There's always more to the story
Just another data point, but one that is totally out of the control of the monger is that they have an AA BF / Partner who has put that restriction on them. Why? I never inquired, just was told this.
[QUOTE=VetteDrvr;7541814]To be honest. COMPLETELY HONEST from the provider's perspective. It isn't a SIZE issue with the AA clients. It is an ATTITUDE issue.
NO ONE likes being treated poorly, that particular client population tends to have a stereotypical treatment of the staff. NOT SAYING ALL. But ENOUGH that the reputation is there. IF THIS IS YOU. , or someone you know, take it to heart and help out.
THAT IS WHAT THIS BOARD IS ALL ABOUT -.
If NOT you. Congrats. And thank you for supporting single mothers 😛.[/QUOTE]
YMMV: 30 Year Retrospective (what I've learned about why YMMV)
I'm 55 - doing this 30 years. This post is a reflection on my mileage, and why it has varied. I'd love to hear your own experiences.
In the early days, I was awkward and self-conscious. I'm a good-looking guy, but a nerd. My friends call me Sheldon (from Big Bang Theory) because all I do is talk about science.
After a few hundred sessions, the anxiety goes. You're wiser. You've learned from mistakes. You don't realize how much you've optimized these interactions.
When your regular sees that you don't go through her shit when she's in the bathroom, when you always do what say you'll do, when she knows she can tell you her real name and situation and you won't use it against her, and, most importantly, that you're on her side. Things change. They invite you to come to their home. They open up. She'll call you every now and then and ask you for a favor that only friends would ask for. You deliver. And she does too.
She asks if you've been tested. She tells you where she is in her cycle. You have BBFS and you're both comfortable with it.
That's how mileage has changed for me. It's not because I offered more money, had more charm or looks, etc.
The mileage you're going to get as a new guy is a reflection of her dealing with the reality that guys will pull a condom off when she turns for doggie, or give her a counterfeit bill, etc.
For some of the slutty ones, yeah, mileage is a function of how many dollars short she is for her next fent hookup. But otherwise, mileage is a reflection of our own behavior.
So when people come on this board asking for the BBFS providers. We need to remember that the BBFS that is worth it is not bought. It's earned.
Both of you have experiences to share of value
TwoHeaded is, in my experience, right in many ways that map with my experiences. The better you treat a provider, often the better treatment you will get. This is very true if you become a regular.
But my experience also aligns with Cec00. Women who do this 99.999% of the time are only doing it for the money, and you are where they get the money. They have learned manipulation skills and wield them -- maybe not maliciously, but consciously and purposefully. You may get more because of your better treatment and respect, but another guy gets more (maybe even more than you do) because he pays them for it. Just remember Sasha in Casablanca who said: I love you. But he pays me.
[QUOTE=Cec00;7544526]You seem like a good guy and this may be a little shocking. That same experience that you have with that exact same provider will do BBFS with another client that she just met for the first time for 1 rose more. She will ask you for YOUR test but she won't show you hers. She will treat you like a million bucks and leave the date with you and do 2 other dates with guys for less money and talk about you.
That is the nature of this business and that is why this board helps keep people SAFE. Are there exceptions that are like you described, of course, but is the rule and the vast majority like I just described? 100%.
As some other Senior Members said, and they are way smarter than I am, we are an ATM to these girls. Do not let yourself fall into believing otherwise, if only to protect yourself. This shit is like boxing: Protect yourself at all times. Just my 2 cents brother.[/QUOTE]