"Sugarbabies" / "Arrangements" Amateurs or Not?

[QUOTE=Orbits;2334324]Well, in a way, I understand why SA is using that (likely made up) number. They are advertising, recruiting more SBs, keeping their business running. It's not like they'd attract many SBs if they said "you'll probably be offered $40 to come to some creepy old man's hotel room!" or even "College Sugar Babies receive on average 100-300 a week".

If the number isn't completely made up, then it was most likely obtained via a study that used self-reporting. I can't think of any other way to get that info. Self-reporting would definitely bias it towards the high end. Virtually 100% of those lucky enough to actually get the crazy-high offers will want to brag about it. How many of those makeing 500-1000/ month will feel like bragging?[/QUOTE]All fair points. I don't blame them for marketing tactics (which are usually designed by the same people who run the surveys to collect data, perhaps a conflict of interest if anyone really cares about accuracy), but I doubt their study is any more than asking the girls to fill out a form with how much they make, which is guaranteed to be biased toward the high-end. It's sort of a contradiction though for them to say they have 8 SBs for every one SD (sounds like they need more SDs to me, since that's who they make their revenue from). So from that perspective it's kind of a stupid strategy, but you're right if they don't attract SB's they can't keep SD's for very long.

Though my point remains, if girls hear that as an average, 90% of them are coming in with the attitude of "well I'm a lot better than average", so they will start out looking at $3 k a month as a low-end minimum, without realizing that those who make that are probably sucking off at least 3-5 separate SDs once or twice per week.

Ah well, I guess they will figure it out eventually if they want to pay the bills.

[QUOTE=Orbits;2334324]Well, in a way, I understand why SA is using that (likely made up) number. They are advertising, recruiting more SBs, keeping their business running. It's not like they'd attract many SBs if they said "you'll probably be offered $40 to come to some creepy old man's hotel room!" or even "College Sugar Babies receive on average 100-300 a week".

If the number isn't completely made up, then it was most likely obtained via a study that used self-reporting. I can't think of any other way to get that info. Self-reporting would definitely bias it towards the high end. Virtually 100% of those lucky enough to actually get the crazy-high offers will want to brag about it. How many of those makeing 500-1000/ month will feel like bragging?[/QUOTE]Thats why I use SD4M instead of SA. But I am considering giving SA a try.

SA is a much more active forum in my town, where SDFM is slim pickins. It depends on the area I believe.

The hot Girls can easily make $3 K / month by seeing 3 to 5 SDs. But not many do so from one benefactor. They can hook as SBs without ever having to get a pimp, make a webpage, or rent a hotel room. I see my SB 2 hours / week in one afternoon. She can make multiple dinners and service several guys with her spare time and still do homework, play on the hockey team, and go to church.

[QUOTE=Rangerover411;2334106]Seems VCU is ranked high in more than basketball. It's made SA's list of Top 20 of schools for SBs.

[URL]http://wtvr.com/2015/01/15/vcu-sugar-baby-school/[/URL][/QUOTE]On another note. Have a m&g set up with a new pot tonight. She says she is new to the site. I plan on popping her SA cherry.

Ilsf.

[QUOTE=IluvSmellyFish;2334404]On another note. Have a m&g set up with a new pot tonight. She says she is new to the site. I plan on popping her SA cherry.

Ilsf.[/QUOTE]You always want to be the first if possible. Then you get to make the rules.

[QUOTE=HollywoodGuy;2334470]You always want to be the first if possible. Then you get to make the rules.[/QUOTE]Wish it was December, GPS is rampant. More details in the end of month report.

Went to a so called "underground fetish party" hoping to see some amateur talent last night. Mostly just a lot of aging strippers. But I did see two hopefuls. The dark skinned 5 foot tall mixed asian girl was the hottest girl there (for me). After some alone time with her I decided not to ask if I could see her outside the party. She was a little too professional and lived way too far away.

The second, a fair skinned latina also petite and someone I had seen before at another party caught my eye. She did give me her number and it turned out she already had mine, that I had given her a year ago. She was very sweet and although she has done a couple videos she exuded girl next door charm. These things don't usually work out and normally stay very professional. Which isn't to say I might not have a good time. She lives close enough and she seemed genuinely sweet. I didn't send her my offer yet, but I'm hopeful. So yes, they are UTR at a minimum. And my interest is not on an SB level. I'm just a sucker for a hot non escort advertised girl.

I lost my UTR jamaican princess a few months ago and I would love to replace her. I found her through a CL ad I had posted. That had to end due to the overly professional nature of our encounters and her refusal to upgrade me to GFE.

[QUOTE=FredMoore;2334363]SA is a much more active forum in my town, where SDFM is slim pickins. It depends on the area I believe.

The hot Girls can easily make $3 K / month by seeing 3 to 5 SDs. But not many do so from one benefactor. They can hook as SBs without ever having to get a pimp, make a webpage, or rent a hotel room. I see my SB 2 hours / week in one afternoon. She can make multiple dinners and service several guys with her spare time and still do homework, play on the hockey team, and go to church.[/QUOTE]Female business logic is funny. I once met a stripper who was only a few days into her new craft. Even though she was new, yet said she would make over $150 k that year. I have no problem believing that amount for a top notch Vegas stripper, but this girl wasn't in Vegas and wasn't in that league. After talking to her I understood where she got her numbers. She had a couple of nights that were in the $400-500+ range. By her logic, she would be able to do that every night once she got the hang of the job. It didn't dawn on her that her most profitable nights were weekends only, or that she was getting more interest for being new at the club, or that with every passing day she grew a little older and worn and her value would decrease rapidly. She also didn't take into account her total sales didn't account for her club fee or what she would need to account for in taxes, even if she was a magical unicorn and landed $400-500 per night at that particular club.

It's the same with many SBs, they start out with stars in their eyes, disappointment will set in later. Some of those SBs will become full-on hookers, some of them will leave the scene. Some of them don't really come looking for a specific amount as much as a combination of (A) they don't like to work hard and they haven't needed to thus far in life because of their looks and (B) there is an innate female desire to know their "worth". They love to know how they compare to other women, its a game of "how much can I get for my vag". I think after a certain age they subconsciously realize they are no longer competitive with the young hotties, and this is why we see these MILF cougar types with completely unrealistic expectations -- they don't even really want sex anymore and they've mostly given up on reality, so it's become more like a game to see if they can boost their own ego by damaging a male ego somewhere.

I mentioned in my last post that I have been idle for a while and I'm gearing back up. I'm out of the country right now but I'll be home in about a week and so I have been working SA to build a pool of potential SB's to work through as soon as I'm home. After a week or two of emailing and texting, I've come up with 10 viable candidates that have all indicated interest in meeting as soon as I get home. Of the 10,4 are white, 4 are AA, 1 is mixed and 1 is Asian. The average is about 7 face and 8 body (all are petite). One of the white girls and one of the AA girls have already basically agreed to my price point, which is 120. Two of the other AA girls have made statements to the effect that they are looking for modest amount of sugar and are interested in "companionship" as much as financial support. I think they may both end up in the FC at my price or less. The remaining AA girl told me she's had one arrangement and he gave her 400 per week for two meetings, but then they ended up only seeing each other once a week, until he "moved". I will have to adjust her expectations or there will be no meet and greet. I haven't gotten into sugar discussions with the other white girls, but expect that will be tougher sledding. The cream of the crop is 23 and a 9/10. I suspect she can get 200 out of me if that will do the trick (at least once) as I have to have her body. I did a google image search of her SA page that took me straight to her facebook page and a bikini photo that killed me! The Asian girl is very personable, and her "desired lifestyle" on SA is minimal. I suspect she's an UTR girl but she's been fun to chat with, so we'll see where it goes.

My goal is to lock in two new girls who have the right mix of skills and chemistry, at my number, for the summer. If I can also identify one or two BC girls at the same time, so much the better. I suspect some of this crop will drop out before I get through the list or I'll find they have expectations beyond my range, but I feel like I've got a good start to my quest.

Need some advice on how to handle this one. 21 year old pretty hot (7/8) potential. Her text messaging hasn't been great but acceptable. Asked her to meet this coming week and she just sent back a message saying she could bu that she "always brings my twin sister when we meet for safety. Meeting people online makes me nervous. We are incidental twins. Where would you like to meet and what would you like to do".

Thoughts?

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2334120]A burner smartphone isn't a bad idea if you are able to keep it physically hidden from the SO. If she tends to get into your phone or personal business it is probably the only viable option.

As far as the apps themselves grabbing information, if that's a concern choose iPhone over Android and be sure to never jailbreak the phone. Android is much more susceptible to malware. The apps in the apple app store are under much more rigorous scrutiny, Apple won't let them in if they dubiously try to tap into things like contacts and location. Google Play store is a free for all cluster fuck full of potential security problems.[/QUOTE]This site grades apps on how well they protect the user's privacy. BTW is anyone using the SA app on their real smartphone?

[QUOTE=PghGuy2005;2335227]This site grades apps on how well they protect the user's privacy. BTW is anyone using the SA app on their real smartphone?[/QUOTE]SA seems to works identically with mobile and desktop browsers. This is adequate for me!

Earlier this week, I was contacted by a POT who seemed like she was very interested. Sounded like she needed cash badly due to her situation. Was down for the physical relationship of being a SB. In fact, she was really pushing hard to meet me, wanted to know what she should wear, what I liked, etc.

I arrived at the M&G spot. After the time of the meeting has come and gone, she still hasn't arrived. I go ahead and leave and I text her to find out what happened. She immediately turned judgmental. Judging me on pretty much everything she had learned about me to that point. The funny thing is is that I really wasn't all that interested her, I was just coming to the M&G just in case things were better in person than they had been up to that point. All she did was waste my time, gas money, and burned a bridge. The mentality of some of these girls boggles the mind.

[QUOTE=PghGuy2005;2335227]This site grades apps on how well they protect the user's privacy. BTW is anyone using the SA app on their real smartphone?[/QUOTE]The issues I was speaking of did not entail the SA app itself being malware, it was a general statement about Android apps and the general security issues around them. Of course, SA is not going to intentionally put malware in their app, but all it takes is one accidental misstep from the developer of the app and the door is open for other apps from non-reputable sources to do things with data from the SA app you may not want. The situation at Apple is locked down much better, that's all I meant.

JeezLizard,

I liked your breakdown of the 150 k per year mentality. Stunningly accurate. Then they wonder why they're struggling, with so much "earnings potential".

I disagree on the MILFy perspective, though: I don't think the MILFs are intentionally there to build their egos or put the guys down. As someone who tends to prefer MILFs to the 20-somethings (although I've been making some exceptions to that this year. The 20-somethings are just MUCH easier to land,) the ones who are serious are VERY interested in keeping their SD happy, knowing that he has access to a good supply of 20-somethings who are hungry. The difference tends to come into when you make a $ offer to a MILF. If you're 21, and working at McDonalds, and someone offers you $1 or $1. 5, that's a really big deal. She just made 2-3 days of income, just for hanging out with a guy who's treating her better than her boyfriends have, plus she gets to feel the thrill of being "bad".

Once you're in your 40's, 2-3 days of income would still get their attention, but these are women who will normally be making upwards of 60 k per year, and $1 just isn't as exciting. They expect higher pricing for the same reason that you expect to get a higher salary each year in your job, even though that clearly doesn't apply to the market, here. If you throw out $ or $1. 5 into an early email, it's just not going to be that interesting to her, and she may reject you out of hand, even though it would be a fair representation of her market value in this arena.

On the other hand, girls who are 40+ do not expect to be going out with hot, washboard-abs surfer dudes, either. They won't be in the same condition as they were in their 20's, but you're exactly the kind of guy they would regularly date, anyway. If you have decent game, you can spin it as helping with a few things, while dating a very appreciative lady who makes herself available for you, while honoring your need for discretion. To be honest, it's not that easy to find affair-quality women who won't introduce drama at some point, but if you're in the $1. 5 range, and talk to the MILFs pretty much as you would if you were trying to pick them up on a regular dating site, by the time you're at dinner and they ask about your budget and expectations, $1. 5 will sound more like icing on the cake, plus they will not generally consider trying to replace your spouse or SO, because they have a more practical mindset, and they don't want the arrangement to end. Mind you, this only applies to the realistic ones, who realize that the very high rollers aren't going to be interested in MILFs, so their top expectation is a fairly regular guy who will be interested in them, appreciative of them, and who will add a little sugar to the mix.

So my best approach with them is to simply chat them up exactly as if you were on a regular dating site, politely defer any attempts to negotiation via email "I'd rather discuss specifics in person, after we see if we have chemistry," set up a date and make sure you've gotten their number, play a decent text-game with them with a once-a-day-at-most chatty little "Hey, how'd the _ work out today? BTW, I booked our table for Friday, so we could get the good one, by the window" stuff, and otherwise ignore them, until they try to engage you, then give them your full attention for the 10-30 min it takes her to tell you about her day. By the time you get to the date a few days later, they feel comfortable with you, and, again, you treat it exactly as a regular [URL]Match.com[/URL] date, until they ask you about your experiences on the site, which is your cue to roll your eyes and complain about the hordes of 20-somethings that just don't have a clue what life is about, and then ask her about whether she's found any worthwhile guys so far. The MILFs tend to have less folks interested in them, and they're less approachable, so you have comparatively little competition for her attention, and she has already decided that you're someone she would probably date for free, so that's usually the point at which they are ready to be talked into setting up a second date. When they ask about expectations, you can comfortably float the $1. 5 "for when we reach that stage in the relationship," and then let her talk herself into accepting it, since she's not going to reject it out of hand at that point. MOST of the time, they'll quickly suggest that the second date could include some private time together, "if you're interested". Make sure the second date happens relatively soon (before they lose their nerve,) and you're in.

Okay, yes, that's a lot of "work", but it tends to result in a reliable MILFy SB who's fine at $1. 5 (even if she would've rejected that, up front,) and who won't have a second thought about starting early in the day, and staying overnight for that. One of the hardest parts, though, is finding one that you're attracted to, since the pool of MILFs is much smaller than the pool of younger SBs, but it's already a given that trying to groom a SB is harder than just wandering over to BP, with significantly more return, if things work out well.

And I still wish I had Hollywood's powers to keep a stable of attractive SBs at $1 each, but, for now, I'm on the much lower-numbers and slightly higher-cost list!

[QUOTE=JeezLizard;2334867]Female business logic is funny. I once met a stripper who was only a few days into her new craft. Even though she was new, yet said she would make over $150 k that year. I have no problem believing that amount for a top notch Vegas stripper, but this girl wasn't in Vegas and wasn't in that league. After talking to her I understood where she got her numbers. She had a couple of nights that were in the $400-500+ range. By her logic, she would be able to do that every night once she got the hang of the job. It didn't dawn on her that her most profitable nights were weekends only, or that she was getting more interest for being new at the club, or that with every passing day she grew a little older and worn and her value would decrease rapidly. She also didn't take into account her total sales didn't account for her club fee or what she would need to account for in taxes, even if she was a magical unicorn and landed $400-500 per night at that particular club.

It's the same with many SBs, they start out with stars in their eyes, disappointment will set in later. Some of those SBs will become full-on hookers, some of them will leave the scene. Some of them don't really come looking for a specific amount as much as a combination of (A) they don't like to work hard and they haven't needed to thus far in life because of their looks and (B) there is an innate female desire to know their "worth". They love to know how they compare to other women, its a game of "how much can I get for my vag". I think after a certain age they subconsciously realize they are no longer competitive with the young hotties, and this is why we see these MILF cougar types with completely unrealistic expectations -- they don't even really want sex anymore and they've mostly given up on reality, so it's become more like a game to see if they can boost their own ego by damaging a male ego somewhere.[/QUOTE]