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[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/ce395478-5327-4213-b7f7-5fbb325e1587[/URL]
Comewiths is back with a new profile. Anyone made contact with her? I reached out through her old profile but no dice; I imagine she's buried in replies.
[QUOTE=Anonyminn;4995284]I've messaged her last two profiles, most recently late last night, but no response yet. I'm VERY interested to hear from her though -- she's one of the hottest local SBs I've seen in a while.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Anonyminn;5062656][URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/ce395478-5327-4213-b7f7-5fbb325e1587[/URL]
Comewiths is back with a new profile. Anyone made contact with her? I reached out through her old profile but no dice; I imagine she's buried in replies.[/QUOTE]I reached out to her last couple profiles, nothing. I did run across her Tinder profile this weekend, going by the name "Charli".
Sugargirlmia: [URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/d4dccb4a-81a4-4e08-9377-82d925c750b1[/URL].
We had connected in the past as she messaged me on SA and texted me wanting to meet today (red flag). Wants $300 but I'd have to get hotel so pass for now.
__Skye_: [URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/269ac57a-8547-4447-a8b1-694eb09663fc[/URL].
Very attractive, nice bio, reached out with a great message. Saying all of the right things. Haven't talked money yet but almost TGTBT.
Lliillii: [URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/43edde11-2a6f-454b-b2cc-e39ed774540f[/URL].
Seems eager, was normal / cool via text. Reasonable ask for $. Just curious if anyone had more intel.
Thanks!
[QUOTE=WiseTraveler;5070848]Sugargirlmia: [URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/d4dccb4a-81a4-4e08-9377-82d925c750b1[/URL].
We had connected in the past as she messaged me on SA and texted me wanting to meet today (red flag). Wants $300 but I'd have to get hotel so pass for now.
__Skye_: [URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/269ac57a-8547-4447-a8b1-694eb09663fc[/URL].
Very attractive, nice bio, reached out with a great message. Saying all of the right things. Haven't talked money yet but almost TGTBT.
Lliillii: [URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/43edde11-2a6f-454b-b2cc-e39ed774540f[/URL].
Seems eager, was normal / cool via text. Reasonable ask for $. Just curious if anyone had more intel.
Thanks![/QUOTE]Sorry, no information to help you out, but agree that Skye's profile is intriguing. Pictures are little concerning as I usually like to see more natural photos instead of staged posses, but wouldn't be a deal breaker. She may seem TGTBT, but definitely worth taking a shot. I found it is always best to aim high on SA and use the average ones to fill in during the slow times.
Also, for anyone thinking of jumping in the SA pool, in my experience this has alway been one of the best times of year. With Thanksgiving and Christmas break they have more free time and can use extra money for Christmas. Of coarse things will be different due to Covid this year.
Bri_lovely968455.
She has a total pro vibe. She dances and is all about the hustle. Once in her room the service was poor, uninterested and unconvincing.
She also had a heavy smoke smell on her but lists being a non smoker. Avoid!
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/d459bd9e-8a31-459b-8d17-f61d4a958e92[/URL]
[QUOTE=Ryan33;5071344]Sorry, no information to help you out, but agree that Skye's profile is intriguing. Pictures are little concerning as I usually like to see more natural photos instead of staged posses, but wouldn't be a deal breaker. She may seem TGTBT, but definitely worth taking a shot. I found it is always best to aim high on SA and use the average ones to fill in during the slow times.
[/QUOTE]Almost certain Skye is a scammer. I shared my # and she said she couldn't get through with texts then her location now shows Connecticut. Sigh.
Sugargirlmia has been texting like a debt collector. I asked her to slow down since we'd never met and she was all about just meeting at hotel. TODAY? HOW ABOUT TOMORROW? SO NOON OR 1:30? Will probably block her. Total pro vibe which can be fine but the pushy ones usually don't give a great experience.
[QUOTE=WiseTraveler;5072153]Almost certain Skye is a scammer. I shared my # and she said she couldn't get through with texts then her location now shows Connecticut. Sigh.
Sugargirlmia has been texting like a debt collector. I asked her to slow down since we'd never met and she was all about just meeting at hotel. TODAY? HOW ABOUT TOMORROW? SO NOON OR 1:30? Will probably block her. Total pro vibe which can be fine but the pushy ones usually don't give a great experience.[/QUOTE]That is unfortunate, but not surprising.
Here is one you may want to keep an eye on. She hasn't been on for few weeks, but expect she will may be back soon. Lot of fun and appears to be a much better option than Sugargirlmia LOL.
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/f7458679-d4ea-4e53-b036-31a88092746e[/URL]
This one is can be tough to get an initial response from, but worth the effort.
[url]https://www.seeking.com/member/2d97a649-b864-4ead-b92b-4e62e9469574[/url]
I'm close to locking down my first choice SB for the time being. Checks all of the boxes for me (not sharing the link, sorry) but there is one who intrigues me as a backup plan. Any intel?
Brittaml - [URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/2d8a7fe4-0dfb-4cdd-beb1-d784a8b77eda[/URL].
At Ryan33 thanks for the suggestions. They no longer show as active but I did see their profiles before they hid them or went inactive (can't imagine they blocked me as I didn't reach out) and they looked good!
Hey fellas, I'm a newbie to SA (usually just go the escort route or do my mongering abroad) and was hoping I could get an idea of how it exactly works.
How do you ensure that you actually get to hook up? Can you get straight to the point and state you would like to hookup? Do you have to dance around your intentions (I. E. "hoping to have some fun" type talk) or can you explicitly say I am looking to hookup? Or is that legally iffy / against the site's etiquette? I'm not looking to pay triple digits just to share a meal and cuddle over a movie.
Are most of these women expecting allowances or will some accept pay-per-meeting? I guess I'm just asking if I can approach these women as escorts. Obviously some will be upset if they're expecting the traditional allowance and pampering arrangement, but I'm hoping there are escorts using SA as another avenue and I could approach them accordingly.
[QUOTE=BPalacio;5111555]Hey fellas, I'm a newbie to SA (usually just go the escort route or do my mongering abroad) and was hoping I could get an idea of how it exactly works.
How do you ensure that you actually get to hook up? Can you get straight to the point and state you would like to hookup? Do you have to dance around your intentions (I. E. "hoping to have some fun" type talk) or can you explicitly say I am looking to hookup? Or is that legally iffy / against the site's etiquette? I'm not looking to pay triple digits just to share a meal and cuddle over a movie.
Are most of these women expecting allowances or will some accept pay-per-meeting? I guess I'm just asking if I can approach these women as escorts. Obviously some will be upset if they're expecting the traditional allowance and pampering arrangement, but I'm hoping there are escorts using SA as another avenue and I could approach them accordingly.[/QUOTE]I had a write up I've used elsewhere so pasted it below. Short answer: It takes a lot of research but it's worth it for the variety and if you enjoy the search / hunt process. If you are really risk-averse and hate negotiating, it may not be for you.
Here's a quick guide on how to start:
Join seeking and set up a basic profile with no details. Wait a few days and you'll get an offer from the site for 20-50% off the $80 monthly membership fee. Immediately uncheck the automatic renewal box. You shouldn't need more than a month to get a pipeline / harem going. Sign up and hide your profile or you'll get a fuckton of scammer / hooker messages. Set it so others can't see you view their profile or favorite them. The goal is for you do all of the outreach. Don't even worry about your full profile yet. Just add enough that the site will let you do searches and hide your profile.
Set your filters and search. I filter out 'platonic' 'marriage minded' 'seeking trans' and anyone too tall / fat and within 50 miles, sort by last online. I avoid 'queen / spoil / get me to open up eventually / platonic / online / not ready to meet due to COVID' and anything angry / passive-aggressive 'don't waste me time' etc. They never work out. My filtered results = 8,000 but only around 1,000 have been online within the last three days. Searching is addictive so you'll probably be on a lot at first. It really is window shopping. Favorite / hide / block as you go.
Now work on your profile.
About me: Just give an idea of who you are beyond the basic stats. I don't do wine / dine / trips but I try to show I'm a fun hang and am attentive and respectful. I'm honest about my looks without being a downer.
What I'm looking for: I'm mainly trying to weed out the entitled prom queen types and scammers. "Not interested in platonic, online, or flying you to me. With COVID, I'm not going to dinners or clubs. I take it seriously and am not interested if those who don't. I can't get away that often so can only meet 1-2 times / month. Not really interested in the arm candy type anyways. I do want a connection and chemistry but am not going to pay someone just to chat or listen. I have my own friends and I'm not looking to change your or my relationship status or home lives. " You can adjust as you need but I've pretty much made it clear I'm looking for low volume Pay-Per-Meet (PPM).
Reach out to your favorites. Always note something about their profile or pics but you can use a templated message otherwise. "Hey there! I'm still getting my profile set up and figuring out this crazy sugar bowl but I wanted to reach out to you because you seem cool and my type. Let me know if you are interested in chatting more. " This will up your chat game and give you confidence if nothing else.
*Do not discuss $ or specific sexual activities on the site. This will get you banned. Connect enough to confirm there's potential, then you can share pics and chat via text. *.
*Reinforce you don't send $ in advance or for emergencies. Just say, "Even though I'm new at this, I've already been hit up for $ for surgeries, gas, emergency trips, sick pets, etc. I get that things like that happen in real life but please please don't ask or I'll end the arrangement and block you. It's just too common a scam. " I add that if they are that close to needing to hit me up for $, they shouldn't be in the bowl at all. It should enhance their lives, not be something they depend on for survival. *.
I target 6. 5-7. 5's and offer $150-200 per meet, more if they host or we go two rounds. I'll also surprise them with a gift sometimes (and I do). Some may block you or counter with $300 but it depends on their hotness level. I might try $300 but to continue, it better be world shaking unless they are hosting. Usually we settle on $200-250 which is fair as they are lower volume and more enthusiastic than pros and often allow bareback. If you are aiming more for 8's-9's, then offer $300 and accept $400 or even $500.
Set up a meet and greet. Pre-COVID, you'd meet at a coffee shop or bar (don't do dinner as it's agonizingly long if you don't click). Now you can grab coffee and chat in her car. Make sure you both match pics and there's some chemistry. One girl brought her baby to the meet and offered to blow me in the car. I declined.
Set up a time / place to meet. Reinforce that you value respect and communication so you expect to confirm the morning of and not have to chase / wait for responses. I have no tolerance for flakes. If you have to get a hotel, use the DayUse site / app. $60-70 for a good hotel for 4-8 hours and free cancellation. Just insist on meeting at the hotel before you check in. Check in and send her the room #. Pay her the agreed upon amount in the room once she's at least taken her shoes and coat off and gotten in the room. Have fun. Be respectful. Communicate. Focus on her pleasure. I've gotten freebies later because they missed just being cherished and feeling good.
If you have kinks or unusual requests, consider discussing before asking 'in the moment' but that's up to you. Many guys don't discuss condoms until they've eaten the girl out and have her revved up and then start to mount her. While that is probably more likely to work, it's kind of a dick move (pun intended).
Re: Secret Benefits. It's got an annoying token format where you buy $90/170/290 worth of credits that you then spend to send or read initial messages. Once you've started a chat, it's free to chat more after that. It costs ten tokens or $3-4 to send or read an initial message. Quick tips:
Only use tokens to send initial messages or read messages from girls you are interested in. Don't pay to read every message, view hidden pics, or send pics.
Move the chat to text if there's potential and share / get pics that way.
There are few fewer girls on SB but they are more willing to do short-term arrangements and PPMs. I've chatted a 10 am and been balls deep by 2 pm. There is a fair amount of overlap so you can also identify someone on SB but then actually reach out on SA.
I wouldn't load up tokens just for MSP area but if you are going to travel to a larger metro area, get $200 in tokens a few weeks before and work both cities. You can set up pipelines for home and travel.
Sorry for the manifesto but I've had a few PMs about the sites so I thought I'd paste this old guide in. Cheers.
[QUOTE=WiseTraveler;5114102]I had a write up I've used elsewhere so pasted it below. Short answer: It takes a lot of research but it's worth it for the variety and if you enjoy the search / hunt process. If you are really risk-averse and hate negotiating, it may not be for you.
Here's a quick guide on how to start:
Join seeking and set up a basic profile with no details. Wait a few days and you'll get an offer from the site for 20-50% off the $80 monthly membership fee. Immediately uncheck the automatic renewal box. You shouldn't need more than a month to get a pipeline / harem going. Sign up and hide your profile or you'll get a fuckton of scammer / hooker messages. Set it so others can't see you view their profile or favorite them. The goal is for you do all of the outreach. Don't even worry about your full profile yet. Just add enough that the site will let you do searches and hide your profile.
Set your filters and search. I filter out 'platonic' 'marriage minded' 'seeking trans' and anyone too tall / fat and within 50 miles, sort by last online. I avoid 'queen / spoil / get me to open up eventually / platonic / online / not ready to meet due to COVID' and anything angry / passive-aggressive 'don't waste me time' etc. They never work out. My filtered results = 8,000 but only around 1,000 have been online within the last three days. Searching is addictive so you'll probably be on a lot at first. It really is window shopping. Favorite / hide / block as you go.
Now work on your profile.
About me: Just give an idea of who you are beyond the basic stats. I don't do wine / dine / trips but I try to show I'm a fun hang and am attentive and respectful. I'm honest about my looks without being a downer.
What I'm looking for: I'm mainly trying to weed out the entitled prom queen types and scammers. "Not interested in platonic, online, or flying you to me. With COVID, I'm not going to dinners or clubs. I take it seriously and am not interested if those who don't. I can't get away that often so can only meet 1-2 times / month. Not really interested in the arm candy type anyways. I do want a connection and chemistry but am not going to pay someone just to chat or listen. I have my own friends and I'm not looking to change your or my relationship status or home lives. " You can adjust as you need but I've pretty much made it clear I'm looking for low volume Pay-Per-Meet (PPM).
Reach out to your favorites. Always note something about their profile or pics but you can use a templated message otherwise. "Hey there! I'm still getting my profile set up and figuring out this crazy sugar bowl but I wanted to reach out to you because you seem cool and my type. Let me know if you are interested in chatting more. " This will up your chat game and give you confidence if nothing else.
*Do not discuss $ or specific sexual activities on the site. This will get you banned. Connect enough to confirm there's potential, then you can share pics and chat via text. *.
*Reinforce you don't send $ in advance or for emergencies. Just say, "Even though I'm new at this, I've already been hit up for $ for surgeries, gas, emergency trips, sick pets, etc. I get that things like that happen in real life but please please don't ask or I'll end the arrangement and block you. It's just too common a scam. " I add that if they are that close to needing to hit me up for $, they shouldn't be in the bowl at all. It should enhance their lives, not be something they depend on for survival. *.
I target 6. 5-7. 5's and offer $150-200 per meet, more if they host or we go two rounds. I'll also surprise them with a gift sometimes (and I do). Some may block you or counter with $300 but it depends on their hotness level. I might try $300 but to continue, it better be world shaking unless they are hosting. Usually we settle on $200-250 which is fair as they are lower volume and more enthusiastic than pros and often allow bareback. If you are aiming more for 8's-9's, then offer $300 and accept $400 or even $500.
Set up a meet and greet. Pre-COVID, you'd meet at a coffee shop or bar (don't do dinner as it's agonizingly long if you don't click). Now you can grab coffee and chat in her car. Make sure you both match pics and there's some chemistry. One girl brought her baby to the meet and offered to blow me in the car. I declined.
Set up a time / place to meet. Reinforce that you value respect and communication so you expect to confirm the morning of and not have to chase / wait for responses. I have no tolerance for flakes. If you have to get a hotel, use the DayUse site / app. $60-70 for a good hotel for 4-8 hours and free cancellation. Just insist on meeting at the hotel before you check in. Check in and send her the room #. Pay her the agreed upon amount in the room once she's at least taken her shoes and coat off and gotten in the room. Have fun. Be respectful. Communicate. Focus on her pleasure. I've gotten freebies later because they missed just being cherished and feeling good.
If you have kinks or unusual requests, consider discussing before asking 'in the moment' but that's up to you. Many guys don't discuss condoms until they've eaten the girl out and have her revved up and then start to mount her. While that is probably more likely to work, it's kind of a dick move (pun intended).
Re: Secret Benefits. It's got an annoying token format where you buy $90/170/290 worth of credits that you then spend to send or read initial messages. Once you've started a chat, it's free to chat more after that. It costs ten tokens or $3-4 to send or read an initial message. Quick tips:
Only use tokens to send initial messages or read messages from girls you are interested in. Don't pay to read every message, view hidden pics, or send pics.
Move the chat to text if there's potential and share / get pics that way.
There are few fewer girls on SB but they are more willing to do short-term arrangements and PPMs. I've chatted a 10 am and been balls deep by 2 pm. There is a fair amount of overlap so you can also identify someone on SB but then actually reach out on SA.
I wouldn't load up tokens just for MSP area but if you are going to travel to a larger metro area, get $200 in tokens a few weeks before and work both cities. You can set up pipelines for home and travel.
Sorry for the manifesto but I've had a few PMs about the sites so I thought I'd paste this old guide in. Cheers.[/QUOTE]Wow, nice! This is SD 101. LOL.
Yes, this is a true story. My arrangement partner stalked and called my wife. Outing me for cheating. This was 3 years ago, it almost completely destroyed my marriage and family and friend group. My advice to other married guys, if you must stray, pay an escort. The "girl next door" arrangement with complete discretion is a risky way to go. They develop feelings, and when you want to break it off, sometimes they want revenge! I suppose you run the same risk with a working girl, but at least it isn't as intertwined as an arrangement where they might learn your real name.
[QUOTE=BCuddle73;5121960]Yes, this is a true story. My arrangement partner stalked and called my wife. Outing me for cheating. This was 3 years ago, it almost completely destroyed my marriage and family and friend group. My advice to other married guys, if you must stray, pay an escort. The "girl next door" arrangement with complete discretion is a risky way to go. They develop feelings, and when you want to break it off, sometimes they want revenge! I suppose you run the same risk with a working girl, but at least it isn't as intertwined as an arrangement where they might learn your real name.[/QUOTE]That is the ultimate nightmare scenario. This is why I have a Google Voice # that is tied to my work cell phone with all notifications off, also I never bring anyone to my real home, have a separate bank account, cash is king, paper trails or any trail are your worst enemy. Also come up with a different name for yourself if you can.
I see they are raising the monthly price to $99.99 the first of the year. I think when I started it was only $60 and you could buy a 7 day member using their app and think that was around $20 or so.
I haven't renewed since March and was considering jumping back in for a month. Had hoped they might have a year end special deal, but doesn't appear that they will.
[QUOTE=Ryan33;5125309]I see they are raising the monthly price to $99.99 the first of the year. I think when I started it was only $60 and you could buy a 7 day member using their app and think that was around $20 or so.
I haven't renewed since March and was considering jumping back in for a month. Had hoped they might have a year end special deal, but doesn't appear that they will.[/QUOTE]If you start a new profile and then just wait a few days, they'll usually email you a discount code for 20% - 40% off.