Tech support complaint for Ban
[QUOTE=LolBoat;5721860]When you guys got banned, did you try disputing it with tech support? I've done it multiple times and just had to sign a waiver more or less.[/QUOTE]I sent a report, but I didn't receive a reply. It's not a great loss to me. I have 6 on the line from before I let the membership expire. I have had ongoing conversations with all 6. I met one yesterday, and we decided on an arrangement, at a nice price. One comes back into town today. (She told me she wants to explore anal). The others are in different stages of conversation where they know what I want, and they appear to be interested enough to continue the discussion. I'm busy, and I'm patient, and it seems like I might get one or two long term players here.
I do wish there was a viable alternative to SA, but everything I have come across is garbage. (Kinda like SA now, but even worse).
Life.
Interesting, but likely incorrect
I saw your post. Interesting.
So you, without any information, assume that we are soliciting. You assume we don't know what the language is? You assume YOU are the only one who knows how to talk to these women? Wow! I guess you're really something (in your own mind).
Going to have to disagree with you though. I've been around a very long time. I'm quite attuned to solicitous language, and I avoid it. I am interested in women as people, and I am not one of the vulgar "how much" guys. Yet I got banned after almost a decade, and never having even an issue before this. But I guess you know better, right. LOL.
I see others addressed your comments about non-sexual arrangements. If that's what does it for you, have at it. Not my definition of a good use of time and money, but that's me.
I guess I err towards NOT speaking for others. I am a bit lower on the judgment scale. But that's me.
You do you.
[QUOTE=JDuB1970;5722085]Some of you are getting banned because you are solicitating sex. You need to figure out how to soft pedal that.
In MANY WAYS you really need to take notes from the mindset of the woman. Since she was 11 yrs old or even younger, males have been sexualizing her one way or another. Unless she is coming in to you, really direct about: THIS IS ABOUT SEX AND WE ARE GOING TO FUCK you are going to continue to get into trouble. To put this another way, imagine if a bunch of Gay Men were to flood your inbox. I promise you, you wouldn't like it.
Part of the problem, I can guarantee, is that you aren't really taking an actual interest IN HER and not drawing her out enough. You are probably not reading her bio and not mirroring information back to her. Much like any other on-line dating, you have to dance the dance and show that you are not some monger who doesn't want to hire an escort in the traditional sense. Some of these girls ARE up for a PPM and are willing to negotiate. Some aren't and so be it.
By being more indirect and being careful about innuendo, you will start to find women who actually JUST WANT TO go to dinner and then fuck. I've done this twice this last week and now one of them wants me to come over on Thursday and fuck her and her roommate.
I can promise you that you are telegraphing your neediness and your desperation in what you write and these women can smell it on you through the screen.
Your opening line should be simple and NOT putting her on a pedestal, but she still should have an idea that you do find her attractive. I have a THREE WORD opener that works at least 35% of the time. That is a pretty solid return and it generally hooks whom I'm actually interested in.
Girls who are "not quite so hot. " tell them that they ARE pretty. Don't be gushing about it, but let them know somehow that you do find them attractive.
Girls who ARE hot, don't ever compliment them on their looks again. Tell pretty girls how clever or smart they are.
If she tells you her name, USE IT as naturally but as OFTEN as possible.[/QUOTE]