Seeking Arrangement

"Look the part be the part".

When crafting your SA profile, and when reading the profiles of potential SBs, keep that quote in mind. Many SBs on the site will tell you what they think you want to hear. IE they'll tell you they're a hard working college student who has tuition cost problems, or they just graduated and have student loan problems. Often times these things are true but many times they are often exaggerated. The result is that the truth gets bended and extended, so she can portray the image she thinks that you want (ie a chick who is desperate or needs to be saved).

Likewise you should bend your truth. If you're a middle class guy who works at GM, it doesn't hurt to put on a suit and portray yourself as a busy businessman. You don't want your profile pic to be "old white guy wearing sun glasses taking a selfie in his car. " SBs have shown me the profiles of guys who talk to them, and a lot of them look just like that. Do something different. Look professional, carry yourself seriously. You don't have to lie about your income, all you have to do is look like you're successful and act accordingly. This is why I always say that a nice hotel is important. You want to project the image that you have money, without having to outright say it.

Get into a new interest that you can use to further this image. I got into wine in part to impress SBs. I don't spend a fortune on wine, but I know how to pick a great bottle that impresses dates, friends, SBs, etc. On the flip side if she's into something harder, make sure you aren't getting cheap stuff that she can find at the random dorm party. If I'm getting Hennessy, it's going to be 750 ml, not the little bottle. I might even get VS or VSOP depending on how I feel. If she likes whiskey, I'm not getting Jim Beam the first time we meet. Some may see this as wasting money. I see it as crafting my image / brand. And hey, when she leaves I still have a nice bottle of something good all to myself lmao.

Always remember these chicks get tons of shitty messages every day. From dudes trying to scam their bank accounts to weird fetish dudes who want them to poop on their chest, to super aggressive dudes who come off scary. You're literally ahead of the game just by being normal. What sets you apart from just being normal is how you present yourself, the comfort you can offer (hotels, drinks, Netflix, etc), and consistency. If you can pull off seeing a chick twice a month you're good in her book.

Good stuff, I just don't personally like doing meal dates on the first meeting due to the potential loss of time factor.

I can jet on a coffee or cocktail date in less than 30 minutes where the meal puts me out over an hour if I'm not interested.

I cancelled my membership after two months of premium, I found two FWBs and an amazing SB. Lots more I'm going to try and keep warm for the future.

[QUOTE=EricTheReddit;4454391]Good stuff, I just don't personally like doing meal dates on the first meeting due to the potential loss of time factor.

I can jet on a coffee or cocktail date in less than 30 minutes where the meal puts me out over an hour if I'm not interested.

I cancelled my membership after two months of premium, I found two FWBs and an amazing SB. Lots more I'm going to try and keep warm for the future.[/QUOTE]Depending on the SB chemistry through messaging I feel the same way. Here are some alternatives to coffee dates. Frozen yogurt dates, art gallery dates, local food festival. Stuff that is still public, but private enough to talk without people eavesdropping, yet it gives you the out you can take if things turn sour quickly.

I agree with other people though. Look successful, if you can't even take care of yourself, how is an SB going to think you can take care of her? Furthermore, a common complaint I hear from SBs. Men don't know what they want or how to ask for it. Be up front, be transparent, and stop the word games. You'll be happier, she'll be happier, and that makes it a win win for everyone.

I hope I'm not asking a dumb or annoying question here. I'm lurking, I don't live in Nevada.

Would any of the gents who have kept track of their expenses venture a guess how much it ended up costing to have a rendezvous with a Seeking Arrangement female?

I've heard interesting stories from a female friend who was using it to meet guys in S. Florida; one guy liked her pictures so much he paid her $800 to drive down to Miami and later he decided her pictures were out of date, pass.

Are you constantly begged for "help" with 1. Car repairs 2. Car insurance 3. Apartment deposit, etc. ?

The above happened to me with a female I was introduced to socially who asked me if I would give her money for favors and I said sure; I would meet her and she'd take $100 cash at the beginning. Later she would ask me for lots of dough for her various needs and I calculated once she cost me an average of $300 .

She was 21 and very hot in all senses of the word so I still don't mind, but I wish I had established rates. She seemed to have a real boyfriend and she likely didn't know other guys like me (or she'd not be so broke).

Anyway, thanks for the stories and etc. Here, it's fascinating to learn from those "in the trenches. ".

[QUOTE=Dash;4454585]I hope I'm not asking a dumb or annoying question here. I'm lurking, I don't live in Nevada.

Would any of the gents who have kept track of their expenses venture a guess how much it ended up costing to have a rendezvous with a Seeking Arrangement female?

I've heard interesting stories from a female friend who was using it to meet guys in S. Florida; one guy liked her pictures so much he paid her $800 to drive down to Miami and later he decided her pictures were out of date, pass.

Are you constantly begged for "help" with 1. Car repairs 2. Car insurance 3. Apartment deposit, etc. ?

The above happened to me with a female I was introduced to socially who asked me if I would give her money for favors and I said sure; I would meet her and she'd take $100 cash at the beginning. Later she would ask me for lots of dough for her various needs and I calculated once she cost me an average of $300 .

She was 21 and very hot in all senses of the word so I still don't mind, but I wish I had established rates. She seemed to have a real boyfriend and she likely didn't know other guys like me (or she'd not be so broke).

Anyway, thanks for the stories and etc. Here, it's fascinating to learn from those "in the trenches. ".[/QUOTE]Lots of train wrecks out there who can't even pay their phone bills in a timely manner. If they don't have a steady job and reliable transportation, I pass immediately, unless it's a one-off quicky. They will be nothing but problems and blow your phone up with constant "emergency" requests. I always meet for a dinner / drinks date with a legitimate potential regular, to get a feel for the girl and see if there is chemistry. For $100, that's cheap insurance as far as I'm concerned. For a good regular, I'll prob pay 300 - 500 per meet. It just depends. My expectation for a 500 date is a minimum couple hours of private time. I get alot of requests for immediate hookup dates and usually pass on those. 200 - 250 if I accept one. Lots of catfish and outdated pics. You've just got to learn how to weed through that shit.

[QUOTE=JoeLefty;4455763]Lots of train wrecks out there who can't even pay their phone bills in a timely manner. If they don't have a steady job and reliable transportation, I pass immediately, unless it's a one-off quicky. They will be nothing but problems and blow your phone up with constant "emergency" requests. I always meet for a dinner / drinks date with a legitimate potential regular, to get a feel for the girl and see if there is chemistry. For $100, that's cheap insurance as far as I'm concerned. For a good regular, I'll prob pay 300 - 500 per meet. It just depends. My expectation for a 500 date is a minimum couple hours of private time. I get alot of requests for immediate hookup dates and usually pass on those. 200 - 250 if I accept one. Lots of catfish and outdated pics. You've just got to learn how to weed through that shit.[/QUOTE]One more thing. I pay as I go. I don't pay an allowance, ever.

When I first started, I'd give money on the first meeting, like 100 for "gas" or whatever; but I don't even do that now. Now it's "if we make an arrangement, I'll pay you X amount of dollars every time we do a meet. ".

"I need money for bills / etc. " becomes "okay well, we will do a meet for that money when I get the time. " I've run into a lot that basically try to slowly stop having sex with you or make your meets shorter while trying to get more money out of you each time, and I don't fall for it any more.

250-300 per meet; meets end up being 3+ hours; 100/ hr or less is what I end up doing. Nothing more unless it's a super long term thing where the person has been fully vetted.

[QUOTE=BrandoM;4455866]When I first started, I'd give money on the first meeting, like 100 for "gas" or whatever; but I don't even do that now. Now it's "if we make an arrangement, I'll pay you X amount of dollars every time we do a meet. ".

"I need money for bills / etc. " becomes "okay well, we will do a meet for that money when I get the time. " I've run into a lot that basically try to slowly stop having sex with you or make your meets shorter while trying to get more money out of you each time, and I don't fall for it any more.

250-300 per meet; meets end up being 3+ hours; 100/ hr or less is what I end up doing. Nothing more unless it's a super long term thing where the person has been fully vetted.[/QUOTE]I promise X amount per date and supplement it with little gifts (candy / wine / gadgets, etc.). I've only had one girl ask me for extra money because some expense came up, and that was after one date where she asked for more money (for an apartment deposit) than the generous amount I had given her when we met. I said no and then a few days later made up an excuse why I couldn't meet her anymore. I've had longer-term arrangements (over two years), where I would have helped with emergency needs had I been asked, but I wasn't asked. I think I haven't run into this problem because girls who have these kinds of financial "emergencies" tend not to be the girls I am interested in.

Good afternoon gents. The job just informed me I am coming up for a visit to the Dearborn / Wayne County airport area in roughly a week. I was hoping to narrow down some SB's and identify a young lady with some special talents in that area but there are over 10,000 plus candidates within a close vacinity. You guys are lucky to have many options.

I am writing to see if you might find time to share some info on SB's with really good oral skills in the area. If they massage UTR too that is a bonus. Please private message me at your convenience.

Thanks in advance for any help you can provide.

While I agree on the many points here, I recently stumbled on a couple of interesting rules I thought I would share.

I read in the SA forum rules (somewhere on SA) that it is against policy to solicit online only dating (for example girls soliciting for premium pictures I think). That made sense. Although I see it all the time.

I further read that it is against SA policy to establish Pay Per Meet Dates with members (PPM). WTF?? I am with all of you who stand their ground and only go for PPM dates with SA girls. But I urge caution in your online messages to these girls about PPM arrangements as I do believe SA messages are occasionally scanned / read by their admin. For that matter, I would further withhold any specific sexual requests or information until texting / communicating Outside the SA website. Certainly I withhold any sexual requests for $$$ period on the SA site. My point here is choose words carefully when communicating with anyone on the SA site.

Just my. 02.

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Scammer, be careful out there.

[QUOTE=FunnyBoner;4459484]While I agree on the many points here, I recently stumbled on a couple of interesting rules I thought I would share.

I read in the SA forum rules (somewhere on SA) that it is against policy to solicit online only dating (for example girls soliciting for premium pictures I think). That made sense. Although I see it all the time.

I further read that it is against SA policy to establish Pay Per Meet Dates with members (PPM). WTF?? I am with all of you who stand their ground and only go for PPM dates with SA girls. But I urge caution in your online messages to these girls about PPM arrangements as I do believe SA messages are occasionally scanned / read by their admin. For that matter, I would further withhold any specific sexual requests or information until texting / communicating Outside the SA website. Certainly I withhold any sexual requests for $$$ period on the SA site. My point here is choose words carefully when communicating with anyone on the SA site.

Just my. 02.[/QUOTE]I always say "I'd like to discuss that but I'm not comfortable doing so on this site, can we text / kik / snap?

Found this one on a different site but she eventually directed me to her seeking profile. 20 yr old, going to college down here, tall bbw body but has huge boobs. We chatted, came to an agreement, had a fun time. Not a pro, not a cop, just a college girl trying to get some relief with school bills.

I had a fun time and will revisit. Not a lot of details to share but feel free to pm me if you have any questions.

And don't forget, huge boobs.

Seeking name bigNbeautiful.

Here on USA is bbwinthed, I'm not sure if she has posted.

[QUOTE=Wolf24;4391481]Do you have to go premium to speak with the girls. Is this a sexure site?[/QUOTE]You definitely do need to but it has been well worth it for me. Lots and lots and lots of options on there.

Anyone try her out?

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