Wait for her to be nice to you first.
[QUOTE=ReadingNeeds;5993186]First off, don't be too hard on yourself about why you do "this". There's tons of reasons we do what we do. First starting with our DNA and need to propagate the population. Anything else we do is often unnatural and more a decision then it is a fundamental part of who we are. We do this for so many reasons that it would be impossible to list them. But, for me too, there is a measure of guilt and an inate part of my humanity that thinks I can make a difference. But, you CANNOT. Not with this. Some of us are searching for a connection (looking for love in all the wrong places). I say that because after a year of "doing this" as you say, I have come to see that nice guys don't finish first. And providers that do this don't really appreciate a "nice guy". These girls, for the most part are bred to use the "nice guys" and may even share some of her nice guy gains with other men who are not such nice guys. It may go against your natural instincts, but don't do extra for these providers. Don't search for a connection. In the end, it will actually accomplish the exact opposite of what you want. You will not feel good about anything. You'll feel used.
We do this because we do. There are many reasons and some people would judge that. People judge all the time. But they don't live our life, we do. But, walk in my shoes and all. Some of us have partners that play a major role in it. Some of us don't have partners and this is simply a response to meeting physical needs. Some guys that do this aren't nice guys at all. The "why" doesn't much matter. It's the place that we find ourselves and we have very real reasons for being here. And they are all different and valid. But, since we are here, we should at least try to make the experience something that will help to enrich our lives. I have found that being a nice guy is almost torturous. So I am really trying to make my need to dabble in this lifestyle better for ME. I actually need it to enrich my life rather than complicate my life. And for that to happen, I CANNOT be an older version of a "knight in shining Armour". They don't want that anyway. They just want your money. It won't make them feel better about you if they get more of it from you and I promise it won't make you feel better about yourself or what you are doing. They will not appreciate it after that hit or when their BF or handler take the cash. I've walked the road so I know this truth. The best that you can do is be a little selfish (I promise they will be). Do the things you need to do because you walk in your shoes. Try to stay as safe as possible and don't expect anything more than a service. Tey to get the best price for the service and don't do anything extra. I suppose there might be exceptions in provider world but I don't know where they are. I don'; t feel guilty. I am much closer to pissed that this is what I am left with. That said, I have come to accept that I have needs and they need to be met and I assume that's true for all of us (as long as those needs don't interfere with anyone's else's safety and health and involves adults).
There are always exceptions to standard all inclusive statements. But, 99.9 % of these providers don't care about you. Never have and never will. They will use you and discard you when / if the money runs out. Don; t take my word for it. Listen to what they do and tune out what they say. What do you ever get for that extra money beyond a thank you? Take all the noise out. You can be a nice guy without being totally stupid. It's all about the money. For you and for them.
But, that explanation never addresses your guilt. You have to live with that. But, you know as I know, that we do this because this is simply where life has brought us. It's not good or bad, it just is. And as long as we can keep it from complicating our life (an arrest, robbery, STD, outing. New Daddy). Will then maybe if done right, our life can be enriched. Not because this is where we wanted to go, but this is because where we found ourselves.[/QUOTE]I've been too nice for one girl. My first SW, who ripped me off. But others have returned the favor. Once I actually got offered a freebie, since I had seen her so much. A couple of them stayed over with me for the night, without asking for beyond what I gave them initially. There are a few nice one's who will reciprocate, and understand the long game, that the nicer they are, the more they will get in return. Tips, food, birthday gifts. But, most aren't and some will try to rob you blind. So, wait for them to go the extra mile, before you do.
Why we do this is simple, we are sensory creatures, and nothing stimulates all the senses (touch, taste, sight, sound, and smell) like sex. I'm in my 50's and I wish I did this sooner, but "moral" rationale kept me away. Late in life, I realize what a waste of time pursuit of morality is. Do onto others. . . Of course. But social purient norms are meaningless.
Include the link next time
[QUOTE=Xyzzz777;5997799]I would like to know if anyone has seen the provider that posted on stg on Saturday 7/2 at 8:31 pm and posted being in Absecon. She only wants calls not texts and looks very pretty. Actually looks too pretty for stg.[/QUOTE]Here is the link he's talking about [URL]https://south-jersey.skipthegames.com/female-escorts/caucasian_w/brain-beauty-skillsbrunettepet/058214011960[/URL].
Different picture same sad ad
[QUOTE=ReadingNeeds;5993153]Does anyone really make this call? Some of these providers don't have any respect at all for the people they see. Maybe some don't deserve it. Apparently not if an ad like this gets even a single phone call.
[URL]https://south-jersey.skipthegames.com/female-escorts/caucasian_w/delicious-delightful-wednesday/006635548818[/URL][/QUOTE]So, this person / guy posts. Insulting mongers intelligence with a picture, disables the first ad, uses another picture and posts a new ad with lazy exact wording. What a scam. What an insult. Yet. Probably someone is sending the deposit.
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Cheap motels. No cameras?
Hey. Does anyone know of cheap motels in the area that don't have any cameras. I would rather not be on film for someone to find out.