More rambling on dealing with SWans
[QUOTE=RoosterBoy;4569671]That's a good consideration. To be honest I'm not allll that picky, so I might still try them out. The biggest consideration for me is not catching anything.[/QUOTE]Well, as they say, the only way to be sure is to not do it at all, but that's obviously not why we're here!
I've not really partaken of the SW scene in Jax, but I kinda used to elsewhere, but way before H took over the way it has now. I can say that, for me, looking at the top of a girl's head as she's gobbling my knob and the only thing I can think of is "when the hell did she wash her hair last?" isn't much of a help for me, personally, especially if she needs some encouragement to go deep, and I don't even really want to put my hand there.
Anyways, getting BBBJ from a SWan is, what, a 5-10% chance that you'll catch something? Unless it's the super-gonnorhea (one day I'll learn how to spell that word) bug that I haven't heard of making it to jax yet, it'll most likely be something a trip to the doc can take care of without too much difficulty. The problem is that a lot of the shit out there doesn't show any symptoms, moreso for men. I have no idea what your situation is, but explaining to an SO why they have Chlamydia when they haven't been fucking around isn't ever going to be an easy conversation.
Regardless, get tested regularly. AHF offers free and confidential testing.
If catching an STD would cause more headaches than you want to deal with, stick with CBJ. I personally have only had about 5 CBJs that compared favorably to BBBJs, but if the thrill of the hunt is why you're doing it in the first place, the actual quality of the BJ might not exactly be the point.
As others have pointed out, once you hand over the cash, you've lost ALL of your negotiating leverage over what happens next. Showing them that you have it is one thing (and can shut them up about whether or not you're capable of paying), but whether or not that's even a good idea depends on circumstances. But, unlike a provider who wants to build up a good rep and a repeat client base, a SWan is unlikely to be thinking in those terms.
Also, if you think you've found a clever place to put your wallet and other stuff so she can't easily steal it, so have the last 50 guys she's blown, and she's probably figured it out. Having a two level cash stash (one amount for what you were definitely going to spend, another little reserve just in case) is fine, but the trunk or something is probably the best place for anything not glued down. She's probably a LOT less focussed on the BJ than you are, and she probably feels entitled to anything that she can get her hands on.