Driving and finding what one might be looking for
[QUOTE=CephlapodLove;2869392]Hey, hate to sound harsh. But good mongering looks easy, consistent safe mongering is anything but easy?
Have you read and memorized the 22 Rules?
Have you internalized the strategies for dealing with LE as laid out in the first 20-minutes of the "Busted: A citizen's Guide to. " video?
When I started out, I drove the strolls for several months to get my eye trained, understand the traffic and figure out where LE was likely "hiding. " Anything worth doing takes a little time to learn. Can you take short cuts? Sure! But ignorance (lack of education) and thinking with the little head aren't good ways in my opinion of managing the risk of this hobby. Many don't heed the advice others would give here and many wander through the Court System too!
So have patience with yourself as you learn the traffic patterns, learn how to spot the girls, learn how to find LE, learn how to get the look, learn how to scoop a girl.Good luck & stay safe![/QUOTE]
That's some excellent advice from someone that knows his way to the candy store and back home again without getting into any trouble.
It is the guys like CL that have done it all and seen it all that you will learn the most from. These are the guys that have cut through all the underbrush and found the rose. Seriously.
Sometimes I myself will go home empty handed. That's a choice I make. Because every and I mean every time I hit the asphalt jungle I do see some girls. They aren't all jumping up and down saying here I am. There is a fair share of those out there also. So they are there. Girls you may think don't even know what a monger is are sometimes your best bet. One needs to find their own comfort zone in which to work. Finding out what works for them and sticking with it is the best way to find and get girls. Watch whats going on with others that are doing what you are doing. Whether they make mistakes and what the consequences might be.
Not bragging, but I constantly get asked where I find the girls I do. It's because I don't get intimidated with my approach. As some of you know I am handicapped. If I told the rest of you what my handicap is you wouldn't believe that I still get almost any girl I want. So, truth be told, if I can do it so can you. Never be afraid to get shot down. There are worse things that can happen. Especially down the way.
As CL says above, have patients, learn from your mistakes. Go with the flow and lay low. Hang loose and be full of juice.
It has been my constant habit when driving the Ave to scan the sidewalks and upcoming streets about 4-5 cars ahead. Yes I try to be mindful of my immediate surroundings. But if you train your eyes to scan ahead there are a few benefits. First you see what interests you before you are right on top of her. Also mentally you can pull off to the side without causing an accident or a scene. I don't know how many times I've been driving on the Ave and someone right in front of me sees the same girl I see. He goes ass over teakettle to pull over. Making it totally obvious what he's doing. Usually the girl sees the blatant approach and knows if there is LEO close by. If there is she won't even bother with him. I've also seen LEO pull right in behind stops like that and then the guy has a compounded problem.
This is just my way of doing a nonchalant stop. First thing after I stop I cut the lights. I keep my dome light in the off position always. That way if LEO is down the street he can't see if my vehicle door opens. Then I take my phone out and immediately place a text to my second phone. I wont get a response. So I immediately follow it up with this text. Hey Ralph, tried to roust you tonight. Guess you are busy. TTYL. That way if I am approached by LEO I can prove I stopped to place a phone text. Perfectly legal. There are many things one can do to remain safe. One never knows how important this advice is until they need to use it. The biggest thing and most important is to remain alert. Me, I'm just an 'OL Gator.
You didn't come across as harsh at all
Yeah for me the roads and driving are going to take a while to develop its not exactly covered in the DMV book.
Also yeah I've got the 22 rules and flexyourrights also Gator texting your second phone smart I would never have thought of that.
22 Rules for Street Mongering
[QUOTE=Bond007;2874623]Her addiction in high gear, keep a hand on your wallet![/QUOTE]EXACTLY! Rules #17 and #18 should be ingrained in every monger.
[URL]http://www.usasexguide.info/forum/custompages.php?pageid=MongeringRules[/URL]
Risk Tolerance - Know your limits
[QUOTE=JamesGlia;2875071]I did try to be as careful as possible and I could see a real difference in her and that was only about after a 4 week period. In fact, the first time I went to her place she needed to medicate herself just before the main event. That is the first time someone did that in front of me, freaked me out but I could not leave. The setup of their apartment is not an easy one to just leave from. Does the mom work the crowd too? There were two guys there that I am told were her boyfriends but I tried not to make eye contact. I would agree, her addiction is more rampant and that is just based on her change in appearance and change in her disregard for the money she would take.[/QUOTE]
Hey, thanks for the report! I dunno dude, some of the things you state are such that I would NEVER seek her out if this is the case. But several things here are instructive as ways to look at risk, so no offense intended - just some comments.
[I]the first time I went to her place she needed to medicate herself just before the main event[/I]
Eh, this is bad but NOT totally fatal. However, if you gave her money up front so she could get her drugs, then that is a problem. I have done that before and the girl disappears, never to return. I would NEVER allow a girl to buy dope (or any drugs) in my presence. Period. Drug charges are felonies that don't go away easily and being there puts you at risk of getting arrested too. Doesn't matter if you didn't hand any money to a dealer, Cops CAN and will arrest you and let the courts sort it out. That amigo is just too risky for me personally.
[I]The setup of their apartment is not an easy one to just leave from.[/I]
WTF! For me this is a [b][color=red]BIG red flag![/color][/b] HUGE! Any time I monger I realize I am the only one able to watch my back, so I always have a free & clear escape route. I never go into a situation where there is no easy exit and if that means not doing a date, then so be it. Safety to me is more important than any nut.
[I]There were two guys there that I am told were her boyfriends but I tried not to make eye contact.[/I]
OMG! Adding any dude or dudes into the mix, is for me a non-starter. A girl I can usually control, but a third party, especially a guy can mean serious trouble. But guys I can not make eye contact with? For me that is like a dog showing its belly- it demonstrates I am looking down in their presence and as such suggesting their superiority and my weakness. Now I know my limitations when it comes to street smarts, but that seems like something I wouldn't do. If I can't look a dude in the eye and give a head nod of mutual acceptance, I am out! If I had seen that I would have bounced, immediately.
So here you have two different styles of managing risk. Point is that I wasn't there, but to me it looks like more risk than I would want to take. Each monger needs to recognize potential risk and evaluate their ability to and willingness to handle situations if "things go bad. " Clearly this dude has a different risk tolerance structure than I do.
I'm just sayin'.
[i]maybe there are methods for managing the risks I noted? methods or techniques that I am missing? I'd be interested to learn anything, as we are constantly learning in this hobby.[/i]
Rachel funny you should ask
[QUOTE=SoulProvider;2875628]I've been reading the post on this site and have learned a LOT. I still have a lot of questions and will continue to read and learn. I've been more of a Strip club monger-er (sp?) than a BP or a SW one, although I've tired them both.
The #22 rules are extremely helpful. But not as much as the personal stories, good or bad. So Thank You for all the knowledge and help gents.
And if I've learned one thing, it's that I've definitely been over paying. I've been gone for about a year, has anyone seen a girl name Rachel recent? I will post an attachment later.[/QUOTE]Now which of the three Rachels that work out there are you referring to. The one that works Letterly the punk rockin little bundle of fun or the other one? Just asking so I can maybe assist. Me, I'm just an 'OL Gator.
Who here remembers Sarah Smiles?
Recently been in touch with the little minx. She's said I could share her digits "yes, now, asap, plez" senior members let me know.
Jackie. Okay as long as everything in reach is nailed down.
So, I was out and about on the K last night and on Jasper, north of Huntingdon, ran into Jackie, a blond WSW. Fairly pretty face, pretty sure she's been reviewed here before. She agreed to. 30 for a BBBJ, so we went to a discreet spot. On the way, she was nodding a little, so I was already writing this one off. She perked up when we got there, and gave me a decent BBBJ but toward the end her effort was pretty half-assed, complaining I was big, etc. , and dodging at the critical moment. I was disinclined to give her a tip as she asked for, so I didn't. Dropped her off at the Chinese joint just south of Somerset on the way back and instantly after doing so, noticed that my high-end vape was missing, so I turned right around, marched myself back into the Chinese joint and demanded it back. She denied taking it, but I could see it in her handbag, so I told her to walk out of the store before I got angry, which she did. She got back into the front seat. I told her I knew she had it, I could see it, and I'd be willing to give her $10 for it back since it would save me the trouble of replacing it, and if she didn't, things were going to get very bad for her very quickly. She thought it over for a sec and gave it up. I reached behind her and took out my 9 mm (which I legally carry) and told her she made a good choice, and to get out of my sight and stay there. She did so, in a hurry. Not that I was going to risk going to jail for a vaporizer, but I wanted to give her the fear of God, so to speak. So overall: Pedestrian service at best, lowlife thief. Many better options out there.
Wish I had a $1 for every dude I helped find p*ssy or stay out of trouble!
[QUOTE=Ump1969;2892673]You might notice from my number of posts that I have been at this for awhile. From reading these posts, it sounds like you Philly fanatics might be having more fun than us Chicagoans. I will be in your fun city the first week of June. I noticed a couple of street names in the latest posts, but nothing really specific. Can you Philly experts help out an.
Alien monger with the best places to look? If nervous about LEO, feel free to send me a private.[/QUOTE]Well if you have been at it awhile I'm going to say I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. You see there is still something to learn. First of which is that this Site is a wonderful resource if one takes the time to avail themself of what it has to offer. (but I digress and apologize for the douchery. Can't save everyone from danger).
So if you hear some sarcasm here just know. We get guys like you 2-3 times a month. Always with their hand out. Then some kind sole helps them out and we NEVER hear anything in return Sigh.
But maybe some azzh*le will come along and point out that there are "stroll maps" for pretty much the entire USA collected all in one place! Forum > Special Interests > Amateurs > SW Maps.
But if one is so experienced then why hasn't one done what any right minded monger might do when wandering into a new area? I. e. RTFT! After all since this question has been answered at least 3 times this year one would surely see how easy it is to scroll to the bottom of the main Philly index page, find the "User Blog" section and see whole thread dedicated to the very topic one queried about? (you don't expect me to "spoon feed" you a direct link do you?)
But I just scrolled back several pages and forgot that Gator posted a L-O-N-G and detailed review of block by block where to find each girl! 6409 And you say you read the thread? Huh? I even gave clues at 6396.
If you are coming into Philly and expecting to apply nice MidWestern techniques here in one of the toughest 'hoods on the east coast, well good luck! I have lived in the Midwest and have been in Cicero and that ain't no Kensington. Hope you have the 22 Rules ingrained as well as the advice about dealing with LE in the "Busted: A Citizen's Guide To... " video as when Phillys Finest stop yer azz, it is no time to try to remember the advice. Hey, I'm just sayin'. Oh and there is some valuable discussion about ripoffs and techniques in the thread too - if anyone cares?
So now you have a free "hand-out" and some sound advice, we'll see if you bother to even acknowledge the help, let alone report back on what you found!
Good luck, stay safe!