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I guess the first question you must ask yourself is what sort of relationship do you want. If she agreed to a date, then perhaps she also sees this going somewhere. I suggest that this should be a date and not sex. Unless she wants it. I also do not think it is a pay for sex sort of thing, unless she has a "manager" she must pay. She should not go out of pocket because of your date. You should plan to pay for the date, even if she suggested the date. (I'm old school). I would not pay her for sex if you do end up having sex. It would offend her. But also you can be honest: "I really like you. But I don't know what we should do. " You could get her flowers or some other token gift as a sign of affection and respect. Mainly, I would take your ques from her. Imagine, for example, you had met her in the gym, school, of grocery store, (instead how you really met). How would you handle the situation. In fact, you could even tell her you are pretending you never had the "professional" relationship. Unless she is shopping for a sugar daddy, she will probably be happy to have a normal relationship. Good luck.
[QUOTE=Gigarange;3326523]I've been seeing my ATF for 4 years. On a whim after a session I said we should go out sometime. And to my surprise she said yes! We met up for drinks on Friday and have a lot in common (which I already knew from getting to know her the last 4 years). Now we have what I consider a real "date" planned and I'm freaking out a bit. If the situation presents itself do I go back to her place / take her back to mine? I'm afraid it will be awkward (considering what we've done before under the guise of business and for pay)! Do I pay her afterward? Also, what if it doesn't work out between us (doesn't end badly but chemistry just isn't there) - can I still see her for business? Or what if it does work out and she asks if I'm seeing other providers (I have 2 or 3 in rotation), what do I say? And how do I tell other people I met her?
So much to think about I'm wondering if I should have just left things as they were! But not only is this girl incredibly sweet, she's absolutely stunning & someone I'd love to date. Input? Anyone else been through this before?[/QUOTE]