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I dreamed about this one and we agreed a time to meet. She is in the Richmond area so we agreed on meeting halfway. Booked a 3-star venue and we made it happen. However, not without some drama and never asked for anything. Just wanted to get laid. If you can get past the plenty talking, hit her up.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/m...b-66b38777f00a[/URL]
Any one experience her yet? Please post.
[QUOTE=MrDisDat;3836830]I dreamed about this one and we agreed a time to meet. She is in the Richmond area so we agreed on meeting halfway. Booked a 3-star venue and we made it happen. However, not without some drama and never asked for anything. Just wanted to get laid. If you can get past the plenty talking, hit her up.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/m...b-66b38777f00a[/URL]
Any one experience her yet? Please post.[/QUOTE]The link is broken. What's her screen name?
You may be correct, but I'm glad there are many very attractive young women willing to be SB's that would never consider themselves to be escorts or go on backpage. Overnights and multiple rounds with less cost than a typical back page girl for an hour.
Let me live in my fantasy world!! LOL.
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3836788]
[blue]SB's are hookers, doesn't matter how you talk about it, they are taking money for fucking. The SA sites are delusional if they think they are different than backpage.
A2[/blue][/QUOTE]
Kwagmire: One of the best post in the last several months.
This should be required reading for any new SD (and some slow-witted experienced ones). As I've said on here, she knows within 5 seconds of meeting you if she's attracted to you. Why the hell would you meet for hours and hours over dinner and long dates? All girls on SA know the deal: the ones that don't belong there and can't stomach older guys write "platonic only". Even them know the deal but aren't willing to pony up their part of the deal so yes, they all know what's expected. Long dates? Fancy dinners? Trips? Are all earned benefits. I've done them all many times. You do that when you know what you have in your hands and she's worth it, not as some free enticement to meet and greet.
And yes if she's on SA she is the kind of girl that sleeps with guys on the first or second meet. It just happens that it might not be with YOU. Any story along the lines "I'm not that kind of girl" is her playing you and thinking you're a sucker.
There are some girls who are genuinely attracted to older guys (trust me, I know) but for each one of those there's 20 girls who see desperate, sad, lonely guys there for the plucking.
Some of you need to stop being such chumps and wake the fuck up.
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3836782]I think all women on SA and WYP know exactly what a man means by and thinks a "traditional sugar daddy / sugar baby arrangement" is and what a man wants from a "mutually beneficial relationship". Additionally, I also think all women on SA are OPEN to the idea of fucking for money. The cold, hard truth of the matter is that she might not be open to fucking YOU for money.
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Men who are and can actually do the above things, to the level a PYT with a princess mindset desires, are few and far between, and even fewer of those are active on SA, making for some slim pickings. This is where the alleged "misinterpretation" of vocabulary comes along. Women on SA know they have to meet up with men to actually see what degree he fits to her ideal above, but the "misinterpretation" and her ability to shame you for even thinking that "she'd sell herself like that" give her the plausible deniability she needs to go out on meet and greets. Additionally, she knows there are some men out there who are rich and / or naive enough to actually pay for a meet and greet or for a few platonic "dates" because "I'm not the kind of girl who sleeps with someone on the first date". (Cough, cough YES, she is. Just not with YOU). If you hear this kind of BS from a woman, best to cut your losses early.
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I personally think she makes the decision on whether she's willing to fuck or not in the first 5 minutes of meeting you, and if she has a "rinsing" mindset, if you're not totally undesirable, she may see how much she can get out of you before you decide that paying for nothing isn't worth it any more.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3836788]
[blue]SB's are hookers, doesn't matter how you talk about it, they are taking money for fucking. The SA sites are delusional if they think they are different than backpage.
A2[/blue][/QUOTE]I agree and in sense all women are hookers. LOL. I'm just looking at it from a legal persecutive and the wording of the way prostitution laws are written and formed. You have to name a sex act for a price for it to be postitution, or directly perform sex acts for money with full proof this is exactly what it is for.
I read an attorney's forum a while back where you ask attorneys questions and one of the questions posed was about whether they see sugar dating being shut down in the future and all the attorneys agreed, the government would not be able to shut it down, as giving money for companionship, or as a gift was not illegal. Unless you specify sex for money, it's not illegal. If you want to give a woman money for her time, or whatever, it's your business. I think these grey areas really bring into the light just how stupid it is for the government to try and stick their noses in people's bedrooms and governing what someone does consensually with their body. If they won't to go after pimps and those forcing people into prostitution, or traffickers, etc etc, have at it, but some young woman who wants to boost her income by having a sugar daddy? It should be nobody's business.
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3837982]I read an attorney's forum a while back where you ask attorneys questions and one of the questions posed was about whether they see sugar dating being shut down in the future and all the attorneys agreed, the government would not be able to shut it down, as giving money for companionship, or as a gift was not illegal. Unless you specify sex for money, it's not illegal. [/QUOTE]So then they will change the law. In the USA you used to be responsible for the words you put on a site like this, then they changed the law. You used to be able to just talk about hookers, then they changed the law. I would say that there should be a challenge but given the court you guys have probably not.
Doesn't mean it's going to end. I love how Americans always think they can legislate morality. It's not called the oldest profession in the world for nothing and the civilized world, minus one country thinks adults should be able to do what they want.
Brothers,
For those of you in the sugar game seeking a bit more anonymity, I thought I would share the hotel booking technique I've been utilizing as of late.
If you're worrying about a hotel charge appearing on the bank statement or about the drama of paying "cash" at the hotel or a way to alter the name on your actual hotel bill. This method might work for you.
Here are the only things you need:
1. A burner [URL]Amazon.com[/URL] Account.
2. A burner email account.
3. Access to [URL]hotels.com[/URL].
Amazon offers e-gift cards for [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] that are sent directly to an email address of your choosing upon purchase. Simply choose the amount you want on the card and purchase the [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] e-gift card (please make sure it is the E-GIFT card and not the physical one). Then check your burner email account for the e-gift card and then go to [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] to book the stay.
Note, I typically go to [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] and identify the room I want first and it will tell you to the exact penny how much you need including taxes.
The beauty in this is that on your monthly credit card statement the charge will appear like a normal Amazon transaction and since it is a BURNER Amazon account the purchase history is only for your eyes to see. Note, make sure you don't use the family Amazon account.
Lastly, one of the biggest advantages of booking through [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] using the e-gift card is because you can put in whatever name you want on the reservation booking. This is pure gold. I typically use my "real" last name but I put in a false first name and a false street address.
When you go to check-in at the property this is the information that shows. I have had a couple of "overachieving" hotel staff ask for my license and try to correct the reservation, but I simply say something like "This is a business reservation and my company's payroll department knows me by my middle name so changing it would cause too much confusion trying to get reimbursed" Blah. Blah. I also use this time to make sure the staff has my fake address listed on the reservation. This minor detail ensures that if the receipt is slid under the door in the morning and you're caught slipping and your SB happens to see it, your fake name and fake address will be the only thing that appears.
I haven't run into any issues using this method. But to recap, you must account for the following things.
1. Burner Amazon. Do not forget to log out of family account.
2. When the hotel clerk asks for your driver's license make sure they don't overachieve and try to retype info.
3. Ensure the hotel receipt will appear to your liking during checkout.
Once again, no issues to this approach yet, but I bring it to the group to make sure I'm not missing anything.
Ripper.
[QUOTE=VAvet;3835833]More importantly, has anyone seen her LOL. She looks hot.[/QUOTE]I'll let you know.
[QUOTE=RVASpider;3837256]The link is broken. What's her screen name?[/QUOTE]Sorry about that guys. Here you go: [URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/8ea867d2-b878-4966-b7cb-66b38777f00a[/URL].
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3836712]Can you (or him, for that matter) be a little more specific? How did the interaction / negotiation go down? Were there any red flags he should have noticed / heeded in hindsight?[/QUOTE]Sorry for the late response guys. Sometimes this hobby can be more of a part time job. LOL! So according to my buddy, he has been talking to this lady on SA (she has removed her account) and things appears to be going well. There was a red flag but he was clearly excited over the prospect of meeting this hot looking lady that he was already discussing meeting. First mistake was to start discussing money and payment without first meeting her in person. She initiated payment for $350 for allowance as Pay per meet. On the day before they met I advised him to make sure they met at a restaurant just to be sure she's the person in the picture. She refused but eventually agreed to meet him at a restaurant in Reston VA. According to him she continue to bring about money and he continue with the conversation. They agreed to have the encounter at her place. In the process of going to her place, she said she came with uber so he will just give her a ride to her place. When they got to his car, she asked for the money and he handed it over to her, she identify herself as a cop and two other plain clothes officers appeared and told him they have on tape discussing with the female cop and the money is evidence. This is a very dangerous game guys, I don't discuss money with anyone. Ever! I have a way of handling women. My first rule of thump is to ensure that I am safe. I don't meet a woman without first having a casual date. I have some very serious conversation to feel the person. I talk about getting you gift cards and say let's have some adult fun and I will take care of you. I will literally continue to say that I don't pay sex but I don't mind getting you some valuable gift cards for you to look more beautiful but I am not discussing cash payment for sex EVER! I don't show money until after an encounter and we are both ready to leave. I leave the money in a draw and leave the drawer open and just say if you see anything you liked in the draw you can have it.
[QUOTE=EvilTmp;3837872]Kwagmire: One of the best post in the last several months.
This should be required reading for any new SD (and some slow-witted experienced ones). As I've said on here, she knows within 5 seconds of meeting you if she's attracted to you. Why the hell would you meet for hours and hours over dinner and long dates? All girls on SA know the deal: the ones that don't belong there and can't stomach older guys write "platonic only". Even them know the deal but aren't willing to pony up their part of the deal so yes, they all know what's expected. Long dates? Fancy dinners? Trips? Are all earned benefits. I've done them all many times. You do that when you know what you have in your hands and she's worth it, not as some free enticement to meet and greet.
And yes if she's on SA she is the kind of girl that sleeps with guys on the first or second meet. It just happens that it might not be with YOU. Any story along the lines "I'm not that kind of girl" is her playing you and thinking you're a sucker.
There are some girls who are genuinely attracted to older guys (trust me, I know) but for each one of those there's 20 girls who see desperate, sad, lonely guys there for the plucking.
Some of you need to stop being such chumps and wake the fuck up.[/QUOTE]Well said my friend, well said. I have been in positions where I know if the girl is into me or not. It's true, there are women I have met on SA and we fucked he same night while there are others who I just know is all about the money. I had a date with a young girl for lunch and we appeared to hit it off instantly (at least that's how she appears to behave or my dumb ass mind told me). But we communicate until after couple of hours and she asked me for money for something to purchase. I politely declined that I don't have the budget to render any assistance. Few days goes by and she wants a movie date. In my mind, she's been friendly and has other motives. We both know why we are on SA so should I be wasting my time on these dates? Sometimes you have to see the sheep from a distance, cut your losses and bounce!
[QUOTE=Icedam;3832588]Warning, so I just wrote top and she pretty much outed herself after we had M&G from the other address.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/6b0ba124-3dea-4a24-bf9d-ec53b93ac1af[/URL]
Same as.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/messages/inbox/d9699368-4c7a-4e80-8cd0-1f12ee6f7467[/URL][/QUOTE]Care to elaborate? No idea what this means. You met her and she outed herself as what, a tranny?
I cannot see the messages in your SA inbox.
[QUOTE=CantWinLosin;3838623]I'll let you know.[/QUOTE]My dreams have been good! Tasted sweet, likes to be tasted and likes to taste herself, great ride, , all around good time. Sweet girl.
Anyone have experiences with this one?
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/b269607e-90cc-e580-9270-c73ebcd28d90[/URL]
Sam's Club sells [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] gift cards (the physical ones) so I throw one in with my business purchases to have on hand. They are very good for my day trips to other cities where the whole name / address check in thing is not a big deal.
When why ou play locally, some genius might ask why you are staying at a hotel.
1) I recently moved, back for a visit and haven't updated DL.
2) House in getting bathroom renovated and I have not water fro 24 h ours.
3) None of your fucking business.
Alternatively, I have gone in person and booked a room and said "Its for an employee flying in for a big presentation, and she is coming straight from a long flight to change and freshen up" and I'm picking her up at the airport so she can just go straight to the room.
Some SBs have been fine telling me their real name so I book the room in their name -- might be trickier with youngen's who might not understand if they take a CC at check in, its for incidentals and nothing will be charged.
Even better, my current SB books the hotel in her name and I either reimburse her as part of her gift or make sure she always has a [URL]hotels.com[/URL] gift card or two.
[QUOTE=Ripvan12;3838382]Brothers,
For those of you in the sugar game seeking a bit more anonymity, I thought I would share the hotel booking technique I've been utilizing as of late.
If you're worrying about a hotel charge appearing on the bank statement or about the drama of paying "cash" at the hotel or a way to alter the name on your actual hotel bill. This method might work for you.
Here are the only things you need:
1. A burner [URL]Amazon.com[/URL] Account.
2. A burner email account.
3. Access to [URL]hotels.com[/URL].
Amazon offers e-gift cards for [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] that are sent directly to an email address of your choosing upon purchase. Simply choose the amount you want on the card and purchase the [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] e-gift card (please make sure it is the E-GIFT card and not the physical one). Then check your burner email account for the e-gift card and then go to [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] to book the stay.
Note, I typically go to [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] and identify the room I want first and it will tell you to the exact penny how much you need including taxes.
The beauty in this is that on your monthly credit card statement the charge will appear like a normal Amazon transaction and since it is a BURNER Amazon account the purchase history is only for your eyes to see. Note, make sure you don't use the family Amazon account.
Lastly, one of the biggest advantages of booking through [URL]Hotels.com[/URL] using the e-gift card is because you can put in whatever name you want on the reservation booking. This is pure gold. I typically use my "real" last name but I put in a false first name and a false street address.
When you go to check-in at the property this is the information that shows. I have had a couple of "overachieving" hotel staff ask for my license and try to correct the reservation, but I simply say something like "This is a business reservation and my company's payroll department knows me by my middle name so changing it would cause too much confusion trying to get reimbursed" Blah. Blah. I also use this time to make sure the staff has my fake address listed on the reservation. This minor detail ensures that if the receipt is slid under the door in the morning and you're caught slipping and your SB happens to see it, your fake name and fake address will be the only thing that appears.
I haven't run into any issues using this method. But to recap, you must account for the following things.
1. Burner Amazon. Do not forget to log out of family account.
2. When the hotel clerk asks for your driver's license make sure they don't overachieve and try to retype info.
3. Ensure the hotel receipt will appear to your liking during checkout.
Once again, no issues to this approach yet, but I bring it to the group to make sure I'm not missing anything.
Ripper.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=VAvet;3835833]More importantly, has anyone seen her LOL. She looks hot.[/QUOTE]We had a quick M&G to make sure we're on the same page. Body as advertised, from what I could tell with her clothed (sight, and feel during the hug), slender and a great shape tho' not quite a hardbody, with great tits. Face is really cute, tho' not what I'd call "beautiful", but she certainly won't break any mirrors. Her voice is very soft, high and kinda squeaky / mousy, with a Georgia drawl. She comes across in person as sort of ditzy; dunno if that's real or just an act from the little time I spent with her, but I suspect it's at least a little bit of an act because she doesn't come across that way in text / email. She says she's looking for just one SD for ongoing, but from the discussion here it sounds like she's done more tryouts than anything else.
We have an FC date for next week. More after that.
[QUOTE=MrDisDat;3838661]Sorry for the late response guys. Sometimes this hobby can be more of a part time job. LOL! So according to my buddy, he has been talking to this lady on SA (she has removed her account) and things appears to be going well. There was a red flag but he was clearly excited over the prospect of meeting this hot looking lady that he was already discussing meeting. First mistake was to start discussing money and payment without first meeting her in person. She initiated payment for $350 for allowance as Pay per meet. On the day before they met I advised him to make sure they met at a restaurant just to be sure she's the person in the picture. She refused but eventually agreed to meet him at a restaurant in Reston VA. According to him she continue to bring about money and he continue with the conversation. They agreed to have the encounter at her place. In the process of going to her place, she said she came with uber so he will just give her a ride to her place. When they got to his car, she asked for the money and he handed it over to her, she identify herself as a cop and two other plain clothes officers appeared and told him they have on tape discussing with the female cop and the money is evidence. This is a very dangerous game guys, I don't discuss money with anyone. Ever! I have a way of handling women. My first rule of thump is to ensure that I am safe. I don't meet a woman without first having a casual date. I have some very serious conversation to feel the person. I talk about getting you gift cards and say let's have some adult fun and I will take care of you. I will literally continue to say that I don't pay sex but I don't mind getting you some valuable gift cards for you to look more beautiful but I am not discussing cash payment for sex EVER! I don't show money until after an encounter and we are both ready to leave. I leave the money in a draw and leave the drawer open and just say if you see anything you liked in the draw you can have it.[/QUOTE]If this sequence of events really and truly played out like your story, than this is entrapment. It is not solicitation by him. She brought up the money and pushed it and tied it in to a sexual encounter. Unless he literally told her at some point, "I am willing to give you $350 for sex" or some sex act, then she entrapped him. A good lawyer will get this stupid shit tossed out. But who wants to go through all that? This is insane to me, that they don; t have anything better to do then shake down some lonely sugar daddy. Can you imagine the service they could have provided to the community tending to other things with those resources and time spent to pop a lonely ole sugar daddy for a misdemeanor charge?
Hey all,
[URL]http://www.usasexguide.nl/forum/showthread.php?11278-NoVA-SugarBabies&p=3832966&viewfull=1#post3832966[/URL]
You can read my experience there. Long story short, if they have proof that you discussed money for sex acts they can and will arrest you. If you go playing with streetwalkers and nab a popo it is not entrapment as you are likely "in an area known for prostitution". Even if you beat the charge you are still going to take the ride.
With that, this bish played me using the facts above. I no longer discuss $ electronically. If they don't sense you are looking for p4 p they will move on to 1 of the hundreds of others who will bite rather than waste time on you. I'm starting to reply to these girls "you are a cop" whenever they open up with a p4p offer. Yes my hit rate is going down, but the drive home after that encounter had me thinking hard about what I want from the hobby, what I'm willing to lose, and how I have to protect myself going forward. Actually reading the RVA SA board is a good start LOL.
If that had been a real cop (and she may have been, lucky day for me) I'd be in a very different and unhappy place.
[QUOTE=MrDisDat;3838661]Sorry for the late response guys. Sometimes this hobby can be more of a part time job. LOL! So according to my buddy, he has been talking to this lady on SA (she has removed her account) and things appears to be going well. There was a red flag but he was clearly excited over the prospect of meeting this hot looking lady that he was already discussing meeting. First mistake was to start discussing money and payment without first meeting her in person. She initiated payment for $350 for allowance as Pay per meet. On the day before they met I advised him to make sure they met at a restaurant just to be sure she's the person in the picture. She refused but eventually agreed to meet him at a restaurant in Reston VA. According to him she continue to bring about money and he continue with the conversation. They agreed to have the encounter at her place. In the process of going to her place, she said she came with uber so he will just give her a ride to her place. When they got to his car, she asked for the money and he handed it over to her, she identify herself as a cop and two other plain clothes officers appeared and told him they have on tape discussing with the female cop and the money is evidence. This is a very dangerous game guys, I don't discuss money with anyone. Ever! I have a way of handling women. My first rule of thump is to ensure that I am safe. I don't meet a woman without first having a casual date. I have some very serious conversation to feel the person. I talk about getting you gift cards and say let's have some adult fun and I will take care of you. I will literally continue to say that I don't pay sex but I don't mind getting you some valuable gift cards for you to look more beautiful but I am not discussing cash payment for sex EVER! I don't show money until after an encounter and we are both ready to leave. I leave the money in a draw and leave the drawer open and just say if you see anything you liked in the draw you can have it.[/QUOTE]
She's a nurse, but she's also very friendly, if you know what I mean.
[QUOTE=EasyGuy69;3828126][URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/01e0c739-4491-4a83-893b-efd922056222[/URL]
Anyone who has recent dealings with this one and can share, please send me a PM. Thanks.[/QUOTE]
Spot on on almost everything. I agree that almost every girl on SA can be taken to FC given the right amount regardless how attractive or not I am (obviously you have to have some standards of hygiene with you). But I found a small percentage (may be less than 10% of girls on SA) of girls genuinely don't want to sleep on the first date. The key is managing the "degree of her psychological damage" you mentioned. When I find them, I am willing to try several dates with them before going to FC. I do that ONLY with girls who never mention about the allowance until I am willing to give it. I have very strict rules regarding allowance. No allowance for M&G, or any dates not ending up in FC (I pay for dinner etc only, no shopping, other gifts etc). Basically allowance is given after the panties hit the floor and stay there for at least 2 hours. I have found two gems using that approach (a 23 year old recent graduate with no permanent job, a 30 yr old single mom). Both were taken to FC on third date, and found to be fireballs in bed, and one of them I see regularly. The total spend was less than 100 before FC date for each girl. For this to work, you should be seen as trustable by girls, you have to be patient and disciplined not to hand out allowance until panties hit the floor. May be it is rare, but it worked for me.
Stay Safe.
Dr. S.
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3836782]I think all women on SA and WYP know exactly what a man means by and thinks a "traditional sugar daddy / sugar baby arrangement" is and what a man wants from a "mutually beneficial relationship". Additionally, I also think all women on SA are OPEN to the idea of fucking for money. The cold, hard truth of the matter is that she might not be open to fucking YOU for money.
The women on straight up transactional sites like the former Backpage know they've signed up for the deal where they'll fuck anyone that comes along for money because the monkey on their back is bigger than their desire to not screw an old, ugly, smelly fat guy. They have an immediate need that needs filling, which is their next fix, or if not that, they're so close to the edge financially that they can't afford to be choosy. If you happen to call and turn out to not be disgusting, bonus for her.
The women on SA are in the middle: they're more than willing to fuck for money, but since they aren't desperate (I. E. , don't have a drug problem and aren't about to be homeless or something similar) they're most interested in fucking a successful, wealthy, attractive, powerful man who will ideally fund their day-to-day bills / tuition / designer shoe habit AND mentor them and pave their way to success in life, or some sliding-scale variant of the above. The degree to which she's willing to compromise on this ideal is dependent on a mixture of her own estimation of her attractiveness / SMV, the level of her self esteem, and the degree of her psychological damage. Her horniness level plays only a minute percentage of this algorithm, since an attractive woman can get laid any day of the week she wants.
Men who are and can actually do the above things, to the level a PYT with a princess mindset desires, are few and far between, and even fewer of those are active on SA, making for some slim pickings. This is where the alleged "misinterpretation" of vocabulary comes along. Women on SA know they have to meet up with men to actually see what degree he fits to her ideal above, but the "misinterpretation" and her ability to shame you for even thinking that "she'd sell herself like that" give her the plausible deniability she needs to go out on meet and greets. Additionally, she knows there are some men out there who are rich and / or naive enough to actually pay for a meet and greet or for a few platonic "dates" because "I'm not the kind of girl who sleeps with someone on the first date". (Cough, cough YES, she is. Just not with YOU). If you hear this kind of BS from a woman, best to cut your losses early.
This is why a smart man refuses to pay for meet and greets, and only offers a gift "once the panties hit the floor" and also realizes that a certain amount of game and attractiveness / hygiene is necessary to get these women. In the SA arena, you've got to play your part and channel your inner Richard Gere, even if you're faking it. In addition to "showing her the money" you have to "manage her feelings" while doing it. Sadly, managing her feelings usually increases costs for men.
I personally think she makes the decision on whether she's willing to fuck or not in the first 5 minutes of meeting you, and if she has a "rinsing" mindset, if you're not totally undesirable, she may see how much she can get out of you before you decide that paying for nothing isn't worth it any more.[/QUOTE]
Just to add another data point to the SA adventure, almost all girls that aren't "platonic only" (I. E. Sex-averse) are on Tinder in my area. They use some of the same pics so they're easy to identify. Keep that in mind next time you get the "I know my worth" or "I'm not that kind of girl" speech. So no, yes. You don't know and you are that kind.
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38;3837982] If they won't to go after pimps and those forcing people into prostitution, or traffickers, etc etc, have at it, but some young woman who wants to boost her income by having a sugar daddy? It should be nobody's business.[/QUOTE]Not to reiterate history, but I think that is EXACTLY why the new law was enacted. BP was THE primary market place for pimped and trafficked girls and in fact facilitated such. IF BP had been proactive and acted on the many suggestions given to BP over the years to curb the trafficking on its website, it would still be around and the law would never have passed. But hey, those guys were greedy and didn't want to do anything that would curtail their $100 MM per year in PROFITS! They were so tone deaf and egregious that the only way to stop them was the new law.
After all the Law is called FOSTA = Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act, and SESTA = Stop Enabling Sex Traffickers Act of 2017. It has nothing to do with legislating morality, your bedroom, etc.
For me, this whole thing is an illustration of how Gubmint works. It doesn't go out of its way to get in the way, but it sure does react when something gets REALLY bad. So IF Gubmint comes to you and suggests you are on the fringe of the law, might make some sense to look around and see if one can get out of their cross-hairs. But hey, repeatedly thumb yer nose at them and one will find out how over reaching they can be.
I'm just sayin'.
[QUOTE=JustLonely;3806408]She just sent me an offer for 150 through WYP today. I have no public photo there and a bio only saying looking for fun. But I still get out of the blue offers for dates. So I am guessing she is a pro like many on there in recent months.[/QUOTE]I have been talking with this one a bit ago and was going to post this note couple of days ago, but have been out of town and just got back.
I have a knack for teasing out details before I pull the trigger and I have very set parameters for a M&G IF needed and will never go past the point.
First of all, what is a traditional SD / SB? - for me this is where you see SB routinely, and I mean every week for FC, sleep overs, then travel on occasion, and "dates" to fun places.
This is not something you will get for under $15 K allowance a yr, and if you are expecting some sort of exclusivity you are looking at a something over 20 K.
Does not mean you cannot have a good FC run at reasonable cost. But those are SW (sex workers) - call them any other politically correct name you wish, or entertain their.
Fanciful notions of how the world works revolving around their GPS.
So where are these SB found? I know some and have had several 1 year trysts, so I know they come from 2 places.
1 is from the pool of LVP that expect 4 ben or more a pop. Not something you want to do routinely, and if you do it 1/ month or less frequently with same SW, you are getting played.
If never done it, I would recommend once in a while to see what real skill is. These are mesmerizing creatures. With chemistry, personality, and good negotiations, they come way down.
And can be converted to SB. Probably not happening in a small burg such as RVA.
2 is possible from SA.
Note that real sugar babies that are 10 model material and have professional careers are NEVER on SA. There are websites that are like match services and cost a ton of money to join.
AND your finances and bonafides are verified. This looks like matchmaking and is for guys with real bucks to burn. Out of my league but have first hand info from the ladies on this from pillow talk.
So back to this one. I am by no means knocking her. She has friends on SA and they all compare notes on us and expect $150-$200 for a M&G and no FC.
They are finding you on WYP also (different handles. Same pics) and sending cold offers for $150 or more depending on what is in your profile.
They will promise you and tell you all kinds of stories about how looking for the one guy and their circumstances.
They will lecture you on FOFST and that they are not prostitutes. I am sure they are getting this kind of cash, and if can keep this up why would they ever want to put out?
Think about it.
Huge red flags that immediately disqualify.
A. any mention that they are not prostitutes. Is a sure sign they are only looking for your donation and there is nothing in return for you.
Any decent pot SB will NEVER utter that word to you and sure as hell not write it in a text or DM.
B. if a M&G involves dinner. Asking for more than a token amount of money to truly cover expenses of gas, parking, getting something nice to add to clothes collection, and makeup is a sign.
They do not understand what a long term investment we are potentially offering, and what we expect in return, so they are either not smart enough or not really interested. And neither qualifies.
C. any comparison to what she typically gets, or belittlement of your approach or offer. This is sign that they know you are slipping off the hook and want to jerk you back and haul you in for a quick cash score.
There are many options in the bowl. Currently I see mostly only SW and nothing wrong with that.
Or scammers (I may be harsh but after all, a promise knowingly that will not be kept is sort of a definition of a scam in my book).
Other than that, discipline and patience will pay off when you score what you are looking for.
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/2dcd3d1a-769f-40d9-ba0e-91af7c837e75[/URL]
She and I have been talking but she's proofing a bit elusive for my liking. For some reason the littleman won't allow me give in. Any one yet?
[URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/a0445fbe-2952-4c25-afd3-5caa8b6b17a9[/URL]
Any information on her? Currently talking to her but her spproach for allowance and lists of "Don'ts" just turned me off!
[QUOTE=NeoDude;3841458]I have been talking with this one a bit ago and was going to post this note couple of days ago, but have been out of town and just got back.
I have a knack for teasing out details before I pull the trigger and I have very set parameters for a M&G IF needed and will never go past the point.[/QUOTE]Man, that was a long post without any real info on Miss Uncomplicated!
I did a M&G with her (no charge) which led to us going back to her private FC for about an hour of fun. Pretty girl with a wonderful all natural rack. She seemed a bit rushed, wasn't into the session as much as I prefer, and isn't as slim as her profile and picture project.
To each his own, but I much prefer the gals I've found on SA over anyone I've met elsewhere, especially SWs.
[QUOTE=CoolPix;3842372] I did a M&G with her (no charge) which led to us going back to her private FC for about an hour of fun. Pretty girl with a wonderful all natural rack. She seemed a bit rushed, wasn't into the session as much as I prefer, and isn't as slim as her profile and picture[/QUOTE]I met her awhile back. She has gained weight recently. Great rack but kills the mood by rushing. She will tell you what she expects right off the bat. I saw her a couple of times but too pricey for what you get IMHO. Better options out there.
[QUOTE=DrSummer;3840406]For this to work, [negotiating/giving sugar only once the panties hit the floor] you should be seen as trustable by girls, you have to be patient and disciplined not to hand out allowance until panties hit the floor. May be it is rare, but it worked for me.[/QUOTE]Doc, (or anyone else), how do you personally manage that conversation? How do you let them know that the "sugar" is given only when sex happens? In my experience any conversation that explicitly states those terms rings the prostitute alarm in her head, and the whole interaction shuts down. Do you just avoid the topic altogether and assume they know the deal?
I've had a few really, really attractive POTS, university students, who have essentially expected to be compensated their standard gift each time we get together, whether it's dinner etc only, or if we end up in the bedroom. I have a feeling they were hoping to steer the relationship toward more platonic dates than not, and cashing in for the simple job of existing in my presence.
One was a post-grad hippy who I met a couple times (coffee, and then dinner) and REALLY hit it of with. The conversation we had was intelligent and effortless, but the logistics weren't there for sex that night. She brought up sugar, and her expectations were pretty high. She wanted $400/ meet, agreed to $300, and said that a previous SD paid her $700/ meet. She also clarified that she expected sugar whether our date ended in the FC or not. I paid for dinner but didn't end up seeing her again; her terms felt too rich.
Another was a very cute asian freshman who had her act together, but she stated she wanted $12000 (basically her semester's tuition, and preferred I simply pay the bill instead of giving her the $) up front. Obviously this kind of arrangement has red flags all over it, and was probably a scam. I'm sure she would have ended up ghosting after the bill was paid, and of course I would have no recourse. I was unable to negotiate her to a fairly significant per-meet allowance. I'm not even sure I have enough spare time in my life to have $12 K worth of sex over the course of a semester.
A third was a POT I met on a business trip in a location I frequent. She was young and very pretty, and again, effortless intelligent conversation, but wanted $500/meet. I thought, doable for me as a business trip treat, and the way things were going it seemed as if she would be more than willing to spend the entire night when we got together. I saw her three times on an extended trip and based on how well we were hitting it off, offered sugar on the third date, expecting we would end up back at my hotel. She very deftly avoided the opportunity for sex to happen. When I gave her $200 in an effort to be seen as a trustworthy SD even though in hindsight she manipulated the schedule and her availability to avoid the FC, even though she knew my hopes and expectations for the evening, she was pissed and blocked me on SA.
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3843230]Doc, (or anyone else), how do you personally manage that conversation? How do you let them know that the "sugar" is given only when sex happens? In my experience any conversation that explicitly states those terms rings the prostitute alarm in her head, and the whole interaction shuts down. Do you just avoid the topic altogether and assume they know the deal?
I've had a couple really, really attractive POTS, university students, who have essentially expected to be compensated their standard gift each time we get together, whether it's dinner etc only, or if we end up in the bedroom. I have a feeling they were hoping to steer the relationship toward more platonic dates than not, and cashing in for the simple job of existing in my presence.
One was a post-grad hippy who I met a couple times (coffee, and then dinner) and REALLY hit it of with. The conversation we had was intelligent and effortless, but the logistics weren't there for sex that night. She brought up sugar, and her expectations were pretty high. She wanted $400/ meet, agreed to $300, and said that a previous SD paid her $700/ meet. She also clarified that she expected sugar whether our date ended in the FC or not. I paid for dinner but didn't end up seeing her again; her terms felt too rich.
The other was a very cute asian freshman who had her act together, but she stated she wanted $12000 (basically her semester's tuition, and preferred I simply pay the bill instead of giving her the $) up front. Obviously this kind of arrangement has red flags all over it, and was probably a scam I'm sure she would have ended up ghosting after the bill was paid, and of course I would have no recourse. I was unable to negotiate her to a fairly significant per-meet allowance. I'm not even sure I have enough spare time in my life to have $12 K worth of sex over the course of a semester.[/QUOTE]I think you need to develop better detectors of such GPS behavior so you don't waste time trying to get to the sugar conversation w / someone who is going to take this tack. I always discuss it in person, girls are much braver behind a computer screen. They don't want to be blown off, to their face, so they will be more conservative in requests. I also tell them I am looking for ongoing w / a monthly 'once trust is established', and propose an initial meet 'at extra sugar' just to make sure we are compatible. It is your job to educate them about practices, who knows how they get these ideas in their head. I have had girls swear to me their GFs got a house (in California) and car from their SDs. I don't believe it, but even if true, it doesn't matter, b / c I can't do it, not the least reason being I have a SO.
Of course, never accept what a girl claims about her past experience. It might be true, but point out it doesn't matter. If she could get that, she should go back to her old SD, b / c you aren't that wealthy. Recommended by my bowl buddy TomDickHarry, I ask them about their needs, never their wants. I had one POT who came back w / a laundry list of things. My reply was that I was trying to have an arrangement w / her, not adopt her. LOL. If any girl gives a hint of words like 'don't waste my time', it indicates she has high expectations, and you'd best move on.
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3843230]I've had a few really, really attractive POTS, university students, who have essentially expected to be compensated their standard gift each time we get together, whether it's dinner etc only, or if we end up in the bedroom. I have a feeling they were hoping to steer the relationship toward more platonic dates than not[/QUOTE]That hasn't been my experience at all. I go for 18-20 year old 9's and 10's and their top complaint about SA is guys treating them like prostitutes. I think many of the sweet young top-shelf girls expect that there will be sex involved but don't want to feel like they're being paid for sex. A few full-price platonic dates let her think "he's not paying me for sex because he was paying me the same when we weren't having sex". After that, getting to non-platonic dates has never been a problem.
It may depend on how good you are at reading people, though. I have had a few who I could tell from their attitude at the M&G would've been ones who would insist it stay platonic.
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3843230]Doc, (or anyone else), how do you personally manage that conversation? How do you let them know that the "sugar" is given only when sex happens? In my experience any conversation that explicitly states those terms rings the prostitute alarm in her head, and the whole interaction shuts down. Do you just avoid the topic altogether and assume they know the deal?
I've had a few really, really attractive POTS, university students, who have essentially expected to be compensated their standard gift each time we get together, whether it's dinner etc only, or if we end up in the bedroom. I have a feeling they were hoping to steer the relationship toward more platonic dates than not, and cashing in for the simple job of existing in my presence.[/QUOTE]I've yet to encounter this at all, but I also have avoided anyone under the age of 24. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to but it seems from the many reports out there that these SBs are really just looking for someone to pay their bills. The majority of M&Gs I've had led straight to the FC and that conversation was fairly straight forward such as, "I'll get a room and once you've determined I'm not a serial killer and we like each other, would you have a couple of hours for me?
I don't have the time or patience to build a relationship or just hang out with a sexy young thing. I'm on SA because I'm on a mission!
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3843230]Doc, (or anyone else), how do you personally manage that conversation? How do you let them know that the "sugar" is given only when sex happens? In my experience any conversation that explicitly states those terms rings the prostitute alarm in her head, and the whole interaction shuts down. Do you just avoid the topic altogether and assume they know the deal?
I've had a few really, really attractive POTS, university students, who have essentially expected to be compensated their standard gift each time we get together, whether it's dinner etc only, or if we end up in the bedroom. I have a feeling they were hoping to steer the relationship toward more platonic dates than not, and cashing in for the simple job of existing in my presence.
One was a post-grad hippy who I met a couple times (coffee, and then dinner) and REALLY hit it of with. The conversation we had was intelligent and effortless, but the logistics weren't there for sex that night. She brought up sugar, and her expectations were pretty high. She wanted $400/ meet, agreed to $300, and said that a previous SD paid her $700/ meet. She also clarified that she expected sugar whether our date ended in the FC or not. I paid for dinner but didn't end up seeing her again; her terms felt too rich.
Another was a very cute asian freshman who had her act together, but she stated she wanted $12000 (basically her semester's tuition, and preferred I simply pay the bill instead of giving her the $) up front. Obviously this kind of arrangement has red flags all over it, and was probably a scam. I'm sure she would have ended up ghosting after the bill was paid, and of course I would have no recourse. I was unable to negotiate her to a fairly significant per-meet allowance. I'm not even sure I have enough spare time in my life to have $12 K worth of sex over the course of a semester.
A third was a POT I met on a business trip in a location I frequent. She was young and very pretty, and again, effortless intelligent conversation, but wanted $500/meet. I thought, doable for me as a business trip treat, and the way things were going it seemed as if she would be more than willing to spend the entire night when we got together. I saw her three times on an extended trip and based on how well we were hitting it off, offered sugar on the third date, expecting we would end up back at my hotel. She very deftly avoided the opportunity for sex to happen. When I gave her $200 in an effort to be seen as a trustworthy SD even though in hindsight she manipulated the schedule and her availability to avoid the FC, even though she knew my hopes and expectations for the evening, she was pissed and blocked me on SA.[/QUOTE]I do not use any terms related to sex in any way as how I describe when the allowance occurs. I will tell them right up front, I never offer any allowance for a meet and greet. What I say, is that I start my allowance when she is comfortable enough to spend, "Alone time" together. Saying things like, "when panties hit the floor" etc could yield you issues.
Another thing I've found common on SA, is about 60% of the girls on there, are into girls. You can so easily setup threesomes and even mini orgy parties etc. I aim for girls off SA who want an experience, as much or more than an allowance and there are plenty to be found. In fact, I'd say 1/3 of the girls I've seen, did not even require an allowance. But then again, without sounding arrogant, I'm not a bad looking dude. I've had so many younger women want to date off of there, but I will never go down that road again.
Another thing you can be assure of, is you'll likely know within 2-3 minutes if she's going back to the FC with you, if you have any knack for reading women. Unless she is just a real awkward type and closed off. I usually know by their very first expression as they come and sit down, if I'm in or not. So if she frowns, or is hesitant, or looks at you like a disgusting dirty ole man, it's best to cut your losses and just get out of the painful dinner or drinks. Funny thing is, I had about a 30/30 consecutive run of success rate of girls I met with and taking them to the FC and then BAM, three strike outs in a row and I started questioning myself. LOL. Had I lost my game? Well all the sugar dating and consecutive days of drinking partying etc, was giving me a run down worn look, so I took a month off, hit the gym and got myself back on track. And now I've taken the past 5 in a row back. So you need to keep yourself sharp. Even if you're a decent looking, if you look run down and ragged, these girls will shy away from you.
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Never, ever believe what they "got" from their previous SD. It's a number that is purely imaginary and it's high to make you feel cheap and make you step up your budget. Any girl getting that kind of money (many, many hundreds) would stick to that guy like a tick on a dog. And yet here she is, hat in hand asking for some support from you.
#2 was definitely playing you. You would have been lucky to see her once or twice before she found some reason that prevented her some seeing you again. This one is a cold, calculating, manipulative con artist.
Maybe you thought you hit it off but basically all three were not really into you and were just trying to milk you before moving on to their next target. Keep working on your game, develop a sense if she actually likes you, and keep getting more experience. She knows within seconds of meeting you if she's attracted to you or not. If she's not closing the deal within 1 or 2 dates, you have your answer... Just move on.
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3843230]One was a post-grad hippy who I met a couple times (coffee, and then dinner) and REALLY hit it of with. The conversation we had was intelligent and effortless, but the logistics weren't there for sex that night. She brought up sugar, and her expectations were pretty high. She wanted $400/ meet, agreed to $300, and said that a previous SD paid her $700/ meet. She also clarified that she expected sugar whether our date ended in the FC or not. I paid for dinner but didn't end up seeing her again; her terms felt too rich.
Another was a very cute asian freshman who had her act together, but she stated she wanted $12000 (basically her semester's tuition, and preferred I simply pay the bill instead of giving her the $) up front. Obviously this kind of arrangement has red flags all over it, and was probably a scam. I'm sure she would have ended up ghosting after the bill was paid, and of course I would have no recourse. I was unable to negotiate her to a fairly significant per-meet allowance. I'm not even sure I have enough spare time in my life to have $12 K worth of sex over the course of a semester.
A third was a POT I met on a business trip in a location I frequent. She was young and very pretty, and again, effortless intelligent conversation, but wanted $500/meet. I thought, doable for me as a business trip treat, and the way things were going it seemed as if she would be more than willing to spend the entire night when we got together. I saw her three times on an extended trip and based on how well we were hitting it off, offered sugar on the third date, expecting we would end up back at my hotel. She very deftly avoided the opportunity for sex to happen. When I gave her $200 in an effort to be seen as a trustworthy SD even though in hindsight she manipulated the schedule and her availability to avoid the FC, even though she knew my hopes and expectations for the evening, she was pissed and blocked me on SA.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=EvilTmp;3843561]Never, ever believe what they "got" from their previous SD. It's a number that is purely imaginary and it's high to make you feel cheap and make you step up your budget. Any girl getting that kind of money (many, many hundreds) would stick to that guy like a tick on a dog. And yet here she is, hat in hand asking for some support from you.
#2 was definitely playing you. You would have been lucky to see her once or twice before she found some reason that prevented her some seeing you again. This one is a cold, calculating, manipulative con artist.
Maybe you thought you hit it off but basically all three were not really into you and were just trying to milk you before moving on to their next target. Keep working on your game, develop a sense if she actually likes you, and keep getting more experience. She knows within seconds of meeting you if she's attracted to you or not. If she's not closing the deal within 1 or 2 dates, you have your answer... Just move on.[/QUOTE]A Dean of this thread, JZLizard, has said that a girl who agrees to M&G has already decided she will fuck you if the deal is right (provided you haven't misrepresented yourself w / pix, etc.). Many people say that if the M&G ends without an agreement, you won't ever get one, but I don't agree. I actually like the dating part, and I plan / tell them that a meet or 2 or 3 is usual for me before 'alone time'. Again I think this signals to the girl she's not a hooker in your eyes, you're trying to get to know her. As long as there's no sugar for those dates, it's fine. Laying the groundwork for laying the SB.
[QUOTE=Madaboutmax;3837305]You may be correct, but I'm glad there are many very attractive young women willing to be SB's that would never consider themselves to be escorts or go on backpage. Overnights and multiple rounds with less cost than a typical back page girl for an hour.
Let me live in my fantasy world!! LOL.[/QUOTE]I echo Max's comment. Once I was introduced to SA several months ago, I've never looked at going back to the other pros. The main reason is because with two rare occasions, all of the SBs with whom I've met have ended up being so much more of the GFE than I ever got from P411, Eros or any of the other pro sites I used to frequent. Minimum of two hours, overnights, dinner, lots of extracurricular activity, and lots and lots of passion. I also suspect they are probably far more low volume (okay, let ME live in my fantasy world!) than those pros who claim they are low volume but what do I know?
[QUOTE=Kwagmire;3843230]Doc, (or anyone else), how do you personally manage that conversation? How do you let them know that the "sugar" is given only when sex happens? In my experience any conversation that explicitly states those terms rings the prostitute alarm in her head, and the whole interaction shuts down. Do you just avoid the topic altogether and assume they know the deal?
.[/QUOTE]I follow a strict process, and when I follow it, it is almost obvious to them that they have to give sugar to get sugar. In some rare cases, I may have to spell it out to them. It is all about setting the scene for the action. The process I describe below applies only to "genuine sugar babies", not escorts, UTRs and other scammers on the site. I have had my fair share of mongering in the past, but I am on SA to get a different experience. In am looking for a little bit more connection, hanging out with them rather than walking straight to the FC. Also, I am not looking for very cheap fun, and willing to spend in the range of 200-500 per date depending on the quality (although most of my dates were around 200 surprisingly). The process begins with the first message to the girl. I send a fairly lengthy message where I clearly state my "rules" such as no online arrangement, no allowance for M&G, not sending money via paypal etc. But, I don't say that I expect intimacy for them to be able to get allowance, although it is kind of implied in the message (you have to be careful not to get banned by SA), I am over 50, and don't have any pics in my profile (for privacy reasons), so I have to be pretty convincing for girls at 20-24 range (my normal target age) to message me back. Although I am assertive in my tone in the first message, I have it crafted in such a way they perceive me as a caring, and a respectful guy who is very straightforward, but shouldn't be messed with. I cast a wide net (100 mile radius) and send lots of messages. I get responses probably about less than 10% , but the ones who respond are the ones who are willing to play by my rules. At least they had the patience to read through my lengthy message.
I set up the M&G around 11 AM or 5 PM so that once we meet and if I am willing to move forward, I can ask her to go to lunch or dinner with me. If she agrees, it is a good sign. If not, that girl is crossed off (I do ask them how does her rest of the day look like when I set up the meet so that I know she actually is available). Remember, we are still under the "no allowance M&G' mode. The dinner gives me more time to study her and get in to deep conversations. If I like what I see, I tell her right away that I am willing to go on a date. I still don't talk about the "intimacy" issue unless she brings it up. If she does, I say I do expect it, but don't tie it to allowance yet (remember she hasn't negotiated the allowance yet). I would say something like "intimacy is a part of whole SB / SD arrangement package, and it makes the experience better, but it is not what this is all about". So when we set up the next date, I still don't volunteer to talk about allowance. But most girls do bring it up. Then I would say, I give allowance when I get the "complete" experience which is the foundation for a long-term arrangement. We already discussed the complete experience at our first meet. She knows what the complete experience is. At this point, all the rinsers who are expecting allowance for nothing are going to drop off. So, only girls who are willing to go on a date with no expectation of an allowance are the true SB's for me, and they are the ones I am after. They may talk about "chemistry" and "getting to know you better" etc. I will play along and not argue with them, they are basically trying to justify themselves what they are going to do. It is possible some of them still may be after a free dinner, but I had spend time with her before, I know if I like her company or not, so in the worst case I spend money on a dinner, not a big deal. From now on I treat her very well, and actually give her a small gift (50-100 range) after the date. If they are willing to go on another date we are into something. This date, I am laying out the ground work for FC by saying "alone time" or "private time' at the end of the date. If they don't agree for FC on this second date, the chances of my success of getting there at anytime is almost nil. So, I cut out my losses there. I haven't still spent lots of funds. If they agree, that is it. In my experience, when it comes through like that it is a much better experience than just going straight to FC. I have had wonderful FC experiences like that, but finding such girls is a rarity. It is lots of work though. I have no SO, and have reasonable flexibility at my work to find time, so it works for me. May be not for everyone. I guess I enjoy the 'process of hunting' not just the outcome. It is fascinating how these girls sometimes think. We have to guide them what is realistic and what is not without offending them. As much as I found good girls though this process, I also have rejected scale 10 gorgeous hotties when they insisted allowance without the promise of intimacy. It is part of the process, and you have to be disciplined. At least I had a dinner with that hottie (whom I had very little chance of convincing to go to a dinner with me if not though SA).
It is all about mind games and playing alone with all conflicts they go though with the idea of going to a FC with a stranger (I know that they know what they a signing up for, but there is a human side to it). The more they trust you, more chances of going to FC. BTW, I do expect LTR with them, so I am not deceiving them anyway either. It you are in to reading, get the following book and read. Most of the behaviors I see with SBs can be explained once you read it, and if you can detect behaviors controlled by chimp brain. Very interesting book. "The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Program to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence, and Happiness ".
Stay Safe,
Dr. S.
I think you all are overthinking this way too much. Most girls on SA that are legit know the deal. Weed out the ones that are scammers or platonic only and then have fun.
[QUOTE=MrDisDat;3841495][URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/a0445fbe-2952-4c25-afd3-5caa8b6b17a9[/URL]
Any information on her? Currently talking to her but her spproach for allowance and lists of "Don'ts" just turned me off![/QUOTE]Talking to her currently and she wants 450 to 500 per meet range, told her way more than what I can pay, waiting for reply. Will update.
Never pay over 250 for her age, I am used to younger which I did max of 350.
[QUOTE=DrSummer]I follow a strict process, and when I follow it, it is almost obvious to them that they have to give sugar to get sugar. <snip> [/QUOTE]Doc, thanks for such a detailed reply. There is a ton of great stuff in your post, and from what you wrote it's obvious I need to look at the whole sugar game a little differently. I'm going to start using pretty much everything you suggested. I underestimated the importance of avoiding the appearance of sugar being tied directly to sex (even though it really is), and enjoying the experience of dating itself. I'm too focused on being taken advantage of (because that's happened before), rather than having fun on the date.
I also like your idea about setting dates for 11 a or 5 p for the logistics of transitioning to dinner if she's impressive enough.
I'll check that book out. I got interested in psychology a few years ago while dating a woman who turned out to be borderline or NPD. Even after I sort of "figured her out" (to the extent possible) and setting boundaries that worked for me, and then ultimately splitting up with her because she insisted on constant drama and wasn't happy with a happy relationship, I am still fascinated by psychology.
[QUOTE=EvlTmp]Maybe you thought you hit it off but basically all three were not really into you and were just trying to milk you before moving on to their next target. Keep working on your game, develop a sense if she actually likes you, and keep getting more experience. She knows within seconds of meeting you if she's attracted to you or not. If she's not closing the deal within 1 or 2 dates, you have your answer... Just move on.[/QUOTE]True, the medium is the message.
I'm twice the age or more of the girls I'm going for, and I think men and women look at the sugar scene though their own lens. A lot of guys see an easy way to have sex quickly with the kind of women they otherwise would have a very hard time even meeting, much less going out with. Women see the dating aspect and imagine a very classy, wealthy, successful and well put together man, and in exchange for that they are willing to overlook the age gap to a larger degree.
So while I am successful, intelligent, classy and well mannered, I likely need to realize that I'm aging and focus on my attractiveness so you're right, I should work on my game and looks somewhat. I'm no where near "disgusting" but I could stand to lose a few and tighten up my presentation to help offset the age difference.
[QUOTE=FarFarAway]I actually like the dating part, and I plan / tell them that a meet or 2 or 3 is usual for me before 'alone time'. Again I think this signals to the girl she's not a hooker in your eyes, you're trying to get to know her. As long as there's no sugar for those dates, it's fine. Laying the groundwork for laying the SB.[/QUOTE]I'm seeing a theme in the replies here, and I probably need to concentrate on the dating aspect more than I have been. Build trust and try to create a vibe where we're both having fun.
[QUOTE=DirtyDeeds38]I do not use any terms related to sex in any way as how I describe when the allowance occurs. I will tell them right up front, I never offer any allowance for a meet and greet. What I say, is that I start my allowance when she is comfortable enough to spend, "Alone time" together. Saying things like, "when panties hit the floor" etc could yield you issues.
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I actually like the dating part, and I plan / tell them that a meet or 2 or 3 is usual for me before 'alone time'. Again I think this signals to the girl she's not a hooker in your eyes, you're trying to get to know her. As long as there's no sugar for those dates, it's fine. Laying the groundwork for laying the SB.[/QUOTE]I definitely don't use the "when the panties hit the floor" terminology with POTS, but I do like your line about starting allowance when she's comfortable enough for "alone time together. " I'll be stealing that one, thanks.