Seeking Arrangement

[QUOTE=Exubrnce;5431534]I needed to put it out to the universe for confirmation of my idiocy.[/QUOTE]What part of "Never pay a deposit!" did you not understand?

[QUOTE=PowerHouse1;5431864]When messaging an SB, what do you say if they ask what you're looking for? I want to tell her FWB, but not sure if that's one of those words that Seeking will flag and ban my account for. Are there other words to be careful with?[/QUOTE]You can say FWB because that's one of SA sayings. Anything SA use you can type in. Anything that is related to Escort terms you will get booted. I typed GFE one time and got a warning. I said GFE has nothing to do with pay for play. Didn't matter its an escort term. They dont tolerate anything like that. Mm686.

[QUOTE=MichiganMan686;5433815]You can say FWB because that's one of SA sayings. Anything SA use you can type in. Anything that is related to Escort terms you will get booted. I typed GFE one time and got a warning. I said GFE has nothing to do with pay for play. Didn't matter its an escort term. They dont tolerate anything like that. Mm686.[/QUOTE]Yes, FWB is a tab you can select as something you / they are looking for, so it's acceptable. PPM or pay per meet however IS against their rules, and can get you booted if it gets noticed.

I'm chatting with an SB who I said I'm looking for a Fwb. She's seeking the same but said she doesn't want a transactional relationship. I thought she meant she wanted an allowance which I told her I don't do. She said she's not looking for an allowance. What do you think she means by " not transactional"?

[QUOTE=PowerHouse1;5435015]I'm chatting with an SB who I said I'm looking for a Fwb. She's seeking the same but said she doesn't want a transactional relationship. I thought she meant she wanted an allowance which I told her I don't do. She said she's not looking for an allowance. What do you think she means by " not transactional"?[/QUOTE]It's been my experience that some people in the sugar bowl, both men and women, are uncomfortable with a direct linkage between money and sex and would prefer to put things in the context of a mutually beneficially arrangement that includes meals and other entertainment, financial support, mentoring and advice, etc. , so that the eventual physical part of things does not feel "transactional" or escorty. Maybe that's a fig leaf, but I'm ok with it as long as the arrangement unfolds as expected. Of course, there are plenty of reports of guys saying that because they don't want to pay, and women saying it to delay or deny sex.

I'm new to considering SA. How do I sign up and can I pay the membership fee with a gift card I buy with cash so there's not a paper trail? I love the Asians so are there a decent amount to choose from?

Since the AAMP scene hasn't been around for awhile now I'm getting bored of the typical AMP's and want to test out SA.

So I'm texting with a potential SB this morning and told her what I'm looking for in an arrangement. She's agreeing to all I have to say. Even meeting up in person first to make sure we're comfortable with each other. Then I say to her that she's ok with my requirements but hasn't told me what she requires in an arrangement. She just tells me to let her know when I'm ready to schedule and then she'll discuss. What's your thoughts on what her scam is?

[QUOTE=PowerHouse1;5437707]So I'm texting with a potential SB this morning and told her what I'm looking for in an arrangement. She's agreeing to all I have to say. Even meeting up in person first to make sure we're comfortable with each other. Then I say to her that she's ok with my requirements but hasn't told me what she requires in an arrangement. She just tells me to let her know when I'm ready to schedule and then she'll discuss. What's your thoughts on what her scam is?[/QUOTE]Can you facetime her instead of chatting?

[QUOTE=IAmNotMe;5435929]I'm new to considering SA. How do I sign up and can I pay the membership fee with a gift card I buy with cash so there's not a paper trail? I love the Asians so are there a decent amount to choose from?

Since the AAMP scene hasn't been around for awhile now I'm getting bored of the typical AMP's and want to test out SA.[/QUOTE]I'd say it isn't great for Asian women. I just did a search on SA for Asian women within 50 miles of Detroit. It returned about 175 profiles, but only 4 were online, only about 15 had been on the site within the past two days and only 30 had been on the site within the past 2 weeks.

Anyone else having an issue with the vanilla gift card.

I loaded up a new card and it won't go thru tried it 5 times at Various times to no avail.

[QUOTE=PowerHouse1;5437707]So I'm texting with a potential SB this morning and told her what I'm looking for in an arrangement. She's agreeing to all I have to say. Even meeting up in person first to make sure we're comfortable with each other. Then I say to her that she's ok with my requirements but hasn't told me what she requires in an arrangement. She just tells me to let her know when I'm ready to schedule and then she'll discuss. What's your thoughts on what her scam is?[/QUOTE]If she's agreed to a face-to-face, you need to do it asap. These girls pick through dozens, if not hundreds of emails a day and aren't going to bother with plans a week or a month from now. As long as there is no request for a deposit upfront, take the time to go meet and see what the deal is. Worst case scenario, the pics are old or fake and she looks like a horse's behind.

[QUOTE=FictionGenius;5438735]Anyone else having an issue with the vanilla gift card.

I loaded up a new card and it won't go thru tried it 5 times at Various times to no avail.[/QUOTE]Try contacting the site. Could be an issue from your phone or pc. Happened to me at least once.

[QUOTE=Michmo;5438007]I'd say it isn't great for Asian women. I just did a search on SA for Asian women within 50 miles of Detroit. It returned about 175 profiles, but only 4 were online, only about 15 had been on the site within the past two days and only 30 had been on the site within the past 2 weeks.[/QUOTE]I appreciate the info.

[QUOTE=HungaryMan;5439490]Try contacting the site. Could be an issue from your phone or pc. Happened to me at least once.[/QUOTE]Thank you.

[QUOTE=IAmNotMe;5440606]I appreciate the info.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=PowerHouse1;5435015]I'm chatting with an SB who I said I'm looking for a Fwb. She's seeking the same but said she doesn't want a transactional relationship. I thought she meant she wanted an allowance which I told her I don't do. She said she's not looking for an allowance. What do you think she means by " not transactional"?[/QUOTE]It makes her feel like a proustite. The whole money in exchange for playtime makes a lot of girls uncomfortable on SA. These are inexperienced types. Just treat them like a lady and gift them what they want if reasonable and don't talk about it. It is uncomfortable until you work out your arrangements.