Anyone else have an issue with guys getting too attached / wanting to date for real?
Ok this is a question for the other ladies. Guys if it is miscategorized I'm sorry, don't see any place where we can really talk to eachother. Unless we are not meant to voice opinions and have conversations, then just say so and I will keep my mouth shut.
I've been very lucky, since I've been doing this (off an on for almost 3 years) I've met some really nice, respectful men and haven't had any dangerous situations come up. I value every man I meet, not just for financial reasons but because they are brave enough to express a need to me and have it met. Not all men are honest enough to do that. Also it's a turn on for me to know that the guys I deal with like to see me taken care of and happy. I've actually come to expect that every man I meet will want to take care of me!
One thing I've had an issue with is men who say that they want to date (or even marry?) me. And this is very touching and sweet but not something I'm interested in. I have no idea if this is a tactic that guys use to try and get some ass for free or if they are really sincere. A few of these relationships have lasted 6 months, a year or more. The thing is that it ultimately ends the client relationship, and this has been an ongoing problem.
I don't lie to men and I try not to lead them on; yet I do sometimes have feelings of my own and I am not shy about expressing myself. So I'm being up front and honest about everything, even letting them down gently sometimes. I always make it clear from the beginning that I'm not looking for a boyfriend. I say that I value the man's companionship within the client relationship (and all that it involves) and would like to continue to see them, but they inevitably get hurt feelings and stop calling.
Anyone else have this happen repeatedly? Any advice?