Married & mongering

[QUOTE=HandsOfMidas;7103475]Hey,

I wanted to ask for those of you that have been able to indulge in everything that you've wanted, BBFS, threesomes, Greek, frequency, etc, does your sex drive actually get satiated? For me, I can't see providers multiple times a week because of financial / relational reasons but I want to. I wonder if I could, would I go on a binge and then be satisfied and cut back to like once a week or something less frequent? Or would I always want to see providers even more? Other forms of pleasure I've tried like travel or food or games or sports can get boring if I indulge too much but I wonder if it's the same for sex.

Thanks![/QUOTE]I went on a binger a few months ago, 5 girls in 2 days, 3 were in one night. And it satisfied an itch I had for awhile. I don't have the financial means to do that every weekend but I was good for about a month LOL. Depending on what part of the hobby you're into it all depends but at least for me part of the pleasure factor is sometimes not knowing what you're going to get. I've had threesomes, orgies and yes even at that stage if done repeatedly It does start to saturate your palate. My suggestion is finding a balance of financial means and gratification. If you really were craving a yummy burger and you go out and have a delicious burger you would want to have it again soon. Unless the burger was 25 bucks a pop then you probably wouldn't as often.

[QUOTE=HandsOfMidas;7103475]Hey,

I wanted to ask for those of you that have been able to indulge in everything that you've wanted, BBFS, threesomes, Greek, frequency, etc, does your sex drive actually get satiated? For me, I can't see providers multiple times a week because of financial / relational reasons but I want to. I wonder if I could, would I go on a binge and then be satisfied and cut back to like once a week or something less frequent? Or would I always want to see providers even more? Other forms of pleasure I've tried like travel or food or games or sports can get boring if I indulge too much but I wonder if it's the same for sex.

Thanks![/QUOTE]Yes. I spent 10 hours with 5 providers during a week and my lust went away. It took me 2 weeks to recover and I felt very satisfied during that time. I think you should let yourself go and then see how it works. I'm sure you will be ok for a while not endulging.

Thanks for the replies guys. It's nice to be able to find forums / communities and hear from other guys that have been there, done that. I guess it sounds like the itch will eventually come back no matter how intense of a binge you go on. I was wondering if I went on a hard enough binge, I could be satisfied enough to not come back but I guess that's wishful thinking haha.

Thanks again and good luck out there!

It's all about balance. You need to be satisfied with all the main categories of your life (spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, emotional) or else addiction can set in. They say the opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, but connection. Find meaningful connections outside of mongering and the urge will subside.

I went to Pattaya this summer and went balls to the wall, fucking four girls the first day, then 2-3 girls each subsequent day for a week. By day three, my mind was already not even thinking about sex and it was wonderful. When sex was frequent and abundant, I valued it a bit less and started thinking about how much I wanted a meaningful relationship with an awesome woman. My bar is extremely high though because I'll never allow myself to commit to a woman who doesn't have the same sex drive as me. If that part of the relationship drops, I'll be too tempted to cheat since it's so easy to get satisfied via our lovely paid companions.

That being said, I personally am finding a threesome every two weeks to be highly satisfying.

[QUOTE=HandsOfMidas;7105340]Thanks for the replies guys. It's nice to be able to find forums / communities and hear from other guys that have been there, done that. I guess it sounds like the itch will eventually come back no matter how intense of a binge you go on. I was wondering if I went on a hard enough binge, I could be satisfied enough to not come back but I guess that's wishful thinking haha.

Thanks again and good luck out there![/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=HandsOfMidas;7103475]Hey,

I wanted to ask for those of you that have been able to indulge in everything that you've wanted, BBFS, threesomes, Greek, frequency, etc, does your sex drive actually get satiated? For me, I can't see providers multiple times a week because of financial / relational reasons but I want to. I wonder if I could, would I go on a binge and then be satisfied and cut back to like once a week or something less frequent? Or would I always want to see providers even more? Other forms of pleasure I've tried like travel or food or games or sports can get boring if I indulge too much but I wonder if it's the same for sex.

Thanks![/QUOTE]I am no expert but I would say if you are on this board it's already too late. I feel sorry for the married lads on here waiting for their impending divorces. You'll never have a "normal" love life again if you are knee deep in pay2 play. The more we have the more we want.

Does anybody have a Square business account? You can set up a few hundred business locations. It comes with a full-service checking account. You convert any of your credit cards to cash paying about 3% to Square. Even if you rack up amounts above the 1099 threshold there's no big deal to file a tax return.

What are you guys talking about binge and cut back? Yes, it's all about balance in every sense.

I fucked my first 16-year-old girlfriend (totally legal) 3 times a day and never tried to repeat it. I laid over in BK right after graduation, had a memorizing all-nighter, and sold my expensive camera to book more days of hotels, but decided to take the original flight home afraid of being stranded there out of money. When I went to Argentina a few years back, I did two on the first day, not that exciting since the 2nd day. I knew about it that's why I hesitated to be a sex tourist, expensive flight and hotels for two days of excitement and diminishing returns for the rest of the week.

When I find ATFs, it's always settled to once a month on equilibrium. Twice or more a month will be sugar baby territory I made them not believe that I have the money. When I have money I go every week or wait till I have enough to flood the condom or pussy. That's my measure of value for money. Kicking off the habit for a while isn't a big deal because of money. If I were not married, I may fall for the next pretty girl who comes alone or any body with enough sex appeal, or someone who wants my money.

What website did you use to meet the Brazil woman? I would be looking for non pros. I'm still legally bound but that's running to the end of its corse.

[QUOTE=CarlosD3;7055594]I didn't wait for the ink to dry or even to wait until one of us moved out. I joined a dating app and within one month was banging a hot Brazilian MILF. I even fucked her in my pool and spa when my wife was gone. Fuck her. The ***** is still fighting me for more alimony.

After another girl I met off the app broke my heart, I said fuck it and just went balls to the wall with civvies and professionals. I'm at 30 bangs now and have had a fucking blast. I still prefer civvy sex, mostly with foreign girls, but in the interim I'll fuck at an AMP or through P411 whenever I feel like it. I've given myself permission to just have fun and not get bogged down in a relationship. And the funny part is, when I'm upfront about that with some civvy girls, they appreciate it and still want to bang me.

But for the life of me I can't manage a threesome in real life. That will have to be reserved for the stellar AMPs in Santa Ana.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Widespread;7246014]What website did you use to meet the Brazil woman? I would be looking for non pros. I'm still legally bound but that's running to the end of its corse.[/QUOTE]I found my first Brazilian gf on Hinge and we dated six months. She spoke hardly a word of English. After that, I've dated two more Brazilians I met on Bumble, both of whom loved it when I told them I dated a Brazilian for six months. I'm currently dating another Brazilian MILF even hotter than my first gf, been seeing her for 5+ months.

In the past two years, I've almost exclusively dated foreign women. If I could get a 7 American girl, I've found I could get an 8 or 9 Brazilian, Russian or Ukrainian. They are feminine, great cooks, and know how to please a man. I don't think I'll ever go back to American women to be honest.

My lifetime best fuck was a 38 yo Belarusian girl I met off Hinge and had an open relationship with. Her oral skills and sexual openness were unmatched. I miss her, but it was going nowhere long term.

[QUOTE=CarlosD3;7108735]It's all about balance. You need to be satisfied with all the main categories of your life (spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, emotional) or else addiction can set in. They say the opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, but connection. Find meaningful connections outside of mongering and the urge will subside.

I went to Pattaya this summer and went balls to the wall, fucking four girls the first day, then 2-3 girls each subsequent day for a week. By day three, my mind was already not even thinking about sex and it was wonderful. When sex was frequent and abundant, I valued it a bit less and started thinking about how much I wanted a meaningful relationship with an awesome woman. My bar is extremely high though because I'll never allow myself to commit to a woman who doesn't have the same sex drive as me. If that part of the relationship drops, I'll be too tempted to cheat since it's so easy to get satisfied via our lovely paid companions.

That being said, I personally am finding a threesome every two weeks to be highly satisfying.[/QUOTE]Excellent point of view, thanks for sharing.

[QUOTE=CarlosD3;7108735]It's all about balance. You need to be satisfied with all the main categories of your life (spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, emotional) or else addiction can set in. They say the opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, but connection. Find meaningful connections outside of mongering and the urge will subside.
[/QUOTE]I never thought I would come across such meaningful sharing in this journey. You are ahead a curve for me. The thought that you share has lot of influence on how I see things in the future. I really appreciate you putting them into words.

Does anyone ever use a dental dam for DATY or being rimmed? I've always been A CBJ and CFS guy. Wondering if it's possible to expand my horizons.

[QUOTE=Milfdinger;7271154]Does anyone ever use a dental dam for DATY or being rimmed? I've always been A CBJ and CFS guy. Wondering if it's possible to expand my horizons.[/QUOTE]Giving is pointless. Your tongue is sensitive being blocked by the rather thick dental dam. I tried those thin produce bags. It's a lot thinner but you feel like licking plastic even though there is no taste. For anything you have to hold it in position. The dental dam is easier because it's stiffer but it's small. Food wraps or plastic bags are the opposite.

I have one that I spent enough money on when it's worthwhile to get her and myself tested. But she wouldn't lift the barriers. But filming and anal are included.

[QUOTE=HandsOfMidas;7103475]Hey,

I wanted to ask for those of you that have been able to indulge in everything that you've wanted, BBFS, threesomes, Greek, frequency, etc, does your sex drive actually get satiated? For me, I can't see providers multiple times a week because of financial / relational reasons but I want to. I wonder if I could, would I go on a binge and then be satisfied and cut back to like once a week or something less frequent? Or would I always want to see providers even more? Other forms of pleasure I've tried like travel or food or games or sports can get boring if I indulge too much but I wonder if it's the same for sex.

Thanks![/QUOTE]Dopamine wants more dopamine. But something I'm learning is that I tend learn self-control after losing control. Now please focus on the nuance of that statement. Binge eating is an excellent analogy. It's a biological need just like sex. You'll want to know pause during the urge and dig deep to learn why you want to boom boom. Is it purely because you're horny? Bored? Desire to escape / avoid something? Don't push on the gas and cause irreversible damage, but go play and pay close attention to what you're experiencing. There's no sex that will make you so satiated that you never want sex again. You just have to be able to pause ask yourself if you to go for what you want or what you want most.

[QUOTE=HandsOfMidas;7103475]Hey,

I wanted to ask for those of you that have been able to indulge in everything that you've wanted, BBFS, threesomes, Greek, frequency, etc, does your sex drive actually get satiated? For me, I can't see providers multiple times a week because of financial / relational reasons but I want to. I wonder if I could, would I go on a binge and then be satisfied and cut back to like once a week or something less frequent? Or would I always want to see providers even more? Other forms of pleasure I've tried like travel or food or games or sports can get boring if I indulge too much but I wonder if it's the same for sex.

Thanks![/QUOTE]I feel never satisfied and always want to try the next new one. But not the same as when I was a teenager for sure.

I agree and I don't even consider DATY.

I have been CBJ and CFS guy, but recently got BBBJ and CIM from nonFS AMP (she was so fast that just went on it and was so good). Now, I have tough time dealing with CBJ. Now, constantly wondering whether I should open up BBBJ and take risk with SO (w. Are. T STI). . already got Doxy to prepare but Doxy is no 100%. Struggling in mind. How are all of you married bros dealing with this?

[QUOTE=JamesD2004;7272228]Giving is pointless. Your tongue is sensitive being blocked by the rather thick dental dam. I tried those thin produce bags. It's a lot thinner but you feel like licking plastic even though there is no taste. For anything you have to hold it in position. The dental dam is easier because it's stiffer but it's small. Food wraps or plastic bags are the opposite.

I have one that I spent enough money on when it's worthwhile to get her and myself tested. But she wouldn't lift the barriers. But filming and anal are included.[/QUOTE]