Great Discussion. . . YMMV can be tough, but having the reviews is better than not
Great conversation guys; stuff we can't exactly talk about around the water cooler at work or with the relatives at the weekend picnic. I wanted to add to a few gem comments:
[QUOTE=Ocean101;2399249]. . .When a provider is reviewed we do our best to figure out what the reviewer is really saying. Not knowing the monger personally we have no way of knowing what his standards are. . . We all believe that, at the very least, the provider is safe and not LE. . . . I always will prefer to visit a provider that has been viewed here, on this site, preferably by a senior. . . .Now fortunately I don't find myself in these situations to often anymore but when I do it makes me want to give this hobby up and quickly go back to my (clean) world. . . . I guess to have the fantasy but reality has really kicked in for me and I know that I am reaching the point where the end may not justify the means anymore. I am now being very picky and careful about whom I dream about. . . [/QUOTE]I am sure there are plenty of seasoned Mongers out there who can relate to those words. When we get burned, we become more cautious; suddenly we want to see multiple current reviews on the Provider before we feel comfortable. It takes a lot of research (RTFF) to try and understand the Monger's likes and dislikes and whether they are similar to our own. I try to find a "Rosetta Stone", a gal that the same person has reviewed that I have seen, and then compare my read on that experience vs his. I may not need big boobs to find a gal attractive, he may never like to DFK, our preferences certainly sway our reviews. Yet, there is a certain rush to seeing a new gal that doesn't have a lot of information out there. . . As long as you can find enough to feel the situation is going to be reasonably safe and sane.
[QUOTE=WilliamMstrs;2399625]. . . More then once I have read wonderful reviews and powerful descriptions of providers only to take the plunge . . . I did not understand what was going on in the reviewers head. . .
. . .Some people look for polar opposites and even exotic or daring encounters. Some find a run down skank inspiring, others find an overweight lady intriguing, and others want a skinny spinner with zero boobs and a flat surfboard ass. . . .
Three, a provider today can look beaten out in less than a month. . .
So I guess we are stuck in a hobby that allows us to gather lots of info while adding the wild card of the unknown to the mix. . . . [/QUOTE]And Amen to those words too. The YMMV can be tough sometimes!
[QUOTE=Ocean101;2399663]. . . We all have are own "requirements". . . .However the odds of coming up with that certain someone are long giving all we have talked about here. Uncertain reviews, fake pictures, . . .I am less inclined to go out and beat the Bush. . I'm sticking with known individuals. . . .If your not having fun and enjoying the hobby then why the hell do it? [/QUOTE]Ditto on the perspective again. I think that one thing a long term Hobbyist can do is modify his expectations or objectives in seeking a Provider. Many are seeking that "perfect" woman, maybe a tall blond with perfect golden tan skin and magnificent boobs, for a $60 qv (LOL). I have found that learning to appreciate being with a variety of women, different ages, ethnicity, hair color, height, and other physical characteristics, can be quite interesting and enjoyable. Instead of being so set in my desires, and upset when I don't get exactly what I want, I sort of take what I get and find what is satisfying in every Provider I meet. Then repeat with the ones that I look back on most fondly. Not all the gals I have seen are Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition material, and sometimes you find that a gal that isn't quite so stereotypically "hot" looking is dynamite on the performance scale.
Keep sharing here guys. The reviews may not be perfect, but it's a heck of a lot better than just relying on the ads.
Seeing once or many times
[QUOTE=MoreMike147;2399665]In my short time writing about dreams, I've had three Kodak moments. Where I could not believe what the chick actually looked like in person. All three dreams the first time were unbelievable, and the girls were really into it, did not watch the clock, just a great time! The second visits were completely different. Some time had gone by and needles to say time is hard and works very fast on these ladies. They did not look the same, they were clock watching, to the point where I did not even want to finish and I just got up with one of them. I only saw the first two Kodaks twice and the third I skipped a repeat because after I repeated and had that outcome. I have a rule. I only see a girl one time. I know that might sound weird to some of you, but for me this is a hobby and I want the best and only the best for me. I do not wish to tarnish my experience with chicks who get on the sauce and start hooking up w management.[/QUOTE]In my 2 years plus in this hobby, I've seen lots of different ladies, some only once, but many multiple times. Of course, I'll never go back if the first dream isn't good. That being said, almost always, the subsequent visits are better than the first because we kind of know each other and we spend more time pleasing each other rather than exploring each others likes and dislikes. In a few instances, the multiple visits result in boredom (why I'm not married), so I move on to the next lady. The providers that I've seen many, many times are those that keep the dreams fun. Once they become predictable (boring) then I move on. That's what makes this hobby fun for me (and a lot less expensive than moving on from a wife LOL).
Have fun and be safe.
HW.
