Thanks for putting it out there
Great perspective of being married. It is journey with potholes and obstacles. We expect our SO to satisfy / reward us but alas that doesn't happen. Jr starts to take control of the matter and we get into this hobby to satisfy that primal need.
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Take Back Your Power Position In Your Relationship!
[QUOTE=PMool44;3182272]I'm going to go ahead and give a little rant of why I, and probably other mongers, end up at AMPs although having a SO back home. Let's be real here; I love my SO. There's no one else in the world I'd want to be in a relationship with, long term. But the thing with long term relationships is that your girl ends up not doing the things she used to do with / for you at the early stages of the relationship. It used to be "yes, sure, okay!" -to pretty much ANYTHING you want sexually. BJ? Yes. Anal? Yes. Quickie? Yes. -anytime, anyplace. Do you know what happens after a long time passes? You guessed it! Now it's a fkn a battleground when it comes to anything sexual. BJ? Not right now. Anal? I don't want to do that. Quickie? I just don't feel like it. Maybe later. And when it's later. Yup, nothing. It really is frustrating, it kind of de-masculinizes you. You just don't feel like a man anymore, or even desired. It's not that I'm unhappy to the point of wanting to leave. It's more about not being fulfilled with physical intamacy enough. What do you think is more frustrating? - being single and not getting any? Or actually having a SO & not getting any action?
The thing is, that AMPs bring back the feelings. They bring back being desired. They bring back the excitement. They bring back your masiculinity of dominance & release of aggression. Pretty much what every healthy male needs. No average woman will ever understand the physical needs of a man. In AMPs, everything is just fulfilled because, although these girls are realistcally just working for $, they provide an outlet for any need that lacks back home.
If my SO kept fulfilling me they way as she did before in the good ol days, I would not look anywhere else, I wouldn't have taken the plunge into the AMP scene or the risks. With a long term SO, There's days where you'd be left dry for way too long & even make clear to what Is needed. Yet nothing is met, or in most cases, they get super irritated with you for wanting some intamacy. Real talk though. Read: "His needs, Her needs" by willard harley. It explains the real reasons why people stray away. I made my SO read that book, but you know, women don't listen. Reality of it all.[/QUOTE]Judging by the bunch of responses all agreeing with PMoo144's post, the situation does suggest one key to the fact the AMP scene is so healthy and thriving in Honolulu is a ton of guys locally are not getting their physical needs met in their intimate relationships. So, it could even be theorized the bulk of the sex biz on this island is driven, fed, and empowered by women, not men; the providers on one end, and mongers' wives and girlfriends (having pushed their guys into a position where they must seek fulfillment elsewhere) on the other end.
In every case, if you used to get your physical needs fulfilled by your SO but no longer do, this strongly indicates she has grabbed full control in the relationship. Little wonder then, and quite perceptive, when PMoo144 says,"It kind of de-masculinizes you. You just don't feel like a man anymore. " Indeed, how can you possibly feel like a man when your woman has assumed the power position in the relationship by withholding sex and intimacy? Ultimately though, it is your responsibility as a man to discover how to re-establish your position of dominance in the relationship. Once you accomplish this task, she will enthusiastically come back around to fulfilling your sexual needs. But handing her a book to read is absolutely not the answer! Actually, it is even counterproductive, partly because women operate out of feelings not intellect, and partly because the reason she (unconsciously!) grabbed control of the relationship in the first place is because she WANTS something from you and you have to figure out what that thing is and how to give it to her (relationship dominance). There are guys around, teachers, who educate other guys on this stuff, and you probably need to do your own research to find these teachers. But one of those guys is a cat named Daniel Rose. Actually I first heard of Daniel through the recommendation of another monger on this board.
I feel like an idiot and a hypocrite talking about this stuff, seeing as how I myself haven't had to wrestle with these experiences or overcome this type if challenge, and don't have an SO. However, nobody else has stepped up to the plate to offer these ideas and this info, so I guess I've got to be the one to do it.
Cosmic out.
