Rants, Raves & Opinions

I have seen her with at least five or six kids at the Park and Wally World.

[QUOTE=BBHusky;4746374]That's not her house, and she is always with three to five kids..[/QUOTE]

Have to say some of the providers on TNA are toxic as fuck. I have no issue respecting a person with their pronouns or what not. It is their right to want that. However, the abuse that Calcifer throws at anyone, including those who want to learn to be more accepting and ask questions is disgusting. She is a fucking child and thinks we should pay her to talk to her about it all. Fuck that, I am not wasting my money for someone to explain their lifestyle, their choices or what not. I have friends I could talk to if I have questions. Sad thing is back when I first started a couple years ago I had her on my TDL, as she seemed fun. There are so many awesome providers on the site, but it is always taken up by the negative ones.

[QUOTE=DrexDiggler2;4792497]Have to say some of the providers on TNA are toxic as fuck. I have no issue respecting a person with their pronouns or what not. It is their right to want that. However, the abuse that Calcifer throws at anyone, including those who want to learn to be more accepting and ask questions is disgusting. She is a fucking child and thinks we should pay her to talk to her about it all. Fuck that, I am not wasting my money for someone to explain their lifestyle, their choices or what not. I have friends I could talk to if I have questions. Sad thing is back when I first started a couple years ago I had her on my TDL, as she seemed fun. There are so many awesome providers on the site, but it is always taken up by the negative ones.[/QUOTE]I had a strange experience with her without ever actually meeting. I had first noticed her several years ago when she had a different handle but lost track off her. I rediscovered her early last year and decided to see her. She's herb friendly, has a beautiful pussy, and seemed fun and quirky. I reached out to her the same way I have with every other provider I've contacted for the first time, with my info and the type of session I'm looking for. Prior to her, every provider I had ever contacted found my acknowledged reviews and my references to be sufficient to screen me. Well, she responds back that she needs to thoroughly screen me before scheduling a session and do I have any references. I'm thinking yes, the ones on my profile page, but I just reply with a list of them. As far as I could tell she never actually looked at my profile (seems like that would be the first thing to look at when someone new reaches out to you). Then silence for days. The window I was trying to schedule in has long passed but I reach out again to say I would still like to see her at some point in the future if she was able to screen me to her satisfaction. She responded that she only heard back from one of my references and was there anyone else she should contact. No, there isn't. I kind of forgot about it for awhile, enjoying my regulars in the interim. I finally try again a month or so later to see if she got any other responses and she replied that she didn't know as she had recently cleared out all of her PMs. She decided she would take a chance on me as I had been trying for so long and tells me she charges a deposit for anyone seeing her for the first time. WTF? Her website, profile page, and ads never mentioned that and I would never have bothered to reach out let alone go through all that BS had I known that up front. Later, after reading a number of her posts on alert and discussion threads I lost the little residual interest I still had in seeing her.

[QUOTE=DrexDiggler2;4792497]Have to say some of the providers on TNA are toxic as fuck. I have no issue respecting a person with their pronouns or what not. It is their right to want that. However, the abuse that Calcifer throws at anyone, including those who want to learn to be more accepting and ask questions is disgusting. She is a fucking child and thinks we should pay her to talk to her about it all. Fuck that, I am not wasting my money for someone to explain their lifestyle, their choices or what not. I have friends I could talk to if I have questions. Sad thing is back when I first started a couple years ago I had her on my TDL, as she seemed fun. There are so many awesome providers on the site, but it is always taken up by the negative ones.[/QUOTE]Yeah, I retired from TNA about a month ago. Completely, and utterly, done. I have my regulars whom I see who still post there, but its just gotten ridiculous. Calcifer used to be really cool. I saw her a few times, but she has completely lost it. I'm fine with her identifying however she wants, but the whole plural pronoun thing to me is completely offensive as someone who respects the English language. She's not a plural. She is singular. It's like using the royal "We. " Its bizarre, and she doesn't have any right to force people to use language that is both confusing and incorrect. And me not wanting to use incorrect language doesn't make me a "transphobe. " I completely respect an individual's right to make his or her choice about who they want to identify as. I've personally know people who have transitioned, and respected those peoples' decisions. Forcing everyone on that site to to not call providers by a female identifier is completely deranged and narcissistic.

[QUOTE=JJohnJack;4793521]Yeah, I retired from TNA about a month ago. Completely, and utterly, done. I have my regulars whom I see who still post there, but its just gotten ridiculous. Calcifer used to be really cool. I saw her a few times, but she has completely lost it. I'm fine with her identifying however she wants, but the whole plural pronoun thing to me is completely offensive as someone who respects the English language. She's not a plural. She is singular. It's like using the royal "We. " Its bizarre, and she doesn't have any right to force people to use language that is both confusing and incorrect. And me not wanting to use incorrect language doesn't make me a "transphobe. " I completely respect an individual's right to make his or her choice about who they want to identify as. I've personally know people who have transitioned, and respected those peoples' decisions. Forcing everyone on that site to to not call providers by a female identifier is completely deranged and narcissistic.[/QUOTE]Could not have said it better.

[QUOTE=JJohnJack;4793521]Yeah, I retired from TNA about a month ago. Completely, and utterly, done. I have my regulars whom I see who still post there, but its just gotten ridiculous. Calcifer used to be really cool. I saw her a few times, but she has completely lost it. I'm fine with her identifying however she wants, but the whole plural pronoun thing to me is completely offensive as someone who respects the English language. She's not a plural. She is singular. It's like using the royal "We. " Its bizarre, and she doesn't have any right to force people to use language that is both confusing and incorrect. And me not wanting to use incorrect language doesn't make me a "transphobe. " I completely respect an individual's right to make his or her choice about who they want to identify as. I've personally know people who have transitioned, and respected those peoples' decisions. Forcing everyone on that site to to not call providers by a female identifier is completely deranged and narcissistic.[/QUOTE]Of course it's absurd and pro female anti hobbyist over there with a lot of drama queens and white knights but I ignore that noise. After all who is paying them? The women, so it's going to be their show. But it's still useful: find out who's real, who's a rob, if you do a little research. The reviews and often the pics are crap of course and you have to take everything with a grain of salt but I've fucked a lot of sexy girls there. And a few nasty ones.

[QUOTE=TryHard;4794255]Of course it's absurd and pro female anti hobbyist over there with a lot of drama queens and white knights but I ignore that noise. After all who is paying them? The women, so it's going to be their show. But it's still useful: find out who's real, who's a rob, if you do a little research. The reviews and often the pics are crap of course and you have to take everything with a grain of salt but I've fucked a lot of sexy girls there. And a few nasty ones.[/QUOTE]I totally agree. White Knights have ruined the vibe. At one time it was a fun board, with real info but I suppose the fear of LE busting in plus the watered down reves ened that. It's still a useful resource. Avoid too much, (if any) interaction on the discussions. With a little research you can find "exactly" what you're looking for there.

[QUOTE=Boomer14;4800281]I totally agree. White Knights have ruined the vibe. At one time it was a fun board, with real info but I suppose the fear of LE busting in plus the watered down reves ened that. It's still a useful resource. Avoid too much, (if any) interaction on the discussions. With a little research you can find "exactly" what you're looking for there.[/QUOTE]Yeah, there are some on there who just post a ad, and keep to themselves. Have one I like and can't wait to visit her again. I think I may just stick with her and my AMP ladies for now.

[QUOTE=JJohnJack;4793521]Yeah, I retired from TNA about a month ago. Completely, and utterly, done. I have my regulars whom I see who still post there, but its just gotten ridiculous. Calcifer used to be really cool. I saw her a few times, but she has completely lost it. I'm fine with her identifying however she wants, but the whole plural pronoun thing to me is completely offensive as someone who respects the English language. She's not a plural. She is singular. It's like using the royal "We. " Its bizarre, and she doesn't have any right to force people to use language that is both confusing and incorrect. And me not wanting to use incorrect language doesn't make me a "transphobe. " I completely respect an individual's right to make his or her choice about who they want to identify as. I've personally know people who have transitioned, and respected those peoples' decisions. Forcing everyone on that site to to not call providers by a female identifier is completely deranged and narcissistic.[/QUOTE]I used to see Calcifer when she went by HopelessHeathen. Really nice girl and exceptionally well priced for her services, but now every single post on that board she comes in on will always correct the pronouns of the guy posting it. Every time a dude generalizes all providers as female she comes in and interjects with her pronouns. It is pretty insane now. There is not a lot of truth in advertising on TNA anymore with reviews negative reviews disappearing with the provider usually retaliating with an alert of her own which stays up but the negative review comes down.

[QUOTE=Rastala;4806923]No clue from "Beaverton Chuck E Cheese ".[/QUOTE]Then you are lost.

Why is it that some show so much of attitude here while if you check their posts there are requests to share more info. Yes I am referring to one of your posts. - "Mind sharing how this arrangement works? So she lives with you now?"

No one can join here in a day and become a senior. It takes its pace. Especially in these times.

When I joined here, I shared about 4-5 reviews in one post.

That said, a lot of senior members have helped so much in PMs, and it feels good to that way.

But some just end up showing so much of an attitude.

[QUOTE=Pdx503;4808553]Then you are lost.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=JJohnJack;4793521]Yeah, I retired from TNA about a month ago. Completely, and utterly, done. I have my regulars whom I see who still post there, but its just gotten ridiculous. Calcifer used to be really cool. I saw her a few times, but she has completely lost it. I'm fine with her identifying however she wants, but the whole plural pronoun thing to me is completely offensive as someone who respects the English language. She's not a plural. She is singular. It's like using the royal "We. " Its bizarre, and she doesn't have any right to force people to use language that is both confusing and incorrect. And me not wanting to use incorrect language doesn't make me a "transphobe. " I completely respect an individual's right to make his or her choice about who they want to identify as. I've personally know people who have transitioned, and respected those peoples' decisions. Forcing everyone on that site to to not call providers by a female identifier is completely deranged and narcissistic.[/QUOTE]I agree that the white knighting on TNA is out of control, and the Adkins there is totally corrupt, but what do you expect when the only source of income is the providers? If that were my cash cow I would take the word of the people who were paying me over the people who were benefiting from my service for free every time. I personally don't use TNA for exactly this reason. What's the point if you can spend years and thousands of dollars building community trust and then have your rep completely trashed by one provider willing to lie in an alert?

That being said, the use of "they" as a neutral singular pronoun is the result of English being intrinsically gendered. For the entire time English has been around it has adapted to the needs of the people who are using it. It has rules we break all the time, and if those rules are broken by enough of the people enough of the time then we change the rules. The oxford comma is a good example of that. So if you respect the language then adapt your usage of it, that's a good part of why it's such an amazing language in the first place. If "they" now also can refer to a singular person without specifying male or female then so be it.

As far as your transphobia goes, having trans friends doesn't make you automatically not transphobic. Holding on to some myth of linguistic purity in order to avoid referring to people by their culturally accepted pronouns is essentially outing yourself as transphobic. When you can accept other people's gender identities and adjust to how that changes things without throwing a fit and getting offended about having to actually adapt, then you can rethink that.

I don't really know where to put this so I will start with a post here.

I think about half the ladies I have seen look nothing like their pictures. In most cases, the pictures are 10+ years out of date and the girl is now significantly heavier or drug damaged or baby damaged or something. However, she still presents herself as a 'tight young spinner' or some such nonsense and tries to charge $300 or $400 per hour. That is bad, but it gets worse. People leaving reviews on these ladies then say she matches her pictures, which can only happen if you are blind with no tactile sensation. I am not necessarily saying some of these women are not still attractive, some of them are and some of them of them are not, but they are not what they are advertising and they are not being called on it. That means when you meet them you are in for a surprise, and many times very unpleasant.

I am not sure what to do here. One option is to simply leave when a girl does not look like her picture. Unfortunately I consider this rude and have had a hard time doing it so far even though I think it is completely justified.

Another, maybe better option, is to perhaps to start a truth in picture thread. Perhaps post women who are using outdated or not their own pictures.

Any better options?

I just posted here and it did not go up, did I miss something?

[QUOTE=Bleepin8;4828413]I don't really know where to put this so I will start with a post here.

I think about half the ladies I have seen look nothing like their pictures. In most cases, the pictures are 10+ years out of date and the girl is now significantly heavier or drug damaged or baby damaged or something. However, she still presents herself as a 'tight young spinner' or some such nonsense and tries to charge $300 or $400 per hour. That is bad, but it gets worse. People leaving reviews on these ladies then say she matches her pictures, which can only happen if you are blind with no tactile sensation. I am not necessarily saying some of these women are not still attractive, some of them are and some of them of them are not, but they are not what they are advertising and they are not being called on it. That means when you meet them you are in for a surprise, and many times very unpleasant.

I am not sure what to do here. One option is to simply leave when a girl does not look like her picture. Unfortunately I consider this rude and have had a hard time doing it so far even though I think it is completely justified.

Another, maybe better option, is to perhaps to start a truth in picture thread. Perhaps post women who are using outdated or not their own pictures.

Any better options?[/QUOTE]As you know the 5 star reviews and lack of complaints about pictures are to avoid getting blasted and retaliatory alerts so yes start that thread I'll contribute. I think some pics are very old and some are recent but a filter makes them much thinner. It distorts them so they're unrecognizable.