Sexual Addiction Reports

**Gumpy1989** · 03-14-21 19:35

Originally Posted by JlsG910 [View Original Post]

Hopefully this post doesn't get taken down, but I guess I understand if it does. I'm not a monger.

I'm the wife of someone who likely is a monger and it is tearing me apart. I say "likely" bc I know he comes on here and does searches for escorts and Asian massage parlors, and I know inadvertently that he has visited and tried to visit massage parlors, ones that I know he frequented before we were married. We are under lockdown bc of the pandemic (health issues) and he's talked about wishing he could get massages (he really does need them) but the fact that a) he hasn't told me about going when he's gone, b) he visits this site and has searched for escorts, and c) the place he went gets thumbs up from the monger crowd kinda has me believing he's gone for more than just muscle work.

We have a great relationship and a sex life that would make most of you green with envy. Has always been good but got even better with marriage (been married less than a year). We lived in different parts of the country for the couple of years we dated and over the past year I have learned of just how much sex he was having behind my back. Like, 15 different women (most fairly regularly, and most purely about sex, it seems). All the while also going to massage parlors and seeking out escorts.

I sort of feel like I am answering my own question, but any thoughts on possible sex addiction? And if he were you, how would you like to be approached about it? This man is the love of my life and I know I satisfy him. I'm not worried about him going to others bc he's not getting good stuff at home I'm worried that his sexual behavior is out of control. I want to stand by him and help him, presuming he wants it. He has to know all that he is risking by his behavior. He is a good guy, beautiful person, loving, and caring. And I can't help but think he's suffering. I can't help but think he has this compulsive desire and if I think about that in comparison to a drug or booze addict, he must have some sort of inner turmoil.

Anyway, I'm just looking for advice on how to reach him. I confronted him about a few relationships he was in that I found out before we married and he was a bit defensive. I've forgiven him and would still forgive him if he could work on leaving this secret life behind. Like I said, he is the love of my life (and no, I'm not young. Middle aged and second marriage, been around the block enough times to know that getting angry won't get me anywhere and I actually don't take all of this personally. I feel confident in what we have. If this is an addiction, how can I not try to help?? In sickness and in health, right?

Hello. He might not realize that he has an addiction, or might not see it that way. You will need to have a frank talk with him about it eventually. You need to tell him exactly how it makes you feel. Offer to get help for him. There are groups out there for him and you. Look up celebrate recovery. It's a Christian 12 step program for any addiction really. Some have support groups for spouses of the addiction. It does help. Though the first step is admitting that you have a problem. If he's not willing to get help or doesn't think it's a problem you should still go yourself for your own peace of mind. If you have any questions feel free to message me.

**SecondTry** · 03-14-21 10:19

Originally Posted by LustCaution [View Original Post]

Hey why'll.

I got into the game very early. Around when I was 20/21 years old? I had / have pretty low self esteem in the past so I guess the thought of having sex easily appealed to me greatly. To add to that, the thrill of backpage was something else. Anyway, I used my parents money to see girls and when I graduated and got my own job I started trying to quit. For me its like once the feeling latches on, I'm doing nothing but scrolling forums, calling girls. I feel very much helpless when I get in this phase.

Nice to see some other people's struggles though, thanks for posting, I am looking into some authors that have been mentioned like Rob Weiss, maybe can find some inspiration to keep my streak going.

If there's no sex addicts anonymous where you live they got stuff online- I went to a couple dozen meetings and if you're serious about getting a new life they'll help a lot. Also you can go to Aa or NA when they talk about alcohol or dope you just substitute those words with "pussy" in your mind. Don't tell anyone you're working on sex addiction there they'll all cringe LOL but it's essentially the same anti addiction theme.

I didn't work the steps but managed to cut back dramatically where I now live outside "the bubble" that being the all consuming haze of lust. Now I just bang a ho a few times a month (instead of a few times a day LOL).

**HungPartyGuy** · 03-12-21 06:56

Originally Posted by Bozone [View Original Post]

Until the shame reaches the same intensity as the rush, I can't see stopping.

Even since my first time I've always been hooked and I use sex so unhealthily as far a reasons go sometimes its to cope with depression but more often than not its so to try and feel at least slightly less worthless as if I can just get enough people off then I deserver to exist (I have bipolar depression so especially in my low lows I get totally out of control sexually) I truly only find females or passable MtF attractive but I've let strange men run train on my ass more than I'd like to admit and I feel so much shame after rando after rando pumps their load in me but at the same time I feel a sort of rush or happiness because at least in those moments I'm not completely worthless.

**Bozone** · 03-08-21 12:00

Until the shame reaches the same intensity as the rush, I can't see stopping.

**JlsG910** · 02-22-21 17:44

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EDITOR'S NOTE: This report was deleted because it contributed nothing of value and in fact constituted a complete waste of bandwidth.

The purpose of this Forum is to provide for the exchange if information between men on the subject of finding women for sex. Let's stick to the subject.

**DaveSalem** · 02-22-21 15:38

HRT sounds great but I've been tested and my T is fine. They tested me when I asked for ED meds, which I really only use for recreational purposes.

I doubt that I could get them without a medical reason. ED meds they'll give to anyone who can tolerate them, because it's not really medically detectable if your Testosterone is normal.

Originally Posted by PicassoForRC [View Original Post]

Doc recommended HRT for chronic low T. Wow! I'm better is so many ways! Getting jacked is super easy (not body builder size) although you don't take super high amounts as that's an issue. I feel 25 again save some aches and pains after heavy physical activities. On the hobby front. Holy crap I'm horny as a three dick billy goat! HRT is not helping getting out of pooning! It want it so much these days! A saw a girl in yoga pants at the market and had to cover my boner.

Gee thanks doc.

I do worry about the number of girls addicted these days. Lots of robs to fulfil the habit. Society at large appears to be numbing itself with dope and VR. There's a reason I don't own a VR hood. It be too much porn and trust me way better VR is on the way. That will likely kill sex between real people as soon you'll not be able to distinguish VR pussy (think flesh light hooked to a vr hood with moisture sensors and heat for $1000 initially). Sounds crazy, but it's coming. Couple years later that VR pussy will sell for $299. AI is getting cheaper all the time. I'm totally rambling now. It helps get crap off my mind.

P.S. My staying power is unreal. Only thing is I don't shoot huge loads anymore and sometimes that orgasm is a tad bit weaker. Other times earth shattering.

Be safe fellas and enjoy.

**JlsG910** · 02-21-21 22:16

Hopefully this post doesn't get taken down, but I guess I understand if it does. I'm not a monger.

I'm the wife of someone who likely is a monger and it is tearing me apart. I say "likely" bc I know he comes on here and does searches for escorts and Asian massage parlors, and I know inadvertently that he has visited and tried to visit massage parlors, ones that I know he frequented before we were married. We are under lockdown bc of the pandemic (health issues) and he's talked about wishing he could get massages (he really does need them) but the fact that a) he hasn't told me about going when he's gone, b) he visits this site and has searched for escorts, and c) the place he went gets thumbs up from the monger crowd kinda has me believing he's gone for more than just muscle work.

We have a great relationship and a sex life that would make most of you green with envy. Has always been good but got even better with marriage (been married less than a year). We lived in different parts of the country for the couple of years we dated and over the past year I have learned of just how much sex he was having behind my back. Like, 15 different women (most fairly regularly, and most purely about sex, it seems). All the while also going to massage parlors and seeking out escorts.

I sort of feel like I am answering my own question, but any thoughts on possible sex addiction? And if he were you, how would you like to be approached about it? This man is the love of my life and I know I satisfy him. I'm not worried about him going to others bc he's not getting good stuff at home I'm worried that his sexual behavior is out of control. I want to stand by him and help him, presuming he wants it. He has to know all that he is risking by his behavior. He is a good guy, beautiful person, loving, and caring. And I can't help but think he's suffering. I can't help but think he has this compulsive desire and if I think about that in comparison to a drug or booze addict, he must have some sort of inner turmoil.

Anyway, I'm just looking for advice on how to reach him. I confronted him about a few relationships he was in that I found out before we married and he was a bit defensive. I've forgiven him and would still forgive him if he could work on leaving this secret life behind. Like I said, he is the love of my life (and no, I'm not young. Middle aged and second marriage, been around the block enough times to know that getting angry won't get me anywhere and I actually don't take all of this personally. I feel confident in what we have. If this is an addiction, how can I not try to help?? In sickness and in health, right?

**LazyAss69** · 02-09-21 20:20

Originally Posted by Csheen [View Original Post]

In Sex Addicts anonymous. They say 'progress not perfection', so if you feel like you are moving in the direction of sobriety you should be grateful.

What's sobriety??

**PicassoForRC** · 02-09-21 15:17

Doc recommended HRT for chronic low T. Wow! I'm better is so many ways! Getting jacked is super easy (not body builder size) although you don't take super high amounts as that's an issue. I feel 25 again save some aches and pains after heavy physical activities. On the hobby front. Holy crap I'm horny as a three dick billy goat! HRT is not helping getting out of pooning! It want it so much these days! A saw a girl in yoga pants at the market and had to cover my boner.

Gee thanks doc.

I do worry about the number of girls addicted these days. Lots of robs to fulfil the habit. Society at large appears to be numbing itself with dope and VR. There's a reason I don't own a VR hood. It be too much porn and trust me way better VR is on the way. That will likely kill sex between real people as soon you'll not be able to distinguish VR pussy (think flesh light hooked to a vr hood with moisture sensors and heat for $1000 initially). Sounds crazy, but it's coming. Couple years later that VR pussy will sell for $299. AI is getting cheaper all the time. I'm totally rambling now. It helps get crap off my mind.

P.S. My staying power is unreal. Only thing is I don't shoot huge loads anymore and sometimes that orgasm is a tad bit weaker. Other times earth shattering.

Be safe fellas and enjoy.

**PicassoForRC** · 02-09-21 14:56

Originally Posted by Manolio [View Original Post]

This is the greatest page, look in the girls section for these Colombian delicacies, the best curves in the world. You need check.

https://vecinitas.co/blog/las-mujeres-de-colombia

Tell me how it looks.

Same site in Barcelona Spain. OMG the girls were beautiful, GFE and reasonable. Some local Spanish girls, no LE problems. I glad I don't live there, I'd be broke!! Had a 19 yo gal go ass up face down and told me to eat it. God it was amazing to suck, lick and kiss her glorioso tanned ass! Her little corn hole was like sugar!! Wow! Slipped inside and pooped too soon (she felt wonderful). Saw her twice. And the visits include a mutual shower before and after. The feeling of her ass and tits all soaped up in my hands was pure joy!! My hard cock poking her in her juicy but cheek (how it gave to the pressure) was another highlight. 19 yo pussy is unreal.

I also used to see a gal from another board. She was 18 and new to the biz. She was CFS and CBJ, but the highlight was DATY!! Watching her anus pulsate (in 69) when she came is etched in my brain forever!!.

Mot sure I'm helping anyone with this story, but more of an admittance that I'm hooked too! I stopped for three weeks due to my initial hysteria over the Rona. I started up playing regularly last spring, and most of the summer with not even a sneeze. I did spend most of my time with a reg.

Anyway, from a fellow horn dog.

**PicassoForRC** · 02-09-21 14:26

Originally Posted by Bozone [View Original Post]

The only reason the pandemic has stopped me is the fact it has robbed me of legitimate excuses to be out of the house.

Ha ha! Yep! At least Home Depot was still open.

**LazyAss69** · 02-05-21 21:04

Have you ever lost the feeling of orgasm.

**Bozone** · 01-25-21 09:20

The only reason the pandemic has stopped me is the fact it has robbed me of legitimate excuses to be out of the house.

**UOnlyLiveOnce** · 01-24-21 20:13

Originally Posted by WhyOhWhy [View Original Post]

So. I've been mongering since I was 18. (horny bastard). I always told myself I would stop but I can't. Its not really hurting my financial situation because I'm single. I've on the forum since 2008. (I delete my account several times out of guilt). I'm 36 now and my plan is to save money to retire in Thailand or vietnam so I can fuck all day everyday. I enjoy it but I'm buzzin from the alcohol and wondering if I have problems because I love fucking prostitutes. Can anyone relate?

I started young too, due to being in the military, though I was out of the scene for a long time until I was older. I've slowed down on the hobby in the past year due to COVID, age (50's), and the local scene not being as good as it used to be. But in the past, not all that long ago, I used to fantasize about moving to a part of town where I would have easier access to women. Heck, I've thought it would be pretty cool to be able to walk 6 or 7 blocks to bang a provider, walk back home, and no one being the wiser for what happened on my "walk". I've also envied the mongers in their late 60's or 70's who are still banging women in their 20's.

I will probably always have occasional trysts in the hobby for the rest of my life, but I'm reaching a point where more and more, seeing providers usually isn't worth the trouble. Maybe I'll change my mind in a few months when it's shorts and bikini season, but right now, I'd be content with seeing a provider 3 or 4 times a year. Maybe you'll get to that point too when you get older.

**WhyOhWhy** · 01-23-21 03:28

So. I've been mongering since I was 18. (horny bastard). I always told myself I would stop but I can't. Its not really hurting my financial situation because I'm single. I've on the forum since 2008. (I delete my account several times out of guilt). I'm 36 now and my plan is to save money to retire in Thailand or vietnam so I can fuck all day everyday. I enjoy it but I'm buzzin from the alcohol and wondering if I have problems because I love fucking prostitutes. Can anyone relate?