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[QUOTE=PiedPiper77;3693859]Post needs to be in bold highlite and marked as important. No truer words have been typed in a short and straight forward way for this subject. Well said man.[/QUOTE]Have had three try to blackmail over the years for this very reason. Never ever let them know your real identity. No matter what.
[QUOTE=Henry777;3706366][URL]https://www.seekingarrangement.com/member/baa733bd-80bf-4430-8d90-8872ad45e1c7[/URL]
Does anybody have any intel on this one. She calls you "babe" almost instantly, says she has not eaten in days and wants some money for food.
But for some reason she actually seems legit or am I being fooled?[/QUOTE]1. Talk to her on phone. Remove that it is a dude.
2. Have her send pic with a note of today's date under her chin.
3. Then ask for FB and I'd picture.
You will at least then be off to a good start of figuring out the situation.
How could a girl with these looks not be strung out on drugs or some other drama? That is the question to ask yourself.
[QUOTE=MTWilliams911;3706886]1. Talk to her on phone. Remove that it is a dude.
2. Have her send pic with a note of today's date under her chin.
3. Then ask for FB and I'd picture.
You will at least then be off to a good start of figuring out the situation.
How could a girl with these looks not be strung out on drugs or some other drama? That is the question to ask yourself.[/QUOTE]Well I talked with her a number of times. She had a DUI a few months back and then the restaurant she was working at closed down for the winter season. And on the phone, it was definitely not a dude. She gave me her real cell number also. So I had two phone numbers. But nothing came up on Facebook with either number. I had her send a pic holding up a certain number of fingers. She did this.
Her pics show in general she is well nourished. But she said she had no money and had not eaten in days. She was staying with parents. She said relationship was strained. She said they (her parents) even put a lock on the refrigerator!!
So literally just before transferring a little money for food I asked her to send me a quick picture of her refrigerator. She sent picture of refrigerator. Very quickly and it had two locks!!
I checked google and the same exact picture was on the internet, picture was up on Pinterest!!
Thanks guys!!
[QUOTE=Henry777;3708245]Well I talked with her a number of times. She had a DUI a few months back and then the restaurant she was working at closed down for the winter season. And on the phone, it was definitely not a dude. She gave me her real cell number also. So I had two phone numbers. But nothing came up on Facebook with either number. I had her send a pic holding up a certain number of fingers. She did this.
Her pics show in general she is well nourished. But she said she had no money and had not eaten in days. She was staying with parents. She said relationship was strained. She said they (her parents) even put a lock on the refrigerator!!
So literally just before transferring a little money for food I asked her to send me a quick picture of her refrigerator. She sent picture of refrigerator. Very quickly and it had two locks!!
I checked google and the same exact picture was on the internet, picture was up on Pinterest!!
Thanks guys!![/QUOTE]Her profile says she is a waitress. So how is a waitress hungry? I would want to deliver her money in person to see what she seems like in person (if possible). I hope she is real though. That is for sure.
I want sloppy seconds on this one. PM me her contact phone number when you are ready to share. I would love to do this one.
Does anyone know of her. Fitnesshealthbabe I know a number of ladies in the area, but not her.
Exoticsundar.
Claims she needs pics, pics, pics to meet. Once you send pics -- no, I didn't send mine, I sent fake ones -- she says it's not enough and needs to friend you on FB to feel comfortable etc.
[QUOTE=NCHobbyist69;3715194]Exoticsundar.
Claims she needs pics, pics, pics to meet. Once you send pics -- no, I didn't send mine, I sent fake ones -- she says it's not enough and needs to friend you on FB to feel comfortable etc.[/QUOTE]Hey NCHobbyist69, your mailbox is full.
Contributing to the growing "How To" advice for crafting a SD / SB arrangement, I will mention that it is a good idea to cross-reference a girl's phone number on FB to check her out. For example, I was chatting up a local college cutie, iLMsElite, who looked promising, she gave me her number to continue our chat. I checked her out and found the profile pic below. Again, be careful gentlemen.
[QUOTE=NCHobbyist69;3716443]Contributing to the growing "How To" advice for crafting a SD / SB arrangement, I will mention that it is a good idea to cross-reference a girl's phone number on FB to check her out. For example, I was chatting up a local college cutie, iLMsElite, who looked promising, she gave me her number to continue our chat. I checked her out and found the profile pic below. Again, be careful gentlemen.[/QUOTE]You don't catch them all.
[QUOTE=Rub101;3717316]You don't catch them all.[/QUOTE]Latest trend seems to be girls flirting and being oh so close to setting up a date, but WHAM, car breaks down, needs money wired to them to get to the date. LOL.
[QUOTE=Raltime;3714903]Does anyone know of her. Fitnesshealthbabe I know a number of ladies in the area, but not her.[/QUOTE]Pm me for details.
Found an OUTSTANDING young SB this week, very into our time together, lots of fun. Not supermodel sexy body but not too shabby. Interested parties feel free to PM me for details, as she is looking for other SDs.
Had a miss as well: LauraT37 is downright mean. Met her for coffee and she was rude, obnoxious, and unfortunately loud, so much so that I had to get up and leave as people were starting to look at us. Just not discreet, can't imagine what our time together would've been like.
Buyer beware.
Have fun, be safe!
[QUOTE=NCHobbyist69;3728062]Found an OUTSTANDING young SB this week, very into our time together, lots of fun. Not supermodel sexy body but not too shabby. Interested parties feel free to PM me for details, as she is looking for other SDs.
Had a miss as well: LauraT37 is downright mean. Met her for coffee and she was rude, obnoxious, and unfortunately loud, so much so that I had to get up and leave as people were starting to look at us. Just not discreet, can't imagine what our time together would've been like.
Buyer beware.
Have fun, be safe![/QUOTE]This is disappointing to hear as I used to see her and never had that sort of outcome. She was very sweet and discreet.
Anyone here had any meetings with her?? She is very friendly and went to texting really quick. Looking for info before I twftt.
[QUOTE=Torco74;3743233]Anyone here had any meetings with her?? She is very friendly and went to texting really quick. Looking for info before I twftt.[/QUOTE]Sandy Bottom is one of the best I have met on SA. Friendly. Yes! Genuine. Yes! Not a user, and not chasing any dragons. For those of you that remember, she has a body like Shane, only much more attractive. Has the same skills. Would recommend.
Was wondering if anyone has seen her. Thinking I might give her a try. Any help would be great. Thanks.
[QUOTE=SmallWaves69;3751002]Was wondering if anyone has seen her. Thinking I might give her a try. Any help would be great. Thanks.[/QUOTE]First time really posting in this thread but I used to see her a little over a year ago. She never flaked and was always wonderful to see. I honestly have nothing but good things to say about her. She seems to be very active on SA now so I assume she is either trying to find a regular or she is just trying to get as many as she can to support herself.
[QUOTE=LarryHall81;3752062]First time really posting in this thread but I used to see her a little over a year ago. She never flaked and was always wonderful to see. I honestly have nothing but good things to say about her. She seems to be very active on SA now so I assume she is either trying to find a regular or she is just trying to get as many as she can to support herself.[/QUOTE]Thank you! I think I will give her a try. Will let you know.
If you pay for the membership, you will not regret it right now. There is endless talent to choose from. There are a few from BP but most are just 20 somethings looking for a quick buck.
How's the talent right now. Thinking about joining again.
[QUOTE=Torco74;3797817]If you pay for the membership, you will not regret it right now. There is endless talent to choose from. There are a few from BP but most are just 20 somethings looking for a quick buck.[/QUOTE]Any older ladies to be found there?
Do not contact this one. She came to my room we were progressing then she grabbed my cell phone and some cash I had by my pants and literally ran out the door to a waiting car and left.
[QUOTE=Torco74;3871549]Do not contact this one. She came to my room we were progressing then she grabbed my cell phone and some cash I had by my pants and literally ran out the door to a waiting car and left.[/QUOTE]Almost saw this one! Phew.
[QUOTE=Torco74;3871549]Do not contact this one. She came to my room we were progressing then she grabbed my cell phone and some cash I had by my pants and literally ran out the door to a waiting car and left.[/QUOTE]THanks Torco. Could you post her pic? It would be helpful to us all if we could keep an eye out. These sort of women tend to change names and user names constantly. Thanks in advance.
[QUOTE=JustFunCoastal;3872908]THanks Torco. Could you post her pic? It would be helpful to us all if we could keep an eye out. These sort of women tend to change names and user names constantly. Thanks in advance.[/QUOTE]She was my third bad encounter on SA so I got mad and deleted my account. Her page said she's 27 a cosmetologist. Something about bedroom eyes. If I had the account I'd post her pic. Had a text app number started with 910-524.
Any recent reviews on this hottie? Met her a year ago quite the body. Can't get her to commit to meeting Flakes every time lately.
Secretename774 met several months ago under a different I'd. Just wondering if any recent reviews in rl. She's been fun online but difficult to schedule!
[QUOTE=Rw284;3874787]Secretename774 met several months ago under a different I'd. Just wondering if any recent reviews in rl. She's been fun online but difficult to schedule![/QUOTE]Got back onto SA recently, LOTS to choose from. Literally shooting fish in a barrel. To avoid flakey girls, my s. O. p. Is to tell them I'm leaving on a business trip soon but would like to meet face to face over coffee or drinks or something. If they ask for the moon support-wise, I say I'm open to it, BUT we have to meet on such and such a day at a certain time. When we meet, then I pitch them on getting together that very same day at a much reduced amount. I've met with four girls, and all four have worked out very very well. Just sayin'. Have fun, be safe. And don't let in to GPS. Peace.
Figures I just post a "hey go get 'them, boys!" to this forum for SA girls, then I run into a couple of scammers. They are blondecutie21 and Bluehairbeauty. Scheduled meet w / the first one at a coffee shop, I walk in and she's sitting with a girl. I sit down, the other girl tells me she's on the site, her site name, etc. So I start talking turkey with the first girl, the second girl pushes her cellphone over toward me, face down on the table. I ask her what the fuck she's doing, the other one gets pissy; I'm thinking are they recording me? I get up and walk out, the blonde one follows me starts cussing me out IN THE PARKING LOT in front of everyone. Avoid, gentlemen, avoid.
[QUOTE=NCHobbyist69;3877479]Figures I just post a "hey go get 'them, boys!" to this forum for SA girls, then I run into a couple of scammers. They are blondecutie21 and Bluehairbeauty. Scheduled meet w / the first one at a coffee shop, I walk in and she's sitting with a girl. I sit down, the other girl tells me she's on the site, her site name, etc. So I start talking turkey with the first girl, the second girl pushes her cellphone over toward me, face down on the table. I ask her what the fuck she's doing, the other one gets pissy; I'm thinking are they recording me? I get up and walk out, the blonde one follows me starts cussing me out IN THE PARKING LOT in front of everyone. Avoid, gentlemen, avoid.[/QUOTE]That is them, about a month ago I planned a coffee meet with blondie, I walked in like I was just there to grab a coffee and saw them together. My spidey sense said run. Once in awhile I make a good call!
[QUOTE=Torco74;3877520]That is them, about a month ago I planned a coffee meet with blondie, I walked in like I was just there to grab a coffee and saw them together. My spidey sense said run. Once in awhile I make a good call![/QUOTE]Dude, you were way smarter than me!
Redheadbeauty22 is a scammer. Down in myrtle. Drove all the way down there. Yikes. Pm for info. Have fun, be SAFE!
I got stuck with a few of those a few years ago and decided to stop driving to them. If they are not willing to meet in public near me for coffee or drinks at a hotel bar where I am at. They can f off.
[QUOTE=NCHobbyist69;3891804]Redheadbeauty22 is a scammer. Down in myrtle. Drove all the way down there. Yikes. Pm for info. Have fun, be SAFE![/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=HarryPlopper;3891816]I got stuck with a few of those a few years ago and decided to stop driving to them. If they are not willing to meet in public near me for coffee or drinks at a hotel bar where I am at. They can f off.[/QUOTE]As few misses as I've noted here, it's still like shooting fish in a barrel on SA right now. I'm slowly but surely filling up my pipeline of regulars so keep hunting fellas! Be safe.
After a one-year hiatus I decided to get back on SA a few weeks ago to see if I can replenish my roster. We all know how bad things have been in hobbyland since Backpage went offline, and Skip and other alternatives don't seem to be nearly as good to find new girls. SA isn't the only game in town yet but it's close.
Some background. I'm in my early fifties, still fit and good-looking, make a nice amount of money but by no means rich. I've been hobbying quite a bit for the last three years. I've had three long-term regular girls in that time. I was lucky enough to find two good BP girls about 2 years ago and saw them steadily until recently. I got fairly close to both of them and would consider them good friends. Unfortunately both situations have faded in the past few months. (One is in jail and the other has been having too many personal problems and become unreliable.) My third regular was a girl I met on my last SA blitz a year ago. That one has faded too due to a boyfriend she's becoming more serious with. All three were mid-twenties, very attractive, very sexual, without too many demons. I realize I kind of got spoiled finding three awesome girls as regulars and only reluctantly have decided to find some new girls.
My last time on SA I was really clueless and ended up wasting a lot of time. Basically I treated it too much like a dating site and tried to "get to know" the girl before meeting and getting down to business. I didn't have a whole lot of success in that blitz (although I did find one of my regulars and one other girl that only lasted a month or so.).
This time I was determined to be more focused and direct and improve my results. Despite that, I did start out a little slow the first week. I was still beating around the Bush too much and not getting to the point -- I want to fuck for money! (And no, I never put it that directly in my messages.) I'm at the point now where I don't bother with anything in my first message other that stating my proposal in plain language. My results have been greatly improved.
By direct I don't mean I'm saying something like, "Hey you're hot, want to fuck?" I mean I'm stating my intentions and my offer directly and up front. I want a casual hook-up situation, minimal "dating," and awesome sex. For that I'm willing to offer an allowance on a per-date basis. I'm willing to meet for drinks or coffee for the first date but after that it's either on or sayonara. That's about it. Either they bite or ignore me.
So onto the results. I've met six girls so far and fucked three. Of the three I met but didn't fuck, one ghosted on me after the first date, one I decided was too young and immature so I'm not pursuing anything with her, and the third is coming over to my place this week. Assuming that goes as planned I'll be 4 for 6 on my meetups. (Really 5 for 6 as the immature girl would have been into fucking if I had pursued it.).
I have about 8 other prospects in various stages. Two of them I have plans with to meet this week and the others I'm working on. With one exception all of these girls are between 18 and 29 and above average attractive. Mostly they are college students or girls working shit jobs who need extra money. A few are mothers.
Unlike the girls you used to find on BP, these girls are generally friendly and happy, free of drugs and demons, and fun to be with. I'm not saying any of them are perfect but after doing the escort thing for a few years it's nice being with girls who aren't cynical or whose lives are a total mess.
Of the three I've been with I'm considering making two regulars. I'm hoping that at least one other prospect pans out so I have three on rotation. (Three regulars seem to be my magic number for some reason. Easy to manage and still gives me enough variety so I don't get bored.) I only have about a week left on my subscription and don't plan on renewing so hopefully that will work out.
What you'll find is you contact all the local girls you're interested in a week or two and spend another week or so trying to arrange meetups. I recommend a one-month blitz followed by 3 to 6 months off the site. That way the girls replenish and you get some fresh faces.
And now for the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly. (And no, I don't look like Clint Eastwood unfortunately.).
The Good.
* Girls are nicer than your average working girl.
* Also better looking.
* Their lives aren't fucked up by drugs, abusive boyfriends, troubles with the law, etc.
* Will go out to dinner, movies, travel or whatever with you as long as the price is right.
* Aren't fucking dozens of guys like most escorts.
* There's a great pool of talent in Wilmington. If you travel around the Carolinas and can meet girls in Charlotte, Charleston, Myrtle, etc, it's even better.
* Pretty easy to arrange meetups. Girls don't generally respond to messages if they aren't serious about meeting up.
The Bad.
* Prices are generally higher than working girls. 300 a date seems to be the new norm. I'm sure you can find plenty of girls for 200 or less but since I'm going for the higher end girls, 3 bills seems to be the lowest amount they'll take. Some insist on 4 or more per date. Too rich for my blood but if that's in your budget, go for it.
* Crazy demands. Some girls expect to arrange a monthly allowance before they even meet. Some expect upwards of 5 bills per date. Others don't want to do anything sexual but still expect to be paid. Others are straight up gold diggers (had one ask me what type of watch I wear.) Some are just plain weird. The younger girls especially seem to have very unrealistic expectations (a crazy high allowance or only want a platonic relationship or won't have sex for several dates, etc.) Avoid all these types.
* You'll get a lot of contact from girls outside the USA who are looking for a ticket to the states, green card, etc. Annoying but that's all. Delete and block.
* Some girls are weirdly demanding. I had one message me and ask if I wanted to meet. I didn't respond right away. 30 minutes later she messaged me and said if I didn't respond, it wasn't going to happen. Guess what? It didn't happen.
* Too many girls! I actually have to turn some good ones down because I don't have enough time to meet everyone.
The Ugly.
* There are scammers out there. I haven't personally had a problem but if your radar goes off, listen. There are too many girls out there to take chances.
* There are also working girls on the site. Most of you who have been around will recognize a dozen or so girls as former BP or current STG girls. I tend to avoid those but YMMV.
* Time wasters. Some girls will just waste your time and never meet up. Or girls who don't show up or cancel dates. Not a huge problem but it's there.
If you're going to take the SA plunge, I advise the following:
* Have two or three decent pictures. If you don't want to show your face to everyone, have one with the head cropped off in your public pic and a few others showing your face in your private ones. Don't show your private pics until you're relatively certain the girl is okay. Make sure they're good pics. No selfies.
* Write up a brief introductory email that says exactly what you want in non-graphic language. Say whether you want someone to date or just an FWB situation, how often you're willing to meet, and what you're willing to give for an allowance.
* Send this email to every girl you're interested in.
* Don't bother with too many "getting to know you" type messages (or any). If she bites, set up a meetup date asap.
* Once you have a date get her number or give her yours so you can text. (Do I have to mention you should be using a burner app and not giving out your real number? Don't make a rookie mistake.).
* Try to set up the date as soon as you can. Every day out you set the date increases the flaking chances by 5% in my opinion. Be flexible. If a girl asks you to meet that day, try to make it happen. They all seem to appreciate a guy who makes an effort.
* Explain that there's no allowance for the initial meetup, it's just to determine if you have chemistry.
* Meet somewhere close to your place (or wherever you take girls). Two of my three lays happened on the first date after a few drinks. Be prepared in other words.
* If you decide not to lay her on the first date (and there's nothing wrong with waiting until the second date IMO), try to set up the second date asap. A few days out is fine. Don't make it two weeks from your first date.
* The 18 to 21 year old girls are flakey and you might want to avoid all together. I've had two or three of them cancel or no-show on dates. A lot of them will chat enthusiastically and tell you they want to get together and then just ghost. Then there's the problem of not being able to take them out for a drink (I usually do coffee instead). The sweet spot seems to be girls from 23 to 29. (But if you're into older, 30 plus, there are options out there as well. That's just not my thing.).
* Don't lie but don't feel the need to tell the whole truth. I tell girls I'm willing to pay by the date and if we hit it off, I can eventually do a monthly allowance. This is true. I've done it with one other girl for 3 months but it's not the norm for me and she'd have to be an awesome girl to justify it.
* Don't feel the need to continue things if you don't hit it off. One of the girls I fucked was fun but she's just not someone I want to see regularly. It's your money, do with it what you want.
* Don't be a jerk. I've heard from more than one girl that a lot of guys are demanding and entitled. Yeah, it's your money. Yeah, you have things you want in the relationship. But don't be a prick about it. These are generally nice girls. They appreciate a guy who doesn't act like an entitled shmuck.
* Get to the sex on the first or second date (if that's what you're looking for.) Actually had one girl tell me she'd met a few guys who took her out several times and never tried to fuck her. And she wanted to fuck! Doubt that would be a problem with you lot but just putting it out there.
* Don't be creepy. Again, do I have to say these things? Be direct with what you're expecting but don't go into graphic detail about your sexual fantasies or anything. Unless it's clear that's what she wants.
* Treat your first meetup like a real date. Shower, comb your hair, dress nice, be on time, etc. The effort will be appreciated.
* Relax and have fun with it. You're not going to hit it off with every girl. So what? If she's not into it, it's her problem, not yours.
That's about it. I'm not going to post reviews of specific girls because these aren't escorts and they're trying to be discreet. None of the girls I've met would want specific details of them or our date to be made public and I respect that. Good luck, brothers!
Brannigan.
[QUOTE=Brannigan88;3900449]After a one-year hiatus I decided to get back on SA a few weeks ago to see if I can replenish my roster. We all know how bad things have been in hobbyland since Backpage went offline, and Skip and other alternatives don't seem to be nearly as good to find new girls. SA isn't the only game in town yet but it's close...
...Brannigan.[/QUOTE]Your info is spot on!
Thanks!
And a particularly aggressive one at that! Exchanged info on SA, she texts me and says she wants to drive up from SC, says she needs gas $. I say nah, you can find money to drive up then we can do our thing, etc. She starts arguing and threatens to post my phone number (which is anonymous / textnow number) along with my name (which is not my real one) on all these different boards, etc. To tell girls to avoid me, was going to report me to SA, etc. Etc. Etc. Attaching her photo, PM me if you want to confirm her phone number (I'm not posting it here). Peace.
[QUOTE=Brannigan88;3900449]After a one-year hiatus I decided to get back on SA a few weeks ago to see if I can replenish my roster. We all know how bad things have been in hobbyland since Backpage went offline, and Skip and other alternatives don't seem to be nearly as good to find new girls. SA isn't the only game in town yet but it's close...
Brannigan.[/QUOTE]One of the better write-ups I have seen in a while. I think the other huge advantage is getting to go BB with clean young women, something I did not consider doing with a backpage escort. What has your experience been with condoms vs not with SA girls?
[QUOTE=LogJammin18;3911684]One of the better write-ups I have seen in a while. I think the other huge advantage is getting to go BB with clean young women, something I did not consider doing with a backpage escort. What has your experience been with condoms vs not with SA girls?[/QUOTE]1 out of 3 BB so far. Seems like the younger ones are into it but over 28-29 they insist on condoms.