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[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/cc332492-81ed-4d06-a987-7158efd35e43[/URL]
[QUOTE=Anonyminn;4981542]
Messaging was going well until she said, "An initial $200 for a coffee date to see if we're a good match is where I usually start. " Of course, I declined; we respectfully parted ways.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Spaniard21;4978855]Ha, similar story here. I let her go, couple months later she came back and said she broke her arm and needed help, she was desperate and would do anything. She wanted money first via Venmo.[/QUOTE]Two thoughts (not exactly new / innovative but.) but before M&Gs with SBs I'm not sure about (which is most), I often send these messages, adjusting as needed:
Hiya! Excited about potentially meeting but wanted to avoid confusion and as your profile says, 'not waste your / my time' so here goes. Not interested in platonic / online. If you need time to feel comfortable, that's fine (chemistry is important, right?) but I'll only cover meal / transport costs.
100% real talk: Please don't put me on the spot for financial emergencies, especially the first few months. I do not give advances or cover emergencies.
Some do cancel or get pissed but I take it as having dodged a bullet.
This one is back with a new profile. Seems she's gained a fair amount of weight since last fall.
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/f14f3d43-4875-4d4b-9491-e16dd9809307[/URL]
[QUOTE=Anonyminn;4500414][URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/e1c0a923-68c8-4a3d-a25f-34242a998be1[/URL]
Made plans last week; she agreed to meet tonight at 6:00 for dinner with a return to my place paying 250. At 4:45, she asked if I'd be willing to reschedule because she thought she ate some bad food and was feeling sick. Answer: Absolutely not.[/QUOTE]
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/dc957749-43ef-4ea9-8afd-001944157503[/URL]
"I don't want to meet up with anyone, I just want someone online that I can talk to and not be judged and just someone who can financially support me. ".
[QUOTE=WiseTraveler;4982062]Two thoughts (not exactly new / innovative but.) but before M&Gs with SBs I'm not sure about (which is most), I often send these messages, adjusting as needed:
Hiya! Excited about potentially meeting but wanted to avoid confusion and as your profile says, 'not waste your / my time' so here goes. Not interested in platonic / online. If you need time to feel comfortable, that's fine (chemistry is important, right?) but I'll only cover meal / transport costs.
100% real talk: Please don't put me on the spot for financial emergencies, especially the first few months. I do not give advances or cover emergencies.
Some do cancel or get pissed but I take it as having dodged a bullet.[/QUOTE]Exactly, I need to change my initial responses to weed out the bad ones and dodge the bullets.
[QUOTE=Anonyminn;4982617]This one is back with a new profile. Seems she's gained a fair amount of weight since last fall.
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/f14f3d43-4875-4d4b-9491-e16dd9809307[/URL][/QUOTE]Being the boob guy I am, the curves are talking to me. Must resist.
[QUOTE=WiseTraveler;4982062]Two thoughts (not exactly new / innovative but.) but before M&Gs with SBs I'm not sure about (which is most), I often send these messages, adjusting as needed:
Hiya! Excited about potentially meeting but wanted to avoid confusion and as your profile says, 'not waste your / my time' so here goes. Not interested in platonic / online. If you need time to feel comfortable, that's fine (chemistry is important, right?) but I'll only cover meal / transport costs.
100% real talk: Please don't put me on the spot for financial emergencies, especially the first few months. I do not give advances or cover emergencies.
Some do cancel or get pissed but I take it as having dodged a bullet.[/QUOTE]I also make it clear that I am not looking for platonic or online and actually say that in my profile. I normally don't say anything about compensating for meet and greet and just assume they know that there is no payment for those type of dates. If they bring it up, I just say no and explain there are too many scammers that try and take advantage of the guys in the site. I also say no to dinners, strictly drinks and maybe an appetizer. I don't want to be stuck sitting there if we don't get along.
Sometimes I would be little more straight forward and tell them I am little spoiled from my previous arrangement where if we were short on time we would just have fun in my car for $100 (which is true) If they were interested in that I could certainly give them a small allowance. Got mixed responses on that LOL.
There is a guy in Seattle that I exchanged strategies, tips and shared stories with for a few years. He was a Dr and a master of hooking up with 18 and 19 yr olds who were new to the site and some within weeks or day of turning 18. He Certainly had his type. Also had few scares with some who claimed they were 18, but that's a different story. Anyway, he would buy perfume with the cute little bag at Sephora and bring them as a gift for the first date. Said it worked wonders and only cost him about $25.
Any info on her? Profile seems straight forward.
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/98aee03e-5194-45c7-b25d-e3d207be6f75[/URL]
Yeah, Army is good to go. She literally has a closet of sex toys and is super into this. We hung for 3 hours at her apartment in dinkytown. She's down for 3 holes bare. Good time all around.
[QUOTE=DrSuess;4976267]Appreciate latest updates on Amy.[/QUOTE]
I had a good date that ended well with one of the prospects I'd listed earlier. I was set on moving forward with her until doing some sleuthing today.
Using info she shared and an hour or so of my time, I determined her identity. Parts of her story checked out; others didn't. For instance, she told me that she's a currently enrolled undergrad student at UMN but in fact, she graduated last fall and has not been enrolled since. On the other hand, she stated she's selling a home that she (ostensibly) bought with a boyfriend; her story around this checked out, including where the house is located, how long it's been on the market, and co-ownership with a younger guy. She was also factual about at least one of her majors.
How do / would you handle this issue? Part of me wants to simply walk away; if she can't be honest about being in school, what else is she hiding? Part of me wants to tell her that I don't think she was entirely honest about her bio and (without revealing what I know) ask if she'd like to correct the record on anything. I already know the name she provided at the start of our date is a pseudonym, which I can easily look past and might be a good intro: "I forgot to ask, is xxxx your real name?" "Yes? Come on." That said, I don't want to come off as a stalker.
Interested to hear your thoughts.
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/f4b5b0ac-e901-4d48-a241-363dc9b079ad[/URL]
Sent me an unsolicited offer of 850 PPM today. When challenged that this is well above market rate even for top-shelf SBs, she responded with, "Well I must be top shelf LOL. I've been doing this for 5 years. I'm young, I'm pretty, I'm a sweetheart. This is top shelf hunny. ".
What little we can see looks great IMO, but there's even better locally for less.
I really wouldn't get too worked up about it, unless there is something about what she held back is a dealbreaker for you. There are so many scammers and just flat out creepy people on the site, I wouldn't expect them to share everything about themselves on the first meeting. If you continue to see her she will most likely share more as you build trust.
[QUOTE=Ryan33;4984079]I also make it clear that I am not looking for platonic or online and actually say that in my profile. I normally don't say anything about compensating for meet and greet and just assume they know that there is no payment for those type of dates. If they bring it up, I just say no and explain there are too many scammers that try and take advantage of the guys in the site. I also say no to dinners, strictly drinks and maybe an appetizer. I don't want to be stuck sitting there if we don't get along.
Sometimes I would be little more straight forward and tell them I am little spoiled from my previous arrangement where if we were short on time we would just have fun in my car for $100 (which is true) If they were interested in that I could certainly give them a small allowance. Got mixed responses on that LOL.
There is a guy in Seattle that I exchanged strategies, tips and shared stories with for a few years. He was a Dr and a master of hooking up with 18 and 19 yr olds who were new to the site and some within weeks or day of turning 18. He Certainly had his type. Also had few scares with some who claimed they were 18, but that's a different story. Anyway, he would buy perfume with the cute little bag at Sephora and bring them as a gift for the first date. Said it worked wonders and only cost him about $25.[/QUOTE]FWIW, I say no online-only arrangements in my profile. Like Ryan, I assume they understand that an initial M&G will be uncomp'd; if they want something for it, I state that I don't pay unless we move on to another location for more fun. I'll cover her lunch / dinner since I have to eat anyway and it's often a chance to eat somewhere I wouldn't ordinarily go. They're on their own for transportation to the date.
I typically suss out their interest in a physical relationship via messaging. Also, my profile hints about as strongly as SA will seemingly allow to my need for intimacy.
I don't give advances or cover emergencies either. My current long-termer tried this early on and I shot her down; she actually told me much later that she respected me more for it.
[QUOTE=Anonyminn;4985163][URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/f4b5b0ac-e901-4d48-a241-363dc9b079ad[/URL]
Sent me an unsolicited offer of 850 PPM today. When challenged that this is well above market rate even for top-shelf SBs, she responded with, "Well I must be top shelf LOL. I've been doing this for 5 years. I'm young, I'm pretty, I'm a sweetheart. This is top shelf hunny. ".
What little we can see looks great IMO, but there's even better locally for less.[/QUOTE]This type of GPS is why I rarely mess with profiles that aren't at least a few weeks old. As much as I would like to be the first to meet new talent, it's often a waste of time as they either turn out to be fake, they are bombarded with messages or their expectations have yet to be reset. Many are dipping theirs toes in the water with some kind of Pretty Woman dreams for a white knight to sweep them off their feet and shower them with gifts and money. If they are still around in a few weeks and they are still logging on they are much more open to a reasonable arrangement.
Thanks to all who've contribute information to this threat the least few days. It's nice to have see some activity and good Information here.
[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/77796a80-90e5-4a5d-a628-1b2870e219e0[/URL]
Or at least a likely one. Newer profile, immediately moved to text, wanted to meet, never asked for my pics, then claims she'll need $90 to "cover her shift at the army base" before she can meet. Trolled her for fun and might continue to do so.
Quick way to see least make sure she's the one in her profile is to insist she sends a selfie with the fingers up. That's when scammers ghost / or tell you to fuck off.