"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

**SubCmdr** · 03-25-13 17:59

Originally Posted by F Scott [View Original Post]

PS. Lit, no offense taken, truly. I'm happy with where I am. Local baby was stunning, connection seems to be forming, and I anticipate POTF on our third meeting, which is par for me. Sadly, NOLA Obsession has fallen off the radar screen as of late. I know she is on the road touring, but still, isn't there down time when you're on the bus between gigs?

Might be difficult for her to talk when she is air tight and hard to text when she has a dick in both hands (LOL)!

"Ain't not tellin' what ***** will do. For enough dough she will get on four and fuck the crew!". Little John (Play no games)

SubCmdr out!

**F Scott** · 03-25-13 17:10

Originally Posted by LikeMike1963 [View Original Post]

Ok. For those that prefer a longer term situation a few questions.

1) How much a month do you provide as a stipend not including any extras.

2) If you do extras / gifts. What do you usually do?

3) How do you handle the cash part. Direct deposit. Cash in hand. With what frequency. Weekly. Monthly?

4) Do you require sexual exclusivity from your SB (or at least like being lied to about it. LOL)

Hey Mike,

Welcome to the clubhouse, and if you have posted before but I have just missed it, my apologies. If you have read the Big Book from the beginning, you will know there are many different approaches, all successful to their degree, and dependant upon the type and level of baby you are seeking, your local market, the type and level of arrangement you are seeking, and your own personal comfort level with risk and exposure. All that said, I will give you my answers to your questions:

1) I make it clear in my profile that I am not offering a monthly allowance, but rather a per-meeting gift. This averages $300 when I am fishing in my home pool, Chicago, but goes down when I am on the road. I leave it up to the baby to decide for herself where her need level is. I also let them know that I am generally available twice a month, though in reality it is 4 times or more. This lets me keep two or three babies in rotation, or shower one with Scotty's entire attention as a special treat LOL!

2) I love giving extras, in the form of shopping trips, mani / pedis, books, groceries, etc. I try to pay attention to what the baby likes, and values, and then surprise her. It often can take the place of regular sugar, and makes the relationship seem less like P4P to both of us.

3) Being married, my sugar, and anything else related to my fishing, is strictly Bennies. Cash leaves no trail. I buy a little card at the grocery store and put the sugar in there, with a little note about how much I enjoyed our time, yada yada, and then seal it, put her name on the envelope, and leave it in a place she can find, or give it to her if we are in a hotel with some comment about a "token" of my feelings. It feels like a gift in this manner, and it has always worked well for me.

4) Never ask, don't care, and assume she has other situations. As long as I get access where and when I want it, I'm happy. That said, I always play safe.

As I prefaced, this is how I roll. Others will roll differently, and it is a matter for you to craft your own comfort zone.

Good luck, and don't forget to write.

Scott.

PS. Lit, no offense taken, truly. I'm happy with where I am. Local baby was stunning, connection seems to be forming, and I anticipate POTF on our third meeting, which is par for me. Sadly, NOLA Obsession has fallen off the radar screen as of late. I know she is on the road touring, but still, isn't there down time when you're on the bus between gigs?

**LikeMike1963** · 03-25-13 15:23

Ok. For those that prefer a longer term situation a few questions.

1) How much a month do you provide as a stipend not including any extras.

2) If you do extras / gifts. What do you usually do?

3) How do you handle the cash part. Direct deposit. Cash in hand. With what frequency. Weekly. Monthly?

4) Do you require sexual exclusivity from your SB (or at least like being lied to about it. LOL)

**LikeMike1963** · 03-25-13 15:19

Originally Posted by AllSeasonLv [View Original Post]

Wrote to a very well endowed army officer in Newport News on the SD4M site saying how much I liked her profile and pics. Now I've had POT SBs respond with things like you're too far away or not respond at all and I get that. But this SB responded with "I make as much money as you do. Sorry, but I want to be REALLY spoiled." Well that's a first for me. So guys, how would you respond to something like this? All I can say is unless you make over $200K, don't bother with this one!

Just saying,

Allseasonlvr

Yeah. It has happened to me. I usually reply with humor. Saying "damn. Then maybe you can you help me out". Or simply say. Understood. I am not able to meet those financial requests. I wish you the best!

**Literal2** · 03-25-13 14:53

Scott, you have a valid and obviously effective technique and it gives you pleasure. Nothing wrong with that. I agree courtship as you describe it makes the union more intense.

Others have different techniques.

I see the problem as one of not getting involved. (Of course, if you are looking for involvement, this isn't a problem at all.) When you are fucking a lot of different girls the breakups just don't hurt like they do when you are exclusive to one. As Sub says, his nuts ache, he's nostalgic and misses her, but he doesn't love her. When you're fucking just one, these same symptoms can cause major emotional turmoil. There was a song, Only love can mend a broken heart. I'll modify that to only fresh pussy can replace lost pussy.

Personally, my emotional nerve endings have become calloused. I can't imagine sticking with a baby for 7 months. I don't even want one to stay overnight. My last infatuation was 10 years ago with a Swedish illegal immigrant but it only lasted a few months. I went back recently to one of my two ATF SBs after a year apart and gorgeous as she was, I'd already had her and she didn't do anything for me.

I continue to seek strange ass. It's always been the best for me. No sarcasm intended at all. Sorry I gave you that impression.

**AllSeasonLv** · 03-25-13 13:07

Wrote to a very well endowed army officer in Newport News on the SD4M site saying how much I liked her profile and pics. Now I've had POT SBs respond with things like you're too far away or not respond at all and I get that. But this SB responded with "I make as much money as you do. Sorry, but I want to be REALLY spoiled." Well that's a first for me. So guys, how would you respond to something like this? All I can say is unless you make over $200K, don't bother with this one!

Just saying,

Allseasonlvr

**EuroInCincy** · 03-25-13 12:37

Quite often you see new profiles with a high very high monthly amount.

A wink to me is usually followed by a 'unrealistic expectations email' and funny the $5, 000. $10, 000 / month goes donw to less than $1, 000 / mo.

Any of you had the same experiences?

**F Scott** · 03-25-13 11:09

Originally Posted by Literal2 [View Original Post]

Good luck Scott. Keep us posted.

I assume you found the baby on SA and have maneuvered your way into her favor through extreme courtesy and many exchanges over a long time and that you will meet her in a neutral location for your first meeting. Is that correct?

What cover story are you using?

Yes to SA, yes to courtesy and politeness, yes to neutral territory, no to many exchages. First email received Friday. A whirlwind romance for me!

As for my approach, I enjoy the courtship phase, with its many flirtations, innuendos, exchanges of secrets and personal details. It makes the eventual union that much more intense for me. It's not for everyone, I'll admit, but I maintain that we only see that which we look to find.

Peace,

Scott

**RiverCity2011** · 03-25-13 06:16

Anyone have any details on this woman on SA? She is blonde, very thin, very large fake chest. She either lives in the West End of Richmond or farther north. Her profile number is 1416473. Her new profile says she is in Ashland. Her claim to fame is BBBJ and seems to suggest a car date. Her teeth are very dark gray which makes me think meth use? She dresses nicely and has a nice car. I only did a M&G with her. Her dark teeth and car date mentality makes me pause. Seems like a high risk girlfriend?

**Golfcart** · 03-25-13 01:30

Originally Posted by Wnde8 [View Original Post]

Okay, I'm ready to get my feet wet on seekingarrangement. Com. Do you guys think one month of premium membership is enough? My goal is to get 2 sugar babies visiting once a week each.

Originally Posted by Wnde8 [View Original Post]

SubCmdr, to be frank this was not a very helpful post. Instead of lecturing me about not having a crystal ball you could've offered some insight like "one month is fairly tight, it takes a bit of mining to get anything in my experience" or " there's so many babies that you really don't need more than one month until your well of SBs runs dry again."

Just talk from your experience, that's all that's ever expected here.

Wnde, permit me to say your 14 posts asking 14 questions undershoots the situation. You need to read all 195 pages of the board from beginning to now and take notes. You will learn from the mistakes of others and see yourself in those mistakes. In this way you will prepare youself to venture out in a pay for play environment without being a danger to yourself. There's more to this than meets the eye.

**Literal2** · 03-24-13 21:26

Sounds like it hurts, Sub. Did your emotions get involved?

**SubCmdr** · 03-24-13 20:09

Great story here gentleman. My very first ATF. Hot Mexican Momi is going to school full time. She told me she is not getting enough financial aid to cover her bills. So she is now looking for a job and is going to go back onto the site and look for a sugar daddy.

I told her that I thought that was a good idea. That I never met her needs in the $ arena. And that when I asked her to be exclusive and she declined I thought she was keeping her options open. Her response was that was not the reason. That she just likes being single and sleeping around. I told her I did too.

And so ends the relationship just over 7 months which is the average SD / SB relationship length. We remain on friendly terms and have a trip together that has been on the books for a few months next week. Probably the last time we will see each other. Unless, she decides to call me and I doubt that will happen.

I think that is a prime example of why you need to have a team of garden tools to play all the positions along with back up when one no longer wants to be part of the team.

Subcmdr out!

**Literal2** · 03-24-13 20:00

Originally Posted by HollywoodGuy [View Original Post]

I got years invested, and so do most guys. Get your feet wet for a month of commitment, or get your dick wet with a year commitment. Lets see, it's $50 a month for the membership. Not exactly wallet breaking. Lets get with the program soldier.

I just looked up your LA posts. A lot of good information from you and Sub inmo. Interesting discussion of the difference between SA and SD4M. Different techniques. Those breaking into this game should read the LA thread as well as this one. As the man said, the situation is fluid. We need a flexible response for optimum results.

**Literal2** · 03-24-13 17:21

Originally Posted by DantaKarma [View Original Post]

So far I have yet have to use sa or any of the sites. I have been finding all my sbs on CL. And most donation are for $ or $.5 max per visit. Just my two cents.

DK, are you using casual encounters or women seeking men on CL or what? At what point do you discuss the sugar, or do you just give her what you feel like when you're done?

**Literal2** · 03-24-13 17:16

Good luck Scott. Keep us posted.

I assume you found the baby on SA and have maneuvered your way into her favor through extreme courtesy and many exchanges over a long time and that you will meet her in a neutral location for your first meeting. Is that correct?

What cover story are you using?