Nateman read you post again and ask yourself
[QUOTE=Nateman;3278156]That is commendable you have your own business and it would be great for a hooker to save her cash and eventually start a legit business of her own. The average shelf life of a BP gal just isn't that long and as we have seen this past year (with 3 gals dying), sometimes their physical life is not that long either. Many of these girls have demons, perhaps 70% or better? Many of them become jaded, abused, get arrested and wouldn't make for ideal wife material. I would be willing to bet a few of them even catch an STD or 2 along the way. I have nothing against mizzz scorpio but to me it is a turn off to see a working gal come here and prattle on presenting themselves as an intellectual. She may very well be a smart woman but my point towards the end of my original comment is that she would do better in life in the long term if she went legit. One way to do that is indeed via higher education or learning a legit life skill that pays an honest wage. Starting a legit business would be even better There will always be a call for working girls but the average one on BP isn't around for long.[/QUOTE]Nateman read your post again and ask yourself if you are fair or balanced in any way in your attitudes towards the fairer gender in our hobby. There is a connection between them and us and your comment reads like you are hating it all and yourself. The young ladies who we have the privledge of having sex with or even making love to are precious. Every John who enters the room with your attitude destroys the potential magic for those of us who hoped to have an intimate moment with that lovely young lady. You should be grateful for every beautiful young lady who allows us to be with them and careful to not be that jerk who destroys them emotionally or makes them want to fill themselves with drugs just to stand out company.
RE: Average doesn't equal all.
[QUOTE=Nateman;3278156]That is commendable you have your own business and it would be great for a hooker to save her cash and eventually start a legit business of her own. The average shelf life of a BP gal just isn't that long and as we have seen this past year (with 3 gals dying), sometimes their physical life is not that long either. Many of these girls have demons, perhaps 70% or better? Many of them become jaded, abused, get arrested and wouldn't make for ideal wife material. I would be willing to bet a few of them even catch an STD or 2 along the way. I have nothing against mizzz scorpio but to me it is a turn off to see a working gal come here and prattle on presenting themselves as an intellectual. She may very well be a smart woman but my point towards the end of my original comment is that she would do better in life in the long term if she went legit. One way to do that is indeed via higher education or learning a legit life skill that pays an honest wage. Starting a legit business would be even better There will always be a call for working girls but the average one on BP isn't around for long.[/QUOTE]I get what you're saying but there are a couple of things that I think you get wrong. First, there's always the "not the average". I think MZ fits into that category. The average BP girl isn't going to be on a message board having intellectual debates with a bunch of mongers while still having the ability to manage her time to work. Just that alone elevates MZ, in my mind, to more than 'just' a BP girl as well as conclude that she's a smart woman. It's not a turn off to me. It's not a turn on either it simply -- is what it is.
Secondly, since I've concluded and proved, to myself, that she is indeed "not the average BP girl" I can't say, with confidence, that she would do better in life if she got a degree or learned a 'legit life skill' because I don't know what she knows. I'm not going to underestimate her as she may have something figured out where she's already doing better in life or working towards her own plan to succeed at life.
What I will say and agree with you on is "burn out" is very real for a provider and having a high volume of Johns is not sustainable and will eventually lead to burn out over time. I'll also agree with you that having a legitimate business is crucial. There is no way around it. You can't spend money if you don't have a way to show where it came from. You have to pay taxes or the government will come after you, eventually. See stories on tax evasion for more detail.
So, if MZ isn't saving the money she's making and executing on a plan to turn that money into legitimate business investment capital, she will, eventually burn out and all of this work she's doing now will have been for nothing. I doubt that's the case because, as I said earlier, I think she is a smart woman.
RE: stay away from Debbie downers.
[QUOTE=Purple45;3278598]Two quotes from two different girls I know: [b]"I am not worthy of love because I fuck everyone"[/b]and [b]"I no longer have any emotions. I feel nothing because of all the men I've seen"[/b].[/QUOTE]Seriously this is probably the most depressing shit I've ever read. For your own sanity, stay away from these girls. You're supposed to be enjoying yourself in the hobby not getting dragged down into hopelessness and despair.
Agree it is mostly not that way
Purple,
Agreed most encounters are not the way I described. We seek out the good ones and hopefully a series of good ones who we get to repeat with here. Preserving the good ones in the A) or B) categories you described is what us hobbyist should be about. They all deserve some level of compassion from us hobbyist. Part of that compassion is leaving when we encounter the worst ones you described so that they are not funded to keep going and drag down themselves/the business. For those who are good, we should do what we can to make it a fun a safe experience for them as well. You expressed more compassion in your postings for Haze and Muneka than I gathered from the post below. Perhaps this was composed on a bad day. Although the reality can be bleak for many of the women in this business we should do what we can to make it good and rewarding for those A&B category ladies during their brief time in the hobby. Where we can, we should also work to keep any of them from ending like Haze or Muneka did.
[QUOTE=Purple45;3278598]It really would be magic if this was reality but it's mostly not. How many John's have entered the room only to find that the woman is not so young or so lovely? Hopes of an intimate moment was just a fleeting thought once her eyes roll with the rules and the coldness in her attitude is revealed. Lets not forget the greediness of overbooking and the parking lot waiting hoping it really is just "5 more minutes". Then there is the passing of another John in the lobby and you arrive only to find that she skipped the shower, because she is more concerned about her phone or a quick smoke. It only gets worse from there with the messy room, the overflowing trash can, the friend in the bathroom, and most importantly the lack of service. Nateman is correct about most BP girls and we have all seen the change for the worse the longer these girls choose this business as way of life. The good ones you do find are A) the ones who are new to the business and haven't lost what innocence they still have left or B) the ones who live a double a life trying to separate the business from their personal life but sooner, rather then later, the lines become blurred. In the end, no matter how strong a girl is, she will lose something that she will never get back.
Two quotes from two different girls I know: "I am not worthy of love because I fuck everyone" and "I no longer have any emotions. I feel nothing because of all the men I've seen".[/QUOTE]
RE: You're missing the point.
[QUOTE=NotDesprt;3279214]Purple hit on something I've often wondered. There are several local Backpage girls who have been doing this since the age of 18. Some continuously for 4 5 even 6 or 7 years. Day in and out. I'm sure some can and will always bring up the fact they have made and make good money as a justification. But how do they look at themselves and what do they see and feel about the girl in the mirror. Coming off a day where they sacrificed their bodies to 5 6 or even 7 or 8 men a day every day. Fucking them in every way they can giving up thier mouth for head to different cocks all day and having men's junk shot all over them. Pretty descriptive but that's it no sugar coating. Will they ever be able to adjust to s meaningful relationship when dreams are filled with visions of numerous men they have been with. Kind of a sad picture in my mind. And what about when they go out with family or friend when you to have a good time constantly fearing your going to run in to clients. What a life. I give these women nothing but respect I'm not going to add to any fears or cause them to view themselves in anything. It a kind way. And finally most don't have any skill set but sex. Adjusting in to a legit world will take some time.[/QUOTE]Giving it too much thought. Just see a girl, get off, and move on with your life. It's supposed to be fun. A fantasy. Your fantasy. Don't turn the dream into a nightmare. The last thing on my mind is how many she saw before me. I don't fucking care about that. That's not my business. I'm there to handle my business and have fun doing it. You're not going to be able to get off with this type of mindset. That's just my perspective. You do what you want. It just doesn't seem like you guys are enjoying yourselves. Hobbying is supposed to be an escape from real life not an exercise in psychoanalysis of a provider. Snap out of it boys!
Deep thoughts, and lately I'm Jack Handy
[QUOTE=Purple45;3278598]It really would be magic if this was reality but it's mostly not. How many John's have entered the room only to find that the woman is not so young or so lovely? Hopes of an intimate moment was just a fleeting thought once her eyes roll with the rules and the coldness in her attitude is revealed. Lets not forget the greediness of overbooking and the parking lot waiting hoping it really is just "5 more minutes". Then there is the passing of another John in the lobby and you arrive only to find that she skipped the shower, because she is more concerned about her phone or a quick smoke. It only gets worse from there with the messy room, the overflowing trash can, the friend in the bathroom, and most importantly the lack of service. Nateman is correct about most BP girls and we have all seen the change for the worse the longer these girls choose this business as way of life. The good ones you do find are A) the ones who are new to the business and haven't lost what innocence they still have left or B) the ones who live a double a life trying to separate the business from their personal life but sooner, rather then later, the lines become blurred. In the end, no matter how strong a girl is, she will lose something that she will never get back.
Two quotes from two different girls I know: "I am not worthy of love because I fuck everyone" and "I no longer have any emotions. I feel nothing because of all the men I've seen".[/QUOTE]Well said. I have followed this forum lately since there seems to be nothing much to read on the REVIEW boards. This Hobby has not turned out to be what I expected. I got in hoping to find my mojo again. I read up on etiquette and followed reviews for a long time. First date was great but the provider was much older than photos. Still very good. But then I discovered the reality of demons, cold emotions, high volume and questionable hygiene. I am the type that needs a connection; still searching. A forced break allowed me to reflect and I have spent a lot more time recently with my ATF, Ms. Pink Lady, LOL! And speaking of disappointments, my most memorable quote from a provider that confirmed what my wife taught me, "I haven't had a real orgasm in 2 years".
Sometimes providers pick us
[QUOTE=NotDesprt;3279890]OK I Digressed. Had a mental break with reality and fell in to a discussion of Freudian thought. Got to get back to the basics and I'll be coming home with a big smile once again. Thanks guys. Needed a slap upside my head to bring me back. Think I'll go get laid today it's been a while. Inara PM me a clue you seem like you got it together. I'll pay you a visit.[/QUOTE]You can't act like an ass and then tell a good provider I'll come see you as if you're doing her a favor. I don't want to speak for Inaraincognito but I wouldn't hold my breath on her pm'ing you. Just don't want your feelings to get hurt and go off on another rant and then regretting it again. Take a break, my man. Go fuck your wife and play with the kids a bit. Man, I'm so happy I'm single. These married dudes get Jedi mind fucked by their wives and then take out their aggression on providers. Fucks everything up for the rest of us. Or it makes some of us look like rockstars compared to them.