Couldn't agree more with this detailed assessment.
[QUOTE=Hal1957;5191635]It's the thrill of the chase, with a greater expectation of success. Why does a guy go sit in a deer stand all day instead of sleeping in and going to a restaurant for dinner? Thrill of the chase. If it's not for you, then it's not for you.
If you go into it acting like a John, you're going to find hookers and scammers. If you set the bar too high, looking for a blonde size 2 fuck bunny with a DD rack, you're going to have to sift through a lot of chaff to find that one pearl.
If you're looking for a young (er) girl / woman who will make time to spend time with you on a regular basis, in return for making her life better, you've come to the right place. Some of the qualities you want to look for are:
Comes from broken home.
Working dead end job like fast food or food service.
Lots of impersonal contact with people she can't connect with.
Single mother.
Now:
Be a nice guy.
Chat her up for a few days before suggesting a meeting. Don't even mention sex unless she brings it up.
Don't discuss money. If she goes straight to the money conversation, she isn't the right one. Keep looking.
Take her someplace nice, a sit-down restaurant that requires reservations where you order from a menu. Order something mid to upper price from the menu so she understands she can do the same.
Encourage her to talk about herself, her life, her goals. No vulgar talk, no bad language. Be a gentleman.
Send / take her home with no discussion of sex.
Send her a note right away that you had a great time.
Wait a day or two, then suggest an overnight at the beach, in the mountains, something that sounds exotic to a woman who's never been spoiled..[/QUOTE]I started on SA at the end of 2010, before there were scammers and a lot of media attention. I was 49, and hooked up with a beautiful, smart, fun 21 year old. We met at a nice restaurant, and I did not plan or expect us to hook-up immediately, but there was an awesome connection. Turned out she lived about 4 miles from me, and for about 1200 a month or so, I saw her several times a week, (was married; wife traveled; no kids). We went out to see music, ate. She was awesome, and I am still in touch with her. She has her own business, and lives in FL. Spoke with her 2 weeks ago, she might come visit next weekend. The X and I were relocating back to DC, and she came up there twice.
The next girl, I met in DC. She had never done this before, and was super cautious. We had great email discussions, and I liked her so much that I waited. We exchanged emails for two months (I had a couple of meet and greets during that time). Finally she said she wants to meet. We had two brunches together, and one date at a bar, and then the 4th time, off to the races. She was 23. She was working at a bar in Georgetown and a student at University of Maryland; she was smart; cool; needed help, and was the cute GND. So, we'd meet a couple of times or so a month. She would dress beautiful; we'd go out, and bar to the hotel. We took a weekend blowout trip here to Atlanta; went to the Euclid Ave Yacht Club, Vortex and then back to the high-end hotel, next night out for steak and Clermont Lounge. The issue with her was that there were too many feelings forming, and she said if I was single, she would be all in. We are in touch; she has a Master's degree now and is in practice as therapist in Philly. I woulda married this chick in a heartbeat.
The last and best was a freshman at school in VA, and I was preparing to leave DC finally time to posit up with the X, and had kept in touch with this woman. Short story was there was a 33 year age difference; it was like she was almost 40 years old in spirits. We lived together here as a real couple from 2014-2018, and both our families accepted our relationship. The age difference made it unsustainable, and nature's cruel trick for me is that she by far was the best "fit" for me in my entire life. The time finally came, and she's 26 now; we are close like family and still get together, and I am sure we'll always be close friends.
I chose women that I would "date." The one woman in DC had very strict communication boundaries when we were not together, and I totally respected her. After I left DC, she tried the SD thing a few times, and messaged me on FB telling me that no man had ever treated her so respectfully, kindly, etc. She wrote a very sweet and loving email.
I think it's true, if you find a gem on SA, and she is really is great, you could be in for a serious amount of fun in a lot of ways. I treated these women no differently than I would a date under a "normal" scenario. I chose women who really needed help; who were really striving to succeed and had goals; who weren't looking for Gucci bags, but really to have support for their goals, and have a chance to do something special. The woman in DC loved the Beatles and Paul McCartney. He came to DC, ad I texted her one day, telling her that I have two tickets, and they are good seats. She called me right way almost crying. She could have never afforded this on her own.
Not sure people think about how much certain women really appreciate this; you can literally help them advance their lives. Believe me, they'll never forget you. I like to help people, and sure it was certainly for me to have that fun, but I wanted to leave these women seeing how they should be respected, appreciated and supported. They would have all done it without me, I am sure; I feel so much satisfaction that there three women have succeeded. OF course, I played only a tiny role in their lives, with the exception of the one with whom I lived.
