Mongering Tips. Do NOT get too close to these girls
There is nothing wrong with having a good working relationship with these girls. In fact that can often enhance your fun as well as get you service at a lower rate than the asshole seeing her right after you. They prefer a stable repeat customer who always shows up freshly groomed and washed. You are an easier low drama call for them and they want you to see them regularly. This leads to a nice relaxed call that is like seeing a girlfriend. Time limits are rarely enforced and they will take a lower rate in order to have your safe repeat business. If you are at least somewhat good looking you are probably going to have an even better time with literally no limits. If you are a 400 lb dude who looks like a troll living under a bridge all is not lost. You too can enjoy this enhanced experience if you show up acting normal, groomed, washed and not dressed in dirty sweats.
The smart monger gets all these things. The stupid monger pays more for less. A stupid monger can be transformed which is one of the reasons I make these posts. I don't know any of you and in all honesty could really care less about you. But I don't like seeing how some of you are taken advantage of by these girls mostly because you do all the wrong things.
As I said, a good working relationship with these girls is a positive that will help you. But far too many guys go way too far all for nothing and usually end up paying more for worse service. You are not playing the girl. She is playing you. Remember, these girls DO NOT care about you. They care about their drugs, newports and their bum boyfriend. They do not live in the same world as you. I don't care what story they give you. You are just dollar signs in there eyes. They should only be cheap pussy in your eyes and at best you should only be a safe, reliable and maybe, fun call for them. This is the order of things and it all works out better when both parties understand this.
You should not be paying these girls extra thinking it will make your service better. Do not pay their bills, pay for their rooms or take them on errands. You are doing that for NOTHING. In fact it may be making your experience worse. They figure if you are doing all this for them why should they step up their game for you. I can guarantee a smart monger is getting better mileage than you are with that same girl. Do not care about these girls and listen to their stories. They are doing just fine and living how they want to live. They do not want your life. They are happy with theirs. They want your money and anything else they can get out of you. Don't be a sap. Can you just call her up and get a freebie? Of course not. She doesn't really care about you or any of the extra things you have done for her. I have only gotten ONE total freebie ever and will talk about it later.
"But Tailgun, this girl is kinda cool and I like to spend time with her outside the call".
Okay, but there is a right way to do this. You want to take her out for a meal before or after the call at no cost to you for her time that is okay. I did this with a few, mostly in my early mongering days. Most working girls do not know how to act anymore in public but a handful do. This is a great time to learn about working girls in general. I always asked a lot of questions. These girls generally lie about everything but you can get some helpful answers if you ask the right way. Things like how do other girls get over on guys. They will happily spill the beans. Even ask them how they get over and they will proudly tell you. The sad thing is that after you do this with a few girls as well as ones you talk to during calls you see that they are all pretty much the same with the same stories. That's why I don't take them out anymore.
If you do this make sure the girl looks like she could actually be out with you for real. If you are 50 years old in sweats and you have some 21 year old with you in short shorts most will know exactly what she is and a few might think it's your daughter. Be realistic with who you are with in public. Any working girl I was ever out with in public could pass for my girlfriend or wife. If you could care less what it looks like then ignore what I said.
I used to take a girl to the store to get smokes or something after a call, which she paid for, if I knew her already or she did a great call. But I don't even do that anymore. Most of these girls have outstanding warrants anyway so why have to answer questions if some cop pulls you over.
The ones that are best to do things with outside of the call are UTRs. I mean real UTRs. A girl who hasn't posted for years but still sees you and some other old regulars. These girls tend to have kicked their addiction or at least have it under better control. I have two of these that are especially good at hanging out with.
I have one I took to AC for an entire weekend for 200. She let me bang her as many times as I wanted and seemed to enjoy going out and doing things there. She even offered to pay half on the meals but I declined mostly because she actually offered which impressed me. I let her leave the tips. This was the most GFE time I ever had with a provider. Not the kinkiest or wildest or best sex or anything like that. Just the most girlfriend like. There was no difference between her or a non working girl that weekend. I reached out to her a few weeks later and asked if she would do a call for free. She said yes because I had shown her such a good time in AC. That is the one freebie I ever got and she even drove 30 miles to me to do it. I never did any favors for her or paid extra. She has never asked or hinted for any of that and has never given me a sob story. A rarity.
My other one did an overnight in AC for 100. She is also one I will take out for meals or come over to my place and watch movies and chat. I give her anywhere from 40-100 and we usually spend the entire day together with an occasional overnight. This one will sometimes try to get me to do favors and I always say no.
Could I date either one of them. Probably. Would I? First one is almost tempting but absolutely not. They still live in a different world than we do even if they are not as bad as the others. The 2nd one has been trying to move in with me for years. Hell no. The goal must always be to have the best service at the lowest cost with these girls. Do not do them favors. Do not listen to their stories. They do not care about you. Do not waste your time and money caring about them. I especially feel bad for older or more desperate mongers who let these girls move in and they get taken advantage of. That 2nd girl bragged how she drained another guys retirement bank account in 2 months when she lived with him. I have more success and longevity with her because I keep the line between monger and escort in place. If I told you some of the stories I have had seeing 300 different providers in 10 years you would not believe them. Neither would I had they not happened to me.
Keep the line between provider and you in place. Do not care about them and realize they do not care about you. They are comfortable with you and that can be very good. But be a man. Be smart, normal and clean and you will have much better fun in this hobby. I am just a regular guy. But I know how to act.
Mongering Tips. What NOT to do with these girls
Myself and others have probably posted these before but you can never hear good advice enough. These are things you should not do with these girls. You may think it's going to get you better mileage. It is not. It will get you shittier service. It will have the opposite effect of what you think. Remember, you think logically. These girls act on instinct and their only goal is to get money out of you, nothing more. Your goal should always be to get the best service at the lowest price.
1) Deposits. Never pre pay these girls. I don't care if they say they have to ask for one because of stuff guys do. WTF do you care what some other guys did to them? Who cares if guys flaked on them? They flake on guys all the time. You should not care about that. I don't care if you have sent deposits before and didn't have an issue. You just got lucky. You will be robbed soon enough. You see that all the time on here. Deposits may be the single most stupid and avoidable scam you can fall for in this hobby.
2) Do not pay more than they ask. Frankly you shouldn't be paying what they ask to begin with let alone pay more. To pay more than they ask is stupid. You will not get better service. If anything you will get worse service because they now see you as an easy mark. Why should they work hard to make sure you have fun and come back when you are just handing them money up front for nothing? They know your deal already and will take full advantage of you by doing as little as possible for the highest price they can get from you. Way too many guys are easy marks for them.
I had a new monger message me recently asking about some girl. I told him she is a good call but has a history of robbing guys who are stupid. His response was he was going to offer her more so she doesn't rob him. You can guess what my response was to him. I went a little easier since he hadn't seen a girl yet and just doesn't know. You just are not going to get better service or not get robbed or whatever by handing them more than they ask. If anything it has the opposite effect. I don't even give them tips. I don't give them extra if I go well over the time. My attitude is that I am a clean, safe and reliable call that is no stress for them. Do not have the I am a good guy attitude in this hobby. Do not fall for I will do a BBBJ for extra. No you will do it for the price we originally agreed on or you will never see me again. If you showed up right and she wants your business again she will do it when you say you don't do upsells. I usually get whatever I want from these girls and at a deep discount if I am a repeat customer. But I do NOTHING for them except be a clean, safe and reliable call. There is value in that for them. Realize that and stop acting like they are doing you a favor.
I don't care if you are 70 yrs old, 5 ft tall and weigh 400 lbs and have zero chance with women in regular life. These are not regular women. They have slept with many guys worse than you. Don't think you have to pay them more or do favors for them to get decent service. Just act normal and present yourself as best you can. That means groom downstairs, be freshly showered, well dressed and give the impression you will be back again if she treats you right. Remember, this hobby is the great equalizer. You get to sleep with women you can't always get in regular life.
Don't do these girls favors or run them on errands. Guys do this for three reasons.
One, they think it gets them better mileage. No it doesn't. I am the one seeing her for $80 for a full hour after you just drove her all around town to do her shopping and probably paid for her room. In that hr with her I got better mileage than you ever have. Let that sink it. You did all that for nothing. Again, she sees you do all this and knows she can drop down her game with you. I know this happens because girls tell me they have guys like that. Guys post here how they drive these girls all over.
Two, guys do this because they feel sorry for these girls. Do not listen to their stories. They do this so you feel bad for them and give them extra money or do stuff for them. They are happy with their lives and have everything they need. These girls are professional hustlers. Don't be stupid.
Third, some guys do stuff for these girls because they are lonely. I can't answer you on that but these really are not the types of girls you should consider for companionship outside of the call. Get a puppy or a kitten if you are lonely. You are just being used and having your bank account emptied for the pleasure of hanging around a drug addicted professional hustler who could care less about you. She has her man waiting for her at home or back in the room.
3) Oh an emergency came up I have to leave now but will make it up to you with a free call next time. So she does this to you 5 minutes into your hr call. Understand you are not getting a free call next time. Again, You are not getting a free call next time. In case you didn't hear me, you are not getting a free call next time. That is not how these girls operate. So if you can't manage to grab your money back and high tail it out of there you will be ghosted when you reach out to her again for that free makeup call.
But here is how I handle this situation. I don't expect to get that free call. I could post a negative review but usually all that does is get more guys to see her because most of your fellow mongers are idiots. Here is how I handle it. I reach out to her saying I want to see you again and I know a free makeup call is like an alien concept to you. But we got to make this right. I use two options here depending on my mood and both have worked every time. I know these girls always want money. So I may say to make this right how about an hr call for half the rate. They agree. Do it once more after that and you are squared away. However I usually make that new temporary rate the new norm for every hr call going forward. My other option I do is say we got to make this right. I will give you our usual rate but you got to dig up another girl for a double. They usually will find some non working friend of theirs who agrees and she probably throws the girl 20 or 40 bucks because she doesn't know better. So again, things are equal now. Of course see if you can grab that non working girls number and see her on the side at a deep discount.
There is nothing special about me. I am moderately good looking. I am not in great shape. I am not rich. But yet I get great calls almost all the time and rarely pay full rates, especially when repeating. Why? Because I know how to act around these girls. Showing up clean and trimmed and acting normal gets you in the door. After that, realizing your value in being that way leads to getting what you want, how you want it and when you want it going forward. It's really all about being firm, steady, normal and acting like a man. The point I am making is that me, and guys like me, are getting better service at a lower rate than these guys who treat these girls like they are royalty. They are not. When you treat them like they are you have already lost. They are drug addicts who need money to feed their habit. Nothing more, nothing less.
Mongering Tips. Facts About These Girls
Many of these have been mentioned before by myself and / or others. Way too many mongers have delusions about these girls. I don't know if that's due to ignorance or just wishing things were the way they wish they were to enhance their own experience. Anyway, I will list some truths that some will not like. That doesn't matter. This is what it is.
1) These girls Do NOT care about you.
They care about your money and what you can do for them. They do not give a shit about you. Let me repeat that. They do NOT give a shit about you. If you are under any impression that they actually care about you I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you. You may have a good working relationship with a provider. She has a comfort level with you because you are a regular and you are not a nutcase. You may have worked out a nice low rate for yourself. She may act cool with you. But that isn't because she cares about you. It is because she is comfortable with you as you are an easy stress free call. Do not confuse her being comfortable with you to her caring about you. She does not care about you. She will never lend you money. She will not give you a freebie. She will not go to your funeral when you die. She sees you as a source of money and whatever else she can get from you. Make sure it's only money and at the lowest rate possible.
2) These girls are all addicts.
Some mongers like to think the girls they see are not addicts. You see a lot of "no signs of use" in reviews. That is a helpful point in a review. But it only means they are smart about hiding it and / or aren't totally ruled by it yet. These girls are having sex with you for money to support their habit. They are not doing it for extra money to pay bills or pay off student loans. They pull in more money a week than you do and you see they live like shit. They aren't banking that money away for retirement. It is being spent that same day on drugs.
3) She only does BBFS with me.
No, she does BBFS with many guys. She may tell you it's only you or you and one other guy. She is lying. It's with many guys. It may not be with every guy but it is with quite a bit. So don't think you are that special. Somebody probably hit her raw right before and after you that same day.
4) She is trying to get her life together.
No. She is very happy the way she is. She just wants you to think that so you feel bad for her and give her extra money and do things for her. She does not want the life you have. She would hate that. She wants the one she has. She may leave the state but she is picking up her same life elsewhere. She may "retire". That just means she either has a large group of favorite regulars to see or she hooked up with a dumb lonely rich guy. Nothing else about her has changed. When she says she is trying to get her life together she only means she wishes she wouldn't have to see so many different guys fucking her in the ass every day.
5) She is Independent.
There are some girls who are totally independent but it is much lower than you think. Most girls have a pimp, a handler or a boyfriend who is very aware of what they are doing and are involved in some way. It is not likely that your favorite you just saw goes back to her apartment where she lives by herself and has no man involved or living off of what she does. While we seem to feel better thinking the girl we just saw is a true independent the reality just doesn't back that up.