No one should care about ter
They acted like big tech, facebook and twitter. They removed my access. I was a Senior member there too. I had dozens of reviews. No explanation. Just bang "you have violated our standards. ". Their whole reason to exist is for reviews of hookers. I had written quite a few in the weeks prior to my membership being terminated so I have no idea what it was. Or if it was even an inconveniently worded review. At this point I have left that website for good. I won't even fake up a new alias to get back on let's go brandon ter.
[QUOTE=Berndsd27;6944335]It's up again with functionality errors. Seems it was only a technical issue and not a govt action.[/QUOTE]
Monitoring websites for changes
Just thought I'd pass this tip along.
I like to monitor certain websites for content change, and then have any content changes trigger an alert to me. I do this to stay on top of availability changes for various providers (SDAG for example). I also use some configuration to alert me to specific ladies becoming available. For example, I have an alert in place to tell me if Petra / Flynn ever shows up again (this is a text filter). My standard alerts are triggered on comparing snapshots of the webpage from one day to the next and comparing the images for differences. I also pick up all the text on a page, so I can trigger alerts on that (the Petra example). I use some pretty straightforward python code and libraries to do this along with tools including selenium. I run my check only once a day, so as to not abuse a website and be. Nuisance.
Since I am an IT nerd and do this kind of thing as my job I built this system using my own code. But there is a site called visualping. Io that does what my code does with various tiers of service with associated increase in cost. They have a free tier to try, so give it a look if this sounds useful. I have no involvement with visualping, but I started using this site couple years back and it was the impetus for me creating my own version. Visualping is very graphically oriented and easy to configure compared to my bare-bones approach in my custom solution, so it would be easy for anyone to setup if this was of interest.
Check Your Attitude at the Door
I read many posts, the good and the bad, and usually find it easy to sense the attitude of the author.
Guys who write reasonably good or even bad realistic posts seem to possess a good attitude about the hobby and especially about the women in general. Yes there are bad experiences, and bad providers, but they are explained with a realistic attitude.
Then you spot the guys who seem to complain about stupid stuff, or whine about not being treated as they felt they should be treated, or are pissed the girl didn't give them all they wanted the way they wanted it. You can sense their contempt or even misogynistic views of women just by the way they write their reviews. The guys are angry to begin with, and it shows.
I'd bet they are creating their own problems and disappointment by showing their open contempt for women. Women sense how we think of them by the way we speak to them. Our own behavior and attitude gives them clues, to like, dislike, or even fear us. So if you have contempt for the women, the business, or have hostile attitudes, the women will pick up on that and guess what. Treat you differently than a guy who they feel they can trust.
So, if you are one of those guys who has contempt for women or is misogynistic, I suggest learning to hide it well if you want a better experience with women. Just because you're paying for it, doesn't mean you can get anything you want or can do anything you want. They have the final word in most cases. If you want to leave happier, start by walking in the door happy.
You Have An Excellent Point To Take Note Of
[QUOTE=BluesBalls;6991767]Agree with your sentiment, disagree with your advice.
Never tell guys to hide their misogyny unless you're also a misogynist. Guys displaying that, as you said, is how women get a sense of the guy. If a guy comes off misogynistic then the woman gets red flags and may be able to dip or avoid the situation. If a guy hides it, that only helps misogynistic guys trick women into potentially dangerous situations for the women. You're not helping women out with this advice.[/QUOTE]Well right off the bat I have to make it clear that I am not a misogynist. Read some of my posts and hopefully they support that statement without further question. And thus, I have to disagree that only a misogynist would tell misogynists to hide their misogynistic feelings.
I do like your point about me suggesting they hide their misogynistic feelings to get better results while mongering, and you do make me think.
I'm not offering that advice suggesting they "hide" it until they get an advantage over a female and then no longer hide it and start abusing her once she drops her guard. I'm suggesting they go in with good attitude, and they may get better results, and ultimately leave happier. This means they hide it through the whole encounter and never reveal how they really feel. If that happens, she's more comfortable, and none the wiser to what an asshole he truly is.
People hide their true feeling all the time. In most cases, negativity, and ill will towards others is best kept locked away in the dark recesses of their minds and never acted upon. It is difficult to change their minds, but hopefully with the lure of getting better service I can change their behavior. And if their behavior is better it is better for everyone, especially for the women.
In a professional setting, if a guy conceals his contempt through out the session, which hopefully leads him to be on his best behavior, everyone, including the female, is better off. If he enters angry and hostile towards her, she'll know to use caution, and he'll probably get less than desirable service. She's uncomfortable and he's still pissed off, and then posts a pissed off opinion of his experience. That scenario servs none of us.
Unfortunately in private relationships misogynists hide all the time. They know how to lure women in to get control and then start abusing their power over them. We see it all too often and it's a shame.
I'll share this quote from a movie I recently saw and agree with. "Strong men don't hurt women; weak men hurt women. " I'm going to suggest based on your comments you are a strong man.
Thanks for your comments and sharing your opinion. You give me great advice to watch how I phrase the advice I give more closely.
When Dealing With People, Attitude Matters
[QUOTE=DomBlkMilitar;6993774]The attitude of the people posting shouldn't really matter... If you invested your time and money in someone who wasted both, wouldn't you be angry?...
I don't connect with professionals to establish personal relationships.[/QUOTE]Attitude always matters whether you know it or not. Even if you don't think it should. Being friendly and agreeable tends to get you better service than being hostile and disagreeable, even and often especially in business transactions.
Why be "angry" at all? If you have a disappointing experience, so be it. Our hobby is a crap shoot when trying out new providers and many factors go into the event. If it is disappointing, leave before you're upset, if its over, don't go back, and maybe post us a warning. No need to be angry.
Maybe if its a bait a switch, or false advertising, sure get angry because they are trying to screw you over, but I don't think bad service or service that doesn't meet your expectations is a cause for anger.
If you can't afford the time or the money to explore this hobby, and risk disappointment, then be sure you do your homework well, and only seek out sure things that will be guaranteed to satisfy you according to your standards.
We may not seek a personal relationship, but all contact with people is a relationship for the time we are interacting, and relationships respond to emotions and attitudes. No matter if personal, professional, casual, short or long term. A lot of people don't care about the other person in the relationship or their position because they don't see it as a relationship or they view the relationship as disposable. I think that is a miscalculation of how relationships work, and that attitude can work against them being satisfied themselves.
So I still suggest, have a better attitude and you may have a better experience. No matter who you are dealing with. If nobody likes the better attitude term, then try having the right attitude that gets you what you want. And in many cases, it is having a "good" attitude, towards the people you are dealing with.
