Noobguide. Referrals, P411, I'd's, etc
I decided to write this because I got a request from another member on here to provide a referral on his behalf to a provider, and he'd only posted twice on this board, he's never exchanged PM's with me, and he's not someone I see on other boards, either. In the end, if you are new, you need to earn your stripes so to speak.
So here are somethings to consider for you, and understand what to do, and how to do it:
1. One of the best ways to be able to deal with screening hassles is having a P411 account. If you've seen two providers on p411 that can vouch for you, and have never been a p411 member, there is a 6 month promotion going on right now, where you can get the membership for free. P411 is not a review site, it's basically a verification site and some of the higher end ladies use it. Some of the smarter BP girls, do, too. If you don't have the two referrals, you have to give a cc if I'm not mistaken. This works well for immediate appointment requests, and helps protect you and the provider. I've used this service for many years, as I'm sure many other seniors have and do.
2. Referrals. What providers want here is for you to give them the names of providers you've seen in the last 6 months so they can check you out. It's usually a 24-48 hour process, if the provider replies at all. Some ladies don't provide referrals, others do. If you're looking for something quick, this is not the best option. Most reputable providers aren't going to take a referral from a random BP girl, either. They want an established provider to provide the referral. When you're being asked for a referral, let the provider you put down as a referral know you put her down as a referral! Remind her of who you are, when you saw her, and some details from the date.
3. Providing I'd / Business Cards / Real Name / send an email from work address. I've done this, but only a few times. I won't send any I'd / Business Card over the internet, but I'll text it to her, and ask her to delete it once we meet. I won't do it without speaking to them, or covering my street address up. If they sound crazy, or fucked up / drunk / high / too eager, I'm not sending it to them (let alone visiting them), if they look weird in their pics I won't send them to them, if they're TGTBT and have no reviews, or don't own up to the facts their pics aren't them, I won't fucking send shit. I won't email them unless is to some generic email address that sounds legitimately plausible for me to be emailing from my work account, and even then, I usually don't. Again, I usually don't hit up a lot of BP girls since the talent's dropped way off, but I will from time to time if the mood strikes me and I see a coherent ad.
4. References from hobbyists. I will only refer people to a provider if I know them, period, or they have a presence in the community across several boards. Also this is very rare. Senior members on this board typically are established and have their own referral sources, so they would not ask for a referral from another hobbyist. In short, it's amateur hour if you're asking for it, unless you're talking about a UTR girl.
5. AND MOST IMPORTANT. Do not ever claim a hobbyist referred you to a provider without getting the monger's permission to do it. Just because we post a review doesn't entitle you to say that we referred you. Providers do check with us, and they may blacklist you for trying to dupe them. And yes, they have blacklist sites for mongers.
USASG is one of the places I visit because it has active content and an active group for our market. I don't think it's a bad thing to know there are other places to find information, but as us more experienced guys know, someone else's 8, may be another one's 6. So I've learned to look for, and post reviews here and elsewhere, and this board is one of the top 2-3 places I check, so even if you do find other places, you'll find some guys prefer posting here, and others elsewhere, and some post everywhere, and usually with the same handles.
