Could have used this ADVICE 3 month ago
[QUOTE=VietWhisperer;2941078]Stick to the AMPs as it's much more guaranteed mileage for the money. If you enjoy drinking, talking story, eating and singing with a pretty girl then it might be for you. It's very easy to get sucked into these bars as they will make you feel like a king and boost your ego. It's good fun if you want to hang out with friends too.
There is action if you're patient, willing to buy drinks, and find a girl you can connect with. It's most likely going to take several visits and maybe a few lunch or dinner dates to get anywhere. There are always exceptions but not likely to get far on first visit.
Other general advice:
Learn to politely say no and don't be intimidated into buying a drink. It's ok to introduce yourself to each other and say I'm ok tonight but it's nice to meet you. You never know when you might want to drink with someone at a later time or another place as they move around to different bars. Being a rude dick won't help as girls ask each other about customers.
Don't buy $40 drinks as its bs at a Korean bar. Only $20 even for a full bottle beer. $40 drinks are for play booths in Vietnam bars where the chick is getting naked or preferably more. No champain as it doesn't guarantee shit other than you hate your money.
If they buy you a drink its to put pressure on you to buy them one in return as a courtesy. So they spend $3 and if you buy them one they still make $12 and they are banking on the chance you will continue to buy more for them. I will take the drink and just tip five bucks if I don't want to drink with that girl. That way they aren't out any money and it takes the pressure off of you.
Don't buy drinks for their friends they will try to ask you since it's slow and the girl allegedly has no customers. The only person a lucky drink is lucky for is the girl as you just handed her $15 bucks for nothing. Buying one for Mama can sometimes have benefits but up to you.
Pick a girl you are interested in versus just one that approaches you. Buying a $20 dollar drink for any hostess makes it a level playing field so go for a really good looking one you are attracted to. You never know what might happen.
They will ask for your number. It doesn't mean anything and you aren't special. They will text you now and then saying they miss you etc. Its marketing.
Best advice is still don't start going a lot and stick to AMPs LOL.[/QUOTE]I can definitely relate to VW's advice because I experienced it! These KBG's are professionals and will do everything in their power to ultimately get your $$.
About 3 months ago a friend and I were at a popular bar in town and after numerous shots and beers we decided to venture out to a Korean bar on Kapiolani (15 yrs since my last time). We popped our heads in and walked through others until we spotted 2 attractive KBG's. After 3 hours and $6 spent my friend and I left with these women When the bar closed. They each drove us in their fancy bmw's to eat at Sorabol. Funny- to this day I can't remember eating there, however my friend said that they fed us (NURTURING).
The plan after was for this girl to drop me off at my friends car, but that didn't happen-guess I had a bullseye on my back and I was her target! She ended up driving me to her apartment and I only remember waking up on the couch. Except for a few brushes against Jr the morning started pretty g rated. I just mentioned to her that it was dangerous for both her and I to go home with a complete stranger, but again these women can read a man as soon as they step into their bar. Prior to getting dropped off she asked me for a massage to relieve some kinks, so I happily obliged and confirmed her man made c's and traced the outline of her thong. She said that she knew I was drunk and that she wanted to make sure I got home safely (GUARDIAN ANGEL). AFter some coffee and fruits she dropped me off and gave me a nice kiss!
I received a text from her a few days later stating that she was happy that we met and of course that she misses me. I returned her text and brought breakfast, bottled water, and fruits to her apartment. She buzzes me up and answered the door in a t-shirt nightie no bra and sexy sequined thong. After breakfast she was really aggressive and led me into her bedroom where we indulged in each other. She has milky white smooth skin with long brown hair and voluptuous c's. I devoured every part of her body but she blocked me from daty. I did fiv and she was fricken wet (did see glimpses of her shaven kitty). After about 20 minutes she starts dry humping me like a crazed nympho. She yanked my boxers down and proceeded to give me the most awesome bbbjdtcim, on sheets, in hair in my whole life. OMG I was tripping out! (SEX SELLS).
After washing off Jr we ended up on her designer leather couch (yes the same one that I slept on covered by her blanket a few nights earlier) where I proceeded to explore each and every crevice of her body. Lfk, Dfk, Fiv, Daty, and Dato. Initially she tried block my tongue with her fingers, but it slithered through the sides of her fingers and she relented--her panties were off in seconds! I attempted to mount mish but she stopped me and said "you need a condom honey" in that girly Korean voice. So being the respectful guy that I am I just dove back into that bald pussy and ate her like I hadn't eaten in weeks! I then inserted 2 fingers and alternated the positioning so that I hit her g-spot and she went off! She definitely has a tight pussy and as I increased my tempo I could tell she was really into it--damn she started screaming, squirmming, and whimpering while I continued to jack hammer my fingers into her. After observing her eyes closed and mouth wide open either she's a great actress or she had an unbelievable O! Damn she was totally spent and sweaty too.
Streamlined (take notes).
Approximately 2 weeks pass and this girl is unavailable--using every excuse in the books. I find out that she is hurt because I haven't taken her on a real date--not McDonald's or zippy's only the high end restaurants. So being the pussy whipped guy that I have transformed into I make reservations for 2 dinners in the week.
Here comes the mounting red flags that VW mentions in his advice post:
Mentions that she has a bday coming up and when am I going to take her shopping $$.
Sends me pics of various jewelry that she would like me to buy her $$.
Mentions her love of diamonds $$.
The following week I met up with her at the bar (condoms in tow). Spent $2 for bottle soju total damage $2. 3.
Met her at her apt. Showered then BBBJ, daty slip on cover and fucked in every position. She mounted me in cg furiously removed condom combo BBBJ HJ to completion cleaned up and showered. Fell asleep woke up early o'clock daty, slip off panty mish full meal deal uncovered with her telling me to come in her. Showered slept woke up kissed her goodbye thinking that night was the FOTC!
2 days later meet at bar $2 soju, 5 watered down shots or tea, drink for mama, bar back, and friend because she doesn't have customers--damage $3. 6 (FLAGS). Given a list of items to pick up prior to going to her apt. , shower then fucked her brains out uncovered. Next day car wash, flower arrangement, and lunch = $$ and more red flags.
At this point the addiction is overwhelming-the simple phrase "if it's too good to be true it is". You get blinded into thinking you're the only one. But you are not!
Next few days you text and call but no answer--in the back of my mind I know I'm not the only one in her life due to the tremendous amounts of calls and texts she receives, I also notice the the fresh fruits in her fridge that I didn't buy, the fresh assortment of flowers similar to the ones I had bought weeks ago, and finally the looks that I get from the building 24 hour building security.
So you either turn your eye to the bs and get taken advantage of emotionally and financially or you get out of dodge!
Although it was hard and still is I chose the later. I called her the afternoon of our dinner date to cancel. She called later that evening wondering when I was picking her up and I told her I was at a party and was not coming. She drove to my party picked me up and gave me her spiel:
She considered me her bf, wanted to get married, be a USA Citizen, and get out of the bar scene. I told her that I suspected she was seeing other men, not available, manipulative, and a liar. Boy was she pissed! She drove to the bar and wanted me to come in, but I refused and caught a taxi back to her apts parking.
I have not had physical contact with her in over 6 weeks and haven't returned her calls or texts.
Pray for me!
Mongerholic out!
Times change, you have a choice.
[QUOTE=Sukebe1808;2955056]I remember the kbs used to have managers, doesn't seem that way anymore. And what the fuck is up with guys serving the table? I want a female serving me and if I see a nice one I might buy a drink, why have a guy serve the table?[/QUOTE]A couple of years ago when I first started going to the bars again I had much if not the same exact feelings. The times have changed, the bar scene as it stands. You can either accept it or not go.
It is what it is and that is the reason why the Korean Bars and Bars in general are dying.
These young guys will not spend money to sit with a pretty (or not so pretty) woman at $20-$40 a drink when they can get the same at any club. The clients that patronize the bars are generally older and when this generation passes so will the Korean Bar. This business model will be almost obsolete. Sex and alcohol sells and there will be a few hold outs but generally the bar scene will be pretty dismal it's pretty dismal now. This just my 2 cents that others in the past have also expounded. You are not the first and won't be the last to voice this sorry state of the Korean Bar scene.
Like the dinosaur one day in the future the KB will be extinct. These women don't know how to change and they will squeeze what they can like there is no tomorrow. Just remember what was good back in the 70's for spending money you need to times that by at least 3 x's or 4 x's as far as money. If not I wouldn't waste your time go longs and pick up a 6 pack cheaper, stay home and drink.
Try 2nd shift on weekends.
[QUOTE=Shame;2955735]Went to evergreen yesterday food was terrible. I guess they don't care about daytime business. Before was OK now not OK.[/QUOTE]I know the barback on Saturday and Sunday serves food, pretty decent food try then. I think most guys go to drink and unwind after a hard day at work but to each his own. The food situation varies as the barback or bartender have to buy all the food now days. There is no subsidy for food like in the old days. Plus these young guys no leave tip. They come in have one beer eat their fill and leave a $1 tip. Really chicken shit asses. If was me they get cheese twists and maybe peanuts if they lucky.
Yes. Male waiters have some advantages
I agree with Blade. Sometimes having a male waiter isn't too bad. Often times they are more open and honest about the girls that are there, or not there, which can be insightful. Also their conversation in regards to guy stuff like sports is usually more detailed and on point. I go to 74 sometimes, their waiter Hank is a really nice young, smart man. Very courteous and knowledgeable. He played pro baseball for a bit in Korea before a shoulder injury shortened his career. I bet on sports occasionally and his input has been helpful to me. I think that he has a bright future in the bar, or for that matter, wherever he goes.
I think I would go with Sandra daytime bartender.
[QUOTE=RonJeremy123;2956477]I agree with Blade. Sometimes having a male waiter isn't too bad. Often times they are more open and honest about the girls that are there, or not there, which can be insightful. Also their conversation in regards to guy stuff like sports is usually more detailed and on point. I go to 74 sometimes, their waiter Hank is a really nice young, smart man. Very courteous and knowledgeable. He played pro baseball for a bit in Korea before a shoulder injury shortened his career. I bet on sports occasionally and his input has been helpful to me. I think that he has a bright future in the bar, or for that matter, wherever he goes.[/QUOTE]I think I would rather go with Sandra the day time bartender, M-TH as she much better looking, she is very informed (just watch her on the NBA playoffs) just my humble opinion. Hope I got her name right but you can't miss her with her California accent. And endowments. Hey Bora just looking, just looking. LOL. Be safe guys and 4th of July around the corner Drink smart and be safe.
P.S. I think she also works 2nd shift on the weekends. You want to talk sports go check her out.
Sandra is one of the best
[QUOTE=MisterLee;2959363]Is this the same Sandra from Kalihi? Originally from California? If it is, she's a doll. She's so funny and loveable at the same time.
I would buy her Heneken Light,. NOT!! 😱 I thought she left back to CA. I'll go check her out. Is she still working the same place?[/QUOTE]She is a very good bartender, very nice to the patrons. I would love to get my hands on her, but I'll bet her left hook is pretty good.
Biz at 74 has slowed down a great deal. Most of the girls followed Maya over to Evergreen. It will take awhile before they filter back.
That's good to hear brother B.
[QUOTE=Baboozer;2961493]She's 42 with 2 kid's. 1 boy 1 girl. Neither are mine. Haha.[/QUOTE]LOL, glad you can laugh about it. I was wondering about her when first saw her at Splash until one of the guys mentioned who she was. I must say you do have good tastes in women, and with 2 kids yet. I give you credit bud. I am glad you still lurking around, guess I will lurk till got 2 feet in the grave.
Long weekend coming up be safe guy, I guess you been hanging around at home or Kalihi but Splash is busy I think she will do very well there (from what I observed).