Married & mongering

I've been doing escorts here and there (hx, Tijuana) since 2008 but since the pandemic I've really ramped up seeing providers on a weekly basis. I noticed in the last few years I do not get turned on by my wife anymore even though she does everything these providers do. She is still hot and sexy and in her late 20's but for some reason the thrill of getting an escort just seems more fun to me. When my wife and I do do it, my mind is running thru some of my favorite providers instead of thinking about her LOL.

She started thinking I am having ED but my libido drive with her is is low. Maybe it's because we've been together for 8 years.

I was wondering if anyone else had these issues or any similar stories? Would love some feedback. Thank you brothers!

[QUOTE=PayPalMakesMon;6493699]I've been doing escorts here and there (hx, Tijuana) since 2008 but since the pandemic I've really ramped up seeing providers on a weekly basis. I noticed in the last few years I do not get turned on by my wife anymore even though she does everything these providers do. She is still hot and sexy and in her late 20's but for some reason the thrill of getting an escort just seems more fun to me. When my wife and I do do it, my mind is running thru some of my favorite providers instead of thinking about her LOL.

She started thinking I am having ED but my libido drive with her is is low. Maybe it's because we've been together for 8 years.

I was wondering if anyone else had these issues or any similar stories? Would love some feedback. Thank you brothers![/QUOTE]I get what you're saying about the excitement. I used to run through tinder dates faster than I could really keep up with. It was similar costs and bb was typically my go to if the girl was comfortable but it's so boring compared to the convenience of getting a provider for me. Idk what it is as I have no trouble getting it up with a provider but I realize I need a bit of foreplay or build up for civies. Not sure what the cause of it is or what mental block I have with the sheer primal behavior I have with escorts but know you're not alone.

[QUOTE=PayPalMakesMon;6493699]I've been doing escorts here and there (hx, Tijuana) since 2008 but since the pandemic I've really ramped up seeing providers on a weekly basis. I noticed in the last few years I do not get turned on by my wife anymore even though she does everything these providers do. She is still hot and sexy and in her late 20's but for some reason the thrill of getting an escort just seems more fun to me. When my wife and I do do it, my mind is running thru some of my favorite providers instead of thinking about her LOL.

She started thinking I am having ED but my libido drive with her is is low. Maybe it's because we've been together for 8 years.

I was wondering if anyone else had these issues or any similar stories? Would love some feedback. Thank you brothers![/QUOTE]Sounds pretty normal to me. There's always extra excitement with something new.

[QUOTE=LoveFromFrank;6493715]I get what you're saying about the excitement. I used to run through tinder dates faster than I could really keep up with. It was similar costs and bb was typically my go to if the girl was comfortable but it's so boring compared to the convenience of getting a provider for me. Idk what it is as I have no trouble getting it up with a provider but I realize I need a bit of foreplay or build up for civies. Not sure what the cause of it is or what mental block I have with the sheer primal behavior I have with escorts but know you're not alone.[/QUOTE]So glad you guys are sharing this with me as well! Appreciate you.

[QUOTE=JDog1234;6493720]Sounds pretty normal to me. There's always extra excitement with something new.[/QUOTE]And there is something new everyday! It's tough to stay excited with the wife when there are new toys posting up daily 😂 thanks for sharing.

[QUOTE=PayPalMakesMon;6493699]I've been doing escorts here and there (hx, Tijuana) since 2008 but since the pandemic I've really ramped up seeing providers on a weekly basis. I noticed in the last few years I do not get turned on by my wife anymore even though she does everything these providers do. She is still hot and sexy and in her late 20's but for some reason the thrill of getting an escort just seems more fun to me. When my wife and I do do it, my mind is running thru some of my favorite providers instead of thinking about her LOL.

She started thinking I am having ED but my libido drive with her is is low. Maybe it's because we've been together for 8 years.

I was wondering if anyone else had these issues or any similar stories? Would love some feedback. Thank you brothers![/QUOTE]I think part of the excitement has to do with the fact that the provider is a new person you have never seen before and your wife is the same person you've been with since marriage so boredom is partly to blame. It's the same with porn how you will get excited for new porn as opposed to porn you have already seen a couple times.

On a side note, I've been kind of dealing with similar issues to you where I've been seeing escorts on and off and losing interest in my wife. We recently rekindled our intimacy again by going through the 34 questions every couple should answer by Arthur Aronson. Not trying to be a marriage counselor or anything, but if you have any interest in being more intimate with your wife, maybe you should give it a try. You can do a quick Google search to pull up the questions.

I'm in a different boat for mongering. Married for almost 2 years but I've had sex maybe like 20 times? It's a long story.

But do you guys do BBFS? I prefer it and have done it and considering how infrequently I have sex with my wife, I can get tested in time but was just wondering what the rest of you do.

Thanks for this thread and for sharing.

[QUOTE=HandsOfMidas;6497568]I'm in a different boat for mongering. Married for almost 2 years but I've had sex maybe like 20 times? It's a long story.

But do you guys do BBFS? I prefer it and have done it and considering how infrequently I have sex with my wife, I can get tested in time but was just wondering what the rest of you do.

Thanks for this thread and for sharing.[/QUOTE]Long marriage, no sex w / the SO for me. I only ever do covered, but that is my choice, because I am in the health field and I trust no one w / incurable viral diseases. I also don't see mainline sex workers. I have had sugar relationships though, where we both were tested. Even w / a clean test (at some point in time) you can't be sure that you / she is clean today. My peace of mind demands I use a cover.

[QUOTE=SuperFlee;6494287]I think part of the excitement has to do with the fact that the provider is a new person you have never seen before and your wife is the same person you've been with since marriage so boredom is partly to blame. It's the same with porn how you will get excited for new porn as opposed to porn you have already seen a couple times.

On a side note, I've been kind of dealing with similar issues to you where I've been seeing escorts on and off and losing interest in my wife. We recently rekindled our intimacy again by going through the 34 questions every couple should answer by Arthur Aronson. Not trying to be a marriage counselor or anything, but if you have any interest in being more intimate with your wife, maybe you should give it a try. You can do a quick Google search to pull up the questions.[/QUOTE]I'll definitely check it out. Glad to feel I'm not alone.

[QUOTE=HandsOfMidas;6497568]I'm in a different boat for mongering. Married for almost 2 years but I've had sex maybe like 20 times? It's a long story.

But do you guys do BBFS? I prefer it and have done it and considering how infrequently I have sex with my wife, I can get tested in time but was just wondering what the rest of you do.

Thanks for this thread and for sharing.[/QUOTE]I'm married too but BBFS with pros is beyond my risk appetite LOL.

Especially how much the korean shops are pushing BBFS.

The korean girls claim "they got shots" for HIV now.

[QUOTE=JasonVee;6500021]I'm married too but BBFS with pros is beyond my risk appetite LOL.

Especially how much the korean shops are pushing BBFS.

The korean girls claim "they got shots" for HIV now.[/QUOTE]Another married monger here. I'm almost 20 years in and it's been sexless for 4+ years. Mongering has been my outlet.

No BBFS for me but BBBJ and CFS are definitely in my rotation. Sometimes just a HJ suffices. Just depends on my mood, amount of time I have free, and other factors. Having a separate PC with a VPN and browser that remembers nothing along with a prepaid burner phone has kept me out of suspicion since I started this about 4 years ago.

Stay safe out there!

[QUOTE=Ad949;6500103]Another married monger here. I'm almost 20 years in and it's been sexless for 4+ years. Mongering has been my outlet.

No BBFS for me but BBBJ and CFS are definitely in my rotation. Sometimes just a HJ suffices. Just depends on my mood, amount of time I have free, and other factors. Having a separate PC with a VPN and browser that remembers nothing along with a prepaid burner phone has kept me out of suspicion since I started this about 4 years ago.

Stay safe out there![/QUOTE]Also married here, 13 years in. Worst decision of my life was getting married. Sexless for the past 5 years. I am finally pulling the trigger and divorcing this good for nothing, no value adding, pain in the head biotch. Had I known about mongering, I would have rejected the thought of marriage. Big waste of my time, money, and sanity.

Sorry for the rant.

Already Started mongering into my 3rd year of marriage. Once this divorce is done and over with, never again. Will keep mongering till my last day on earth.

[QUOTE=Ad949;6500103]Another married monger here. I'm almost 20 years in and it's been sexless for 4+ years. Mongering has been my outlet.

No BBFS for me but BBBJ and CFS are definitely in my rotation. Sometimes just a HJ suffices. Just depends on my mood, amount of time I have free, and other factors. Having a separate PC with a VPN and browser that remembers nothing along with a prepaid burner phone has kept me out of suspicion since I started this about 4 years ago.

Stay safe out there![/QUOTE]I use Firefox focus to browse. One swipe up and everything is gone. I also use a TextNow number that I log into when I need to use HX but other then that it's been great to avoid hiccups. Thank you for sharing.

[QUOTE=NewStart101;6500617]Also married here, 13 years in. Worst decision of my life was getting married. Sexless for the past 5 years. I am finally pulling the trigger and divorcing this good for nothing, no value adding, pain in the head biotch. Had I known about mongering, I would have rejected the thought of marriage. Big waste of my time, money, and sanity.

Sorry for the rant.

Already Started mongering into my 3rd year of marriage. Once this divorce is done and over with, never again. Will keep mongering till my last day on earth.[/QUOTE]I'm glad your ranting because it makes me feel like I'm not alone. I really appreciate your story!

Before I got married I was mongering in Columbia, TJ, and all southwest Asia. All I do now is wish I was in the phillipines and mongering until I die.😂.

Mongering in the US is breaking an arm and a leg. The temptation is even worse that I live in OC, near all the coffee shops, streetwalkers, bikini bars and access to providers with a quick visit to HX 😂.

Been married 15+ years. Sex with SO has not happened for about 5 years due to health issues. I still love her to death, but I have needs my hand can't fulfill. Been Mongering regularly for about five years. I go in spurts of seeing girls. At least once a month, sometimes weekly, depending on my libido. I'm pretty much BBFS, so I have a few girls I see regularly for this. Otherwise, it's CFS for sport fucking the hot girls. Usually, pay for videos so I can relive these experiences. The BBFS is for my own pleasure.