Local Korean Point of View
Been reading the posts in the past and have just begin to post myself. My background: Half Korean/Half Japanese (Korean Mom), born in Kalihi, my best friend is Viet/Black. We may have an edge because we can understand what the girls are saying because I look Japanese and my friend looks polynesian, but just use common sense when dealing with these girls. You do not want a real relationship with these girl's, they will eventually burn you hard. The trick is to make them think it's a real relationship when you know it's only a sexual relationship. If you fall emotionally for one of these girls, trust me, it's only lust and not love. Both of us are not the marrying type but love the chase of some fondling or offsite sex (if our charm works that night). Had a KB-girlfriend for 5 years and she told me a lot about the games. Most (99%) if not all the girls that work in bars have some sort of serious mental/financial/emotional baggage. Asian's have pride, to work in bar is degrading, but neccessary because of their situations. That's how desparate and screwed-up they are. They will do what they need to, to make $. My girlfriend says, If a girl likes you (relationship-wise) she will not ask you to buy her drinks, after the 1st meeting. She knows from the 1st meeting if there's a attraction to you or just your money from the 1st time she sits with you. 20% of the girls are looking for a relationship. Out of that 20%, 15% want you to totally take care of them (mainly financial), so only 5% want a normal 50/50 relationship. Korean view sex as very sacred, most won't give it up unless you are marriage material. The most useful thing my girlfriend said was, men think the girl has power because of her p*s*y, but the girl's know the man has the power because he has the money. The girl's also know men think with their small heads 1st, therefore, the bar's keep going on, and your wallet keeps shrinking. The pretty one's know they are pretty and can get away with less giving-in. If you don't get what you want the 1st night, move on. The girl's will catch on, they are smarter than you think, and we'll get more bang for our bucks. And we all need more bang! Hope this helps. It's a battle of wills. And reading the posts, the girl's will to keep their knees together seems to winning over our will to think with our big heads.