Some always trying to ice-skate uphill.
True, but I got to try. Need advice.
I met a chick at a topless bar. Bad AF. Got a bunch of lap dances. No P4P. Months later, I ran into her again at a legit dance club. I don't think she remembered me. We talked, danced, and I got her digits. Asked her out a bunch of times but she always had some excuse. Eventually I gave up.
Last night I saw her again at the topless bar. This time she remembered meeting me at the legit club. While we were talking she stroked my dick. It was driving me crazy. I asked (begged?) her to come back to my place for a "private dance". She said OK. She came by my place after getting off work. We talked for a while then banged. She seemed like she enjoyed herself. Sounded like she might have had a 2-3 orgasms (might have been faked, can't tell with women). Main point is that it did not feel like P4P at this point. I asked her if she wanted to go dancing next weekend. She said yes. So now, it is really feeling like this is more a date than P4P. Maybe it started that way, but at the end, it seemed like she was enjoying herself.
So you see my dilemma. Do I pay her for her time (where maybe she doesn't want or expect it) or not pay her (and risk that she's like - "WTF? You trying to cheat me, muthafugga! At the end, she never asked for any money but I didn't want to risk coming off like a cheap asshole. I gave her a hug and discreetly handed her a stack of 20's. She said thanks and put it in her purse (without counting it).
So here's the question. How do you (or can you) convert a P4P relationship into a legit relationship? Or once money changes hands, you're done. She's always going to expect it? Any advice on how to handle this would be appreciated. If I can convert this to a legit relationship and bang her for free on the regular, that would be great.