"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[FTP1999]

Facebook was discussed before.

If you check on them, you name may come up as a suggested friend.

That's why I have fake accounts on Facebook, Instagram and even LinkedIn.

[BStreet]

I think too, if you search then block them, that enables you to not show up on their list of people they may know

There is history on this topic in this thread, but it may be too hard to find. This is the deal. If you can possibly use some facebook page other than the real you, do so. Either a corporate one, or one that you have established with your sugar identity. I think the latter may be hard to do de novo today, but some SDs established these back in the day and they are still alive. I tried to make one a couple of years ago, and after a while, without being able to provide identity verification, FB deleted the account. I don't know how those Russians did it to rig the election.

Anyway, the other thing is to clear your search history. FB says on that page that your search history is confidential (from the rest of the world, I guess, but not from FB itself). I do believe they use the things you have searched for to make suggestions of possible friends. FB used to be great to locate the real identity of POTs based on the phone # they provide, but with all of the concern for privacy on FB these days, this capability has been removed. You may search on other things, like first name or area or other facts you have, I have a bowl buddy who has had some success in this regard. Anyway if you search for a POT on FB, afterward, click on the right-hand side of the search window until you get a pop-up that says Edit. If you click it, it shows you your history of searches on that account. One of the options available is to clear all. Do that.

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[FarFarAway]

That is scary. Can fabebook do tht? What if I clear histry on my browser? Will it still kno?

There is history on this topic in this thread, but it may be too hard to find. This is the deal. If you can possibly use some facebook page other than the real you, do so. Either a corporate one, or one that you have established with your sugar identity. I think the latter may be hard to do de novo today, but some SDs established these back in the day and they are still alive. I tried to make one a couple of years ago, and after a while, without being able to provide identity verification, FB deleted the account. I don't know how those Russians did it to rig the election.

Anyway, the other thing is to clear your search history. FB says on that page that your search history is confidential (from the rest of the world, I guess, but not from FB itself). I do believe they use the things you have searched for to make suggestions of possible friends. FB used to be great to locate the real identity of POTs based on the phone # they provide, but with all of the concern for privacy on FB these days, this capability has been removed. You may search on other things, like first name or area or other facts you have, I have a bowl buddy who has had some success in this regard. Anyway if you search for a POT on FB, afterward, click on the right-hand side of the search window until you get a pop-up that says Edit. If you click it, it shows you your history of searches on that account. One of the options available is to clear all. Do that.

[MattBrown]

That is scary. Can fabebook do tht? What if I clear histry on my browser? Will it still kno?

I'd like to know more about this too. Fortunately, I never trusted Facebook or Google or Apple from the beginning and have been cautious. I have seen people I have never viewed on Facebook, but have texted show up in my suggested people I may know list. I suspect Facebook accesses your contacts and possibly your text and call history to make these suggestions. If you Google it, there are plenty of discussions about the invasion of privacy with these apps.

[BagIt]

So I use FB from time to time in doing some due diligence on POTs. After a couple of days of intensive looking around, I log in and FB has a list of people I might know or who are potential friends. Sure enough in that list are a few girls I had dated but not recently searched!

Now reading the website and googling, I learned that one's search history is hidden. So it looks like reading a girl's FB page is anonymous. She can't see that you looked, nor that you are lurking! I also delete my search history weekly.

So my concern is this. If looking around at these girls ends up generating a list of "people I might know", do I in turn end up on their "suggested / potential friends" lists? Is my searching around likely to lead them back to me with a suggested friend? If so this is scary and I need to rethink how I use this tool!

There is a good chance that you can eventually end up on their list of people they may know, happened to me.

[Madaboutmax]

I'd like to know more about this too. Fortunately, I never trusted Facebook or Google or Apple from the beginning and have been cautious. I have seen people I have never viewed on Facebook, but have texted show up in my suggested people I may know list. I suspect Facebook accesses your contacts and possibly your text and call history to make these suggestions. If you Google it, there are plenty of discussions about the invasion of privacy with these apps.

So I use FB from time to time in doing some due diligence on POTs. After a couple of days of intensive looking around, I log in and FB has a list of people I might know or who are potential friends. Sure enough in that list are a few girls I had dated but not recently searched!

Now reading the website and googling, I learned that one's search history is hidden. So it looks like reading a girl's FB page is anonymous. She can't see that you looked, nor that you are lurking! I also delete my search history weekly.

So my concern is this. If looking around at these girls ends up generating a list of "people I might know", do I in turn end up on their "suggested / potential friends" lists? Is my searching around likely to lead them back to me with a suggested friend? If so this is scary and I need to rethink how I use this tool!

[Cephlapod Love]

So I use FB from time to time in doing some due diligence on POTs. After a couple of days of intensive looking around, I log in and FB has a list of people I might know or who are potential friends. Sure enough in that list are a few girls I had dated but not recently searched!

Now reading the website and googling, I learned that one's search history is hidden. So it looks like reading a girl's FB page is anonymous. She can't see that you looked, nor that you are lurking! I also delete my search history weekly.

So my concern is this. If looking around at these girls ends up generating a list of "people I might know", do I in turn end up on their "suggested / potential friends" lists? Is my searching around likely to lead them back to me with a suggested friend? If so this is scary and I need to rethink how I use this tool!

[Hungre1234]

Interesting info, FFA. I may need to rethink my approach to social media with respect to sugar dating, but I also get the sense that I am a little more "risk averse" or concerned about privacy than you are. Which is fine, we all have our own risk tolerances.

Correct me if I'm wrong, I did know that Snapchat photos were self-destructing, but I's also heard that the receiver can "screenshot" the image on their phone and then they essentially have it. I understand that the Snapchat app DOES alert the sender to the fact that the image has been captured, but by then the "damage" has been done. Is that not true?

There is a way around the ss notification if the girl is savvy enough. There are apps that record the screen of your phone, whatever is on it. You can turn it on, open the snap, record it, go back into your videos and ss it. So nothing is fail proof, once you send a picture it's potentially out there, just a matter of what it's worth to you.

[Cephlapod Love]

It's been relatively free of pissing matches for years now, I don't know what prompted the urge for him to take a random swipe at me -- the original incident happened the exact same way.

One approach could be to take the high road and ignore the attack or take any "beef" private via PMs. It takes two to tango. Just sayin'.

[FruitNinja]

Interesting info, FFA. I may need to rethink my approach to social media with respect to sugar dating, but I also get the sense that I am a little more "risk averse" or concerned about privacy than you are. Which is fine, we all have our own risk tolerances.

Correct me if I'm wrong, I did know that Snapchat photos were self-destructing, but I's also heard that the receiver can "screenshot" the image on their phone and then they essentially have it. I understand that the Snapchat app DOES alert the sender to the fact that the image has been captured, but by then the "damage" has been done. Is that not true?

Yes,

You can screenshot a snap.

What I do is a use a picture I already have on a public social media site. (face cropped) Plausible deniability. I send the same in text, snap, of kik once I've felt the girl out. I have had plenty of girls meet without seeing a picture. It's all in the way you handle yourself.

[FarFarAway]

Interesting info, FFA. I may need to rethink my approach to social media with respect to sugar dating, but I also get the sense that I am a little more "risk averse" or concerned about privacy than you are. Which is fine, we all have our own risk tolerances.

Correct me if I'm wrong, I did know that Snapchat photos were self-destructing, but I's also heard that the receiver can "screenshot" the image on their phone and then they essentially have it. I understand that the Snapchat app DOES alert the sender to the fact that the image has been captured, but by then the "damage" has been done. Is that not true?

Well, I think I am pretty cautious, read some of my other recent posts on this thread. There is a necessity, though, to show a real pic before getting a girl to agree to meet in my experience. Others have said in the past that it is possible to capture a photo off of snap, I don't doubt that. But, does the current POT have the presence of mind to do it? Not all do, so it is a little safer. I also have come to the conclusion from messaging that this is a real person, not a scammer, before I do the pic.

I am not active on SA now, but have been in the past month. I definitely got some messages that were very terse, and after some back and forth, again terse, I concluded they could be 1) someone trying to get my pic and # for extortion or 2) a super cautious POT. Regardless, I didn't pursue b / c of the low probability.

I have replied to girls whose only response to my initial message is 'see private photos' a little ditty about scammers being on the site, I'd like to get to know them a little more beforehand, and they should be careful too. It makes me look more normal and cautious, which I am, and caring about them. It sends scammers running.

[JZLizard]

Okay kids. Play nice!! LOL. Remember you can just ignore someone post. No reason to turn this place ugly again.

It's been relatively free of pissing matches for years now, I don't know what prompted the urge for him to take a random swipe at me -- the original incident happened the exact same way.

[Madaboutmax]

Okay kids. Play nice!! LOL. Remember you can just ignore someone post. No reason to turn this place ugly again.

You might want to "think" about what fake news is one more time. Here is an example of you doing EXACTLY what my memory recalled you doing, sending marketing blasts offering specific amounts. And that took me less than 30 seconds to find, thanks to the Highlights and Index thread.

http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/show...=1#post2357362

I don't know if there's a blurry line between "fake news" and early stage dementia or not, but I said what I did because the practices you recommended back then can lead to someone getting permanently banned from SA, and I'm here to post helpful information when I can, and have no interest in feeding my own ego or one upping anyone else.

[Kwagmire]

I don't think you 'get' snap or kik. I use both of them. Snap is the only one I would send a photo on, b / c it is supposed to autodelete after viewing. I also use kik, there is a video chat aspect to it I have used in place of a phone call. It is anonymous for the girl if she is uncomfortable giving her real phone # (girls who don't have burner / google voice numbers). I am on those social media apps exactly because the girls are. You can find out intel about them in this way. They automatically search your contacts for members, trying to connect you. I have gotten girl's real names or other interesting info (I. E. , a username like 'blondesub' or 'tommysmommy') in this way.

Interesting info, FFA. I may need to rethink my approach to social media with respect to sugar dating, but I also get the sense that I am a little more "risk averse" or concerned about privacy than you are. Which is fine, we all have our own risk tolerances.

Correct me if I'm wrong, I did know that Snapchat photos were self-destructing, but I's also heard that the receiver can "screenshot" the image on their phone and then they essentially have it. I understand that the Snapchat app DOES alert the sender to the fact that the image has been captured, but by then the "damage" has been done. Is that not true?

[JZLizard]

To the best of your knowledge? Please. I think this is what is now commonly referred to as Fake News. lol.. If you want to know the facts just ask.. I see very little has changed here in the last few years. I'll check back in a few more. So bye for now.

You might want to "think" about what fake news is one more time. Here is an example of you doing EXACTLY what my memory recalled you doing, sending marketing blasts offering specific amounts. And that took me less than 30 seconds to find, thanks to the Highlights and Index thread.

http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/show...=1#post2357362

I don't know if there's a blurry line between "fake news" and early stage dementia or not, but I said what I did because the practices you recommended back then can lead to someone getting permanently banned from SA, and I'm here to post helpful information when I can, and have no interest in feeding my own ego or one upping anyone else.