Seeking Arrangement Follow-up
Ended my 1-month subscription to SA this week. I pretty much contacted every girl in the area who met my criteria during that time, found a few good ones, and am going to go off the site for 6 to 12 months until I need to refill the pipeline.
Overall I was more successful this time around than the last time a year ago. Experience is key. I started understanding the "rhythm" of meeting girls on SA and didn't waste as much time as the last time around. I can see SA becoming my prime go-to in the future for finding new girls.
My stats for this run:
Girls met: 9.
Fucked: 4.
Per Date $: 200-300.
I still have a few girls in the pipeline I haven't met yet so my numbers might go up a bit and I'll do another post if that happens. But overall pretty happy. Of the 4 girls I hooked up with I've repeated with 2 and would consider repeating with the other two. I had one bad experience that I'll get to in a minute but generally the girls were friendly, fun, and worth spending the $$ on.
As I stated in my previous post, being upfront and direct from the first message seems to work best. 1 or 2 messages of chit-chat at most then try to arrange a date. Get their number asap so you can text. Get her out for drinks or coffee. If it's on, invite her back to your place or a hotel. If not, follow up the next day and propose a play date. Keep it as simple as possible. There's so many girls it doesn't make sense to waste time with girls who aren't sure if they want to get physical or want 3 or 4 dates before they fuck.
By direct I don't mean crude. If you want to go out on dates or travel, tell her. If you want a FWB situation, say it. If you're looking for intimacy, make that clear. Being blunt and telling her you want her to come over and fuck probably won't work. (Didn't for me the one or two times I tried it.).
The girls I successfully bedded were between 23 and 37. I had zero luck with girls under 23. They flake. They don't want to have sex. They ask ridiculous rates. They want to sell pics and vids. They cancel and no-show. They're just generally indecisive and unreliable. As hot as some of the younger girls are I'll probably limit future searches to 23 and up. Just not worth the effort to try and score that one in a thousand 18-year old who actually shows up and puts out.
I did get ripped off once. Texted a 22-year old for a few weeks but never set up a date. She was a bit weird but kept texting me. Finally agreed to meet her at a bar. Had a few drinks and hit it off. Went back to my place and negotiated a rate. Gave her the money (first mistake). We started fooling around and she suddenly said her friend was Ubering over and we'd have a threesome. Okay, I said (second mistake). The Uber was having trouble finding my place so she went outside (with the money -- third mistake). She said she was going to walk down the street to meet them. I told her I'd wait inside. After about 15 minutes I texted her. No response. Just goes to show always be on your guard. No matter how experienced you are at this game you can't give the girls an inch.
So a few points:
* One of the girls I'm considering seeing regularly I thought I had no shot with on the first date. She is genuinely one of the most gorgeous girls I've ever been with. Blonde, blue-eyed and slim. We had a good first date but no fireworks. Texted her the next day and set up a play date a few days later. Ended up having a great time with great sex and have repeated with her two more times. So long story short, don't think a girl is out of your league or isn't into you. Some girls are just reserved.
* Met a 20-year old for coffee that was truly the most drop-dead gorgeous girl I've ever met. She'd been doing the SB thing since she was 18. Unfortunately she was looking for 800 a date and wasn't even guaranteeing sex until we "got to know each other. " That was a tough pass. If I would ever pay 800 to be with a girl, it would be her.
* Next time I'll negotiate rates a bit harder. I did 300 for some girls that were more like 200 girls in my opinion. Unfortunately a lot of SA girls have an inflated opinion of what they're worth.
* I need to pace myself better next time. There were weeks where I tried to schedule a meet or play date almost every day. It gets exhausting.
* I'm going to concentrate a bit more on personality than looks next time. Beautiful girls are awesome but they're not always the best sugar babies IMO. Fun, friendly, cute girls are almost always better than hot, aloof girls.
* Never schedule a first date more than a day ahead. Too much flaking. If they can't meet the day or day after you contact her, wait a few days and try again. (Exception: if you're going after 30+ girls, this doesn't seem to be a problem. Older girls are more reliable.).
* Keep it local. Unless you travel for business, long distance never seems to work. I texted a few girls in Myrtle, Jacksonville, Fayetteville, etc but the logistics were too much to overcome. Exception: if she is willing to come to Wilmington.
* Don't get needy / try to lock down a girl. I've heard some crazy stories about guys who profess their love for a girl on the first date, want to wife her up, say they want to "rescue" her from her life, etc. Keep it fun and friendly, guys.
* Always trust your instincts. The girl that ripped me off was giving me weird vibes even before we met. I should have trusted myself. I lost 300 bucks for not listening to my instincts.
* Be aware that there are UTR escorts on the site. Those girls will usually negotiate a per date rate right away and want to skip coffee / drinks and get straight to a play date. But if that's your bag, go for it.
* There are trannies on the site. Read those profiles carefully. If that's your bag, no judgement. Go for it. But if it's not, do your due diligence before arranging a date.
Get out there and enjoy, brothers!
Brannigan.
Unfortunately it seems so
[QUOTE=Torco74;3920433]I just let my account expire on SA after multiple meets with expectations of 4 to many hundreds per date! What happened to the girls that were happy with a dinner then $ to $$ for the after dinner desert? Has the wilmy market gone mad?[/QUOTE]The college girls are definitely the worst when it comes to ridiculous expectations. I blame the Kardashians.
Well, the holidays are around the corner after all
[QUOTE=Torco74;3998209]I renewed for another month to find some new talent. Still seeing unrealistic allowances exoticsundar wants 500 per visit and lickitysplit4 u wants 3 per meeting. Sillylys wants 100 to meet for dinner and many young ones just want to sell pics. Looks to be a wasted membership this round.[/QUOTE]You know half these girls are fishing for 3-4 dates tops so they can buy gifts. I'll stick with my UTR ladies, SA has become a wasteland.
Definitely a lot of girls expecting crazy allowances
[QUOTE=Torco74;3998209]I renewed for another month to find some new talent. Still seeing unrealistic allowances exoticsundar wants 500 per visit and lickitysplit4 u wants 3 per meeting. Sillylys wants 100 to meet for dinner and many young ones just want to sell pics. Looks to be a wasted membership this round.[/QUOTE]But I was able to refill my roster with three regular girls and two backups (have since dumped one of the regulars). All of them cost 200 or 300 a date. Be clear and up front that you'll go no higher and some of them will come down in their expectations.
Be mindful of any SA girls from Burgaw
I have on very good authority that there is a young white female on SA pretty much constantly from Burgaw who has a little, shall we say, extra "gift" to share with men she sees? Unfortunately this comes to me from multiple sources, so be very, very careful out there gentlemen. Remember: you tap it, you wrap it! Peace.
It's Christmas time and the livin is easy
Fish in a barrel, gentlemen, fish in a barrel. Lots of young ladies looking to make the holidays complete, reasonable gift donations, it's a good time to be on SA. Don't fall for the upscale girls, there are waaaaaay too many others who are reasonable. Have fun, be safe. Peace.
For every 2 or 3 SA success stories.
There is one girl that scares the hell out of you like brie0105 up in Jax ([URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/b2692f25-4334-469b-9a18-a87c0b790a34[/URL]). Steer clear; for details, please PM me. Be safe, have fun. Peace.
She looks innocent enough
I can handle the flakes but the ones that try and scam and extort are the ones that are ruining the hobby for me. I am on site please message me details if you don't mind. Thanks.
QUOTE=NCHobbyist69;4069528]There is one girl that scares the hell out of you like brie0105 up in Jax ([URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/b2692f25-4334-469b-9a18-a87c0b790a34[/URL]). Steer clear; for details, please.
Seen her yet? Nicole 19350
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/70a895cb-705a-45a6-92a1-94ea85056b24[/URL]
She is quick to respond and eager to meet. Wants to be picked up on Mcrae near Campbell. Seems a bit close to the WPD HQ to me??
Any Information on this one. Hot Blonde
Seems hot, tine eye is okay.
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/messages/inbox/79c57b62-8ebc-4572-8e2e-3986de07f4a9[/URL]
I started to text with her and she seems responsive overall. Anyone have any experience with her?
You gave us your messages link, not the link to her
[QUOTE=Henry777;4135931]Seems hot, tine eye is okay.
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/messages/inbox/79c57b62-8ebc-4572-8e2e-3986de07f4a9[/URL]
I started to text with her and she seems responsive overall. Anyone have any experience with her?[/QUOTE]Wong link to find her. Can you provide direct to her link?
Texted her for a month or so but never met
[QUOTE=Henry777;4145530][URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/e6922cf0-61fd-478e-8665-b7fd511c952d[/URL][/QUOTE]We set up a meet a couple times and she no-showed both times. Seemed into it but got cold feet I guess. Hope you have better luck. She's definitely hot.
Seems hot for a while then goes cold
[QUOTE=Brannigan88;4145636]We set up a meet a couple times and she no-showed both times. Seemed into it but got cold feet I guess. Hope you have better luck. She's definitely hot.[/QUOTE]She seems like she is interested in meeting and then if you cannot take her up on it right then and there she goes cold. Probably finds a meet up, gets the money she needs for rent or whatever and goes back to school.
That is what I think. Her byline says something like "fun occasionally". In those cases the persistent one gets the bacon.
Where Are All The UNCW Babies?
I travel a lot & have been on the campus a few times at UNCW.
You would have to try hard to find a higher percentage of gorgeous, hot coeds anywhere else.
I saw a student in Wilmington once. Still my ATF! She was an escort & kidded with her that they must round up the unattractive coeds & ship them to Smith & Wellesley in Massachusetts.
Do SD's have or have had good hit rates to the FC with UNCW beautys?
It would have been unreal to have had that escort as my SB! At $350 an hour it would have been interesting to see what she would have accepted for several longer visits per month & overnights. She went dark after my one & only dream with her. I have always suspected a rich SD may have taken her off the market. She was so beautiful, smart & just plain real & nice. Trophy wife material.
You never know. I have a current SB that loves sleep overs. We were just together from 3 pm Monday-6 am Wednesday & I might have spent $400 between giving her $250 & meals. I've found the longer you & your SB are together the more economical it becomes. Especially if you can ramp up the cash now & then if they get on the struggle bus. This one works full time so unlike my past SB who were either coeds, a single Mom, a lazy stripper or young hot thing that wants to not be the good girl anymore, is comfortable financially.
Unfortunately I have a great school with tons of SB at home but I can't afford to Daddy at home:
Not much luck with UNCW girls
[QUOTE=DoggieFan;4154098]I travel a lot & have been on the campus a few times at UNCW.
You would have to try hard to find a higher percentage of gorgeous, hot coeds anywhere else.
I saw a student in Wilmington once. Still my ATF! She was an escort & kidded with her that they must round up the unattractive coeds & ship them to Smith & Wellesley in Massachusetts.
Do SD's have or have had good hit rates to the FC with UNCW beautys?
It would have been unreal to have had that escort as my SB! At $350 an hour it would have been interesting to see what she would have accepted for several longer visits per month & overnights. She went dark after my one & only dream with her. I have always suspected a rich SD may have taken her off the market. She was so beautiful, smart & just plain real & nice. Trophy wife material.
You never know. I have a current SB that loves sleep overs. We were just together from 3 pm Monday-6 am Wednesday & I might have spent $400 between giving her $250 & meals. I've found the longer you & your SB are together the more economical it becomes. Especially if you can ramp up the cash now & then if they get on the struggle bus. This one works full time so unlike my past SB who were either coeds, a single Mom, a lazy stripper or young hot thing that wants to not be the good girl anymore, is comfortable financially.
Unfortunately I have a great school with tons of SB at home but I can't afford to Daddy at home:[/QUOTE]I've only met a handful of UNCW and Cape Fear girls and haven't had a ton a luck. One wanted $800 a meet and wasn't even guaranteeing sex. She was absolutely model hot but there was no way I was going to agree to those conditions. I have had dreams with four college girls but two of them were one-and-done deals. Just didn't hit it off with them and didn't want to continue. One I saw for about six months but she ghosted on me just a few weeks ago. The fourth I've seen a few times but she's a bit clingy and odd and I've been putting some distance between us. Haven't found one yet that I'd like to make my main regular girl.
I agree that finding a hot UNCW girl who wants a reasonable allowance would be the dream. But it seems like it's hard to find one that's reliable and realistic about an allowance.