"Sugar Babies" and "Arrangements"

[SeekingHead]

Watch out ya'll. She's all glammed up and out to rip you a new one.

https://members.seeking.com/member/a...a-3878860b9a4f

411? I searched baby ria but didn't find anything.

[GoneForGood97]

So I connected with a girl on SB, who asked me for a $300 eBay gift card. I've never met anyone who's asked for that before instead of cash or Venmo before.

It feels kinda shady. Is this a new scam that I've never heard of before or has anyone else done this successfully?

This is the girl's profile on Seeking:

https://members.seeking.com/member/f...c-f3ca2b812e07

She doesn't have much on her profile and signed up recently, which usually is a red flag for me.

Location Georgia, Georgia is a red flag!!

Agreed. Location is "Georgia, Georgia", account is less than a few days old, bio is practically non-existent, and they are requesting a gift card, which I'm assuming she's asking for before the meetup? Scam. Of course if you follow the golden rule (no deposits, only $ meeting in person) then you'll have 0 issues and won't fall for it. If you want to run it down and confirm, then get her texting offsite, tell her you want to meet for coffee or a drink first, and I bet she'll push hard for a deposit first either for a "babysitter" or because she "doesn't have gas money" or "to prove your real" etc etc. 100% always a scam.

I had 1 girl who I gave a $100 Amazon gift card to, but I had it in a paper hallmark card and she only got it once she was in the hotel room with me. And that was only because she didn't like "talking" about the arrangement amount so I voluntarily went that route so she wouldn't feel like an escort.

[Dawgins]

Watch out ya'll. She's all glammed up and out to rip you a new one.

https://members.seeking.com/member/a...a-3878860b9a4f

[Member #6704]

So I connected with a girl on SB, who asked me for a $300 eBay gift card. I've never met anyone who's asked for that before instead of cash or Venmo before.

It feels kinda shady. Is this a new scam that I've never heard of before or has anyone else done this successfully?

This is the girl's profile on Seeking:

https://members.seeking.com/member/f...c-f3ca2b812e07

She doesn't have much on her profile and signed up recently, which usually is a red flag for me.

Location Georgia, Georgia is a red flag!!

[LouisHernandez]

I have been looking at Denver because I will be skiing there a few weeks over winter. The pickings look terrible there I have to say.

Yeah well you'd be correct. Colorado had the weed thing going for it and a lot of young girls moved here b / c it was legal here and nowhere else. Now that the novelty of that stupid drug has worn off and it's defacto legal everywhere, Denver is now an unaffordable metro area with too many dudes running around and not enough girls. I like all the amenities here like skiing and the outdoor stuff but this is not the place to get young hot pussy unless you are over 6'0 with plenty of coin. Seeking.com is dead here I know that much.

[LouisHernandez]

Funny I was thinking the same. Personal trainer route. But that means I need to get in shape!! Curious what age is your friend who was hooking up with girls from the gym? But that's true I had personal trainer friend as well but he was early 40's.

This was a long time ago. He was in his late 20's at the time. I've been researching the personal training business a bit. You do need to be in good shape for obvious reasons. Remember the client chooses the trainer but if you are doing it as a side gig, you can sort of pick the clients you want. I would only train females and ones who are under a certain age. That might be a little tricky if a gym tried to match me up with some middle aged woman or some fairy dude.

Relying on seeking exclusively is just not a tenable option anymore. Anything that was this easy for a time was never going to last forever.

[PornRider]

So I connected with a girl on SB, who asked me for a $300 eBay gift card. I've never met anyone who's asked for that before instead of cash or Venmo before.

It feels kinda shady. Is this a new scam that I've never heard of before or has anyone else done this successfully?

This is the girl's profile on Seeking:

https://members.seeking.com/member/f...c-f3ca2b812e07

She doesn't have much on her profile and signed up recently, which usually is a red flag for me.

[Member #6718]

I don't understand some of the profiles I see, where the girls want to travel, sometimes big overseas trips. That is definitely going to involve both parties knowing each other's real identities, with all the risks that entails. It is sort of an understood aspect of arrangements that the guy gets to keep his anonymity, and for the married SDs (supposedly about 40% of the men on seeking) that is a foregone conclusion. It is a rare SD who reveals his actual full name to a SB. So what is this from the girls? Is it just a pleasant fiction, lies SBs and SDs tell one another that puts a spin on a relationship that may really be more sordid? I guess I'd like to have a SB who has a brain and some worldly experience, including travel, but that doesn't mean I am taking them on a trip with me.

I am single. I have taken SBs all over the USA and over the world. It is a helluva lot of fun going to London or Vail as a 50 yo with a hot 23 yo coming along for the ride.

[TylerDurden07]

"I don't understand some of the profiles I see, where the girls want to travel, sometimes big overseas trips. That is definitely going to involve both parties knowing each other's real identities, with all the risks that entails. It is sort of an understood aspect of arrangements that the guy gets to keep his anonymity, and for the married SDs (supposedly about 40% of the men on seeking) that is a foregone conclusion. It is a rare SD who reveals his actual full name to a SB. So what is this from the girls? Is it just a pleasant fiction, lies SBs and SDs tell one another that puts a spin on a relationship that may really be more sordid? I guess I'd like to have a SB who has a brain and some worldly experience, including travel, but that doesn't mean I am taking them on a trip with me."

I've had 8-9 long-term babies over the last couple of decades & all of them have accompanied me on at least one trip. Of course, these trips occurred well into the relationship so no, they weren't learning my full name within the first handful of dates. I can't think of any trip that I took with any of them that wasn't great, to varying degrees. For me, the young lady must prove to me she's trustworthy & then in turn I have to be able to trust myself that I did my homework on her properly.

This lifestyle carries a certain amount of risk. Someone who is averse to risks of any kind is not going to get the most of out of this lifestyle that they could otherwise be getting.

Honest disclaimer, though: I am not married & have no SO. If I did, then sure, my analysis would indeed be more cautious on this.

[FarFarAway]

I don't understand some of the profiles I see, where the girls want to travel, sometimes big overseas trips. That is definitely going to involve both parties knowing each other's real identities, with all the risks that entails. It is sort of an understood aspect of arrangements that the guy gets to keep his anonymity, and for the married SDs (supposedly about 40% of the men on seeking) that is a foregone conclusion. It is a rare SD who reveals his actual full name to a SB. So what is this from the girls? Is it just a pleasant fiction, lies SBs and SDs tell one another that puts a spin on a relationship that may really be more sordid? I guess I'd like to have a SB who has a brain and some worldly experience, including travel, but that doesn't mean I am taking them on a trip with me.

That being said, I have a bowl buddy who is on here (this thread) but rarely posts, he had a long-term (years) SB who did eventually find out his real name. Now, they were committed, he nearly threw over his whole life for her, and he took her to Europe. How he was able to swing this having a SO I was never able to figure out, but he definitely was a magician as far as SDs are concerned. For most of us, I don't see how this could work.

I have a trip coming up to Vegas, part of the time I'll be there alone, some of the girls I see on my local SA mention they spend time in Vegas; now, I could see hooking up w / one of those and having a great time. Safely.

[LaidLow17]

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...5-2a9e1b628017

Don't even know why I'm surprised anymore.

[Member #6718]

Well I'm in Denver, maybe ATL is better. Denver was great up until the Chinese flu hit and since it's never been the same. The ratio is just really bad. I send messages to many girls who won't reply and they aren't anything particularly special. Before 2019 it was like shooting fish in a barrel. I landed some incredible young pussy on seeking pre 2019 with little to no effort. I think too many California dudes moved here or something.

I have been looking at Denver because I will be skiing there a few weeks over winter. The pickings look terrible there I have to say.

[WillDuff]

I had this problem using chrome. I switched to edge and was able to login just fine.

I had the same problem from Saturday to night before last. I found that I needed to install the last Chrome update. That fixed it.

[Member #6704]

Anyone tried any other sites besides SA recently? The male to female ratio is nothing like it was even a few years ago, which is slowly turning SA into another vanilla dating app where the girls get so many messages and so many "pseudo" options that the flake rate is getting unbearable. The site is getting away from its core mission of sugar dating with the new "datingup" name change. I miss the good ole days. I know about secretbenefits.com but that site has been thoroughly discredited as a rinser / scam site. Too many phony profiles and phony messages from fake accounts being sent to try to drain your credits.

On SA I'd say half of the profiles are just straight up fake, and another 25% are just time waster / cashapp scammers. Maybe only 25% of the girls on there are real and of those maybe half of them are actually willing to meet up.

Wondering what else is out there. My subscription on seeking is about to end soon and this may finally be my last hurrah. Just not worth the amount of time and effort anymore.

On an unrelated note and thinking outside the box: I'm into fitness and considering as a side gig to be a part time personal trainer. The certification test takes about 3-6 months to prepare/study and complete. I can pick whatever hours I want and even try to pick my clients since I don't need the money. So many times I see hot young women dripping wet literally when some dude is training them. I had a friend back in the day who did that and every month he was dating some hot young piece of ass, all personal training clients.

Funny I was thinking the same. Personal trainer route. But that means I need to get in shape!! Curious what age is your friend who was hooking up with girls from the gym? But that's true I had personal trainer friend as well but he was early 40's.

[LouisHernandez]

It's a fair bit of work man but it's not that bad out there. In 2022 I pretty much averaged one new chick per week. Many were one offs but several where it has been a good ongoing relationship. There is a lot of weeding and sifting to be done, but the rewards are still great.

Well I'm in Denver, maybe ATL is better. Denver was great up until the Chinese flu hit and since it's never been the same. The ratio is just really bad. I send messages to many girls who won't reply and they aren't anything particularly special. Before 2019 it was like shooting fish in a barrel. I landed some incredible young pussy on seeking pre 2019 with little to no effort. I think too many California dudes moved here or something.