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Reached out to me and set something up. She never asked for an amount and her pics looked ok (though they were enhanced). Drove to her place which was kind of far for me. She came outside, same woman, but didn't look great. Her pics were definitely very old and very enhanced. I almost wanted to bail, but figured I'd go inside and see what I can make of it. Went into her place and it was a pig sty. Very dirty with stuff all over the place. Probably in the top 5 dumpiest places I've been at in this game. She asked me to relax while she showered. When she came out she looked better / cleaned up, but still not to my liking. At this point, I said fuck it. I'll see what I can get. Long story short about this one. Former user, in recovery, with piles and piles of problems. That being said, she was nice and friendly. I settled for a very long & nice BBJCIM. I got the feeling that lots of stuff is on the table, but I just wasn't going to bother.

I left 200, and she probably would of been happy with much less, but I felt bad for her. Definitely not a repeat for me.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/8e2cb6c6-b4fa-4466-9837-93ddb02ccc71[/URL]

So I've been chatting with this girl and all seemed good. We agreed upon a price but she said that she wanted to FaceTime prior to hanging out. I agreed but she wanted me to pay her an allowance for our FaceTime. She then said I can pay a small portion for the FaceTime and then our agreed upon amount if we met. What are your thoughts on this! To me red flags are going off?

If a girl asks for ppm on seeking can I give her my number to discuss that or I'll get banned? Some girls don't know that it's a banned term. And I definitely don't want to get banned by responding to her.

She will take your money after the FaceTime. SA is now full of scammers, time wasters, pic sellers and covid online BS.

[QUOTE=GianniVersace;5134377]So I've been chatting with this girl and all seemed good. We agreed upon a price but she said that she wanted to FaceTime prior to hanging out. I agreed but she wanted me to pay her an allowance for our FaceTime. She then said I can pay a small portion for the FaceTime and then our agreed upon amount if we met. What are your thoughts on this! To me red flags are going off?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=GianniVersace;5134377]So I've been chatting with this girl and all seemed good. We agreed upon a price but she said that she wanted to FaceTime prior to hanging out. I agreed but she wanted me to pay her an allowance for our FaceTime. She then said I can pay a small portion for the FaceTime and then our agreed upon amount if we met. What are your thoughts on this! To me red flags are going off?[/QUOTE]Just my opinion but she sounds like she is trying to get whatever she can out of you. Even if it is a small amount, say 20 bucks. All she has to do is fool ten guys and she makes an easy 200 for doing close to nothing. That's worst case scenario for her. For you it's 20 bucks to find out if her intentions are true and the odds are against you seeing this is a common scam. For me, anyone that asks for money up front should be a total red flag as you said. Keep in mind, there are plenty of girls out there that don't require being paid upfront or for a meet and greet.

GV, you are no newbie. You have been around the block multiple times.

IMHO, that is a newbie question. You know for a fact, that girl will never, ever be meeting a guy live and in person.

[QUOTE=GianniVersace;5134377]So I've been chatting with this girl and all seemed good. We agreed upon a price but she said that she wanted to FaceTime prior to hanging out. I agreed but she wanted me to pay her an allowance for our FaceTime. She then said I can pay a small portion for the FaceTime and then our agreed upon amount if we met. What are your thoughts on this! To me red flags are going off?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Longjblues;5134658]GV, you are no newbie. You have been around the block multiple times.

IMHO, that is a newbie question. You know for a fact, that girl will never, ever be meeting a guy live and in person.[/QUOTE]Exactly I'm no newbie but occasionally I may get derailed because my little head makes me make stupid decisions LOL. This girl looked hot. She seemed pretty legit and down to earth. Glad I have I guys here as my support group to knock some sense into me.

Thank you all.

[QUOTE=GianniVersace;5134684]Exactly I'm no newbie but occasionally I may get derailed because my little head makes me make stupid decisions LOL. This girl looked hot. She seemed pretty legit and down to earth. Glad I have I guys here as my support group to knock some sense into me.

Thank you all.[/QUOTE]Well now that that has been settled how about a link to her profile so that all the guys that reminded you to think with the big head can avoid wasting time on her?

You should be OK. Take the details off SA. I was banned twice. Once for explicitly talking $$ (my fault) and another for no apparent reason apart from someone probably flagging me.

[QUOTE=Tribeca67;5134592]If a girl asks for ppm on seeking can I give her my number to discuss that or I'll get banned? Some girls don't know that it's a banned term. And I definitely don't want to get banned by responding to her.[/QUOTE]

Gentlemen, membership gone but have retained some numbers and hoping for any info or comments.

I met Aimee who is no longer on sa as far as I know, good time very nice person looking for monogomy.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/a7a3cda4-85c7-4548-b0d3-23ae2a9efa9f[/URL]

Empris.

She sounds nice nice and sexy. Hoping to set something up.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/b787bab2-b1df-4f1e-af50-5316d39cc7e4[/URL]

Met ana alice. Very nice woman, fun cfs. BBBJ. Good convo.

I would repeat but she is looking for steady.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/33b4e946-5ec0-4f9b-91fe-8b3655b2aa20[/URL]

Anita567. Lots of planning, last minute wants money for gas. No go.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/2960975f-e77a-4924-ba62-fc3c424bb2ad[/URL]

Melli8. Been chatting but she canceled our meeting. Sounds very sexy. Still 8 nterested.

[QUOTE=AlexBok;5136284]Gentlemen, membership gone but have retained some numbers and hoping for any info or comments.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/33b4e946-5ec0-4f9b-91fe-8b3655b2aa20[/URL]

Anita567. Lots of planning, last minute wants money for gas. No go.

[/QUOTE]Anita567, also planned an M&G. And she asked for money to fix her internet connection. No go for me. At least that was the night before the planned meeting so I didn't have to wasted my time driving to the meeting point.

[QUOTE=PinayLuver;5112398]Referring to the massage part. Is she still in business? And if so where does she advertise her services? Is she any good with regards to the massage?[/QUOTE]Not worth it IMO but even a bad slice of pizza is still pretty good.

FYI, Robotic and $ is #1 interest.

Saw her twice. Indeed a young college gal. Nice enough gal, but I will not repeat. Does not have a working phone. Everything has to be communicated on SA so fellas, BE CAREFUL. First time was car date (her way of M&G). Very talented when it comes to bbbjcimws. This is when I learned she could text ya with iMessage from her computer. Lured me back in the second time with the promise of an incall. Incall is NOT ideal. Both times, I don't think she's freshly showered so there's a bit of BO from down under and this is the deal breaker for me. If you have the means of hosting and literally hosing her down with some Herbal Essences, she's VERY fun. Not entirely dirty, just could use a nice hot shower.

-Cricks.

Anyone have contact with this one?

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/5a9571da-3d39-454d-930f-e4284a4be5c0?&locale=en_US[/URL]

Thanks.

[QUOTE=Crickets;5137119]If you have the means of hosting and literally hosing her down with some Herbal Essences, she's VERY fun.

-Cricks.[/QUOTE]Brilliant.

[QUOTE=Crickets;5137119]Saw her twice. Indeed a young college gal. Nice enough gal, but I will not repeat. Does not have a working phone. Everything has to be communicated on SA so fellas, BE CAREFUL. First time was car date (her way of M&G). Very talented when it comes to bbbjcimws. This is when I learned she could text ya with iMessage from her computer. Lured me back in the second time with the promise of an incall. Incall is NOT ideal. Both times, I don't think she's freshly showered so there's a bit of BO from down under and this is the deal breaker for me. If you have the means of hosting and literally hosing her down with some Herbal Essences, she's VERY fun. Not entirely dirty, just could use a nice hot shower.

-Cricks.[/QUOTE]I had plans for a car date but she kept pushing more money and asking for more every few texts. Also not on the pill. So take it for what its worth. I aborted due to the fact she wanted ovwr 100 for a car date.

[QUOTE=PaulRew;5135128]Well now that that has been settled how about a link to her profile so that all the guys that reminded you to think with the big head can avoid wasting time on her?[/QUOTE]Here is the link to her.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/67509f5f-fb2d-4c08-b049-3f035f367551[/URL]

I am off seeking as of last week and I had talked with a lady from Concord. She was a blond mid 30's I believe We texted and I told her I would be in touch after the holidays. Like a jerk I blew her # away Her name was fun loving goofball If any one could provide her # I would be grateful and would send you more then 1 in return.

[QUOTE=GianniVersace;5138499]Here is the link to her.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/67509f5f-fb2d-4c08-b049-3f035f367551[/URL][/QUOTE]I always avoid when they say "take it slow", "be patient", respect boundaries ". It usually ends up with a request for small payments to " build trust" or "prove you are serious". Just another word for a prepayment scam.

Moved to text and asked to Skype right away. She said she is not after money. I said thank you and out.

[QUOTE=Spill;5137501]Anyone have contact with this one?

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/5a9571da-3d39-454d-930f-e4284a4be5c0?&locale=en_US[/URL]

Thanks.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Joe1223;5138950]I always avoid when they say "take it slow", "be patient", respect boundaries ". It usually ends up with a request for small payments to " build trust" or "prove you are serious". Just another word for a prepayment scam.[/QUOTE]Definitely. If I see it in a profile I usually don't bother even messaging. If it comes up in initial chatting, I just give a straightforward "I agree it's really important to get comfortable. But I never transfer funds before meeting someone in person. " If that doesn't work for them, great; saves me time. Next!

She texted and was friendly. She said she loves sucking and she swallow and then she said 300! I laughed so hard thru the text. I apologised but said no thanks. These girls are delusional.

Here's the link.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/0ef0ae56-81be-4be4-9f5a-26dc8ed2f58b[/URL]

[QUOTE=Satine;5138963]Moved to text and asked to Skype right away. She said she is not after money. I said thank you and out.[/QUOTE]Won; t be doing the skype thing.

What is wrong with using Skype?

[QUOTE=Spill;5140284]Won; t be doing the skype thing.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Patriarchist;5131005]Had her over my place, I don't think she can host. She had a car though and drove herself. She didn't look nearly as good as the pictures when she got her clothes off; baby damage from three kids and stretch marks. Kind of messed up teeth too and smelt of cigs. Cute freckled face though which I'm a sucker for. We got right down to business when she arrived. Nice BBBJ and then CFS. In and out in about 30 minutes. I donated 150. Can't say I'd be too enthusiastic to repeat but not a bad last minute option. She was very responsive to texts.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/7581168f-97ef-41e5-8caf-613fd2e4deed[/URL][/QUOTE]I've re-evaluated the semi-pro Babylove858. She texted me offering a session for 100 which I accepted. This time no cig smell and actually, although she's had three kids, there is no severe "baby damage" or stretch marks. They are really only on one of her breasts which she covered up this time. Almost makes me think she might read have read what I said LOL. Yea she's not as slim as her pics but I'd be more inclined to repeat at that price point.

[QUOTE=Patriarchist;5140525]I've re-evaluated the semi-pro Babylove858. She texted me offering a session for 100 which I accepted. This time no cig smell and actually, although she's had three kids, there is no severe "baby damage" or stretch marks. They are really only on one of her breasts which she covered up this time. Almost makes me think she might read have read what I said LOL. Yea she's not as slim as her pics but I'd be more inclined to repeat at that price point.[/QUOTE]Whew!. Three kids, in school and, selling herself on SA. She must've hit one serious rough patch.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/65c2b539-fb58-4c80-ba99-76fb200b3732[/URL]

Anyone seen her, I thought I read something, but nothing in the searches, and I searched about 50 pages.

[QUOTE=JDeller;5140506]What is wrong with using Skype?[/QUOTE]She insisted on turning on the video camera.

[QUOTE=Satine;5140636]She insisted on turning on the video camera.[/QUOTE]And you saw something. . . Untoward?

[QUOTE=Bran001;5141850]And you saw something. . . Untoward?[/QUOTE]I am assuming he meant that he did not want to risk being video taped discussing SA.

I met her via FetLife and it now appears she's branching out. Safe, sane, has a job and a hubby, and insatiable. Her only limit was anal but she will wear a plug (curious). She's located in the Portsmouth area and you will need to host.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/ee1f6046-8a45-4dfe-8f58-2368166f7b5c[/URL]

[QUOTE=WillSmith96;5141951]I met her via FetLife and it now appears she's branching out. Safe, sane, has a job and a hubby, and insatiable. Her only limit was anal but she will wear a plug (curious). She's located in the Portsmouth area and you will need to host.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/ee1f6046-8a45-4dfe-8f58-2368166f7b5c[/URL][/QUOTE]I know a number of woman who like the back door played with but no anal. Lots of nerve endings make it enjoyable for some ladies but they do not want a shlong up there. Typically one finger max.

[QUOTE=Lily1234;5141930]I am assuming he meant that he did not want to risk being video taped discussing SA.[/QUOTE]The video tape can easily be used for multiple purposes, even when things are good in the beginning.

[QUOTE=Spill;5142112]The video tape can easily be used for multiple purposes, even when things are good in the beginning.[/QUOTE]I won't get on video with someone I don't know either. Totally agree.

I need a little assistance, I bought a $100 Visa vanilla card with the hopes of getting signed up. I have no interest in using any of my real info. Is what I'm trying to do doable? It keeps getting declined. Thanks.

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/f741ecdc-916c-4a23-b61f-c020e97654e0[/URL]

Anyone have any intel? Suppose to see her Monday.

[QUOTE=Bran001;5142308]I won't get on video with someone I don't know either. Totally agree.[/QUOTE]I have a policy of never leaving a trail to my real self. I use a fake name when I meet the girls, phone app, fake social media accounts, fake Venmo profile names, the list goes on. I don't revel my true identity ever. I don't allow any pics or vids when I'm with the girl. It may be a bit extreme but discretion is very important to me so I'm probably over cautious but I like them not knowing who I am or where I live.

If they happen to go digging maybe they can find more about me but by then we have developed a good relationship and my trust level is much higher. If I sense a possible setup or if they start asking for more details about me I end it. I had a girl tell me she wanted an arrangement but needed to have a dating situation for it to work. I took a pass as I felt she would want to know too much about me and going out to dinner requires more conversation than pillow talk after sex. Some girls ask for video chat and I just say no and move on.

[QUOTE=Joe1223;5142871]I have a policy of never leaving a trail to my real self. I use a fake name when I meet the girls, phone app, fake social media accounts, fake Venmo profile names, the list goes on. I don't revel my true identity ever. I don't allow any pics or vids when I'm with the girl. It may be a bit extreme but discretion is very important to me so I'm probably over cautious but I like them not knowing who I am or where I live.

If they happen to go digging maybe they can find more about me but by then we have developed a good relationship and my trust level is much higher. If I sense a possible setup or if they start asking for more details about me I end it. I had a girl tell me she wanted an arrangement but needed to have a dating situation for it to work. I took a pass as I felt she would want to know too much about me and going out to dinner requires more conversation than pillow talk after sex. Some girls ask for video chat and I just say no and move on.[/QUOTE]I've done the same and still do. I don't have any fake social media, but they've never asked for any. The one issue I've had, they found my identity because I'd said too much about what one of my kids was doing. She was smart enough to find him and then trail to me of course.

My 'issue' is that I do like the girls who perform best when it's not just an "hour session. " It's hard to avoid the small talk that leads to even small details coming up. I want the pillow talk, but yeah it's a bit too dangerous. But yes over time trust is built and I can tell if she's someone that'll never want to hurt me when we inevitably go separate ways.

[QUOTE=Numonga;5142496]I need a little assistance, I bought a $100 Visa vanilla card with the hopes of getting signed up. I have no interest in using any of my real info. Is what I'm trying to do doable? It keeps getting declined. Thanks.[/QUOTE]Download the SA app, and have the vanilla card in your Google pay. So when you sign up your name or zip code is not required. You can purchase the 1 month subscription via that phone app.

[QUOTE=Joe1223;5142871]I have a policy of never leaving a trail to my real self. I use a fake name when I meet the girls, phone app, fake social media accounts, fake Venmo profile names, the list goes on. I don't revel my true identity ever. I don't allow any pics or vids when I'm with the girl. It may be a bit extreme but discretion is very important to me so I'm probably over cautious but I like them not knowing who I am or where I live.

If they happen to go digging maybe they can find more about me but by then we have developed a good relationship and my trust level is much higher. If I sense a possible setup or if they start asking for more details about me I end it. I had a girl tell me she wanted an arrangement but needed to have a dating situation for it to work. I took a pass as I felt she would want to know too much about me and going out to dinner requires more conversation than pillow talk after sex. Some girls ask for video chat and I just say no and move on.[/QUOTE]I do the same!! Fake everything LOL.