easily be worked around with the right attorneys and is all perfectly legal. The end result is that the Internet labor force is continuing to move to many different foreign countries and is not coming back. And I am not talking about call centers, but highly skilled engineers. They are laughing at us. Because in the European countries they get paid the same and more than we do.

[JZLizard]

If you want to find a girl only to spend time in the FC with you are you a John, a Sugar Daddy, or both?

Categorizing men is more difficult and I'm not sure even worthwhile. Part of the problem is that everyone who reads this forum probably has one thing in common: if we had our way, we would go straight to the FC every time and then get up and leave once we're finished. Do any of us prefer to stick around and cuddle and listen to her tell us about her life? Yes I'm in an LTR and I do get something out of it that is beyond sex, as do many married men. Perhaps a lot of men are so satisfied with their partner they would never even be aware of this site we are posting to. But I think it's safe to say that for anyone on an SD site who is also a posting member here, the FC is probably pretty much the end game, for the most part.

Is that true of both johns and SDs? Sure. What makes one different from the other is whether they choose escorts or choose SBs. Then we are back to focusing on what makes a girl an SB versus a pro, and a thread with a subject line like this one, asking whether SBs are amateurs or not, clearly must not have any easy answers when the subject requires 10,000+ posts to figure it out.

This is where I fall back to my previously posted spectrum scale. I'd say if someone patronizes #0 and #1 type girls, he's a john plain and simple. If he's trying to flip #4's into #1 or #2 he's still playing the role of john. If he's looking for #4 and settles for an occasional #2 intentionally or unknowingly is he forever labeled a john? Hell #3's are some of my favorites -- I love going stripper hunting. Does that make me 50% SD and 50% stripper-monger? Like I said I don't see the point in labeling anyone on the male side of the equation.

I will give men the benefit of the doubt that if they want escorts, they should be smart enough to know it's going to be a hell of a lot easier to find what they are looking for on BP.

The story with the girls is different. When escorts see the SD sites as an extension of their marketing possibilities, it's a problem. If guys start patronizing this type of girl and paying her premium SD allowance when they could get her just as easily for a hundred bucks or so off BP, be in and out of the FC, then not only are they doing themselves an injustice but they are harming the hobby for the rest of us.

Most SDs only blog about FC activity once the arrangement is set. I don't hear a lot about how amazing dinners are at Le Petit Rouge, the ballet, or the symphony. Or how much fun the lecture series was at the City Forum. We are in this for one reason.

But few of us want a true Pro in the Sugar Bowl-I certainly don't. There are Escort Sites that work fine for that. So if an SB has a proven association with escorting then we should report them to SA. But we should be cautious about over doing the outrage. Those who live in glass houses. Make sure there is a link from a search of cell# ,email, or picture to an escort ad or site.

Keep in mind not all SDs blog. The folks that visit this thread represent only a very small portion of the SD population. This site has been around a long time, and I didn't even start reading it until a couple of years ago. A lot of people who are knee deep in pussy don't have the time to write about it or read about it.

If nothing else, pretty much everyone with a posting account on USASG (myself included) by very definition is going to be non-representative of the "true" sugar daddy -- the guy who looks only for #4's. So it's important to not begin thinking the SD world revolves around this thread. Not even close.

[FredMoore]

If you want to find a girl only to spend time in the FC with you are you a John, a Sugar Daddy, or both?

Most SDs only blog about FC activity once the arrangement is set. I don't hear a lot about how amazing dinners are at Le Petit Rouge, the ballet, or the symphony. Or how much fun the lecture series was at the City Forum. We are in this for one reason.

But few of us want a true Pro in the Sugar Bowl-I certainly don't. There are Escort Sites that work fine for that. So if an SB has a proven association with escorting then we should report them to SA. But we should be cautious about over doing the outrage. Those who live in glass houses. Make sure there is a link from a search of cell# ,email, or picture to an escort ad or site.

[DogSun]

I will be making a brief stop in Mumbai / Bombay, India and would appreciate any info on finding a quality out call escort.

Here's your best bet:

http://internationalsexguide.info/

[PghGuy2005]

I will be making a brief stop in Mumbai / Bombay, India and would appreciate any info on finding a quality out call escort.

[JZLizard]

Going off-shores will keep the sites from getting shut down. Just take a look at our very own usasexguide which is hosted in Argentina I believe. So the only real trouble is if they run into trouble processing credit cards, kind of like we're seeing with BP and Mastercard / Visa. But this wouldn't be a death knell for these sites if it happened. Like I mentioned in an earlier post, if there's money to be made, someone will find a way. Whether it be Paypal, or some new startup that operates overseas if need be, the sugar sites will find a way to get paid, and some company will be more than happy to help them do so. My biggest concern is the sites getting a stigma attached to them like BP. If regular girls start viewing this as prostitution, then it will severely limit the amount of quality babies to choose from.

I covered all this in an earlier email. When I mention North American bank transactions, everything is covered including Paypal, bitcoin exchanges, etc. I've watched a lot of changes even in the last couple of years as even things like bitcoin exchanges would no longer accept transactions unless they were funded with a US bank account, even when they were based overseas.

As far as USASG, aren't they funded by ad contracts rather than individual CC transactions? That's completely different -- when just writing an individual a check and throwing it in the mail is an option, anything is possible. That will never work for website membership, however.

[DogSun]

Going offshore does not solve the problem. Allofmp3 never set foot in the US. Once bank transactions from North America are shut off, they are strangled.

I'd like to think your optimism about the impervious nature of SD sites to legal action is on track -- I truly would. It's just that it would fly totally contradictory to everything that has happened with sites that were targeted by US policy, and would contradict everything I've learned in multiple decades of relevant industry experience.

Going off-shores will keep the sites from getting shut down. Just take a look at our very own usasexguide which is hosted in Argentina I believe. So the only real trouble is if they run into trouble processing credit cards, kind of like we're seeing with BP and Mastercard / Visa. But this wouldn't be a death knell for these sites if it happened. Like I mentioned in an earlier post, if there's money to be made, someone will find a way. Whether it be Paypal, or some new startup that operates overseas if need be, the sugar sites will find a way to get paid, and some company will be more than happy to help them do so. My biggest concern is the sites getting a stigma attached to them like BP. If regular girls start viewing this as prostitution, then it will severely limit the amount of quality babies to choose from.

[JZLizard]

There are lots of pros on the so called normal dating sites as well. Its an imperfect system that can't be corrected as it is not in the financial interest of the site owners to do so. SA isn't Silk Road. And the gov knows that. Very little chance they will have any FTC or CC processing problems going forward.

BP can have CC processing tomorrow if they want to go offshore. But they dont want the higher fees, 3 week hold times, and overall sketchiness of some of these outfits.

Going offshore does not solve the problem. Allofmp3 never set foot in the US. Once bank transactions from North America are shut off, they are strangled.

I'd like to think your optimism about the impervious nature of SD sites to legal action is on track -- I truly would. It's just that it would fly totally contradictory to everything that has happened with sites that were targeted by US policy, and would contradict everything I've learned in multiple decades of relevant industry experience.

[JZLizard]

The sites themselves will never be able to eradicate the pro's from joining. The best they can do is not allow the offer of sex for money on profiles, and they're pretty good about that. So really, the only way to keep them off is to make it too much work for them. And this can only be accomplished through the men on the site. If the men insist on meet and greets before going to the FC, and don't discuss pay for play through messaging, the pro's will have to put in too much work to make it worth their while. Especially when they have to compete with the majority of women on the site who aren't professionals. All of the pro's on SA in my area do not last. I've recognized quite a few who's ads I've seen on BP, or who's phone numbers I've gotten and then googled only to see their escort ads. Most of these women are on the site consistently for a month or so before they delete their profile or stop logging on. So the best way to keep the pro's off the site? Keep the john's off the site. Or at the very least, educate the john's on proper behavior. Easier said then done of course, but if the typical monger starts seeing these sites as an alternative to BP, then the escorts will start to show up in droves.

You summarized it as well as I could have.

The only other thing I would add is that when we encounter an escort trying to sneak in, sending her away with a bad vibe is probably the best way to combat it. She will eventually think "I don't have to put up with this shit hooking off BP" and go away.