Sorry this is so long....
A few of the girls that I've dated have known about this site for a long time. The best way I can keep a small amount of anonymity is by delaying when I post about a provider. I usually post anywhere between 0-5 days after I've seen that particular provider. Also when I post, I post when its something I feel relevant. I don't try and post 'inconsequentials' as much as possible. I've been on this site for a long time and I still haven't gotten up to the level of posting of some of the more recent people. Why? To help keep my anon.
What would be best is having the providers actually being 'grown-up' about it and take this all as constructive criticism. If they give bad service, all the customers will know about it and they will either step up, or complain. Complaints don't get you more moolah, stepping up and/or learning better techniques would.
I actually have talked to a few of them about the poor service and bad ratings, but I'd say usually 50% of the time they will ignore the warning and say "it isn't them". My favorite is the "Bus Stop Girl", I've actually had decent service from her a long time ago, but she dug herself a pit. It shows in the more recent posts. I've warned her about it, and she still thinks that all the stuff we say about the Walgreens and Bus Stop Girl is NOT her.
As for telling about this site exists, I'd say about almost all of the Craig's list girls knew. If you check the 'Eros Guide' there is a link that comes to here. Don't tell me that the Escorts and Massage Girls don't talk to each other, or the street hookers. You can even look up on a Yahoo Answers and find this site posted. [url]http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080425181026AAdKG8Z[/url]
It was inevitiable that the girls were going to find out about this site. Don't complain, just take a little more extra care in keeping yourself anon. (Which is why I was so against the "A's Fan Club" section.) People are talking about some private citizens and if you put in the right key words you'll get linked straight to this site. (Search Google with - "A's Barber Shop" Hawaii - and you will get this site... granted its on the last page.)
What everyone monger needs to do is just be aware that anyone with the right keywords can find this site. So what should people do? Make it like the Philadelphia section of this site. There CookyJar and other members will rate particular providers and most of the girls already know that if they don't give good service NO ONE will be dating them. Anyone of them that actually meets CookyJar kinda knows they will be on the site and will try to do their best to give him service since it can either earn them LOTS of dates, or cause them to have almost NONE.
Guys... stop moaning about how the girls might know you now. This is an island and chances are you guys are already 3-5 degrees of separation already. Even if you didn't date them. Take a few steps to keep yourself more anon. Heck same thing with dating the girls. I've used a 'street name' with most of them and they don't really know my real name. Only time I've told it to a girl is when were interrupted by the police or someone, usually I try to get their 'real' name also at the time since the person asks for ID's and checks them (then I come up with some story how we met at a bar in DT).
Girls... stop bitching at the guys and complaining about us guys. Getting someone to beat one of us up will probably mean that you will get NO DATES at all. All you have to do is TRY HARDER. You want someone to give you a good review, give good service. Contrary to popular belief, I don't think the guys will want to do all the work, and you just have to lay there and do nothing. Also, stop using your REAL names, just give us a 'street name' that you want. Most of the local girls I know actually use their REAL names, they are kinda lazy and don't want to think up a 'street' name. Aka the BJ queen "Kim" is not actually her real name, and you will NEVER get her last name from her. Most of the ones that come from the mainland will have 'street names'. Only the locals and bar girls don't use a 'street name'.