Act or Time. . . Or Acting All the Time!
[QUOTE=DJP55;2928403]Had a dream with Jessi recently. A little tough to hook up with. I did a hh figuring if it was great, I'd extend or extend next time. While she had a smokin body, she was average looking at best IMO. Great BJ but the rest of the performance was lackluster. Got the feeling she had to be somewhere else as she cut the time. And no passion IMO. Won't repeat.
Which leads me to next question for all. I had a provider tell me. 'you are paying for the act. Not the time". So if your done (popped) in 20 minutes for a hh. Or 45 minutes for hr. So am I. I said no. I am paying for your time. I understand they don't want to get to personal. But I figure if I pay for hr. At least give me 50 minutes. Not 35-40. Provider disagreed. Thoughts all. ?[/QUOTE]This is an old debate: Are you paying for the company or for the act?
When you visit a restaurant, do you go there to order a meal. . . Or to linger around for 30 minutes after you've paid your bill and your meal is over?
If you wolf down your food in 10 minutes, you do you get to order another meal included in the cost of your original meal at no extra charge?
Here's the real problem: If you're paying for the act, then the provider has every reason to rush you, so she can get to the next client and pump up her earnings. If you're paying for the time and you're, er, quick on the trigger, then what happens for the remaining 25 minutes of a 30-minute visit (if you're really, really quick on the trigger)?
Most providers worry that you're going to want to try to go again and get a second pop during the half-hour visit. From their perspective, that lowers the per-pop price to half. From a monger's perspective, who wants to shell out 100 for a 5- or 10-minute visit?
It's worse if you're signed up for a full hour visit. There are some providers. Not all, but definitely a lot of them. Who will try to show you out the door after your one-and-only pop, even if you still have 35 minutes left to the hour. Those providers may offer an upsell, or if another client is on the way, just shove you out the door.
My feeling is this:
If I've made a donation for a full hour, I expect not to be rushed out after 15 minutes. 99% of guys are going to have their first cup of coffee served within a half-hour, and the lady should know that, and 99% of providers (unless you're seeing one who asks for a gift in the hundreds of $$ know that 99% of guys will want to pop in that first half-hour. But let's be honest here: Does anyone really think that a provider is planning to be working during the full 60 minutes? No, they expect the client to be one-and-done by the half-hour mark.
So I specifically ask the provider: "Two pops during the hour?" If she says no, then I understand it's one-and-done unless I agree to an additional fee. If she says yes, then I expect to receive most of the hour.
If it's a half-hour visit, yeah, it's one-and-done. In that case it's on me to slow things down so that I receive at least 15-20 minutes of attention. I really don't expect most providers to offer me unlimited cups of coffee for a 30-minute visit. (There are exceptions, but no many at all.).
To me, it's not about what I expect. If it were up to me, I'd expect a three-way that lasts 5 hours for the cost of a half-hour visit. It's not about what I expect, but it is about what the lady and I agree to.
And of course providers can't always be open about what they're offering - not in their ads, not in their conversation, and not in their texts. Even when you speak to them on the phone, they may not feel comfortable saying, "You going to get to c*m once during the half-hour, not a dozen times."
It goes back to what I started this post with: Do you go to the restaurant for the meal or to spend time there? Most people go to restaurants for the food, not for the atmosphere. You might go to a fancy restaurant to enjoy the atmosphere, and you'd pay more to do that . . . that's like a one-hour visit with a provider. But if you're paying for a half-hour or shorter visit, it's kind of like you're on the Mickey D's drive-thru line: Once your bag of burgers has been handed to you, you really shouldn't expect to linger at the pick-up window.
Of course, you and any provider can agree to anything the two of you want to agree to. But IMHO, it's on you - it's on us - to arrive at an understanding ahead of time, otherwise . . . yeah, for a half-hour visit, I understand that with 99% of providers, I'm paying for the act, not for the time. At least when it comes to a half-hour visit.
Just my 2 cents.
Adobe.
