My Man, the second red flag
[QUOTE=FrogAttack;7529313]Yup, sounds similar to my experience. So many red flags, but all I had to show for it was regret.
Red Flag 1: communication took forever and was very spotty.
Red Flag 2: Once I finally got to Crap Hotel #1 hours later, I called and she was literally in the process of being kicked out and was cursing at the front desk for not allowing her to rent another night. She told me she'd be leaving out and heading to Crap Hotel #2. I watched her walk out with no luggage, just a big purse, and head to McDonalds. 20 min later she called and gave the location of even worse hotel. The new hotel was so bad that I never even registered it as a hotel when I would ride by it.
Red Flag 3: Told to park in a very specific spot. Then once I was there and asked for room, a male on a top floor room pulled the curtain back to check. So there is a guy lurking. I should have bailed then.
Red Flag 4: Opened the door and glad to see she was actually real. Very cute face, but has a gut. And not a gut in the sense of healthy weight gain. It's the type of gut that comes from eating solely Taco Bell and McDonalds. It is especially unattractive on a petite frame.[/QUOTE]My Man, here's the hard truth. You shouldn't even have made it to red flag # 3. The first 2 are more than enough to bail. Poor communication means that she's not about business or money because most providers that are will at the least text you to say something like "maybe in X amount of time" or give you a specific time. A good rule IMO is to give no more than 30 minutes for the initial response. This is because she may be seeing someone when I first contact her. I don't want them to respond to a text when I'm seeing them, so I give them that. After that, no more than a few minutes between replies. If you're are available, then act like it.
Talking to you while getting kicked out of a hotel is crazy. Like wait until you're at the next spot. Being kicked out of a "crappy" hotel is very telling. Going to an even worse hotel is a hard pass. Now I don't know what you consider to be crappy but there are a few that I can think of. It sounds like maybe you may have been on NBA. That my friend is always a bad idea. Good looking providers that stay at the crappy spots always come with baggage. Always.
Stay safe.
BLK.
Tip # 2- Married? You need a hobby
What's good fellas? I'm back with another tip. This is for the married guy. One of the most important things to remember is that because you are married or in a live-in situation, you will always be at a disadvantage. There are so many factors that you have to line up just to have the free time to get a date. And time is the key factor because without it, there is no date. So how do you get it? You have to get a hobby or routine.
For me, I had a routine and a hobby. When I was married, it was rare that I did anything more than a BBJ and my routine, allowed me to do that. My hobby was for when I wanted FS. My routine was based around my job. I would always get to work 1 hr early no matter what. That was normal for me. I also never stopped for gas on my way home except if I knew I was going to hunt the next morning. This would give me an extra 15 minutes or so. This established a daily 1 1/2 time slot for me to get what I was looking for without being suspicious. It was normal for me to leave the house that early each day. She's not going to snoop because I didn't start doing it all of a sudden.
My hobby was golf. Here's the thing, whenever my co-workers and I would go and play a round, I would invite her along. She didn't play but she would drive the cart, drink and interact with the other women. Now she didn't always come, but I always invited her. We would usually play every other month or so. What I did every payday weekend was "go to the driving range". That was my time. That was 2-3 hrs each week that I go to have to myself. That was important to her. Maybe I would go and swipe my card for a bucket of balls and then give them away just she wanted to try and check. That was only here or there because again, I wasn't doing anything out of the ordinary all of a sudden.
Now, all of this means nothing if you are being suspicious anyway. Regardless of what you do, how you act and treat your wife in your every day life plays a role too. If you give her a reason to be suspicious, she will. How you get the money to pay for your date is very important, but I will save that for another post. Just know creating a routine and a hobby takes a little time but they can be done. Doing this will allow you to be more selective and more successful.
Stay safe.
BLK.