"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

**JZLizard** · 08-13-14 16:10

Originally Posted by Ltnric [View Original Post]

So I was looking at my online banking statement and I see an entry titled "2buysafe.com" when I look at the merchant description I see the following "Dating and Escort Services" I shit you not! Now I don't have a SO so I am fine with this but you would think that someone like SA would be more discreet than this shit! Be careful guys if you have a shared account with an SO.

This is one thing that irks me about these services. My SO doesn't get the opportunity to vet my credit card statements, but there are a number of reasons I don't like having something like 2 buysafe on my rap sheet.

If everyone reading this will put in a support ticket to the sites they use and complain about the lack of privacy, I bet we can get something done. They could use an intermediate and non specific currency service like Payza or similar to take a pre-paid amount and apply it to the account. They of course have no motivation to even look into this unless the wheels are squeaky enough and they realize that they could lose customers.

My personal preference would be to see them accept Bitcoin.

The one problem with these alternatives is that it can take many days to get the money from your account to the destination (sometimes like a week), so you can't just signup and start browsing for poon right away.

**HollywoodGuy** · 08-13-14 00:36

Put it on SD4M. Can't wait to see all the gold diggers jumping in the first week. It's pretty specific though, so I hope to find the so called unicorn. As they say in another brotherhood, the road gets narrower.

**Ltnric** · 08-12-14 20:13

So I was looking at my online banking statement and I see an entry titled "2buysafe.com" when I look at the merchant description I see the following "Dating and Escort Services" I shit you not! Now I don't have a SO so I am fine with this but you would think that someone like SA would be more discreet than this shit! Be careful guys if you have a shared account with an SO.

**FeelGoodMd** · 08-12-14 15:31

And there goes another one. 19 yo blonde with tats, hardbody, who I emailed with for a couple days finally asks the "how much" question. I tell her my usual 1st date gift is $, or $. 5 if we really hit it off and I have a great time. Her reply:

"Sorry that's too low. I don't meet for anything less than $ $ $. Its not worth my time. If you read my profile it clearly states no low ballers. You might get a stripper on the site for that amount.

I have standards and I do not negotiate, everything is clearly stated on my profile.

My reply (in part): "You're going to have difficulty finding someone who will give you that much in Richmond. If we were in DC, NYC, etc your expectations might be more realistic. If you want a longer term connection rather than having to find a new Daddy every few weeks once a high roller has gotten tired of you, you will have to lower your sights. Remember that SB's accept gifts, and escorts set rates.

Good luck. I hope you are able to find what you want. When / if you don't. Get back in touch. I'm not closing this email account any time soon. ".

I doubt I'll hear from her again, but maybe I'll make the next brother's journey a little easier.

**FredMoore** · 08-12-14 15:24

Originally Posted by CaneBay [View Original Post]

Time together is great. We meet 1-2 times a week for 5-7 hrs each time. Time together is REALLY great. She has never flaked on a date.

I really miss the communication (from previous arrangements) and need more in that department. Do I tell her that I am starting to fish again in hopes she ups her game? Don't say anything and then phase her out / keep as a back up once I replace? Other suggestions?

Sounds perfect -why rock the boat? Here is an alternate suggestion. If you can afford the extra time and money search for a 2nd Baby. Whether you tell her or not doesn't matter. After all, she is banging the SO isn't she? Make it clear to # 2 that you need communication and get your texting needs met by her. Remember NSA?

My pet peeve is lack of communication for scheduling. I'm running 3 SBs right now and 2 of them are sketchy communicators. That is a deal breaker if they will not return your requests for face time. Otherwise, I like the "thinking about you " text every day but don't have time to text back and forth for hours.

SB #1 is a 9/9/7/8 but she is an infrequent texter. It prevents me from becoming closer to her emotionally. Which is probably a good thing. If she acted gaga over me I would get in SO trouble again. I think she is keeping her distance on purpose to avoid becoming emotionally involved.

SB # 2 is a great and frequent texter, but I am not as into her She is a 7/7/7/8.

S # 3 -actually a FB is a poor texter. Disappears for days then pops up when she needs $$ THere is no E Involvement. Basically an UTR.

**HollywoodGuy** · 08-12-14 14:10

Originally Posted by CaneBay [View Original Post]

I have been with my current SB for almost 3 months. Last 4-6 weeks I have been exclusive. She does not have another SD and I am her first, but does live with a BF and has 2 kids. Works full-time and goes to college. Communication varies greatly- from no contact for 1-2 days to great contact all day long. She knows I require good communication including flirty texts and pics. I would say I am happy about 50% of the time with her texting and emails. Time together is great. We meet 1-2 times a week for 5-7 hrs each time. Time together is REALLY great. She has never flaked on a date.

I really miss the communication (from previous arrangements) and need more in that department. Do I tell her that I am starting to fish again in hopes she ups her game? Don't say anything and then phase her out / keep as a back up once I replace? Other suggestions?

Also you say you are exclusive. But you are not. She lives with her BF. Just semantics. When I refer to exclusive I mean there is no BF, SO, etc. It's me and only me. It's the only way to go safely uncovered. Not saying you are, but who knows where that BF has been. My new freaky SB tells me every girl she knows is either knocked up or has an STD by 18. She also tells me she wants to suck other dick. I told her covered only if she does. Can I trust her? So far I am as she hasn't done it yet.

**CaneBay** · 08-12-14 11:41

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

Most girls tell me one of the biggest reasons they break it off with their SD is that he is too clingy and requires too much communication. They are usually happy except for this one thing. I say keep her and just back off a little.

That is what I was wondering. TY HG and Dsprdo.

**Dsprdo** · 08-12-14 11:37

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

Most girls tell me one of the biggest reasons they break it off with their SD is that he is too clingy and requires too much communication. They are usually happy except for this one thing. I say keep her and just back off a little.

I agree-if everything else is that good, I would accept that she has lots of other things going on in her life and is not always going to give you as much attention when you are apart as you'd like. Seems like a small compromise.

**HollywoodGuy** · 08-12-14 11:29

Originally Posted by CaneBay [View Original Post]

I have been with my current SB for almost 3 months. Last 4-6 weeks I have been exclusive. She does not have another SD and I am her first, but does live with a BF and has 2 kids. Works full-time and goes to college. Communication varies greatly- from no contact for 1-2 days to great contact all day long. She knows I require good communication including flirty texts and pics. I would say I am happy about 50% of the time with her texting and emails. Time together is great. We meet 1-2 times a week for 5-7 hrs each time. Time together is REALLY great. She has never flaked on a date.

I really miss the communication (from previous arrangements) and need more in that department. Do I tell her that I am starting to fish again in hopes she ups her game? Don't say anything and then phase her out / keep as a back up once I replace? Other suggestions?

Most girls tell me one of the biggest reasons they break it off with their SD is that he is too clingy and requires too much communication. They are usually happy except for this one thing. I say keep her and just back off a little.

**CaneBay** · 08-12-14 11:21

I have been with my current SB for almost 3 months. Last 4-6 weeks I have been exclusive. She does not have another SD and I am her first, but does live with a BF and has 2 kids. Works full-time and goes to college. Communication varies greatly- from no contact for 1-2 days to great contact all day long. She knows I require good communication including flirty texts and pics. I would say I am happy about 50% of the time with her texting and emails. Time together is great. We meet 1-2 times a week for 5-7 hrs each time. Time together is REALLY great. She has never flaked on a date.

I really miss the communication (from previous arrangements) and need more in that department. Do I tell her that I am starting to fish again in hopes she ups her game? Don't say anything and then phase her out / keep as a back up once I replace? Other suggestions?

**Beachesnole02** · 08-12-14 11:11

My friend's friend is interested in joining us for our meeting this Thursday. Two hot women in their late 20's. I mentioned this before I went on vacation, but still have her on the hook. Keep your fingers crossed.

**Rouleur** · 08-11-14 18:45

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

"Everything sounds great and I like what I see, I'm looking for a couple times a week or few times a month getting together 300 each time we see each other for 3-4 hours looking to have fun on our time and relax go to movies or lunch, dinner, cuddle watch tv or going out for a drink and if there is a connection maybe more. If you like what you hear we can exchange numbers".

Wow. And maybe more. LOL.

Sounds like my Ex.

**HollywoodGuy** · 08-11-14 15:18

"Everything sounds great and I like what I see, I'm looking for a couple times a week or few times a month getting together 300 each time we see each other for 3-4 hours looking to have fun on our time and relax go to movies or lunch, dinner, cuddle watch tv or going out for a drink and if there is a connection maybe more. If you like what you hear we can exchange numbers".

Wow. And maybe more. LOL.