In a way we're never really paying for sex either, we're paying them to leave
[QUOTE=Chase Star; 1113999]I think Skiper must have been referring to the actual streetwalker scene as opposed to strippers either inside or outside the club. You don't find too many actual strippers out on the street or at least none of any real quality. Any halfway decent looking stripper can get all the contacts she needs from her customers inside the club without having to resort to the riskiness of the street. More likely, if you find a (former) stripper plying her services out on the street, she is on the tail end of her decline and no longer even really working as a stripper (at any place decent). But I'm with you on 99% of what you just said.
First off, there is a definite difference between the bargain basement escorts who may see several clients a day and for whom the sex has become like a run of the mill assembly line and higher-end escorts who are more likely to see fewer clients and provide GFE. But that is not 100, you can run into higher-priced escorts who, though they may be beautiful and even provide decent service still seem to be lacking something and at the other end much lower priced escorts who, though they may not be absolute 10's, are really into the sex and somehow manage to provide the GFE despite whatever number of clients they wind up seeing. But, before anyone else says it, those observations are really in the wrong thread.
However, the other part of what you said really struck a chord with me. I don't remember the last time I went with a BP or CL girl, and that used to be my main outlet. Since, I've learned how to work it, I've pulled several strippers from clubs that provide GFE well beyond anything any escort ever did and typically for at lot less than the full-time escorts around here normally charge (or at least if you ignore the "recruiting" costs inside the clubs). And, as you suggested, a big part of that is because most of them don't see themselves as working as prostitutes (more on the contradictions of that in a moment) and so don't act that way with you. Here again, there are certainly always exceptions. There are some strippers who give out their numbers like you or I would give out tic-tacs. And for them it can be just as much a business as it is for any escort. Sometimes they still provide GFE quality service, sometimes not. Sometimes they make no bones about it being a business and sometimes they try to maintain the illusion that what they do is somehow not prostitution. Then there are those who you have to work a little harder at, establish more of a rapporte before they will agree to see you outside the club. The funny thing is that many of these girls will do extras inside the club at various levels right up to f / s and yet somehow don't see that as being the same thing as being a hooker. And even the ones who may not do as much inside the club but will do things outside the club with the right guys (in exchange for a little financial help, of course) often still don't see what they do as prostitution.
The real prizes, of course, are the ones who have just started exploring this way of making some additional money. They might not normally consider having sex with an older guy, but (assuming the guy is nice to them and not to disgusting) will consider with enough sweet talk or added financial inducement and often once they do discover that those older guys they hadn't previously considered often know a lot more about pleasing a woman than the younger punks they are normally used to. This is why, once they've found a customer they feel comfortable seeing outside the club they will usually be content with a lot less money than those BP / CL escorts normally require or even start calling them up with discounted offers when they need extra cash or are feeling particularly horny. When that happens, I've found the real trick is to not let the rate go too low. After all, in a way we're never really paying for sex either, we're paying them to leave. And at some point the trade-off with lower rates is having to deal with their crazy shit more and they become almost like real girlfriends. And believe me you almost never want a stripper for an actual girlfriend. There is usually way oo much drama (often including drugs) and illogic in their personal lives.
The fun part for me is hunting for the strippers who will come out (for a reasonable price) and provide the best service for the least amount of effort and expense on my part, knowing how to spot the most likely candidates (and test them out without spending a small fortune in VIP). Slutty enough on stage and in the private dancing areas to suggest they might go for me but not so slutty that they might turn out too hard-core or worse screwed up in the head. And then managing the relationship so that you can ride it out as long as possible until its inevitable end or deterioration. For some (many) guys it may not be worth the extra effort and they'd rather spend a little more to just be able to call a girl from an ad and go right out and get laid or pay a little less and take their chances on a quickie out on the street. IMHO, there is no one right way to go about this hobby and what works for one guy might not for somebody else. [/QUOTE]How true and profound is this? Never thought of it this way but it's so true.
Congratulations on your insight and perception.
Happy 2011 to all from the UK.
Stay safe,
Beady
3. 5 relationships with SC dancers. Consequences and what not
I think I've only taken 3. 5 girls out from SC. (1) 22 year old squirter who went back to Colorado as I've already discussed. (2) a voluptuous 30 year old, huge natural rack, long black hair, tiny waist, hispanic-german ethnic mix, wanted to be an artist. I worked on her for a month, finally got her to take me home and I am getting lathered up and start to put on a condom when she says "no condoms." WTF! She kept this rule for the 5-6 sessions I saw her so I had to release between her tits or on her belly or in her hand. I didn't see her for a couple months. When I returned she was pregnant. The woman wanted a baby and if I had gone along with her "no condoms" policy and fucked her anyway I'd be the dad. A close call. Whew. (3) the girl with the best moves in the VIP I ever saw was not in Tampa. Not that she would get you off in the club, but she was just so erotic. I spent a ton of dinero on her dances. No bareback contact though. Her panties stayed on. One day she is driving me wild with her moves and suddenly bends down and pulls at my belt and somehow gets her tongue down to the top of my dick which she licks a couple times, then backs up and dances away again. I'd asked her out before this, the answer always was "Sorry. I'm engaged." This time I just said,"Ashley are you ever going to let me take your panties off?" and she said "Yes." We met about a half dozen times in a hotel, it was great but started to get a little wacky when she called me up and went on and on about how she loved what we were doing. What does this mean? I'm thinking. I didn't see her again, but she called just before her wedding and asked if I wanted to have "one last session." I said no. This was from a girl who said before out first session "You know this is just business, right?" (3. 5) I got a screwball 19 year old Hungarian dancer, tall and perfect and pretty, out of a club in Toronto. She let me play with her clit until she came and offered a HJ, saying she would consider FS later on account of how she had to get used to our age difference. I was drained from another girl earlier in the day and declined the HJ. Her upper arms were covered with scars which I couldn't see in the club. They were from cutting herself. She called me constantly for a month, shrieking into the phone about how she needed money. I had to change my phone.