"Sugar Babies" and "Arrangements"

**LoriTruck** · 10-02-23 11:27

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...7-4d4b09356b55

I was chatting with this one and she seemed legit. Said she had to fly out to Vegas to take care of some things and that we would meet upon her return. Upon returning, she informs me that her apartment was broken into and they took all her important stuff. She was waiting on the cops to arrive, mentioned she didn't feel safe there and that she would be staying at a friend's house. She should've left it at that. She proceeds to send me a picture her apartment door that was broken into. A quick Google search and the very 1st image that popped up revealed the same picture she sent of an apartment door broken into back in 2019. I didn't call her out on it. I just ignored her. Just wanting to see if the same shady sob story is being shared with others.

**JoyDrop** · 10-02-23 09:34

Originally Posted by AdmirerSecret [View Original Post]

Can you talk more about arrangements in dollers? How this works? You had ppm or allowance? How much you were spending per month on her?

As FarFarAway said, I didn't have a PPM or any sort of financial arrangement with these women; I didn't give them money to see me. That doesn't mean it was free, because as the old saying goes, there's no such thing as free pussy. That is absolutely true. Every transaction is a trade between two counterparties that have something the other wants, right? So what does a girl on Seeking want? Either she wants money or she wants something that she thinks is more valuable than money.

In my case, I specifically sought out self-described "good girls" that weren't comfortable with any sort of pay-to-play arrangement. These girls have typically signed up for Seeking because they (a) are tired of dating immature young guys, (b) are naturally attracted to older men and (c) like the idea of a successful man providing for them in a traditional way, but don't want to link it specifically to a quid pro quo for having sex. But again, it's never free. I didn't pay with cash, but I certainly paid with lots of time & attention. But that's exactly what I was willing to give. I wanted a girlfriend out of the deal and that's what I got. I'm in the minority though. Most guys on Seeking want a no strings attached fuck buddy and there's nothing wrong with that. There are plenty of women available on the site who are looking for the same thing and happy to give it to you for a small nominal fee.

Going back to the concept of free pussy. Let's do the quick math on girlfriend #2. We lived two hours apart and saw each other every week, almost always for an overnight. Every week that was $150 for the hotel, $50 for dinner (at least) and $50 for gas. Multiply that by 50 weeks a year for 4 years and all that "free" pussy only cost me $50 k. I added it up once and in reality I spent closer to 75 k on her over that period of time, but there were lots of incidentals and I took her on several vacations including a trip to Paris at the end of our relationship to celebrate our time together. Was it worth it? Hell yes it was worth it. I had a super hot 20-something in her sexual prime enthusiastically fucking my brains out every week. I'd do it again in a heartbeat, and as a matter of fact I already am LOL. My current gf is an absolute goddess and treats me better than any woman I've ever been with. We've been together close to 2 years and I know that this is the peak experience for me. I can't imagine I'll ever be in a better situation than what I've got now. So I'm just going to live in the moment and enjoy this ride as long as it lasts. Again, I know my approach isn't for everyone, but the bowl can be a very rewarding / fulfilling experience if that's what you're looking for.

**AtlGuyForFun** · 10-02-23 09:23

Originally Posted by AdmirerSecret [View Original Post]

Can you list few bars to go.

I've had luck at Good 'Ole Days in Cumming. If you don't mind redneck and / or trashy women, you can do well. It depends on how high your standards are. Unfortunately, mine aren't what they used to be.

Johnny's Hideway in Buckhead has the meat market reputation. I've talked to some women there, but never left with any.

Being married makes it tough to use the bar approach to getting laid.

**FarFarAway** · 10-02-23 00:02

Originally Posted by AdmirerSecret [View Original Post]

Can you talk more about arrangements in dollers? How this works? You had ppm or allowance? How much you were spending per month on her?

I am generally aware that he doesn't provide any regular $ to his SBs. The guy's got game. I don't think too many people could operate on his model.

**Genome** · 10-01-23 22:46

On Amex go to your profile and change first and last name to just initials, address you have shipping & billing. You can change billing to not reveal your identity, billing is the main address for purchases.

If you still can't make changes call Amex customer service and say I want to pay for few services like charity and I would like to stay anonymous and ask them to make changes for you over phone.

Originally Posted by Genome [View Original Post]

Seeking & SDM sites recently became more of scam sites, I am not talking about members. When you are a free member you won't have any issues but once you are a paid member to communicate with members the problem starts. These sites literally steal your money and they suspend you after they get your money.

For no reason, they suspend your accounts anytime due to automatic triggers that happen on the site on a regular basis and all your money will be gone. They clearly state there are no refunds.

I personally don't recommend using gift cards while getting a membership.

If you want to upgrade your membership only use Amex credit card. Some members want be anonymous and with amex you can use an alias name and can change the address. You can do dispute and block merchant with full refund in case seeking or SDM sites act up.

**AdmirerSecret** · 10-01-23 22:09

Seeking.

Secret benefits.

Sugar daddy.

Which site is best? In terms of costs and more legitimate girls.

**Member #6704** · 10-01-23 22:05

I just subscribed for seeking! Any thoughts on the new format? It sucks. I liked the old format much easier to read profiles.

**Member #6704** · 10-01-23 22:04

Originally Posted by BrownSugaTwo [View Original Post]

LonelyBaby.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...a-b5a163508686

PiscesPrincess.

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...3-1fd4ea368fde

Aria Rose.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...3-44aa74904ff1

Amethyst_dream.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...2-8483a4dcc19d

Hottie02.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...2-8d3a8a5bb767

I want to say lonely baby has been reviewed. She might have had couple of profiles too.

**LouisHernandez** · 10-01-23 22:04

Originally Posted by Jpga1983 [View Original Post]

Yes, we've all definitely heard of tinder, where only the top 5% of men get matches and are successful. Textbook economics dicatates that if women can earn $400 PPM for fucking, why on earth would they fuck for free?

Top 5% is 100% correct and you better not be just in the top 6%. See famous image attached.

**AdmirerSecret** · 10-01-23 21:30

Can you talk more about arrangements in dollers? How this works? You had ppm or allowance? How much you were spending per month on her?

Originally Posted by JoyDrop [View Original Post]

Been there, done that. It's not that uncommon really.

This was the key consideration for me as well.

For context, my marriage isn't terrible, in fact by most standards it's perfectly OK. We get along very well and never fight. But my wife doesn't give me the attention or affection I want and need, and over time she got tired of me encouraging her to do so and I got tired of asking. So eventually I decided I would look elsewhere and Seeking is where I wound up. I have had my fair share of "normal" SB experiences over the years, but my main goal has always been to find a younger woman that wanted a dating relationship with an older man, was comfortable doing so discreetly, and wasn't looking for any direct financial compensation.

My first dip in the pool started when I was 38, she was 21. Everything was going really well, but about a year in she started making noise about leaving my wife and settling down with her. I had young kids at home so that was NEVER going to happen. That relationship ended poorly when I told her I wouldn't leave, although she came back around a couple of years later after she got married and we stay in touch pretty regularly now.

I did absolutely learn a lot in that experience and used those lessons to change my approach to the next relationship. Girlfriend #2 was 21, I was 41. I let her know up front on our very first date that I was never, ever going to leave my wife for her. She was 100% good with that, she told me she wouldn't want to date a married man who would ever be open to leaving. So having established those ground rules up front, we were always open and honest with each other about where we stood, and I made it a point to check in occasionally to make sure she was keeping our relationship in a healthy place (that is, not getting too attached). I made her promise she would tell me when she felt like it was time for her to move on to the next phase in her life. We saw each other exclusively for 4+ years and had an amazing time together. We got extremely close, and in all honesty it was the best relationship of my life. She was a keeper. In another life we would have been great together. But that wasn't in the cards for either of us. That one ended 5 years ago, she's very happily married now and doing great. We still have dinner every year on the anniversary of our first date. She's very special to me, I'm sure we'll always be close.

Fast forward a few years and now I'm now involved with my third girlfriend. This time I was 48 and she was 25 when it started. Again, same approach as the last one. I was very transparent about what I wanted and what the rules were. I don't know how I found this girl but damn she's a unicorn of the highest order. I'm just going to leave it at that. We've been seeing each other for two years. She's an incredibly smart, beautiful trophy girlfriend that any guy here would objectively rate a solid 9. She's smart and capable, very career focused and on her way to being successful in her own right. We have a great relationship and always enjoy our time together. The best part is her sexual appetite. It's incredible. She can't get enough and isn't shy about letting me know. She makes the drive to see me as often as I'll let her. All I have to do is tell her when I want my pussy (her words) and she delivers with unbridled enthusiasm. It's a pretty sweet situation. We both provide the fulfillment that the other is looking for, and we're both extremely happy with our relationship. But we both keep everything in perspective as we both know there is never going to be a happily ever after in our future. And we're both good with that.

So that's all to say that it is absolutely possible to have deep, meaningful relationships with the younger women you meet on Seeking. Those relationships can be very rewarding and fill that void in your life that is not being satisfied by your SO. But it's important to keep in mind that a part-time clandestine relationship is not a REAL relationship. You're only seeing your girl occasionally, when you do there's a heavier emphasis on sex. That's not real life. You're getting the all the best parts of the relationship without having to deal with any of the bad. Never say never, but my best advice is to enjoy the girlfriend for what she is. A part time diversion. If you're considering leaving your wife, take some time away from the girlfriend to focus on the marriage and decide if a divorce is REALLY what you want. Absent any influence from that young hot piece of ass that's got you all sorts of sideways.

Your circumstances are a little unusual in that you're both married, but the broad strokes are the same. I'm happy to talk to you about your situation if you think you would benefit. Just drop me a PM.

JD.

**AdmirerSecret** · 10-01-23 21:23

Originally Posted by DocHolliday35 [View Original Post]

Haha. Ever heard of Tinder? There's no money exchanged for hooking up. You need to Go to a bar and pick up a girl and bring her home. Keep trying until you are successful. There are plenty of girls out there who will fuck for free.

Can you list few bars to go.

**BrownSugaTwo** · 10-01-23 20:40

LonelyBaby.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...a-b5a163508686

PiscesPrincess.

https://members.seeking.com/member/c...3-1fd4ea368fde

Aria Rose.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...3-44aa74904ff1

Amethyst_dream.

https://members.seeking.com/member/0...2-8483a4dcc19d

Hottie02.

https://members.seeking.com/member/4...2-8d3a8a5bb767

**FarFarAway** · 10-01-23 12:32

Originally Posted by DocHolliday35 [View Original Post]

Sounds like a personal problem. There are thousands of girls out here screwing for no money.

Thousands. Is that out of the 8 billion people on the planet? I'll stand by my past statement. The 'vast majority' of male / female relations (including marriages, and specifically my own and many IK) have an element of $ to them.

You're a veteran here, you've likely read the posts of JZLizard, and Hollywood Guy, both Deans of the bowl. HG flat out says there is no such thing as free pussy. JZLizard, he says that paying a girl, even a modest amount, is the way to assure that she isn't expecting other 'benefits' from you; they would be much less overt than a stack of cash. She might really want a relationship, or something like it. If you pay her, you'll keep the lines very very clear. If you don't pay a girl you are seeing from SA, she can develop other 'expectations'.

The dude who started off this convo, because his girl is married as is he, her desires from him for the benefits she is providing, they could be very very costly.

And, 'personal problem'? Are you implying I am some homely dork who can't get women? You have no possible way to know something like that, it's just flaming, which isn't really supposed to be part of this blog. If you want to know about my SBs, ask another poster, JoyDrop, a friend who has seen all my SBs. He, BTW, wasn't kidding in his long post, and I cannot tell you the admiration in which I hold him.

Recall my initial post. I said the only people who get really free pussy are rock stars and guys who look like Brad Pitt. I assume most reading this aren't either of those, because they are reading this. They wouldn't need to if all they had to do was snap their fingers and girls wanted to bang them.

**Genome** · 10-01-23 12:20

Originally Posted by NoRug17 [View Original Post]

They have made the platform seeking, so expensive only real sugar daddies can afford it anymore.

Seeking & SDM sites recently became more of scam sites, I am not talking about members. When you are a free member you won't have any issues but once you are a paid member to communicate with members the problem starts. These sites literally steal your money and they suspend you after they get your money.

For no reason, they suspend your accounts anytime due to automatic triggers that happen on the site on a regular basis and all your money will be gone. They clearly state there are no refunds.

I personally don't recommend using gift cards while getting a membership.

If you want to upgrade your membership only use Amex credit card. Some members want be anonymous and with amex you can use an alias name and can change the address. You can do dispute and block merchant with full refund in case seeking or SDM sites act up.

**DocHolliday35** · 10-01-23 10:31

Originally Posted by FarFarAway [View Original Post]

I'd guess in school reading comprehension wasn't an A for you. I have a SO. I can't go to a bar trolling and bring home a girl. I am also well past being able to claim social security. I do like to bang 20-somethings, though, and there aren't too many girls who want to do the reverse out there.

Sounds like a personal problem. There are thousands of girls out here screwing for no money.