A copied post from Bidibop. Well said.
I remember getting ripped off. I remember getting played. I remember a lot of stupid shit happening to me that could've been avoided had I been more vigilant but, truth be told, its the experience that jaded me into not getting taken advantage of again. My development happened in phases. First, shock and disbelief 'How could she lie to me?' This happened to me numerous times before, anger 'This * wasted my time and is playing me. And shit, I should've thought of a backup!' Finally, the cool, posting phase, where I inform other mongers and they can be empowered by that knowledge if they heed it. I don't get robbed or played now, at all. And as for how to deal with emotional fuckage, lets take a trip down memory lane;.
1) I need help! Can you lend me some money? A) None that I can spare (You call her when you want to see her, not the other way around, that's what girlfriends are for).
2) If you don't help me, its your fault I'll be homeless A) If you were my girlfriend then yes, otherwise call your DB and tell him that his cashcow isn't doing so well, and its in his best interest that you do well.
3) I thought you cared A) And I thought you cared, clearly you're seeing me as a money tree instead of as a person.
4) But I need help A) If you're looking to get off drugs, by all means I'm all for it emotionally, not financially.
5) I don't ever want to see you again A) Be sure to tell me that next time I call you to have fun, otherwise its a discount in my favor.
6) Why won't you help me? A) You're a fling, not a girlfriend. The fact that you're calling me for money (instead of asking me whether I imagine pink or blue elephants) proves it.
1) I collect the money first A) I will show you that I have it, and I'll place it in a neutral spot, where it will stay until we're done.
2) No, I always collect first A) Goodbye.
Continued as a cardate:
3) You're giving me some money for wasting my time A) You owe me for wasting my time and my gas. This is your stop, unless you want a free ride to interstate 75.
1) I'm the best looking girl, and I'm worth my price A) Goodbye.
2) That's right, go get you one of those street walking girls with disease A) I'm not your mother, I don't give a fuck about your hurt feelings. This next phone call is your replacement. Goodbye.
1) HaHa, I sent you on a wild goose chase. I never planned on seeing you. A) Thank you for benefiting the three of us. This next call is my backup girl, the one I'd see if you flaked. She thanks you. Also, an associate of mine will leave a review so others don't waste their time with you. You helped improve his online rep, and you made me a beneficiary to these two people. Thank you. :
1) Where are you? A) I waited five minutes, I left B) You weren't responding to calls / texts, I left.
2) WTF? A) Indeed, I told you it would take 30+ minutes to get to you. If you valued my time, you'd be ready instead of getting ready after I've arrived.
3) FU A) Yes, by my backup girl, the one I'm on my way to see.
1) I'm stranded, can you come pick me up? A) Yes, first we take care of me, then you.
2) Can't you just do me this favor? A) Can't you just do me this favor?
3) I just need a ride A) There's this thing called taxis.
4) I don't have any money A) I don't have any gas money planned for this, since I'm single and all.
5) Seriously? It's an emergency A) Seriously? You want me to think I'm your boyfriend, but you only want to play the part where you use me.
6) Fine just forget it then A) I thought it was an emergency.
Cliffs notes copy of below
[QUOTE=NebJon551;3516836]I remember getting ripped off. I remember getting played. I remember a lot of stupid shit happening to me that could've been avoided had I been more vigilant but, truth be told, its the experience that jaded me into not getting taken advantage of again. My development happened in phases. First, shock and disbelief 'How could she lie to me?' This happened to me numerous times before, anger 'This * wasted my time and is playing me. And shit, I should've thought of a backup!' Finally, the cool, posting phase, where I inform other mongers and they can be empowered by that knowledge if they heed it. I don't get robbed or played now, at all. And as for how to deal with emotional fuckage, lets take a trip down memory lane;.
1) I need help! Can you lend me some money? A) None that I can spare (You call her when you want to see her, not the other way around, that's what girlfriends are for).
2) If you don't help me, its your fault I'll be homeless A) If you were my girlfriend then yes, otherwise call your DB and tell him that his cashcow isn't doing so well, and its in his best interest that you do well.
3) I thought you cared A) And I thought you cared, clearly you're seeing me as a money tree instead of as a person.
4) But I need help A) If you're looking to get off drugs, by all means I'm all for it emotionally, not financially.
5) I don't ever want to see you again A) Be sure to tell me that next time I call you to have fun, otherwise its a discount in my favor.
6) Why won't you help me? A) You're a fling, not a girlfriend. The fact that you're calling me for money (instead of asking me whether I imagine pink or blue elephants) proves it.
1) I collect the money first A) I will show you that I have it, and I'll place it in a neutral spot, where it will stay until we're done.
2) No, I always collect first A) Goodbye.
Continued as a cardate:
3) You're giving me some money for wasting my time A) You owe me for wasting my time and my gas. This is your stop, unless you want a free ride to interstate 75.
1) I'm the best looking girl, and I'm worth my price A) Goodbye.
2) That's right, go get you one of those street walking girls with disease A) I'm not your mother, I don't give a fuck about your hurt feelings. This next phone call is your replacement. Goodbye.
1) HaHa, I sent you on a wild goose chase. I never planned on seeing you. A) Thank you for benefiting the three of us. This next call is my backup girl, the one I'd see if you flaked. She thanks you. Also, an associate of mine will leave a review so others don't waste their time with you. You helped improve his online rep, and you made me a beneficiary to these two people. Thank you. :
1) Where are you? A) I waited five minutes, I left B) You weren't responding to calls / texts, I left.
2) WTF? A) Indeed, I told you it would take 30+ minutes to get to you. If you valued my time, you'd be ready instead of getting ready after I've arrived.
3) FU A) Yes, by my backup girl, the one I'm on my way to see.
1) I'm stranded, can you come pick me up? A) Yes, first we take care of me, then you.
2) Can't you just do me this favor? A) Can't you just do me this favor?
3) I just need a ride A) There's this thing called taxis.
4) I don't have any money A) I don't have any gas money planned for this, since I'm single and all.
5) Seriously? It's an emergency A) Seriously? You want me to think I'm your boyfriend, but you only want to play the part where you use me.
6) Fine just forget it then A) I thought it was an emergency.[/QUOTE]Just say no!
