Off-Topic: Thinking About Retiring
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Hey fellow mongers.
First, I want to say that this community has been amazing. As strange as it might sound, I truly appreciate the brotherhood here and how we look out for one another. I am a strong proponent of legalizing, and believe that the world should not have a say in what happens between two consenting adults.
That said, I've been reflecting lately and feel it might be time for me to retire from the hobby. I've had some great experiences from Good to Shanghai, Tokyo to Q, and many more, but I've started wanting something more real for myself. I'm hoping to focus on personal growth, maybe pursue a life partner, and also give my wallet a bit of a break.
Now my struggle is that I may have become addicted to the hobby. I find myself going at least once or twice a week, and even though I know it's starting to take a toll, the urge keeps coming back. Jerking off just doesn't cut it, it never has. The shops are accessible, the girls are sweet, and there's no drama, which makes it hard to resist. After each visit, I feel instant regret and shame, but give it a couple days, the urge returns.
I'm curious if there are any ex-mongers here who have successfully stepped away. What helped you? Feel free to DM if you'd rather share privately.
Thanks for reading.
Having some of the same thoughts
But very different reasons. ZERO regret or shame, happy with family situation (have grown kids).
I do this way too much and spend way too much, that is kinda ok now but can't last forever.
For me mostly, its just been so good, can't really keep topping it. I've made good friends with girls, MMSs, and with a very few other mongers. I've learned valuable ways to pleasure women and myself.
I doubt I fully stop, just maybe stop trying to see every new girl that shows up and "settle down" with a few ATFs.
Also may retire to Thailand, but still actually feel like working.
[QUOTE=AbbyR238;7557817]Moderators. Please delete if this violates forum guidelines.
Hey fellow mongers.
First, I want to say that this community has been amazing. As strange as it might sound, I truly appreciate the brotherhood here and how we look out for one another. I am a strong proponent of legalizing, and believe that the world should not have a say in what happens between two consenting adults.
That said, I've been reflecting lately and feel it might be time for me to retire from the hobby. I've had some great experiences from Good to Shanghai, Tokyo to Q, and many more, but I've started wanting something more real for myself. I'm hoping to focus on personal growth, maybe pursue a life partner, and also give my wallet a bit of a break.
Now my struggle is that I may have become addicted to the hobby. I find myself going at least once or twice a week, and even though I know it's starting to take a toll, the urge keeps coming back. Jerking off just doesn't cut it, it never has. The shops are accessible, the girls are sweet, and there's no drama, which makes it hard to resist. After each visit, I feel instant regret and shame, but give it a couple days, the urge returns.
I'm curious if there are any ex-mongers here who have successfully stepped away. What helped you? Feel free to DM if you'd rather share privately.
Thanks for reading.[/QUOTE]
I've been feeling the same
[QUOTE=AbbyR238;7557817]Moderators. Please delete if this violates forum guidelines.
Hey fellow mongers.
First, I want to say that this community has been amazing. As strange as it might sound, I truly appreciate the brotherhood here and how we look out for one another. I am a strong proponent of legalizing, and believe that the world should not have a say in what happens between two consenting adults.
That said, I've been reflecting lately and feel it might be time for me to retire from the hobby. I've had some great experiences from Good to Shanghai, Tokyo to Q, and many more, but I've started wanting something more real for myself. I'm hoping to focus on personal growth, maybe pursue a life partner, and also give my wallet a bit of a break..[/QUOTE]Been having thoughts and feelings to quit this hobby for a while now but I keep falling short in self control and my lust. I think all of us on this board are addicted to this hobby, if you want to admit it or not. I think the accessibility and variety of girls make it hard to quit because you want to fulfill your sexual urges and fantasies. Also, doing it once a while isn't so bad but when you spend $200+ each time and like you said, going multiple times a month, that adds up very fast. I don't even want to think of how much I've spent in my history of this hobby because it will send me into a downward spiral haha.
I feel the exact same where I feel guilt and shame after I'm done, almost a post nut clarity. And vow myself to never do it again but after a week or so, my horny urges comes back and I fall right back into the trap. Lust has been the downfall of many men and I really don't want this hobby to get the best of me.
I appreciate you sharing your feelings and want to let you know you are not alone in this battle.
Do they allow advance appt
[QUOTE=KrDoggy;7557343]Not far off I5.
[URL]https://www.rubmaps.ch/massage-q-massage-shoreline-wa-217056[/URL]#rubmaps.[/QUOTE]Thank you!
Do folks usually call and make an appt or just walk in?
Planning to visit next week will update here.
Getting everything under control
Totally agree on the point that civi relationships cost even more. I have had a variety including long marriages and they cost a fortune (but were worth it for a variety of reasons, including kids). Even the shorter civi relationships cost more in my experience.
As far as hobbying, I'm way past revulsion, I know I am a bit of a perv, but many of these relationships are surprisingly wholesome. Chinese culture plays a big role. I've talked a lot about making friends with girls and management. I do that for ME, it makes it more fun. If I were a bit more religious I'd thank God for giving me this time in my life. These girls truly make me feel like a king and keep me young, and spare me, I know they want money.
But I am acutely aware that this can't and shouldn't last forever. I need a more stable wavelength than the almost every day fucking I have been doing.
[QUOTE=GoaThillBilly;7558394]I experience some of the same feelings, not shame but sometimes buyers remorse, depending upon the experience, some are totally worth it. If someone Is hobbying 1-2 times per week, they are likely younger and they had better be able to afford it. I agree with one comment as to cut down to no more than once per week, in my experience the less that I partake in a hobby, no matter what it is the more that I enjoy it. I also take breaks of several weeks due to geographic challenges and then when I return I appreciate the experiences that much more. Typically I will hobby 2-4 times per month. As to the comment on finding a civi relationship in order to spend less money, that's a slippery slope and could end up costing you much more I the long run. Plus if you are like me and crave variety, you will not be satisfied with just one woman, unless she likes sharing.[/QUOTE]