Happy 521 "I am willing"
There was a great post yesterday about the significance of 520 and it's meaning in China. 520 originally started as a slang word used by Chinese lovers online as a shortcut to say I love you in Chinese, like ILY in English. It then came to be associated with the date May 20th (5.20), which became a very romantic day! Show your love with 520!
I had a great day with a Chinese lady friend celebrating 520 yesterday. We had a nice lunch, did massages and hung out at the bay / beach for a fun and relaxing and romantic day.
Today, May 21st also has significance for lovers in China. Following the recognition of 520 as a symbol of romance, the number 521 also gradually became associated with love. Lovers in China have now bestowed the number 521 with the meaning "I am willing", and both May 20 and May 21 are celebrated as Online Valentine's Days in China every year.
I had sent some texts to several of my favorite ladies wishing them happy 520 yesterday. All were excited receiving the messages and thanked me for thinking about and remembering them. This morning, I received a couple of texts from 2 ladies I am gradually developing a friendship and playful relationship with. The wanted to wish me happy 521 and told me they want to try something new next time I see them and both said, 'I am willing' in the happy 521 wish. I love all these love traditions and celebrating them.
Happy 521 to all the lovely Chinese ladies in my life. I too am willing. Wink, wink.
Reality between Hobbyists is Always Going to Be Different
Many posts include the caveat, YMMV, which is the famous "your mileage may vary. " And this is because we know that to be a true statement. What is amazing to one, may be completely forgettable to another.
I've taken it to be even more realistic to say YMWV or "your mileage will vary. " No two mongers are going to have exactly the same experience even if they are close. There are many factors that go into our experiences with a provider.
Here are some to consider.
Chemistry.
You both put out a good vibe, or a good feeling towards each other. But chemistry works against us sometimes too. You or she gets a bad vibe, and it just doesn't feel right after that.
Personal Attraction.
You are her type, she is your type, feeling attracted to each other is as easy as it gets, and perfect when it's mutual. Generally, a provider will work with you even if you are not her "type" but it is more fun when you are.
Looks Count.
If she thinks you are good looking, and in good shape, for your age or at any age, it helps. Of course if she feels you are not so good looking, or in poor shape, it can affect her enthusiasm. Just as her "looks" affect us too. Everyone has a type, if you are her type or close to it, all the better, if you are not her type, that just is what it is.
Age is a Factor.
Makes sense that younger women are more likely to be attracted to younger guys and may perform better for them simply do to that attraction. Fortunately, some do like the more mature clients to play with. Mongers have a preferred age for our providers too.
Attitude can sometimes be the most important thing.
Are you agreeable, respectful, easy going, easy to like? Or something else? Of course her "attitude" matters to us too and can ruin a good thing.
Your behavior is important.
Are you respectful, even courteous, operate with permission, and stay in the boundaries they set. Do you put forth an effort to please here? Or do you treat her like she's now your property to use because you paid for it?
Is there a Pre-established relationship?
A lot of mongers get extras because they are good repeat customers. She knows and trusts them, they know her and she's willing to do more to please them and keep them coming back. Repeat customers who make them feel comfortable, even good about themselves, are valued. Even if you say and do everything right, and have good intel, one time visits can be hit or miss.
Do you manage your Hygiene, Cleanliness, and Grooming Well?
These are very important to a good experience. If you are clean and smell nice, they are more likely to want to touch you. Take notice of your hands. Are your fingernails clean and trimmed? Are your hands soft or rough like sand paper?
Do you touch her like she is delicate?
As a general rule, the softer and gentler you touch, the more you may get to touch. The more they enjoy your touch, the better for you. Touch her like a delicate woman, if she wants it rougher, she'll let you know. Anything that hurts like rough squeezing, pinching, or jamming probably will works against getting what you want.
Timing in the Day matters too.
Are you hitting the last hour of the day when she may be tired and ready to close shop? Some say they get the best when they are last, especially if it was a slow money making day for the spa. But they also might be tired and worn out from making many mongers happy through the day. How inspired about work are you in the last hour of your long work day? Imagine a 10 am to an 11 pm shift, and your last client walked in at 10:35 pm expecting a full half hour, or even an hour session!
Compensation and Tips Matter.
We know it's about money to get what you want on the menu, but not always how well they deliver what's on the menu. That can be determined by some of the other things listed here. Tips are important. Tight wads, cheap skates, and swindlers don't get too far for too long. Always tip fairly, but I suggest if you want the best results over and over again, tip generously.
Consider that it might be a bad day, or just bad timing for her.
She's having a bad day, maybe going through tough times, or just had an asshole customer right before you. She might be having her period (or about to, PMS). Try to take this into consideration if you can.
Don't assume just because one Monger posts that he just had the most amazing experience of his life that it's going to be the same for you. And by the same notion, if a Monger gives a horrendous review about someone he never plans to see again, don't assume that is what you'll experience with her too. This is why we read several reviews and do our research. All Mongers are not created equal, and so all Monger experiences will not be equal either. And thus with many providers, because there are no guarantees, you will see that YMWV!
Every post is just one man's opinion, where some opinions are shared, some aren't. That said, agree or disagree, take every post with a grain of salt and do your own homework.