Seeking Arrangement

[QUOTE=MichiganMan686;5110900]Been on SA for about a month still tryin to land a few cause my work has been crazy busy. I've been asked for a face pic a couple times. Wondering if it was for blackmail too. I never sent cause I'm not the one selling mygoods here. 2 of them kept afte me about it. I moved on from them. Doesn't matter to me cause I'm divorced and single. MM686.[/QUOTE]My thought process is a little different, but perhaps it's because I am looking for something a little different. I try to avoid the semi-pros, UTRs, etc. I actually prefer something that will be relatively long-term with someone for whom SA is not a career. I've been very fortunate and have had several long-term arrangements (as long as 2 years). All of my best arrangements have been with girls who asked for pictures. In fact, if a girl commits to meeting without having requested a picture, I view that as a substantial negative. I'm not looking for someone who is willing to commit to sex with someone when they haven't even seen a picture. For the same reason, I never offer to send a picture, because I want it to be their idea.

[QUOTE=LoVecchio;5111531]My thought process is a little different, but perhaps it's because I am looking for something a little different. I try to avoid the semi-pros, UTRs, etc. I actually prefer something that will be relatively long-term with someone for whom SA is not a career. I've been very fortunate and have had several long-term arrangements (as long as 2 years). All of my best arrangements have been with girls who asked for pictures. In fact, if a girl commits to meeting without having requested a picture, I view that as a substantial negative. I'm not looking for someone who is willing to commit to sex with someone when they haven't even seen a picture. For the same reason, I never offer to send a picture, because I want it to be their idea.[/QUOTE]Thanks. I'm just I guess always cautious not to get into a bad situation. TY for the opinion. I'm a long time hobbiest but been on SA for about 30 days. Definately learning still. I do want what you describe. Long term nsa arrangement too. One of my holdups is finding hotels that will have a room checkin during daytime hours. Like 1 pm or so. Any help on that would be appreciated. Happy hunting my friend. Mm686.

[QUOTE=Gyxser70;5110950]I've been a paying member on Seeking now for the past 2-2.5 months and have yet to find someone who's halfway decent for something ongoing. My type is SB's who are newer to sugaring, more of an UTR. Women around 24-32 appeal to me the most.

When I first joined, I was putting a lot of effort into messaging women; I'm always direct but never pushy or aggressive. I try to get off of the site as quickly as possible to text or many ask if I have SC.

After a few texts I always ask what their schedule is so we can meet for a coffee, etc. At this point, this is where 8/9 out of 10 girls usually do the same thing- some form of they will let me know, or some type of low interest response. After that I usually tell them to reach out when they figure it out. In most cases I never hear back from them and I don't like to reach back out again when I put the ball into their court. If things do make it to the actual day of our M&G, many will flake or something always comes up. I do all the leg work to find a time, place, somewhere that's close to them all they have to do is show up LOL!

So far, though, I have met two POT SB's since I've been on there for a M&G but one ghosted after we had an arrangement made and the other I could tell was going to be more of a headache long term than what it would've been worth.

With that being said, I've received lots of messages on there- the usual scammers, undesirables, awful communicators who don't seem all there in the head.

I'll give it a little longer, but I'm getting close to giving it a break for awhile.[/QUOTE]This is spot on my experience too. Almost impossible to have a full conversation with one without them delaying for hours. I'm not small talking for long but have learned to get to the point. Then negoiate over my cell from there. Not a whole lot of interest from the SB's sometimes.

This is interesting, because, when I try, I can typically meet up with a couple of new people a week if I want to. My issue of late and why I'm taking a break, is that almost all come off as providers lately, probably due to Covid scaring off more casual people. Before this, I met a few that ended up just being longterm friends, and they got off the site, which is more of the style I look for as well.

[QUOTE=Gyxser70;5110950]I've been a paying member on Seeking now for the past 2-2.5 months and have yet to find someone who's halfway decent for something ongoing. My type is SB's who are newer to sugaring, more of an UTR. Women around 24-32 appeal to me the most.

When I first joined, I was putting a lot of effort into messaging women; I'm always direct but never pushy or aggressive. I try to get off of the site as quickly as possible to text or many ask if I have SC.

After a few texts I always ask what their schedule is so we can meet for a coffee, etc. At this point, this is where 8/9 out of 10 girls usually do the same thing- some form of they will let me know, or some type of low interest response. After that I usually tell them to reach out when they figure it out. In most cases I never hear back from them and I don't like to reach back out again when I put the ball into their court. If things do make it to the actual day of our M&G, many will flake or something always comes up. I do all the leg work to find a time, place, somewhere that's close to them all they have to do is show up LOL!

So far, though, I have met two POT SB's since I've been on there for a M&G but one ghosted after we had an arrangement made and the other I could tell was going to be more of a headache long term than what it would've been worth.

With that being said, I've received lots of messages on there- the usual scammers, undesirables, awful communicators who don't seem all there in the head.

I'll give it a little longer, but I'm getting close to giving it a break for awhile.[/QUOTE].

[QUOTE=MichiganMan686;5112201]One of my holdups is finding hotels that will have a room checkin during daytime hours. Like 1 pm or so. Any help on that would be appreciated. Happy hunting my friend. Mm686.[/QUOTE]I am in the same boat -- needing early check-in for daytime meetings. Most hotels will not guarantee early check-in, so what I often do is make reservations at a few places in the appropriate locale and then call them the morning-of to see if they have a room available. Usually, if they do have a room, it's not a problem to check in early. But if they were full the night before, sometimes they won't have a clean room early. (I often like to meet early- to mid-morning, which is harder than early afternoon.).

The important caution here is that you have to find hotels that will allow cancellations the day of arrival. Otherwise, you're on the hook for a room you can't use if they don't have one available for early check-in.

On a couple of occasions, I reserved a room for two nights, so that I would be guaranteed a room. Those were special occasions, though. That only works easily if the meeting site is close to where I live or work, so that it's not a problem checking in the day before. I often meet girls who are an hour away from me (occasionally more), and the logistics of checking in the day before are kind of difficult. And, of course, this doubles the cost of the hotel.

This one had a long coversation with me but wants to do a meet and greet. 50 cash app 50 face to face. Are they ever legit if you do the prepay or is it always a scam?

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/4c210062-2713-4181-a740-0e72098f35b8[/URL]

Ty.

Mm686.

[QUOTE=LoVecchio;5112227]I am in the same boat -- needing early check-in for daytime meetings. Most hotels will not guarantee early check-in, so what I often do is make reservations at a few places in the appropriate locale and then call them the morning-of to see if they have a room available. Usually, if they do have a room, it's not a problem to check in early. But if they were full the night before, sometimes they won't have a clean room early. (I often like to meet early- to mid-morning, which is harder than early afternoon.).

The important caution here is that you have to find hotels that will allow cancellations the day of arrival. Otherwise, you're on the hook for a room you can't use if they don't have one available for early check-in.

On a couple of occasions, I reserved a room for two nights, so that I would be guaranteed a room. Those were special occasions, though. That only works easily if the meeting site is close to where I live or work, so that it's not a problem checking in the day before. I often meet girls who are an hour away from me (occasionally more), and the logistics of checking in the day before are kind of difficult. And, of course, this doubles the cost of the hotel.[/QUOTE]TY for the help. Mm686.

[QUOTE=MichiganMan686;5112277]This one had a long coversation with me but wants to do a meet and greet. 50 cash app 50 face to face. Are they ever legit if you do the prepay or is it always a scam?

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/4c210062-2713-4181-a740-0e72098f35b8[/URL]

Ty.

Mm686.[/QUOTE]Never give money first.

If you suspect a scammer, just ask them what area they live in. If they're local, they'll give an applicable suburb; scammers tend to avoid the question because they don't even remember what city they put.

[QUOTE=LoVecchio;5107206]Who do you mean?[/QUOTE]Here she is. She's completely revamped her profile. LOL!

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/ad15795a-1329-49c1-92bd-97f1b948001a[/URL]

[QUOTE=JoeLefty;5112729]Here she is. She's completely revamped her profile. LOL!

[URL]https://www.seeking.com/member/ad15795a-1329-49c1-92bd-97f1b948001a[/URL][/QUOTE]Thanks. She's too punctuation-challenged for me.

What is the best way to break up with an SB without hurting her feelings? I have been seeing this SB, she is very sweet and fun but sex has not been good (Ever heard of Starfish sex). Should I tell her I lost my job?

[QUOTE=Jay23;5112797]What is the best way to break up with an SB without hurting her feelings? I have been seeing this SB, she is very sweet and fun but sex has not been good (Ever heard of Starfish sex). Should I tell her I lost my job?[/QUOTE]Same problem here. With the economy limited and unemployment ending there are at least a few ways to end it. Makes me think of having a backup financial reason in case she tries to keep things going.

First off if you get to a point where you think that it's going to be difficult to stop seeing a baby you have already fucked up. Sugaring is typically NSA, meaning no commitment and minimal feelings. That is how I keep it anyway. I've cut off 100's of short and longer term arrangements. In only a few cases I felt compelled to actually say anything. I typically make something up like I starting seeing someone romantically, my sugar budget got drained or some bs like that. Mostly I just stop asking them to hook up or I don't respond to their messages. Sugaring should be easy peasy.

[QUOTE=Jay23;5112797]What is the best way to break up with an SB without hurting her feelings? I have been seeing this SB, she is very sweet and fun but sex has not been good (Ever heard of Starfish sex). Should I tell her I lost my job?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Jay23;5112797]What is the best way to break up with an SB without hurting her feelings? I have been seeing this SB, she is very sweet and fun but sex has not been good (Ever heard of Starfish sex). Should I tell her I lost my job?[/QUOTE]I'd never say I lost a job or lost income. Instead just say something that breaks things off on good terms. You need to focus on your personal life and unfortunately won't be able to see her anymore. You got Covid. Your mom got Covid and is very sick. Whatever. That way you end it but the bridge isn't severed. Just in case.

I have caught feelings with a SB before. We still talk once a month or so. Both of us have moved on to different things but I miss her, on some level.

[QUOTE=MichiganMan686;5112201]Thanks. I'm just I guess always cautious not to get into a bad situation. TY for the opinion. I'm a long time hobbiest but been on SA for about 30 days. Definately learning still. I do want what you describe. Long term nsa arrangement too. One of my holdups is finding hotels that will have a room checkin during daytime hours. Like 1 pm or so. Any help on that would be appreciated. Happy hunting my friend. Mm686.[/QUOTE]Become a Marriott rewards member and download the app on your phone. You can check in online a day in advance, which will put you in line for them to get your room ready faster. Last time I saw someone at a hotel a couple weeks ago, the app notified me that my room was ready at 10 AM. I finished some errands and got there around noon.